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Just so we're clear, the word "judgemental" gets thrown around a lot on this forum. You can feel judged by someone, even if they weren't being judgemental and that is your own issue. Not being able to accept the truth.
Judgmental: "I'm a much better person than you, and always will be because I didn't cheat on my pre-op diet. Failures like you don't deserve this wonderful opportunity to change their lives for the better because you're just going to waste it anyway."
Enabling: "I know, I cheated on my pre-op diet too and I was fine so I wouldn't worry about it! It's just a suggested diet anyway and you know what your body needs more than some doctor! You got this girl!"
Bullying: "Why are you so stupid? Morons like you should be taken out of the gene pool, since you obviously took a shallow dive to begin with. If I was there right now I'd seriously whoop you because I can't stand people who come around here looking for sympathy because they are screw ups."
Supportive: "I can appreciate that this is really hard, because I went through it myself 2 years ago. The temptations don't go away, you will probably always struggle some. But it gets easier the longer you make the right choices. I think you really need to consider why you had this surgery if you aren't making 100% efforts to follow your doctor's guidelines."

Looks delicious ..how many calories and Protein
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October 20, 2016 - in four days! I'm getting nervous and excited!

I am 5ft 1 and I'm 3 days post op
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I weaned it out a month before surgery I don't crave it I use propel Water all different flavors that helps me
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Water is the only thing I was able to keep down but I have it in ice chips that helps ..I'm 3 days also and can't do any Protein and was also throwing up for 2 days ..it will get better ..
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Oct 20 surgery ..very nervous.. congrats to all
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unjury chicken Soup is the best ..they also have a strawberry sherbet that taste good too
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Good luck enjoy your new journey ..Oct 20 is my surgery
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My date is oct20
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I'm packing a house dress Slippers chapstick my tablet and phone ..
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Dear Bad food Habits, (love of my life and lifelong comforter),
This is sad but I'm breaking up with you, at least I'm taking a long time out and I know our relationship will never be the same. The cloud of delusion is lifting about us, our relationship, just two short weeks after my surgery.
Let me start by saying you have always been there for me. When my parents weren't there, when I felt alone, and then in the good time too, when I celebrated, when I was happy, stressed, let's face it. You were there as my go-to for any emotion, really. And I loved you, a bit too much. The problem with our relationship, Bad Food, is that it's dysfunctional. You confort me immensley but you leave me empty later, feeling guilty. There is no true substance in what you give me. What I take from you has hurt me physically and emotionally for 30 years and the end result is isolation from my own life, neglecting friends and family functions, hiding away. I am ashamed at what our relationship has done to me.
I have come to realize that almost every single activity of my waking life evolved around you, the thought of you, the joy and happiness that I felt when I knew I would have you again. It is this dysfunction that I have to change, Bad Foods. Its not you, it's me. No one ever forced you into my mouth repeatedly. I chose you.
It's not easy but I am taking steps to refocus, away from you and towards things that make me healthier. Surgery was just the first step.
Look, I know I will never forget you, afterall you were my first and longest love!I will continue to see you everywhere, you can't be overlooked. Fastfood restaurants, the bakeries, the parties, football Sundays. You have an allure and charm that has worked on my like magic and I have become addicted. My family still loves you so you will be in our home sometimes. But my relationship with you is over, in terms of the way we were.
You know what? I think we can still be friends, and we might even hang out on rare occasions. But not for a long while. I need to get right in the head.
Good bye, I'll miss you, my lifelong comfort.
The New Kel

I have a few friends that are not as heavy as I am ..they are always sabotaging my weight loss . They ask me if I want to order something for lunch I said no thank you I'm in my pre ops diet since surgery is on the 20 of Oct. Every few min it's you can't have just a little..or they eat stuff in your face while saying how great it is .they have never done that before.
I opted out of telling my family about surgery because of all the negativity ..even if everything went well and maintained my weight they will still have something negative to say and talk behind my back ..
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Thanksgiving dinner last week was my first thanksgiving since being sleeved. I watched my family pile their plates high while I took a tablespoon and a half of stuffing with gravy, one bite of mashed potatoes and about 2 ounces of turkey. Naturally, two hours later I was hungry and ate another two or three ounces of turkey. Another two hours, I was reaching for the turkey again. My sister walks in and finds me digging into the turkey and says "Leave some so we can have sandwiches tomorrow!"
I reacted as I would have before surgery and wondered if I took to much. Then I realized how little I had. I told her that she ate more turkey at one sitting than I had all day and I wasn't making a dent in her 15 lb bird. I reminded her that I said no to my delicious homemade cornbread, the homemade pies, and all the other treats they had. I chose to make a good decision. She agreed.
The next day I went to her house on my lunch break. I got my 2 ounces of turkey and a bite of stuffing. I showed her the plate and said, "I'm eating you out of house and home!" She was offended and became defensive saying "I only made one comment."
I'm still hurt. She made me feel bad and embarrassed.

Holy sh*t she would've gotten a piece of my mind!
And maybe a bit of my fist.
(No not really but it would definitely cross my mind!)

I had the nurse practitioner at my dr office tell me I'm disgusting because of the extra skin you can't win if your fat people have to say rude things you lose weight they still say rude things I guess there is no basic respect anymore

"Oh my" "are you ok?" Did you see a psychiatrist?
Wow you lost a lot of weight..you look too thin?
Sometimes people are never f****** happy. That's why my friends we need to live our lives and not live what other people's ideas about our life should be. Keep smiling and stop explaining things to people. Who cares what they say?

So to avoid uneducated comments I have decided to NOT inform certain people about my journey. For now Its my husband and kids(all for it, extremely supportive ), two best friends, and my insurance broker (she comes in handy) Who am I on the fence about and havent'told, my brothers and my parents. Why...........well, I can just hear it now. Everything everyone said in the above comments, and I don't need that now while I am trying to focus on myself for the first time in a long time. Sadly mom manages to make a situation that has nothing to do with her, about her. Don't get me wrong love her etc. but everyone elses situation magically becomes all about her. I do think my dad will be fine with it, I just am not ready. I need to stay mentally focused on what Im doing here. We all need to stay focused on ourselves. This is a major decision for all of us going through this. And the last thing we need are the nay sayers of the world giving us "mind frick" to shoot us down because of THEIR insecurities and failures. So for those who are just beginning this don't feel like you have to divulge everything about this, it is no ones business but your own.
Surgery date is Oct 12th!
I'll let you know how it goes if I do tell them

I am in a long distance relationship. Someone said to me, "after you lose weight, are you going to meet someone local?"
::blinkblink::
Sure, because the reason I'm in a long-distance relationship is because I can't get a man that wants to see me more often since I'm so fat!

"Weight loss surgery is for people who actually NEED it"
..... Ummmm yeah. Me?
"Well I'm obese too"
..... Said by my size 8 friend
"It's all about will power and clearly you don't have it"
... Cuz 6 months of education, a change in lifestyle, 2 week no cheating liquid diet, months of support groups, and regular exercise isn't willpower?
"I can see your losing weight so why do you need the surgery"
... Because losing 10 pounds on a liquid diet isn't losing the 130 pounds that I need to be healthy. I can't just be on a liquid diet forever.
"Just try paleo it worked for me, I wish I woulda got you to try it sooner so you wouldn't get this surgery"
... Actually I'm allergic to fruits and veggies. The majority of that diet will literally kill me. Also, your not my super hero. I don't need you to "save me" from the big bad wls. Lol
Most people just say things because they are uneducated. I've learned to just take it and move forward.

My temper wouldn't tolerate most of these comments. I'm too pretty for jail, so I'm glad I kept my surgery to myself.

My formerly good friend (one of very few I actually told) said 'Why would you tell me that? I didn't need to know that!'.
'Well I guess I needed to know you're a b***' was my imaginary response. The actual one was closer to 'Just in case you cared'.
She acted as if she was uncomfortable with me sharing such a 'personal' information. Fun! I'm so over her.

Oh how about " you can't eat that!"
I just literally spazzed out on my husband because I asked him to pick up some pudding at the grocery store. I get so agitated when people who have not been sleeved , nor have met with any nutritionist, nor any doctors- try to tell me what I can eat or can't eat! I'm the one who just had 85% of my stomach removed! Do you honestly think I'm going to eat any-damn-thing that is going to hurt me or impede my success??? Just shut up already!
* I think this was more of a vent than anything.*

Just got told that!! Exact words : you're not fat enough for Bariatric surgery!
Well apparently my dr thinks so! ????