InspectorJensen

I'm in the same boat. Sleeved 12/19 and only down 40 lbs. I was at 367 before dieting for almost a year pre-op, surgery at 330 and 290 as of this morning. I guess as long as I'm not gaining, it will all work out in the end if I trust the process.

I'm in the same boat. Sleeved 12/19 and only down 40 lbs. I was at 367 before dieting for almost a year pre-op, surgery at 330 and 290 as of this morning. I guess as long as I'm not gaining, it will all work out in the end if I trust the process.

I'm in the same boat. Sleeved 12/19 and only down 40 lbs. I was at 367 before dieting for almost a year pre-op, surgery at 330 and 290 as of this morning. I guess as long as I'm not gaining, it will all work out in the end if I trust the process.

Just stick to the plan and it will all work out. I know it's easier said than done, but try not to get too discouraged!

I'm having this issue now. Had surgery Dec 19 and flow came on schedule on the 22. I have had none since despite only losing about 20 lbs since surgery. I wear/carry protection as I feel like I am about to start for the last week. The unpredictability is harder than just getting it over with. I definitely don't want any surprises!
Starting weight 367
Surgery weight 330
Current weight 308
Sleeved on Dec. 19, 2016

I don't get all the negativity I see here on this site....
( Yes I quietly read a post a day or two ago that just stayed on my mind...)
I kept strolling because I don't care to go back and forth with ppl it's not my style. I feel how I feel and I understand ppl will always have disagreements. But in the future if a person is doing good and post a before and after pic, don't put them down! If it's a Troll.... well it sucks to be them : ( Seriously how messed up must their life be to troll a WLS website! And if it's an actually individual your discouraging them and others reading these comments from posting their success... You don't have to call BS anytime you feel that's what it is, just Ignore Them really it's not that hard and keep strolling because you truly don't know!!! But it made me feel like what if it were me??? Depending on the season my skin my be darker and my hair is always different and my body shape is not like everyone else. I hold my weight very well people don't believe that I'm as heavy as the scale says. So if I post that I lost 40 in 4 weeks or ever hey that's me . We are all different!
This site should be to uplift ppl not to tear them down! Grow the HECK UP!!!!( I wanted to say Hell so bad but anyway)
Guess What.... You don't have to call out BS if you see it you CAN ignore it....
No matter what a person post on here it does not personally affect YOU!!!! SO WHAT if he/or she a LIAR, SO What if he/or she a Troll!!!
And to all the Beautiful People Working Hard to Accomplish your Dreams....
KEEP PUSHING DON'T ALLOW ANYONE TO DULL YOUR SHINE!
Love you all
P.S. I will not reply to any negative comments I will show you how to ignore ppl....

Congratulations this seems unreal how do you feel?
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Not to hijack the thread, but great post and welcome to the world of public health!
Starting weight 367
CW 317
Sleeve scheduled for Dec. 19, 2016

Not to hijack the thread, but great post and welcome to the world of public health!
Starting weight 367
CW 317
Sleeve scheduled for Dec. 19, 2016

Surgery Date: 2/17/16
HW:356
SW: 332
CW: 206
Indeed this has been a journey. Blessed indeed. Not at all an easy journey but worth every challenge!

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If you want to leave kindly leave and stop behaving like whiny children. For people who claim to be so selflessly willing to help, your whining betrays a lot.
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Sorry but everything Alex said is true! There have been a few posters on here that even though they may provide some good information their tone and demeanor on here is downright inexcusable... Acting like they are gods gift to Bariatric patients... As he states in the rules this is a safe place and no one should be talked down to for doing this and that. I am fortunate to have a medical background and know the rules and what could happen and all that jazz. But some of these posters even though their questions about doing/eating this and that may sound "dumb" the truth is they most likely really don't know better hence why they're asking for advice on a support page. (Health literacy... look it up). This then turns into a viscous cycle of others commenting and putting them on blast when really they don't know better and probably think they are making decent choices. These posters need help and education, not to be scrutinized by bully tactics. This is your own personal journey and what works for one person may not work for another and just because you deviate from one persons plan doesn't mean your a failure or going to fail. Pretty sure none of these people are credentialed to be giving out medical advise anyways. I have been personally very successful in my WLS journey and you better believe if I posted some of the things I have done I would've received backlash from posters on here...even though everything I've done is on MY plan. It just may not be on others, therefore with these posters mentality I would be wrong.. and fail... and everything else they like to say if you don't follow their rules. Anyways that is my little rant. Happy Saturday
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I carry a handbag. You could carry a murse.

I guess i am not your typical woman. I cant wait to be able to buy rain gear that actually fits me. I manage a national estuary and am outdoors in all kind of weather year around. I have a rain jacket that is so tight around my butt and gut it is uncomfortable. I also can never find rain pants that fit so normally i go without and end up freezing to death. Im short 5'1 and have to buy mens sizes and then they end up a foot too long.
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I'm not offended by your post- you certainly have a right to your frustration. As a heads-up though, I am one of those people that didn't follow all of the rules post-op (after the 6-week point- during the first 6 weeks I was an angel), because I have a medical background and I am fully aware of what will hurt me as opposed to what will just make it hard to lose weight. Every surgeon has different guidelines, so there is nothing wrong with getting opinion from others when there is a documented difference in what surgeon's suggest. Some surgeons still tell you not to use a straw, and yet my surgeon took the time to explain to me why (because some people end up with gas that makes them uncomfortable) and knowing this, using a straw was the only way I got in enough fluids the first few weeks. Many surgeons, in fact almost all, still say you can't drink with your meals. This is not a medically required rule, but rather a guideline that was set because they don't want you to wash the food out of your stomach faster, feel full for a shorter amount of time, and then eat more. A lot of surgeons say no carbonation ever, and yet the origin of this rule is because after the first few weeks (before that the carbonation can irritate your stomach), if people had been weaned off of carbonation, there was a good chance they had eliminated empty calories from non-diet soda. Carbonation won't hurt you after you're healed, but it certainly won't help your diet and teaching it as a "rule" is designed for the benefit of weight loss, not actual immediate health effects (yes it's bad for you, but no it won't kill you right this minute).
Despite their belief to the contrary, surgeons are not actually God, and not all of their directions should be taken as the bible- many yes, but certainly not all. When you are being reasonable in your question (it's 2 months out, can I have a few bites of a burger?- YES, you can), that's sort of the point that forums exist. The idea is to be supportive, not to be holier than thou because you were perfect on the diet and someone else wasn't. I have been within 3 pounds of my goal weight for two years, and at or below goal for about 20 months, and guess what...sometimes I eat crap and I have done so the entire time I have been sleeved. Some people do well with strict rules, and others do not, but when your stomach has healed, you are not physically hurting it by eating crap, you're just hurting your chance of ever being healthy.
I had a granola bar for Breakfast today, goldfish for lunch, and 1/4 of a lean cuisine for dinner. I also had 4 SF Red Bulls, and about 6 cans of diet pepsi. Yesterday I hadn't slept for 40 hours and I had a cookie for dinner. It was good. I did not die or wake up fat, although I am 100% sure my surgeon would not be remotely pleased.
Life is for the living and for the imperfect, and online forums can be a place to knock others down or pick them back up. Every time you make a post you get to decide what kind of person you want to be, to a type of person who may be just like you...scared, alone, sad, and very much in need of a bit of grace. I read plenty of posts where I role my eyes and think the person is an idiot...I then hit the little "x" and move on.
I think it is awesome that you have been so successful and I completely appreciate your right to your frustration, but ultimately, it's not your problem that other people break the rules, so why waste your energy caring? Either click the little "x", grumble about how stupid people are, and move on, or take a little bit of time to provide constructive (key word there) guidance in a way that will not further the hurt and isolation that they already feel. One day you won't be perfect and someone will be kind to you... and it will make all the difference.

I just wanted to add that I did a better job vetting my surgeon for my next two surgeries, both of which went quite well. Both surgeons were very supportive and professional.
And now when I decided to do bariatric surgery, my first step was to research bariatric centers and bariatric surgeons. I was leaning towards the clinic/surgeon that are a part of the regional healthcare system that I have used for all of my primary doctor and specialists for the last 6 years. BUT.... I wasn't impressed with the surgeon. He had a bad review on this site. And he was only board certified in general surgery. So I chose a clinic/surgeon in a whole different regional healthcare system -- which meant some of my records had to be transferred over. Well worth it. Both surgeons are board certified in not only general surgery but also bariatric surgery. And they both have done a fellowship in bariatric surgery which is very unique! I met with the surgeon who will do my gastric bypass and I was immediately impressed by her skill, professionalism, and compassion. She listened to me and treated me with respect. I was delighted to find out that she is the only female bariatric surgeon in my state who has done a fellowship in bariatric surgery. I'm convinced I've found the best option for me -- the staff of the bariatric center are wonderful!
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If they are making you feel bad about your weight, even to the point of "punishing" you for not losing enough, I would urge you to review your options for going elsewhere. I know you have invested a lot in them, but your health and safety is worth MORE than money. If your surgery is judgmental and unsympathetic now, how can you trust him to cut your insides? :-(
If you find a better bariatric center who treats you with the RESPECT you DESERVE, you ought to be able to transfer your records and test results over. Transferring records between hospitals is commonplace, so it you shouldn't lose the money you spent.
Years ago I had my first surgery. She did not seem to care about me or really hear my concerns, but I went ahead with it. It was a disaster. She did open surgery and I found out later that it was totally UNNECESSARY -- my surgery could have been laparoscopic. She lied about the size of my tumor to justify open surgery but I got the actual dimensions from the lab report. The reason I had to get the lab report myself directly is because we were on pins and needles for TWO WEEKS about whether my tumor was cancerous or benign. It was an agonizing, emotional wait. Every few days I called for an update. Finally a medical assistant who knew that I had called five times and knew that my messages had been passed to the surgeon with no response suggested that I contact the lab directly for results. Turns out the lab sent my surgeon the report IN ONE DAY after surgery that my tumor was benign! All that anguish for two weeks was needless! I called and complained to her clinic manager! And I had horrible complications, horrible time healing, horrible string of infections and I spent a month in the wound care center almost daily for my HUGE incision which never fully healed and they finally had to patch it.
The moral of the story: vet your surgeon CAREFULLY and if they break your trust, *run!*. When my surgeon constantly delayed and broke appointments and didn't listen to me or treat me with respect, those were the warning signs that I ignored.
No amount of money is worth jeopardizing your health. If you are being treated that badly, consider going elsewhere. And complaining to the manager about it also...
Best of luck to you, you are obviously smart, determined and committed. I'm sure you will have great success in the end
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Congrats!
Starting weight 367
CW 335
Sleeve scheduled for Dec. 19, 2016

http://www.amylhwilliams.com/pouchrulesfordummies.html
I thought this was an interesting read for those new to RNY or those struggling to lose the weight after surgery.

And a long irritating minor issue is the "size-ism" at stores. To buy the exact same shirt in a plus size it tacks on a fat tax....or several dollars more. If it was the extra material, why isnt a size zero cheaper than a size 8? Can you imagine any other "illness" getting charged extra for the same product or service due to their health situation. Nobody understands OR cares about overweight or obese people. If you're anorexic you get sympathy and hugs and oh poor you, get help! Fat people are just "Gross. Why are you eating? Control yourself....."
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On the first day of ObesityWeek 2016, The New York Times featured a major story on obesity with the headline, “Americans Blame Obesity on Willpower, Despite Evidence It’s Genetic.” This was no coincidence. The story was timed to the release of a national consumer survey conducted by the American Society for Metabolic and Bariatric Surgery (ASMBS) on perceptions Americans have about obesity and its treatment. Major national news outlets including People magazine, Medscape, Yahoo News, CNBC, MedPage Today and even Cosmopolitan covered the ASMBS/NORC Obesity Poll.

The ASMBS Executive Council decided several months earlier to partner with the highly regarded independent research organization NORC at the University of Chicago to identify current views, perceptions, and misperceptions about obesity and its treatment held by the American public. Additionally, the ASMBS wanted to use the survey as an educational and public awareness platform to inspire national dialog on the diagnosis and treatment of obesity and generate national media coverage on the issues that interfere with the treatment of the disease.
“The barriers to treatment go beyond insurance,” said Raul J. Rosenthal, who was president of the ASMBS during the time the survey was conducted. “We felt the survey could uncover other barriers including fear and denial about the disease and misperceptions about the safety and effectiveness of the treatments, including weight-loss surgery.”
In addition to comments from ASMBS president at the time, Dr. Raul J. Rosenthal, The New York Times contained reactions to the survey from several obesity experts from throughout the country.

Dr. Donna Ryan, an obesity researcher and professor emerita at the Pennington Biomedical Research Center in Baton Rouge, La. said, “It’s frustrating to see doctors and the general public stigmatize patients with obesity and blame these patients, ascribing attributes of laziness or lack of willpower. We would never treat patients with alcoholism or any chronic disease this way. It’s so revealing of a real lack of education and knowledge.”

“Trying 20 times and not succeeding — is that lack of willpower, or a problem that can’t be treated with willpower?” asked Dr. Louis Aronne, director, Comprehensive Weight Control Center at Weill Cornell Medicine and New York-Presbyterian.

One problem, though, is that medical professionals can be as misinformed as the public, said Dr. Scott Kahan, an obesity medicine specialist who is an assistant professor at George Washington University and directs the National Center for Weight and Wellness, an obesity clinic.

Doctors, he said, learn nothing about obesity in medical school, which might be why only 12 percent of those in the survey with severe obesity said a doctor had suggested surgery to them. “We are talking about people who are 100, 200 pounds overweight,” Dr. Kahan added.

Dr. Caroline M. Apovian, the president-elect of the Obesity Society and director of the nutrition and weight management center at Boston University, echoed Dr. Kahan’s concerns about the failure by doctors to mention the only effective course of treatment. “If I said that was the case for cardiovascular disease and bypass surgery, you would say doctors are negligent,” she said.

Major finding from the ASMBS/NORC Obesity Poll include:
81 percent of Americans consider obesity to be the most serious health problem facing the nation, tying cancer and ahead of diabetes (72 percent) and heart disease (72 percent) 94 percent think obesity itself increases the risk for an early death, even when no other health problems are present Most Americans think diet and exercise on one’s own is the most effective (78 percent) for long-term weight loss, saying it’s even more effective than weight-loss surgery (60 percent) and prescription obesity drugs (25 percent) 1 in 3 of those struggling with obesity, report that they have never spoken with a doctor or health professional about their weight Only 12 percent of those with severe obesity, for whom weight-loss surgery may be an option, say a doctor has ever suggested they consider surgery Only 22 percent of Americans with obesity rate their health positively, and half report being diagnosed with two or more chronic conditions 88 percent say losing weight through diet and exercise, especially with the help of a doctor, is the safest way to do it, while prescription medications (15 percent) and dietary supplements (16 percent) are perceived to be the least safe About one-third believe weight-loss surgery to be either safe (31 percent), unsafe (37 percent), or neither safe nor unsafe (31 percent), though 68 percent think that living with obesity is still riskier than having weight-loss surgery 62 percent consider obesity simply a risk factor for other diseases and not a disease itself 48 percent believe obesity is caused primarily by a person’s lifestyle choices and that the biggest barrier to weight loss is a lack of willpower (75 percent) For more information, you may find two reports associated with the survey: “Obesity Rises to Top Health Concern for Americans, but Misperceptions Persist,” and, “New Insights into Americans’ Perceptions and Misperceptions of Obesity Treatments, and the Struggles Many Face.” http://www.norc.org/Research/Projects/Pages/the-asmbsnorc-obesity-poll.aspx.

@militaryma Oh my goodness! I can't imagine how much this must hurt. I was talking to my nutritionist and she said that there have been those that have obviously not followed the diet and still got the surgery and not to worry if the weight doesn't fall off as expected. But, the threats of the surgeon trump that for me and stress me out to no end. I hope and pray for your sake that your surgeon will move forward given that you have put good faith effort toward jumping through all the hoops. Take some Metamucil as it will push whatever u ate through your body and don't lose hope. Sometimes I feel that are different standards for different people even in the same practice and that is unfair. Hopefully, your surgeon won't be too hard on you for this. Obviously, that isn't something you can control. Hugs.
Starting weight 367
CW 335
Sleeve scheduled for Dec. 19, 2016

19th for me. Very excited.
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I went from size 32 to size 12, 353 lbs to around 180 now. Still have a ways to go, but I feel much better. I lost almost everything the first year. The last four months I've been traveling through europe, eating and drinking unhealthy stuff like crazy, but I've still shed 8 more pounds because of all the walking! When I get home, it'll be back on the bandwagon.
**I don't share photos publicly because of my job, but feel free to inbox me for the results <3