TT'S Surgery

Humm after weight loss surgery...I would have to lift my breasts by hand Just to place them out of my shirt.

I've been involved in enough Facebook political posts to have developed very tough skin.
I have a lot of empathy but also a short fuse for stupidity. I don't see myself changing so more often than not I just won't respond to a post where someone is clearly attention seeking. People are weird. That's why I live on a farm in the country

My point is that who are we to decide who needs coddling and who doesn't? You read a few words in a forum or blog and you know what they need emotionally? Additionally, how does a yes or no question warrant a lecture? I agree there are posts in which people are asking for an opinion and get what they ask for, but I think people give their opinions when no one asked them. I realize that's the way of the internet, but I just think that a lot of people don't know what someone is going through and it couldn't hurt to show a little human decency. Human decency does not necessarily equal coddling... in fact, perhaps I did not convey this particularly well, but my point was that sometimes questions warrant no emotion whatsoever.
In my opinion, people who favor the tough love approach with strangers probably have some issues facing things themselves. Not everyone is a piece of crap and sometimes tough love makes people feel that way.
Additionally, there's a difference between tough love and being outright rude.

Sorry this is long....
The first thing I MUST address is the way in which some people talk to on another on WLS forums. Often, I will stumble upon a post because I Google a question looking for an answer in the moment rather than asking something that may have already been asked and waiting. I've noticed a lot of people being extremely critical of the questioner...
Here is an example (in a weak moment -MOMENT being the keyword - I might add... I'm on the liquid diet), I found someone asking if in the pure liquid post-surgery diet stage if they could have sugar free soft-serve ice cream. The first response was from someone who decided that rather than answer the question, they would provide an impromptu lecture on slider foods and how they should be dealing with food post-surgery. While I recognize posting on the internet opens you up to opportunities of criticism, I would hope that most people on weight-loss-surgery forums would have enough common sense to understand that most people on here are adults capable of choosing what they want to do. She didn't ask if she SHOULD eat the ice cream, she asked if she COULD eat it. I'm not saying the concern about slider foods wasn't without merit, but it wasn't warranted in this situation. Turns out, the poster just wanted to see if she could indulge in a lick or two in a social setting (a birthday party or something). She wasn't planning to enter a soft-serve eating contest. And even if she was... SO WHAT?! How does that impact the responder in any way? Why waste the time responding? The question wasn't, "What's an exmaple of a slider food and what are the dangers of a slider food?" UGH!
This leads me to another thing I'm really, really, really frustrated with. NOT EVERYONE HAS MENTAL ISSUES WITH FOOD THAT IS OVERWEIGHT OR UNDERWEIGHT OR IS INCAPABLE OF CHANGE OR INCAPABLE OF LEARNING WAYS TO COPE WITH FOOD ADDICTION. I am not saying it will be EASY, but it doesn't mean someone can't overcome their addiction. I know people from all ends of the spectrum who have accidentally overeaten at a holiday or party or have made a bad choice (food related or not) and I know many people who OBSESS over the food they put into their bodies and have done some serious emotional and physical damage by being TOO restrictive. Here's the point I am trying to make...
WHAT WORKS FOR YOU MAY NOT WORK FOR ANOTHER PERSON. And perhaps this is my unsound opinion, but having HAD WLS does not make you an EXPERT on WLS no matter how long ago you've gone; until you've gone to school and extensively studied psychology, gotten your doctorate, etc. etc. etc., no one wants to hear it unless they specifically ask you hey what SHOULD I do! SHOULD BEING THE KEY WORD!
Yes, some people may find it best avoid slider foods at all costs for the rest of their lives. However, other people will be able to indulge in a few bites of ice cream, or whatever and it doesn't undo all of their hard work or everything they've accomplished.
I have to say that I'm so disappointed when looking for answers to certain WLS-related questions to see so many people 1 - not answering the question directly, 2 - providing emotional/psychological advice, 3 - just not showing a little more compassion to people regardless of where they are in their journey, 4 - assuming you know anything about the person based on a question they've asked. And hey maybe you can tell they're making a huge mistake, but they may have worded the question incorrectly, they may be having a difficult time with something else in their life and they're searching for empathy from someone else who may have gone through something similar... the point is, a simple question doesn't provide you all the facts so stop assuming things about people because they've had weight loss surgery or are contemplating it!!!
On a related note, I'm so disappointed in the frequency in which I read people who start off by replying, "I'm sorry, but..." YOU ARE NOT SORRY! You are about to say something hurtful. If you have to say BUT after sorry, you're just not and you should delete your sentence and go read a book. Unless you're saying, "I'm sorry, but you're totally awesome and I love that you're realizing you're perfectly capable of realizing this is an internet forum and not a conversation with your doctor..." but rarely does it go that way.
FINALLY, I am so tired of reading things that are presented as black and white. I bet there are a bunch of people who disagree with what I have said... okay, fine, but does that mean I'm wrong? DISAGREEING WITH SOMEONE DOES NOT MAKE THEM WRONG AND IT DOESN'T MAKE YOU RIGHT. SOMETIMES YOU CAN BOTH BE RIGHT, WRONG, OR IN BETWEEN!
50 Shades of Grey? TRY A BILLION! AHHHH!
PS - I really need the pureed food stage to arrive... and fast.

I don't like the user interface of MFP at all. It's way more complicated than it needs to be. I used to use Samsung app until they canceled it as it was much easier to use. Needs to be tablet friendly please. All of the previous suggestions were good ones. Being able to enter a recipe would be helpful, so it could calculate your ingredients for you.

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I don't like the user interface of MFP at all. It's way more complicated than it needs to be. I used to use Samsung app until they canceled it as it was much easier to use. Needs to be tablet friendly please. All of the previous suggestions were good ones. Being able to enter a recipe would be helpful, so it could calculate your ingredients for you.

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Stop posting so much you're making me use up all my likes.

Sex...

CLOTHING! I have always been heavy but most of my weight gain is more recent. I really look forward to fitting into some of my old clothes. I have donated a lot of smaller things but there are quite a few pieces I kept. I also had to buy some bigger clothing throughout the year to hold me over. I can't wait to donate it all! And although it's always a struggle in the clothing stores, I can not wait for the day I no longer need to find the "plus size" section (or should I say the few racks shoved in the corner with no signage).

I want to go horse back riding!

Racquetball, ice skating, snowboarding.. I miss those things so much.
Clothing as well.. Canada's clothing sizes don't allow even remotely close to what they do in US stores unless you go to a fat shop.

Return to my athletic desires. I love sports but my weight and pain has kept me from doing. I don't wanna be a bench warmer any more. Put me in coach!


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Looking forward to not being called fat by my own family! So inconsiderate I am ridiculed because they ask if I am still on my "diet" and that I'm going to gain it all back no help whatsoever and I am very sensitive about my weight because I have pain all day long lately.

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The premise of shrinking your liver comes with the removal of fat surrounding and within the liver. It's fat infiltration that expands it in the first place. So if you're on a low carb/low cal diet that adequately burns up fat from the liver causing it to shrink, it's also burning adipose tissue away throughout your body too. Weight loss should come hand in hand with shrinking the liver. The mechanism is the same. One thing to keep in mind is having adequate Protein would ensure that energy (which is what the body uses adipose tissue for when there isn't enough stored carbs) isn't burned from essential areas like your muscles.
Starches are an absolute no-no for pre-op diet. If you're going to make crab cakes, substitute bread crumbs with almond meal. No potatoes. There's nothing special about "liquid" that shrinks the liver any better, just watch your intake.

I cheated significantly on my diet by this criteria. I couldn't tolerate the liquid they wanted me on. Instead, I researched the premise of liver shrinking, liver function, and how it correlates with long term healthy diet, and for the 3 month pre-op diet, I was on liquid for maybe a week or two, in uttery misery, did not do it again for 80% of the diet. My diet consisted mainly of string cheese, home made meatballs, almonds, peanuts, Peanut Butter, burgers (even fast food burgers minus Buns and minimal condiments), taking bariatric Vitamins (up until a few weeks before surgery), liver looked outstanding at surgery. I was given a picture of it when I woke up in short stay which I'm keeping forever.
I don't buy that liquid diets do any better.

I started My liquid diet last Monday, so one week I'm down almost 15 pounds. I guess starving yourself will do that...lol It hasn't been as bad as I imagined it would be. So any of you just starting, don't fret it.

I started My liquid diet last Monday, so one week I'm down almost 15 pounds. I guess starving yourself will do that...lol It hasn't been as bad as I imagined it would be. So any of you just starting, don't fret it.

Was thinking of starting a FB group for all of us who are getting sleeved on or around the 11th. (Support group) Anybody interested?


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Sleeve twins😄

I start my pre-op 2 weeks 800 calorie liquid diet on Tuesday. I have been pretty positive and Zen about this whole thing, Today my husband and I went grocery shopping for what I will need for the first week. I work during the week, so Sunday is our shopping day. In the middle of the store, as we were looking at labels and figuring out how to meet my nutritional requirements, it suddenly became very real and I freaked out a bit. Okay, I freaked out a lot. I am strangely not scared about the surgery. It is more about being able to manage the new normal when it comes to eating. As I was cooking dinner for the family today, after putting away all the Protein Shakes that will be my sustenance for the next two weeks. I felt better (Just a bit, I'm still freaking, but in denial).
I hope everyone is doing well. If anyone else has freak out moments, know you are not alone.

I'm honestly scared to lose weight in my boobs. Not because I can't afford it size wise - I'm a DDD, but because they're already shaped like saggy watermelons (nipples point to the ground) and the more weight I lose in them, the more they'll look like inflated animal balloons that have been left in a hot car too long. [emoji52]


HW: 328 (02/22/17)
SW: TBD
CW: 292

Hi my op is booked for may 8th. Feeling very lonely as I have just moved to my husbands town and don't really know anyone. This journey is very scary when you can't sit down with a girlfriend and talk about it as much as I love my husband he is a great support but sometimes you just need another girl. Anyway wishing everyone luck I really can't wait to start living my life again. X

May 8th for me [emoji28]

I started my liquid diet today. I use Allmax Quickpro and I have the slim fast Protein as well as my isofemme powder so I can make my own shakes. I had two shakes so far today, a sugar free Jello, and some homemade chicken broth and Pacific organic Mushroom broth that I found very satisfying. All that and I'm only at 380 calories, I have 800 to go, I guess I'll have another shake...lol.