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It's okay, you're not the "Jerk Whisperer"

Oh my gosh!!! This is exactly why I don't want to tell people. I swear people feel like it gives them a free pass to talk about your weight when you have WLS. Since you had surgery, you're a free target. I swear it's not the same when you are dieting without the WLS.
Big hugs to you. You're doing great. I absolutely LOVE your response. I probably would have coward in the corner and not known what to say. I love that you stood up for yourself. You deserve that respect. She was a jerk and you called her on it. Good for you!!!!
This shows the ignorance people have about WLS. They think it is some magic tool. You go in, have the surgery and miraculously the pounds just fly off, almost like liposuction or something, no work involved. You just get to sit back and eat chocolates and watch yourself get thin. Ugh!
I feel like it's one of the biggest commitments in my life. It's not going to be easy and it's not going to be a free ride. I think most people who have had or are having WLS, who have done their research get this, but the general public, especially those who don't have weight issues, just don't get it.
I'm sorry for your interaction. I'm glad you stood up for yourself!

open letter to those who think they know whats best for us, and why surgery is the easy way out.
so today i joined my first class of Water aerobics at the local rec. center. the instructor was this tall thin thing, at first she seemed nice enough asking all the normal questions and when she brought up weight loss, i simply told her i looked forward to doing this even after surgery because playing in the pool really felt good. then came the look, we all know the one you get it from those who are on the latest fad diet and its actually working for them, or long time vegans who swear it works for everyone.
please do us all a favor and quit acting like you know me, quit acting like you know what caused me to get to where i am or that you even begin to know how to fix me!!!
take your holier than tho butt and your preaching on home!!! no one wants to hear you belittle their struggles and triumphs !!! especially while you are shoving recipes they didn't ask for down their throats!! If i wanted advice from a yoga doing perfect perky ass suzzie home maker fitness know it all id pay for a personal trainer, oh btw I've tried that too, and guess what i still didn't see the results i should have.
me being fat didn't happen over night, in fact I'm pretty sure i could shock the socks right off you if i should you all my sports photos back from when i played ball in school. I wasn't fat then and i loved to run, but that cant be cause I'm too fat for all that. right????
i was ok with agreeing to disagree and be mature enough to just walk away until you decided to open your mouth and tell me i was doomed to fail and this would just create more issues then i already had. first off you have no right to decided when i succeed and when i fail!!!! so fuck you and your high horse!!!
you making me feel terrible on purpose while using the guise of trying to help me was low. you are entitled to your own opinion but that doesn't mean its worth hearing. i never once asked if you thought i was doing the right thing, because its my life and my body!!! i refuse to be bullied around by you and people like you who keep saying well if you would just put your mind to it and actually commit you could lose the weight all by your self.
so ill leave you with the best advice my momma gave me " if you don't know what the fuck you are talking about or don't have anything nice to say shut the fuck up and exit stage left"
ok sorry rant/outburst over

I used the pre-op time to start practicing you new habits.
For instance use this as a great opportunity to start tracking your food if you aren't doing so already.
Get in the habit of taking your Vitamins and supplements (even if it is just a Multivitamin for now.) Pre-op, I was told to take a Multivitamin, Iron, and extra D3.
I also used the time to wean myself from carbonation and caffeine, and to practice learning to eat mindfully (eating slowly, taking small bites, and chewing thoroughly).
I also suggest that if you are having difficulties or have questions, give your NUT a call. You don't have to do this in a vacuum.

Yeah people and family definitely can suck. They're just jealous and hateful. Keep doing your thing and when you reach your goal, tell them to kiss your ass.
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So....here it goes..... i need to have a rant to people who understand.
I had my sleeve done 8 weeks ago... have lost 33lbs last time i checked.. haven't weighed myself in a while.. but i am sure I've lost more since..... 55lbs till i reach goal.
I was 209 when i last checked and an (Australian) size 14 which is quite loose on me... and i am 5'7" so i wouldn't say i am very big by the usual standards... i haven't told anyone other than my family about the surgery to avoid negativity.
So today we had a family get together and wore something i have not been able to fit into in a while.. i was feeling great, really proud of my progress and excited about finally being able to fit into my usual clothes.
One of my family members i have not seen since my first week post op... and this was the comment...
"What was the point of you getting surgery... you arent even skinny yet, what was the point of getting your stomach cut off if you are only going to lose so little in 8 weeks... in my eyes YOU ARE STILL FAT"
Omg.... really? The rest of my family were commenting that it's really starting to show and i am starting to look what i did before i gained weight after removing the band.
So, i basically said "i am not allowing you to belittle my hard work, i won't be subjected to your negativity and will not tolerate being put down" and left.
Why do people feel the need to say such stupid things..why can't they just keep their mouths shut!
It upset me... because i was finally getting my confidence and groove back

People suck...
You're doing a great job and you know it...
Don't let some toolbag with a big mouth get you down...
Keep doing what you're doing...
F*ck the haters!!

While I have not had any regrets after surgery, I can share with you something my surgeon said when I asked her this question during my first consultation: "Have you had lots of patients regretting this surgery?" - Her response: "Yes some people regret not being able to ever eat with reckless abandon again."
That's never left me.
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