xoxococojay

Oh i'm totally having plastic surgery. I eat like a rabbit lol, so by the time i'm done i need to look like a porn star. I definitely plan on getting my butt done to match my curves, not sure if i will do something about my boobs. I'm all for it!!

I love this and you're right!!! Every single one of us knows what it feels like to be the biggest person in the room. Or to have someone try to make you feel small or different because you're overweight. Regardless of how anyone sugar coats it. It hurts, period.

I love this and you're right!!! Every single one of us knows what it feels like to be the biggest person in the room. Or to have someone try to make you feel small or different because you're overweight. Regardless of how anyone sugar coats it. It hurts, period.

Omg!!! Preach!!! You are so right. There definitely is a link between mental health and obesity. (For some, myself included in that) many people are so unaware of it. I was.

There are so many things can cause us to develop food related disorders. In my case i had a mild case of binge eating and i didn't realize it. An eating addiction is no different from a substance abuse addiction. It just manifests itself slightly differently.

Venting*** sorry
So i'm in several other online support groups right. And i've started volunteering at my local surgery center support group too.
But lately in 2 of my other online support groups i've been seeing a ton of negativity and body shaming smaller sleevers/ by passers. It's so rude to me.
I just feel so bad for anyone that has to go through that. Someone recently posted something about people being in the 200's not needing wls, and that they should not post their before and afters.
First off, aren't we all having the same struggle? Both physically and mentally.
Secondly, nobody really knows another person's reasoning behind their decision. If your insurance is paying for it, it is because they are obese and possibly have other co morbidies. So i'm all for any and anyone feeling like they need to make a change to keep the weight off and get healthier.
I just think some people should attempt to be a bit more open minded or just not say anything. This post i'm referring to literally started a cyber war, which is so crazy to me. Nobody would ever judge someone for being much larger and deciding to go down the wls route...just saying.
I think everyone should feel welcomed and supported.

I'm so glad someone was able to give you suggestions on that. I was nervous to answer because i was not perfect on my pre-op liquid diet. The struggle was real. I will say the post op liquid diet is much easier to stick to because you will have no appetite.

If you're a coffee drinker, mix Decaf coffee with fat free milk and your favorite Protein Powder. I did that on accident one day because i was seriously craving a caramel frappucino. That's unfortunately, the only thing i can think of.

You'll do great. Once you start getting used to buying smaller clothes, you'll be afraid to go backwards. Just remember it's 75% diet and 25% exercise. You'll be fine. You'll learn tons of healthy habits from reading other's posts that can be super helpful. That's how i learned.

1) welcome!!!!
2) congrats on starting your process and your
journey (the starting line may seem overwhelming, but the finish line feels amazing and you all WILL make it to the finish line)
3) wishing each and every one of you continued and long term success!!! You got this, even when you think you don't, you really do.
4) if you ever need anything, don't hesitate to ask

Yesss!!! Congrats. Wishing you a speedy recovery. Don't forget to get up and walk every hour to get rid of the gas pressure.

1) welcome!!!!
2) congrats on starting your process and your
journey (the starting line may seem overwhelming, but the finish line feels amazing and you all WILL make it to the finish line)
3) wishing each and every one of you continued and long term success!!! You got this, even when you think you don't, you really do.
4) if you ever need anything, don't hesitate to ask

I love this and you're right!!! Every single one of us knows what it feels like to be the biggest person in the room. Or to have someone try to make you feel small or different because you're overweight. Regardless of how anyone sugar coats it. It hurts, period.

Omg!!! Preach!!! You are so right. There definitely is a link between mental health and obesity. (For some, myself included in that) many people are so unaware of it. I was.

There are so many things can cause us to develop food related disorders. In my case i had a mild case of binge eating and i didn't realize it. An eating addiction is no different from a substance abuse addiction. It just manifests itself slightly differently.

What I also find difficulty understanding is that for anyone who has dealt with being overweight--especially during some point in childhood--has dealt with discrimination and bullying. I guarantee it. No matter how funny or charming you are, the other kids will and do make fun of and exclude because you are different from them. So why not be kind to all? We know the pain of being the object of ridicule.
It's so easy to tear someone down. It's much harder to build a person up. Or rather to be a supportive force, rather than a destructive influence in someone's life.
I also second the part of how interwoven obesity and mental health are. It's a chicken/egg conundrum.
Great post girlie and great comments/observations to all!

Omg!!! Preach!!! You are so right. There definitely is a link between mental health and obesity. (For some, myself included in that) many people are so unaware of it. I was.

There are so many things can cause us to develop food related disorders. In my case i had a mild case of binge eating and i didn't realize it. An eating addiction is no different from a substance abuse addiction. It just manifests itself slightly differently.

You're soooo right about trolls and super judgemental people. The one thing i've learned on this journey is that you never know what someone else's struggles are.

As for trolls- buring out someone else's candle doesn't make yours burn any brighter.

I'm also seeing tons of the "you only lost how much weight in X time" comments. It's not a race and any loss is progress.

I completely agree with you, and i'm glad you kept yours a secret to avoid the negativity.

I'm only 5'1 and according to the BMI, anything over 130 is over weight for me so imagine what it takes to be considered morbidly obese, not much.

I think everyone should be supported for trying sooooo hard to take control of their life back.

One thing we don't talk about is the link between mental health issues and obesity.
https://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/758035
Everything from the biology of some mental health conditions contributing to extra weight....to behaviors (lack of sleep, poor impulse control, addiction, emotional disregulation)...to the weight gain side effects of meds used to treat them.....a massive number of folks with mental health issues are heavy.
Not to imply we all struggle with mental health issues....but a big chunk of us probably do.
Put a population prone to mental health issues together in a room...and it might get interesting.
I absolutely agree with cocojay on all points. We should make efforts to always be kind and try to live and let live.
It's important to keep in mind that posters here and on all weight loss message boards might be suffering from mental health issues that limit their self awareness, emotional regulation and tact. Not playing apologist for crappy behavior....just sayin....there's a reason. Having a good reason for behaving like a turd doesn't absolve you from accountability, though.

I completely agree with you, and i'm glad you kept yours a secret to avoid the negativity.

I'm only 5'1 and according to the BMI, anything over 130 is over weight for me so imagine what it takes to be considered morbidly obese, not much.

I think everyone should be supported for trying sooooo hard to take control of their life back.

Venting*** sorry
So i'm in several other online support groups right. And i've started volunteering at my local surgery center support group too.
But lately in 2 of my other online support groups i've been seeing a ton of negativity and body shaming smaller sleevers/ by passers. It's so rude to me.
I just feel so bad for anyone that has to go through that. Someone recently posted something about people being in the 200's not needing wls, and that they should not post their before and afters.
First off, aren't we all having the same struggle? Both physically and mentally.
Secondly, nobody really knows another person's reasoning behind their decision. If your insurance is paying for it, it is because they are obese and possibly have other co morbidies. So i'm all for any and anyone feeling like they need to make a change to keep the weight off and get healthier.
I just think some people should attempt to be a bit more open minded or just not say anything. This post i'm referring to literally started a cyber war, which is so crazy to me. Nobody would ever judge someone for being much larger and deciding to go down the wls route...just saying.
I think everyone should feel welcomed and supported.

I'm also seeing tons of the "you only lost how much weight in X time" comments. It's not a race and any loss is progress.

Venting*** sorry
So i'm in several other online support groups right. And i've started volunteering at my local surgery center support group too.
But lately in 2 of my other online support groups i've been seeing a ton of negativity and body shaming smaller sleevers/ by passers. It's so rude to me.
I just feel so bad for anyone that has to go through that. Someone recently posted something about people being in the 200's not needing wls, and that they should not post their before and afters.
First off, aren't we all having the same struggle? Both physically and mentally.
Secondly, nobody really knows another person's reasoning behind their decision. If your insurance is paying for it, it is because they are obese and possibly have other co morbidies. So i'm all for any and anyone feeling like they need to make a change to keep the weight off and get healthier.
I just think some people should attempt to be a bit more open minded or just not say anything. This post i'm referring to literally started a cyber war, which is so crazy to me. Nobody would ever judge someone for being much larger and deciding to go down the wls route...just saying.
I think everyone should feel welcomed and supported.

I'm also seeing tons of the "you only lost how much weight in X time" comments. It's not a race and any loss is progress.

1) welcome!!!!
2) congrats on starting your process and your
journey (the starting line may seem overwhelming, but the finish line feels amazing and you all WILL make it to the finish line)
3) wishing each and every one of you continued and long term success!!! You got this, even when you think you don't, you really do.
4) if you ever need anything, don't hesitate to ask

I completely agree with you, and i'm glad you kept yours a secret to avoid the negativity.

I'm only 5'1 and according to the BMI, anything over 130 is over weight for me so imagine what it takes to be considered morbidly obese, not much.

I think everyone should be supported for trying sooooo hard to take control of their life back.