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@@KristenLe Thank you! I didn't know what the test meant at the time and the word Lupus kept getting tossed around. I did call my PCP today and she is reaching out to get the bloodwork so we can address it post op if need be. I do have to come to terms with the fact that my surgeon is just that - a surgeon. He has no time for the conscious/nervous version of me. He 100% is one of those with the "God Complex", but as I said, he is reputable, and I think I only care that he is good at his job and at this time next week I am on the road to a smooth recovery.

@@bostonmama I think that ultimately the decision should be up to you BUT, with that said, I would definitely listen to what your surgeon has to say and take it into consideration. I went into this open minded but leaning towards the sleeve, but if my surgeon had recommended bypass and said that my quality of life would be better with it, I definitely would have strongly considered it. From what I understand, having the sleeve with reflux can be extremely uncomfortable, difficult, and could ultimately require a revision to bypass for relief. I understand the fear of malnutrition completely, but keep in mind that with both surgeries, you will need to take supplements for life. I am also from the Boston area Best of luck with your decision!

Hi Guys! I am finding myself wanting to go on a rant about my surgeon and just curious if anyone has had similar experience. I saw my surgeon yesterday for my final pre-op weigh in and consult. The first time I met with him I thought he was kind, knowledgeable and I know he has a great reputation. Fast forward to today ......... I first met with his NP, who gave me my instructions for the few days before surgery. She told me that they found an abnormality in my bloodwork, and that I tested positive for a Lupus Anticoagulant. Has this every happened to any of you? While I have heard of Lupus, I have never really heard of it this specific abnormality (it's not a diagnosis). Anyway, she told me that my surgeon would come in and talk more in detail about it. He did come in, but he seemed to be in such a rush to the point that he made me talk really fast and gave me anxiety. He didn't seem to want to talk to me or answer my questions. I asked him about the abnormality and what I should do ..... and he basically said "don't worry about it, I'm going to give you some shots to take at home after surgery, otherwise call your PCP and she'll refer you to a specialist, I am only worried about your surgery." I asked him about the day of surgery and what to expect, he just said "it'll be fine", and nothing else. I asked if I would have stitches/staples in the incisions, he basically told me he doesn't "close me up" but they'll prob use stitches. After each question he said "is that it" "is that it", I was just so turned off by his lack of wanting to deal with me. I don't know how to accurately explain how I felt. I felt like I was a nuisance to him and he was so rushed and really didn't want to be talking to me. His NP however, answered all of my questions, was patient, informative and kind, and spent some extra time with me after I saw him to make sure I understand my "day of" requirements. I know this guy is great as his job and at the end of the day that's what I really care about. But I can't help but to feel a little bothered by his demeanor. Is this just how surgeons behave because they are always on the go?

Hi All! I am 11 days away from surgery and I had come to peace with my decisions and settled my nerves and actually have been excited. A close friend of mine and I sort of started this journey together. It has been great to have someone along for the ride to relate to, someone who had the same feelings, to give/receive advice and someone to just look forward to the journey with. Well- she got sleeved on Tuesday, and has run into some complications and has not been released from the hospital yet. They are planning on going in and doing another surgery today to try and figure out what the exact issue is. I am so worried about her, she was so excited for this life change and I hate to see that she is struggling now. She has been wonderful in the sense that she hasn't told me a lot about it, has literally yelled at me not to compare myself to her or let this freak me out before my own surgery. I know that everyone is different, and that this journey is my own and it's not going to be the same. I could have no complications or I could have a whole set of different complications. I could feel no pain where the next person finds the pain to be excruciating. But I can't help to suddenly be more scared than I was a few days ago. I guess I don't actually know what I am looking for in this post, maybe I just needed to put my thoughts into words LOL. I am getting my surgery, and made the decisions knowing there were risks, and I did my research and my surgeon has a .04% complication rate, the hospital I am going to is one of the best in the United States. All of a sudden in my mind there is a 70% complication rate and I'm going to a chop shop because I know and care about someone who had the complications. Have any of you felt this way?

I know that the procedure code 43775 is the code for the surgery itself, it sounds like your insurance plan doesn't include coverage for that specific code. Have you reached out to them? If they are denying it, usually there is an appeals process. But if your policy doesn't include coverage for Bariatric surgery you might not be able to do anything about it. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

WOW. Surgery date for me is 9/2... One week to go. And this post is everything that is running through my mind right now. EVERYTHING. Knowing that I'm not the only one who's thinking it is reassuring!!! Like you, I'm doing it, no matter what. No turning back. But that doesn't change what is going through my mind!!! I feel for your insecurities but I am so grateful that you've expressed them!!! You're not alone!! Luck!! Thank you for making me feel like I am not the only one losing it! Idk if it will help you, but yesterday after I posted this, I sat down and wrote a letter to my post op self and I listed all of the reasons I came to this decision, and listed all of the things I want to do that I feel I can't or won't because of my weight (go on a roller coaster, buy a bra at Victoria's Secret, fit into a shirt I loved at White House Black Market, run a mile). It made me feel a lot more at ease and reassured and even brought some excitement. We will be okay! Lots of Luck this week! Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

You are so not alone in this! I never even believed that I had a problem with food until this week. I literally sat in my car for an hour after work deciding if I should go through a drive thru or make a sensible meal. It's not easy, but just remember you are worth it and you can do this if you set your mind to it. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App I'm in NC Sent from my iPhone I am in Boston so we are in the same time zone, we will be on the table at the same time! We got this! Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

This made me feel so much better! thank you! Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App

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@@Monet08 I'm glad I am not alone! I don't even know if I make sense when I say this ....... It's like I am two different people right now - I want this so bad, I am so excited for it, I know that I need it and if I were not to do it I would never forgive myself. I'm not even considering not going thru with it. But all of a sudden I'm freaking out with the pre op jitters and what if this happens or that goes wrong. I can't wait until its here and it's over and I'm moving forward! .

Happy Friday! First off, I just want to say that I am not reconsidering my decision to get surgery. It's happening! But I think that might be my problem. I am starting my pre op diet this Monday and being sleeved on 9/14. I have gone through so much to get to this point and I thought that I had never been so sure of anything in my life. All of a sudden the last few days, as the day gets closer I am second guessing myself. Am I sure this is right? What if something goes wrong? What if I regret it? If I am in pain will I hate myself for it? Could I really not lose this weight without surgery? It strange because I KNOW the answer to all of these questions, and I KNOW that the surgery is what I need and that a year from now I will do nothing but thank myself. BUT for some reason, I have been questioning myself the past few days. I am summing this up to my fear and my anxiety about the surgery talking to me and that it's comparable to cold feet before a wedding. I have never been hospitalized before and the closest thing to surgery I had was my wisdom teeth removed. But at the SAME TIME I am SO EXCITED for this surgery. I am so excited to feel better and look better and move more and not be so self conscious about myself. Did anyone else go through these emotions? How did you get your mind at ease? I think that I am going crazy!

@@Soon2B2LittleE Sept 14 for me too! I am starting to get a little nervous! Have you started your pre-op diet yet? I start on Monday!

@@crut77 From what I have seen, every surgeon is different and their pre op requirements vary, same goes for the different insurances. It's best to call your insurance company and find out what their requirements are when it comes to Bariatric Surgery, and speak with your surgeon about their specific pre op requirements. I wasn't required to lose any weight by my insurance or surgeon, but I was encouraged to. I was not placed on a pre op liquid diet. My pre op diet is a high Protein lunch and dinner w/ little to no carbs, and a Meal Replacement shake for Breakfast. I am allowed unlimited veggies and 2 servings of fruit a day. Best of luck!

@@jtellechea001 I was tossing this back and forth when I started this journey as well. I had a conversation with my surgeon about it, and he broke it down in a way that made sense for me. Basically, there is "scientific data" that says that people who get Bypass lose about 5-10% more of their excess body weight than those who get the sleeve. BUT - in his words, "how successful you are with this, no matter which surgery I perform, is solely up to you". In a nutshell, neither surgery is magic, and unfortunately the surgery alone is not going to get us to a healthy weight and it's not going to make us keep it off either. If you put in the work and change your ways and address the bad eating habits, you will be successful no matter which surgery you choose. With that said, I think that you should do your research, talk to your surgeon about your lifestyle and your weight loss goals. I have no comorbidities, and aside from my weight I am healthy. My surgeon recommended the sleeve for me, and input/recommendation had a lot to do with my decision. Best of luck!!!