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That's a good point. I definitely don't want to ever offend anyone.

Love this!!!

Lol. I think as long as you're aware of what you're eating and pre-portioning your meals. Taking them with you ahead of time and pre- packing your gym bag so you know you have to go to the gym. I think you will be just fine. As long as you know the nutrition content of exactly what your eating so slider foods don't sneak up on you. You should be fine. I don't think there's anything wrong with you at all. Now also keep in mind that emotional eating comes in various degrees too. It doesn't have to be an all the time thing where you would even notice it. It could be something as minor as being stressed out one month so you gravitate more towards doughnuts or something vs eggs. (Just an example) it could be something on and off so you may not be aware. In my case i never thought of myself as an emotional eater at all. I literally was over weight because unhealthy food tasted better at the time than salad so i was making poor choices. But post op even i had a stressful month where i slipped and slowly started making poor choices again. Got myself back on track, but i guess what i'm trying to say is it doesn't have to be a constant noticeable or even traumatic event that does cause that.

So in my head i already still view myself as still fat. I don't always see my weight loss. But one the reasons why i still view myself that way is because my heavy friends sometimes still group me in that category of being one of their fat friends. I think it's probably subconscious. Like they might complain about clothes or men or food and say something like "oh it's because we're bigger". But it's starting to get to me a little. Mostly because it's making me feel like i'm either regaining and not noticing it or still have a lot more weight to lose. It's killing my self esteem. So why do you think they do that? And what should i say to them (politely), because in reality i'm not quite at my goal weight yet, but i'm tiny. I worked really hard to finally get down to a size 4.

Aww thank you!

Thank you all for sharing. I realize this is a touchy emotional subject for most of us. Everyone had great responses and i love how open everyone was to sharing. I think many of us can relate to your reasons for deciding to go down the wls route. Best of luck to everyone on your journey. I just realized that i totally forgot to post my own reason (which seems so minor and insignificant compared to everyone else). I chose the weight loss surgery route because a switch went off in my head one day. Long story short: my office had just moved into a new secured building and the elevator was broken. I had to go up 7 flights of stairs with my laptop bag and honestly i was so out of shape and out of breath that i thought i was going to die. To make matters worse i wasn't by myself i was walking up with a co worker twice my age and twice my size and he was just fine. In that moment, i realized it was all down hill from there health wise and i had to do something to get the weight off and keep it off. I honestly just felt like it was to much weight for my frame and i didn't want to have other health problems or pain. I just wish i had done something about it sooner. I think because my weight never affected my self esteem, i chose to ignore it for so long. I needed that moment to be mentally ready for this journey.

I love this!!! Thank you so much for sharing and being so open. Love all your posts btw. I'm proud of you for making that decision! And congrats on 5 years of being cancer free.

It's not shallow. I think secretly everyone wishes they could fit into super cute clothes.

I can totally relate to this. Great post! Thanks for sharing, i'm so glad you're on track and healthy.

That was so inspiring. I'm glad you've already hit your goal weight too!

Yay!!! Congrats on not needing your meds anymore. So proud!

Wow that is so moving. Congrats on taking your life back. I'm wishing you all the best and a safe recovery tomorrow.

I can def relate. I'm a food snob too. I just refuse to waste my money and my 4oz per meal on crappy food lol. It's not worth it.

What made you decide to do that? And did you lose any more weight afterwards? Were there any other major side effects?

Yesss!!! I love this sooo much. I'm doing the same thing.

1. Don't stress. I'm constantly seeing people compare their progress to others and honestly who cares, as long as you stay focused, you will definitely get to where you need to be. So enjoy it. 2. Fix all of your emotional mental issues- if you're able to figure out why you were eating the way you were before, or even re build broken confidence during the process it will help tremendously and prevent you from falling off the wagon. This whole process is mostly mental. Sometimes that may even be as extreme as cutting off people in your life who aren't where you are mentally or not supportive. 3. Be your own boss. Don't do anything you don't want to do. For example, i despise boring cardio and "bariatric specific shakes" i hate how they taste. So i avoid both at all costs. I truly enjoy all of my new found healthy foods. I enjoy working out too, its now my stress reliever. I do things like boxing and weight lifting or swimming because i actually like it. If you love what you're doing and view it as a hobby instead of a chore you will most definitely be more successful. Take constant full body selfies even if you don't like where you are physically yet, seeing that will remind you of how far you've come and you won't want to go back. I hope that helps someone. I made a post a long time ago with a million tips that helped me.

If they don't fit, don't stress because you'll get there in time. I started trying on new clothes immediately because it was fun to see me start shrinking.

I definitely had this problem. I even wrote a post on it when i first joined this group awhile back. The first thing you have to do is get people out of your business. If you don't want them to comment, simply don't tell them what you're doing. Because reality is you're going to have to eat better and exercise anyway so don't tell anyone anf get the credit for that. Those people are now going assume you're taking the easy way out, when you aren't. My dad was like that and i literally didn't tell him until the day before. And that entire day he tried to talk me out of it, the idea of surgery scared him. I understood that, but i couldn't get him to understand why i was still making my choice so did what i wanted. You will find support through these groups and also through workout classes and so on. You'll meet new people that will have no clue you had weight loss surgery, they just see you trying to be healthy and it will help a lot. Stay positive and stay focused.

Hey girlie, i live in maryland. I have cigna so my process was different. I honestly don't think any of the state insurance programs cover bariatric surgery. What i would suggest, is call your surgeon's office directly and ask to speak to their billing coordinator. They would be able to tell you if your insurance is accepted and how much you would owe out of pocket. Who was your surgeon btw?

I freaking love this thing and if you follow them on facebook they pretty much always have the dispenser on sale at 50% off

You're right. I only ever post from the app and you can't change it from the app. I'm post op, had surgery awhile ago. I post so much that most people know that but i totally get why that would be confusing for some.

Bought this a year ago and i freaking love it! Well not always lol, but i love that i can track my progress and use it along with my apple watch, health app and all that. Makes it easy.

It's possible. I was only in overnight. I was dying to go home and get out of there. The recovery for most people really isn't as bad as you think. Just remember to walk off the gas pain.

I personally chose between 115-125 because my major goal is to become an egg donor once i hit my goal weight, and because i'm so short that would be a normal bmi for me. Don't stress over the goal weight thing, keep going until YOU feel good. You're doing great already. I say that because i had a friend who really wanted to be a specific size and when she hit that size she felt worse about her self. She gained an extra 10 pounds and was completely happy. So in other words find your happy weight which isn't always a set number.

For your surgery day itself you don't need anything except chapstick (seriously you'll understand why later) and possibly an ipad. While you're recovering i would stongly suggest sugar free popsicles because it will be hard to get your fluids in for the first few days. And ready to drink shakes might be a little bit easier immediately following your surgery as well because they aren't as thick. Gas-x doesn't work so please don't waste your money. The only thing that will get rid of your gas pain is to walk every hour or even ever 30 minutes in order to get the gas pain to move downward. You'll be fine. Wishing you the best of luck on your journey. I already know you will be successful.