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I am 100% sure that this patient died after having surgery with Dr. Jose Luis Curiel Marchena . What I'm not certain yet is if the patient was a private patient of Dr. Jose Luis Curiel Marchena or an A Lighter Me (ALM) patient.
We can just ask the owner of ALM @Sandy Johnson to verify is this is true or false. She is a longstanding member of BariatricPal forums and has verified these types of stories previously.

He cares about you. He's scared of how it will affect your relationship and the things you have done together for 14 years. It's all understandable. I don't know how great an argument "those years would suck" is, though.

If you do it, and you get healthy, and you remain as loyal to him as you appear to be, he will be happy for you in the end. If you get healthy, your last years will not suck like they might w/diabetes or other comorbidities.

Most important, it is your body, and you get to want those years, and to have fun during those years. Not one day have I regretted my decision.

I can tell you I went through this exact thing. But in the end I think all it was was that he was scared of a bad outcome. Still now almost 4 weeks postop he still has his moments, but in his own way tries to make sure I'm comfortable, and getting my needs met. It's hard trust me!!


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Tl;dr: Husband says he supports me. Actions speak louder than words and his actions are screaming otherwise. What should I do?
Let me preface this post with a note. My husband is wonderful. Our relationship is healthy and happy, and while I’d change some things, they are tiny things like biting his nails, nothing substantial. We have been together in some form for 14 years and while he might come off in a negative light in this post, that isn’t who he is.
There was a small hiccup and despite being told I was approved earlier in the week, I was actually REALLY approved yesterday. My husband and I were discussing the news last night.
My husband has been against this surgery since the day I told him. When I initially began looking into it, I sat on telling him for nearly 3 months, making sure it was what I wanted before I told him. He is amazing at arguing a point and I didn’t want to have my mind changed unless his arguments were amazing. Once he realized I was in this 100%, he told me that he didn’t agree with the decision, but he’d support me completely and be there for me.
I…I don’t feel that he has. He hasn’t gone to a single support meeting with me, though I have asked him to. He went to one doctor’s visit, but that was after I browbeat and begged him to come. My first visit had been a disaster. The entire waiting room was filled with patients and +1’s. I was literally the only person that day who was there alone. I actually broke down crying when the nurse took me back. Having him there the second visit made a world of difference for me and my mental health, and I think it helped him understand that while he has issues, this surgery is about as safe as many others and I am a great candidate.
I feel unable to talk to him about the topic. If I broach it, he discusses it as pleasantly as possible, but his body language just screams “I DON’T AGREE WITH THIS.”
After telling him my good approval news, I asked him point blank if this was the right choice, mostly hoping to allay my anxiety. He let out a really drawn out sigh and then told me he still didn’t think it was and that I was making a lifetime commitment for cosmetic reasons. I explained again that while the cosmetic thing was a nice bonus, this was being done so I could live a long and healthy life without major health issues. His reply was “well those years at the end would suck anyway.” He also argued that instead of taking pills for being sick, I’d take pills to remain healthy. I tried to argue the difference between taking Vitamins vs taking insulin or heart medication, but as mentioned above, he’s REALLY good at arguing a point, so I let it go.
To be fair, the blame on asking him a direct question and getting a direct answer is on me. I don’t begrudge him telling me the truth. It just really hurt to hear him say it. This is happening. He knows this is happening. He has voiced his concerns multiple times and I’ve tried to quell them by using science and facts. Would it really hurt for him to give me little white lies when he knows this is an inevitability? I asked him if he’d visit me when I was recovering at the hospital and when he asked how long I’d be there and I told him probably a day and a half, he said “Yeah, I’d have to pick you up and drop you off anyway.” That…that’s kind of crushing to hear. You guess you might drop in on your wife? For someone who claims to support me and my decision 100%, that feels oddly unsupportive. It would be nice to wake up and see him there. My friends have already told me to tell them when I’d be in the hospital so they can visit. Meanwhile, I have to ask my husband to make an appearance?
At the end of the conversation, he said “we’ll figure this out.” Honestly, I almost cried. He said WE, not me. I pointed out how nice it felt to hear him as being on the same team and he ruined the moment by saying “well, I don’t have much of a choice, do I?”
The moment he said “we” instead of singling me out felt amazing, like we were a team and I had my partner and best friend on my side. This is a huge undertaking and it would be amazing to have him there instead of dragging his feet.
I don’t know what to do guys. Am I reading too much into all of this? For as long as I have known him, he has always been very outspoken against elective surgery. I’m healthy (now) and this isn’t medically necessary (yet). I’m just not going to be able to convince him that this is the right decision for me unless I have a serious medical condition related to weight happen. I’m not waiting for my body to break before I make repairs. If he says he supports me, should I take it at face value? Should I stop bothering him with this and keep him out of the loop? The friends I have told have been wonderful, should I just rely on them and not bother him with this?

My weight is 164. I keep yo yoing between 162 and 164. Can anyone help me break this 4 month stall?? I have 15 pounds left. Thank you!!

I think it's an issue because it considered a cormodity. I would think being diagnosed with it, increases your chances of approval... It's a money driven diagnosis. I think I heard a radio commercial that mentioned something about it being under diagnosed.... If obesity was treated like any other disease as it should be, it would not opened the flood gates for obese people spending so much out of pocket whether it's this machine or all we have spend on ineffective products for weight loss.
Good luck on your journey.
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It's not some conspiracy designed to get you to purchase anything, so let that go.
There IS a big educational push by pulmonologists to get more people tested for sleep apnea, because it's estimated that a much larger percentage of the population have it than are diagnosed. Untreated sleep apnea, especially more severe forms, is a huge long-term health risk.
I had the study even though I was certain I didn't have sleep apnea, because I don't snore. Guess what? I have it. Now that I have a CPAP, I sleep MUCH better and my energy level has improved.
Untreated sleep apnea also slows your metabolism, which may be why bariatric surgeons are more on board with testing their patients.

I'm laughing at everyone thinking it's a scam. Please purchase more more life insurance if you're not going to treat your sleep apnea. Would you be complaining this much if the deductible wasn't high? I Agree insurance should cover the equipment. I've been working on this field for 11 years and see it every night on screen. I also see the patients won refuse to wear it come back after a heart attack or stroke and at that point have no choice but to use a form of treatment. I'm not sure what the tech told you but waking up is not the same as your AHI apnea hypopnea index. Insurance won't approve a titration (cpap/bipap) follow up unless you qualify. It would be the same as giving people insulin who don't qualify as truly diabetic. I wouldn't want someone driving around with untreated apnea on the same roads as my daughter and family. Driving while sleep deprived is the same as driving under the influence of drugs and alcohol. Please know that this sleep study is an actual measurable scientific test and the consequences of untreated sleep apnea are very real. Talk to your physician about treatment options that may work for you.

Don't mess around with apnea. I'm back on my machine and loving it. My kids love mommy no longer snores. I'm hoping it goes away with weight loss as it has in the past.

I would wonder if it is more about the contents of the Soup than it is just quantity. When we eat out, I try to stick to straight Protein and maybe a small salad. Even at 7 months out, restaurant soup has too me carbs and unknowns for me.

I am beyond ecstatic. I am now below 300 pounds! I started at 540 pounds on October 29, 2015 when I started this whole journey. I had surgery on May 29, 2016 at 480 pounds and Now, 10 1/2 months later I weigh 297.8! I have not had a 2 in the front of my weight in FOREVER. I only have 98 pounds to go until I hit my goal! (Which may change, I'm more going for a clothing size goal now more than a number goal )

I used to have to be on oxygen all the time because I was so fat I could not breathe properly. Now I can walk for over an hour with no break and not be out of breath! I am so extremely happy with my progress!

I used to HATE getting my picture taken, it was the WORST. Now I love getting in front of the camera, I ASK for pictures to be taken! This is the craziest thing for me. I feel pretty for the first time in a very very long time.

I started out at a size 6x (36-38) and now wear a an 18/20 on top and 22 on bottom. I even wear leggings now!

I have a large hanging skin on my stomach which I am having removed on June 5th! I will need a revision surgery when I get to goal but I am very excited for the surgery and the relief it will give me.

Here are some before and after pics for you guys!

Roasting veggies is a great way to learn to eat them. Roasting brings out their natural sweetness. Layer some asparagus on a baking sheet. Sprinkle with olive oil (maybe a tablespoon or so), salt, pepper and a bit of garlic powder. Pop in a 350 degree oven for about 10 minutes. Amazing.
Grilling is another good way to get flavor. Slice zucchini long ways (into long strips) brush with Italian Salad Dressing and grill for a few minutes. Also, there are some great recipes for "zucchini fries" on pinterest - you toss them with a bit of parmesean cheese.
Cauliflower rice - amazing - again - just watch a few videos on how to prepare so you don't turn it into mush, which is not pleasant. I like to turn it into "mashed potatoes" or stir fry it with fresh spinach and add a bit of cheese to make a gratin.
Toss mushrooms, onions and green Beans with olive oil, a bit of balsamic vinegar, salt, pepper and garlic powder and roast in the oven for 10 minutes at 375.
Those are just a few thoughts. Go on pinterest. Go scout recipes on the food network. Always try something more than once.

I've never really liked a wide variety of fruits and vegetables. Fruits are a little better, but when it comes to veggies, I'm basically at potatoes, corn and peas (all of which basically count as starches, not veggies), broccoli, green Beans, carrots, and onions sometimes. There's a whole lot out there that tastes terrible to me. But I know to keep this all going I'm going to have to eat a variety of veggies! I'm sort of scared to even post this because I'm afraid the answer is "just suck it up and eat them", but does anyone have any tips for a veggie snob to learn to love them?

You definitely will still lose inches. Try not to only focus on the numbers on the scale, it is not the only way to measure weight loss. I had been playing the same 2-3 pounds for over a month going up and down but during that time I also went down a clothing size! Try to use your measurements and how your clothing fits to also gauge your weight loss.

I'm 7 months out. I've hit the 100# mark and have 13# to go to hit my doctors goal but that will be slow and easy it seems. I'm in a bit of a "comfort" zone which I need to get out of it. I'm at a ugh point too...

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I am 8 months post op . My last three weigh ins I lost 6 pounds , four pounds and this month 2 pounds . I am at a total of 85 pounds . I'm feeling a little disappointed. 12 pounds in 3 months is so little for as hard as I am working . My surgeon says The weight loss will taper off since I only have about 25 pounds to go . But I will still lose inches . Is anyone else experiencing this ??

Current 298
4/14/17
2lb loss

RnyM

Blood work was always normal, but BP was drifting higher even with meds. BP dropped immediately post-op...had to stop meds as i was getting light headed...solid 110/60 with resting pulse of 55 for almost 2 years now...nice to take no medications at all

While my blood pressure wasn't ever high it has dropped back to my normal lower blood pressure - where it was prior to gaining so much weight. I was also scheduled to have knee replacement surgery on my right knee and have now postponed it indefinitely. I've lost almost 60 pounds since I was sleeved in August 2016 and my knee isn't causing me any pain right now. According to my doctor knee replacement is inevitable at some future point but it's not anything I'm too concerned about at this time. No pain, no discomfort and no surgery scheduled. He confirmed the weight loss is directly responsible for the change. I'm very excited and thrilled that I feel so good. It was the best news I could have gotten.

I weigh everything that goes into my mouth unless the packaging is less than my max and has the weight on it.
I gained this weight by not controlling what I eat, I'm using this time to build tools to sustain this in the long run.

Over two years out and I still weigh everything. Either by weight or volume depending on type of food. I also log every bite and keep it in spreadsheet form. I can keep track of my weight trends compared to my macros that way.
For me, it is the only way to be accountable.

I did in the beginning, I'm now 18 months out and have a good feel for how much I need/am eating.

If I don't measure my food I overeat and then I'm miserable. My head still thinks it is smarter than my stomach.

Clothing for sure I'm waiting for insurance approval and refuse to buy any new clothes until then, I also have alot of clothes I will fit into once I loose the weight.

TOP 4/17/17 330
BOTTOM BEFORE 8/2016 402
SLEEVED 3/29/17