alli.wakefield

@alli.wakefield I'm the same way. That apple commercial that came on last Christmas made me cry every time and that was prior to my surgery. I cried way more after surgery but it's leveled out now. I don't bust out crying for no reason or snapping heads off while at work either. Which makes everyone here more comfortable. LOL

My husband and I both had surgery November 15 so we are seven weeks post op. Things have been going smoothly, about as expected. We are both hitting water/protein goals and losing steadily. However, something weird has started and I’m wondering if anyone else has experience with this.
My husband (26yr) came home from work yesterday and had an emotional breakdown. Full on ‘crying, doomsday outlook, all hope is lost’ breakdown. My hubby isn’t the crying type, in fact, it’s pretty difficult to get an emotional response out of him at all, ever. So naturally, it kinda freaked me out. I started quizzing him with questions to try and find out where this is coming from but he insists that he isn’t overwhelmed at work, our home life is stable and he isn’t having any other emotional trauma right now. So I’m wondering, is this just a side effect of losing extreme amounts of weight quickly? He’s lost 55 pounds since starting the pre-op diet and has lost 70 overall with the supervised diet for insurance requirements. And if anyone has experienced or heard of this, does it level out as the weight loss slows or could this be his natural hormone levels coming out and maybe he should seek medical advice?

Oh the day after my surgery when they took me to do the leak test I got nauseated and threw up and then lost it and started crying saying "why did I do this to myself" over and over. My poor husband had no clue what to do and ran and got the nurse who I heard telling him "buyers remorse is normal" as they were walking in the room.

My doc said in a pre-surg seminar that about once a week someone bursts into tears at the hospital and says they wish they hadn't had surgery. LOL. It can be emotional, stressful, scary...for a lot of folks.

I had a few emotional breakdowns in the first few months after surgery. Maybe it’s a mental reaction or perhaps a physical one, hormones raging like crazy. It will pass, lots go through it. You have both done really well !

Hi. I have been experiencing this also. I'm not having complete emotional breakdowns, but I have been crying more frequently. I am planning on talking with the doctor at my next appointment. I don't think it would hurt to talk with the doctor about it. For me I think I'm just emotionally overwhelmed with so many changes going on. Perhaps it could be something like that. The place I had my surgery done at has a counselor on staff that I might be meeting with. See if that's something the doctor would recommend it may be helpful.

I am a very emotional person who enjoys a good cry but I wasn’t ready for the emotional outburst I have my first week post op. Sleeved on 18 Dec. I was bawling like a baby because I didn’t like the number on my scale!
Have spoken with my dietician and she has reassured me I am doing great and not to over focus on what my scale says. She also suggested only weighing 2x a week instead of daily.

I am a secret sleever, I only told a few friends and my doctors (one of whom is a very good friend of mine). I won't get into all my reasons why, but I just decided to keep it to myself.
I always knew that when I started dating, I would have to decide when I was serious enough about someone to tell them. It's been 9 months and a lot of bad dates, but I met someone in October and he is incredible. I knew right away he was a keeper, and I pretty much dreaded the "so I've got this thing to tell you" conversation. I don't know if I just thought he would be scared off by the idea of meals always revolving around my restrictions, or that he would think I was a lazy failed dieter who took the easy way out, or if he'd see me as someone who was sick or something. But I finally told him the reason I only have a side of veggies or a cup of Soup or a few bites of my dinner when we go out is that I had most of my stomach removed. And of course, he was relieved. He said he noticed me eating like a bird and worried I might have an eating disorder, because he knew I used to be much heavier a year ago and now I'm not. I explained everything to him and that I really don't have much in the way of things I can't eat except bread and drinking milk which both give me tummy issues, so I avoid bread and I've switched to almond milk in my coffee. But other than that, nothing really is different except the amount of food I can eat. He was very accepting. When we eat out together, he confers with me on his order so we can just split his meal. He gets the veggies instead of fries on the side. He's just been lovely. And the first time I stayed over at his house, I tip-toed downstairs in the morning to find that he had bought some almond milk for me to have in my coffee.
I'm so glad I told him and I feel so silly for worrying over what he would think. This was a big step and the first "new" person I've told besides my initial support group of close friends. It was a big deal and I'm very glad it's behind me!

It's high Protein, very low sugar, very low carb, low fat. I can do all Protein Shakes (every 2-3 hours) or I can have shakes for Snacks and then 2-4 oz lean protein and non-starchy vegetables at "meals". It's a lot like what I'll be eating around 4-6 weeks post op, I believe? This part won't be fun, but it helps that I have a goal in mind and a surgery date. (The last 2 days before surgery are liquid only.)

@marvirga I've had on and off caffeine headaches all week. I've almost given in a few times but I'm holding out. My husband and I are having surgery the same day so having him go through it with me too, has been helpful.

Yeah, compared to others that have posted mine totally isn't as bad as it could be. It's just that I've always been more of a "side" person. Like my dinner plate before this would only be 10% meat and then 90% sides (mashed potatoes, salad, veggies, whatever) BUT obviously, that is changing with the sleeve surgery so it's good I'm changing my focus now!

Yeah, compared to others that have posted mine totally isn't as bad as it could be. It's just that I've always been more of a "side" person. Like my dinner plate before this would only be 10% meat and then 90% sides (mashed potatoes, salad, veggies, whatever) BUT obviously, that is changing with the sleeve surgery so it's good I'm changing my focus now!

Hi all!
My surgery date is November 15th! I start the preop diet on the 1st. My preop diet is unlimited Protein Shakes, white-meat chicken, turkey breast, low-fat cottage cheese, chicken broth, egg whites, and sugar-free popsicles and Jello. No caffiene or carbonation. I'm in the Phoenix, Arizona area. Anyone else?

I just started a weight loss specific Instagram for accountability as well. I'm 28 and my husband and I are having surgery the same day, November 15th!
Two people from instagram that made me want to make one and who are great to follow are @vsgdeb and @timetodeflate Both are about our age and great examples!! My handle is below.
Instagram: @awaketolose

Yeah, compared to others that have posted mine totally isn't as bad as it could be. It's just that I've always been more of a "side" person. Like my dinner plate before this would only be 10% meat and then 90% sides (mashed potatoes, salad, veggies, whatever) BUT obviously, that is changing with the sleeve surgery so it's good I'm changing my focus now!

Hi all!
My surgery date is November 15th! I start the preop diet on the 1st. My preop diet is unlimited Protein Shakes, white-meat chicken, turkey breast, low-fat cottage cheese, chicken broth, egg whites, and sugar-free popsicles and Jello. No caffiene or carbonation. I'm in the Phoenix, Arizona area. Anyone else?

I'm also on the 15th and start liquid diet tomorrow. My diet consists of 3 VLCD supplements a day, 2 + cups of vegetables (no potato pumpkin corn green peas or Lima beans), 1 teaspoon vegetable oil and at least 2 litres of extra Fluid a day. At least yours has some meat!

Hi all!
My surgery date is November 15th! I start the preop diet on the 1st. My preop diet is unlimited Protein Shakes, white-meat chicken, turkey breast, low-fat cottage cheese, chicken broth, egg whites, and sugar-free popsicles and Jello. No caffiene or carbonation. I'm in the Phoenix, Arizona area. Anyone else?

Hi all!
My surgery date is November 15th! I start the preop diet on the 1st. My preop diet is unlimited Protein Shakes, white-meat chicken, turkey breast, low-fat cottage cheese, chicken broth, egg whites, and sugar-free popsicles and Jello. No caffiene or carbonation. I'm in the Phoenix, Arizona area. Anyone else?

Hello everyone! I am in the process of converting from my band (2012) to the sleeve. I had minimal success with the band and seemed to have an extremely tiny "green zone" where I could feel restriction but not be overfilled. I'm talking about .5mms! So I spent the majority of my banded time feeling extremely frustrated and like a failure. None the less, I am waiting on my insurance to approve me for removal so I can get sleeved. My doctor submitted everything earlier this week so I'm hoping to hear by early next week! My doctor wants to wait a few months before I get sleeved, which I am okay with.
From what he's told me, the recovery from the band removal is easier than getting the band in and I had an extremely easy recovery with getting banded. So, I'm hoping to take a simple Friday off from work, get my band removed and be back at work on Monday. (I have a sedentary desk job.) I don't want to raise flags that I'm getting surgery with the removal because within a few months, I hope to be getting surgery again in order to get sleeved. So I'm anticipating on missing at least a week of work so others are definitely going to notice. But I'm wondering what other's experiences were? How much time did you plan to take off and how much time did you actually end up missing from work? My company is very nice and will allow me to miss as much as I need but I only have so much PTO so I need to plan ahead for budgeting purposes.
TIA!

When do you start work? I was able to make a lot of my appointments either before work or on my lunch. You don't NEED to tell her anything but I guess it could get awkward.

I also think the revision is a good idea for you. Even if you want to take more time considering, I highly recommend you get the band removed. It isn't helping, and it will likely cause complications down the road (like slippage, etc).

@alli.wakefield my story is almost the exact same as yours. I got my bad in the same year and everything. I had the revision to the sleeve done on December 27,2016. I feel like it was the best decision I could have made. I had severe reflux with the band, but not with the sleeve. I can eat healthier foods, that got stuck with the band. My weight at surgery was 332 and I am at 297 as of today. I have lost 35lbs in a little under 2 months. I truly couldn't be happier with my decision.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do!


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Hello, everyone. I am a long time stalker, first time poster of this forum. I got the lap band in 2012 at 302 pounds (my heaviest ever, at the time.) After getting banded, I lost 35 pounds but I had to fight for every ounce to come off. I never felt like I was in the ‘green zone’ that the clinic continually talked about. I went in religiously for fills but never felt like I could eat small portions only three times a day and be satisfied. I even questioned my sanity and if head hunger really had that much control over me. After a year and only 35 pounds lost, when I needed to lose at least 150 pounds, the NP told me that I could not get any more fills. I was experiencing some stuck episodes but the NP said that my band was already at 8cc’s in my 10cc band and it wouldn’t hold any more Fluid. So I left bawling. Here I was – a year out from surgery, having paid out of pocket for this device that didn’t do bunk to help with the hunger like it claimed to.
So, I quit. I stopped eating healthy, I stopped trying, I stopped caring. I did that for a year and kinda maintained my 35lb loss but that was it. I eventually went to my primary care doctor who wanted me to start Metformin ER, but they are massive horse pills and because I needed the extended release, I couldn’t crush them. So I went back to my clinic and had all the fluid removed to take the Metformin. Well, long story short, I’m now sitting at 325 pounds. So I’ve gained back the 35 I lost in 2012 and have since packed on an additional 25 pounds.
Last month, I had family in town and many people taking pictures - full length, unflattering angles, kinds of pictures - and posting them online. I had a coming to Jesus moment when I literally didn’t recognize myself. I’ve never seen myself as big as I am. Last year, I had two friends get the vertical sleeve and both get phenomenal results. I’m finally ready to take care of myself and finish what I thought I started in 2012. I’ve contacted the clinic that both of my friends went through and have a consult set up for next Monday. Does anyone have any advice or a similar story? I am almost frozen in fear when I start thinking that because the band failed for me, the sleeve will too. I cannot pay out of pocket for a second bariatric surgery and not get results. I don’t think I can mentally survive that.

Hi, my account was deleted for some reason but here I go. I am 3 and 1/2 years out from my RNY. I was 57yo when I had my WLS. I went below my goal weight in 6 months. I gained 8#'s back so I have maintained my weight loss for 3 years. I felt like I should go BIG or go HOME!!! I thought to myself you have 1 shot at this. I didn't want to have any other WLS because I knew myself and realized that I had to take my one and only shot and get off of medications and lose my weight for the last time. Here are my STATS: HW 249 (this time. I was at 285 but managed to lose down to 249) SW 232 LW 117 CW 125 TO 129. I was on insulin before my surgery, 100 units 2 times a day. Plus Metformin 500 gr 2 times a day. I took 12 different pills but now I take 4. 1 for my thyroid and 3 for my high blood pressure. Plus my Vitamins. We must take our vitamins!! It is NOT an OPTION. The sad thing is, it doesn't how up in our blood work for a long time. I am OVER the MOON with my WLS choice. You and your Surgeon can make a decision together for which surgery will be the best. I have heard and seen some absolutely great results from the ones that have had the Sleeve done.