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Am I the only one reading this thread with my arms crossed protectively across my chest??? As an old broad, I just can't imagine it - but hey, that's what makes life interesting!
Ang1982 - you do whatever makes you happy

I feel so sorry for you.
I was together with my ex for 13 years. I thought everything was good. I too was hit 'out of the blue' with the revelation of the affair. It took me several years to get over it. Oddly enough, the confession was phrased with the opening words " I love you, and want to be honest with you"...and then the truth almost destroyed me. Yeah, right. Honest about the affair AFTER it was over. What about the frikin' honesty before and during...how about then???
Counselling - I strongly recommend it but NOT to save the marriage, but to help you deal with betrayal. Only after you deal with your pain, can you possibly deal with the marriage...and then, only if you want it. My belief is that someone who cheats is no different than someone who beats animals or humans...if they do it once, they will do it again. Maybe I am wrong; unfortunately in every single instance that I know of (and sadly I know way too many), the betrayer has done it a second or third time...sometimes not until years later but inevitably they do.
Do not stay in the marriage 'because of the kids'...the kids will sense the falsity of what you are doing, become confused etc. You can have a stable healthy relationship with the children, as can their father, without being 'married'. Children are amazingly resilient...yes they will be confused upset etc, but staying together because of the kids perpetuates the lies.
Be strong.

My instructions were fluids for 24 hours, then resume normal eating. The rationale was the same though - to reduce stress on the stomach.

I would love to be able to wear a little black dress, not a big black muumuu! Nothing with spaghetti straps though, because I believe the batwings would detract somewhat from the over all appearance.
Oh, and thong underwear by intent, not as the result of creepage!