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Raymia    565

Raymia
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I don't get all the negativity I see here on this site....

( Yes I quietly read a post a day or two ago that just stayed on my mind...)

I kept strolling because I don't care to go back and forth with ppl it's not my style. I feel how I feel and I understand ppl will always have disagreements. But in the future if a person is doing good and post a before and after pic, don't put them down! If it's a Troll.... well it sucks to be them : ( Seriously how messed up must their life be to troll a WLS website! And if it's an actually individual your discouraging them and others reading these comments from posting their success... You don't have to call BS anytime you feel that's what it is, just Ignore Them really it's not that hard and keep strolling because you truly don't know!!! But it made me feel like what if it were me??? Depending on the season my skin my be darker and my hair is always different and my body shape is not like everyone else. I hold my weight very well people don't believe that I'm as heavy as the scale says. So if I post that I lost 40 in 4 weeks or ever hey that's me . We are all different!

This site should be to uplift ppl not to tear them down! Grow the HECK UP!!!!( I wanted to say Hell so bad but anyway)

Guess What.... You don't have to call out BS if you see it you CAN ignore it....

No matter what a person post on here it does not personally affect YOU!!!! SO WHAT if he/or she a LIAR, SO What if he/or she a Troll!!!

And to all the Beautiful People Working Hard to Accomplish your Dreams....

KEEP PUSHING DON'T ALLOW ANYONE TO DULL YOUR SHINE!

Love you all

P.S. I will not reply to any negative comments I will show you how to ignore ppl.... ;)

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Armygalbonnie    643

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Well said......... I am not familiar of the post you are talking about, but if you only want to say something hateful, look in a mirror and say it to yourself. We need encouragement on this site. Sometimes I read posts where I say, "REALLY"? I just keep my negative opinions to myself. I may give words of education but not hatefulness.

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Raymia    565

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Thank you, I see things as well but why waste my time on that I rather do other things

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AB2B    104

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I have not had my surgery yet. I am so excited to get this process started. This site has helped answer so much curiosity and questions. However, I NEVER imagined that so many from this site would participate in a thread like that one. Very discouraging to see this behavior.

Well said Raymia.

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Raymia    565

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Exactly I joined this group the beginning of November, I haven't had surgery yet either. So I come here for guidance and support because who really wants to sit and hear me talk about vsg everyday? That and I didn't tell many ppl anyway.

I have not had my surgery yet. I am so excited to get this process started. This site has helped answer so much curiosity and questions. However, I NEVER imagined that so many from this site would participate in a thread like that one. Very discouraging to see this behavior.

Well said Raymia.

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anonmom    95

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I agree 100%. I usually join a forum online when I'm doing something that is new or interesting or important to me, so I've been on a lot of them: weight loss, travel planning, parenting, and lots of others. Every single one of those boards end up having posts that start with someone posting a story that other members get really caught up in. Then one group will insist that the OP is making the whole thing up. Another group will defend the OP. Everyone behaves badly and I don't get why they engage in it.

I wonder, if the people who are against the OP think the OP is lying for attention, then why do they give it to them? People can't just walk on by, I guess.

We don't have to post responses to everything we read. If something seems suspicious or outlandish, just don't say anything.

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Raymia    565

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I agree 100%. I usually join a forum online when I'm doing something that is new or interesting or important to me, so I've been on a lot of them: weight loss, travel planning, parenting, and lots of others. Every single one of those boards end up having posts that start with someone posting a story that other members get really caught up in. Then one group will insist that the OP is making the whole thing up. Another group will defend the OP. Everyone behaves badly and I don't get why they engage in it.

I wonder, if the people who are against the OP think the OP is lying for attention, then why do they give it to them? People can't just walk on by, I guess.

We don't have to post responses to everything we read. If something seems suspicious or outlandish, just don't say anything.

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My point exactly... If their lying and doing it for attention, by responding your giving them exactly what they came for!

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larry971    279

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I don't get all the negativity I see here on this site....

( Yes I quietly read a post a day or two ago that just stayed on my mind...)

I kept strolling because I don't care to go back and forth with ppl it's not my style. I feel how I feel and I understand ppl will always have disagreements. But in the future if a person is doing good and post a before and after pic, don't put them down! If it's a Troll.... well it sucks to be them : ( Seriously how messed up must their life be to troll a WLS website! And if it's an actually individual your discouraging them and others reading these comments from posting their success... You don't have to call BS anytime you feel that's what it is, just Ignore Them really it's not that hard and keep strolling because you truly don't know!!! But it made me feel like what if it were me??? Depending on the season my skin my be darker and my hair is always different and my body shape is not like everyone else. I hold my weight very well people don't believe that I'm as heavy as the scale says. So if I post that I lost 40 in 4 weeks or ever hey that's me . We are all different!

This site should be to uplift ppl not to tear them down! Grow the HECK UP!!!!( I wanted to say Hell so bad but anyway)

Guess What.... You don't have to call out BS if you see it you CAN ignore it....

No matter what a person post on here it does not personally affect YOU!!!! SO WHAT if he/or she a LIAR, SO What if he/or she a Troll!!!

And to all the Beautiful People Working Hard to Accomplish your Dreams....

KEEP PUSHING DON'T ALLOW ANYONE TO DULL YOUR SHINE!

Love you all

P.S. I will not reply to any negative comments I will show you how to ignore ppl.... ;)

I agree whole heartedly. As you probably know I was quite vocal in asking those responsible for the negative comments to walk away on the post you are talking about. This is not the "easy way" as some say...I have been there and still am. It's not easy, but worth it a thousand fold. People come here for support and not to be attacked. As my grandmother taught me, "if you can't say something nice, don't say it at all."

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Raymia    565

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Yes @@larry971 you handle that very well... I wanted to back the things you were saying but like I said I rather not do the back and forth with ppl. I'm sure the lady appreciated you????????

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larry971    279

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Yeah I just don't understand why people are like that. I always treat people like I want to be treated. Guess I'm just too nice, but it burns me up..

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strengthin#ers    195

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I don't get all the negativity I see here on this site....

( Yes I quietly read a post a day or two ago that just stayed on my mind...)

I kept strolling because I don't care to go back and forth with ppl it's not my style. I feel how I feel and I understand ppl will always have disagreements. But in the future if a person is doing good and post a before and after pic, don't put them down! If it's a Troll.... well it sucks to be them : ( Seriously how messed up must their life be to troll a WLS website! And if it's an actually individual your discouraging them and others reading these comments from posting their success... You don't have to call BS anytime you feel that's what it is, just Ignore Them really it's not that hard and keep strolling because you truly don't know!!! But it made me feel like what if it were me??? Depending on the season my skin my be darker and my hair is always different and my body shape is not like everyone else. I hold my weight very well people don't believe that I'm as heavy as the scale says. So if I post that I lost 40 in 4 weeks or ever hey that's me . We are all different!

This site should be to uplift ppl not to tear them down! Grow the HECK UP!!!!( I wanted to say Hell so bad but anyway)

Guess What.... You don't have to call out BS if you see it you CAN ignore it....

No matter what a person post on here it does not personally affect YOU!!!! SO WHAT if he/or she a LIAR, SO What if he/or she a Troll!!!

And to all the Beautiful People Working Hard to Accomplish your Dreams....

KEEP PUSHING DON'T ALLOW ANYONE TO DULL YOUR SHINE!

Love you all

P.S. I will not reply to any negative comments I will show you how to ignore ppl.... ;)

AMEN!!!!!! Beautifully spoken!!!!

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LIA-70    136

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Well said. We're supposedly all here to either receive or provide encouragement for others going through this process as well. Im sure we've all dealt with the fat bashing, it really has no place here.

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UalreadyKnow    843

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I've been part of this forum for over a year now, and witnessed some bullying on here. I also don't delve into the arguments because that's exactly what these cyber bullies want!! I figure these are people that were probably bullied at some point in their lives and feel the need to (finally feel empowered) become the bully rather than the bullied! The few I do remember have been banned from this forum. If we don't react it's not fun for them! Lets try to refrain from giving them any attention!!

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Raymia    565

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I've been part of this forum for over a year now, and witnessed some bullying on here. I also don't delve into the arguments because that's exactly what these cyber bullies want!! I figure these are people that were probably bullied at some point in their lives and feel the need to (finally feel empowered) become the bully rather than the bullied! The few I do remember have been banned from this forum. If we don't react it's not fun for them! Lets try to refrain from giving them any attention!!

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Yes! And it's so easy to ignore.

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