Lynne5767

You may have a genetic predisposition to putting on weight, but that is NOT what makes a person obese. Eating more calories than you expend, eating CRAP, and not being active over a long period of time is what makes a person obese. I am absolutely the architect of what I am, today...I take 100% responsibility for it and I know how I got here. I also suffered from depression in my mid twenties...and yes, as a coping mechanism I often ate. But that was because I had begun using food for purposes other than fuel - and that was, again, something I could have chosen NOT to do. But I didn't...I kept doing it, because it made me "feel" good, temporarily. Meanwhile, the pounds just kept piling up.
When you reach a certain level of obesity, I will agree that it becomes almost an impossibility to reverse it based on sheer willpower and self-discipline, alone. Very few people are able to stick it out for the duration of time it takes to lose 100 pounds...let alone 200 or more. But it was the choices they made throughout their lifetimes that got them to the point where they had that problem.
So no, @@Barepigies3, I can't agree with you. It isn't a mystery why we are all obese. We ate too much, and we ate the wrong things, repetitively, over a long period of years. I suggest you start taking ownership of your role in your weight and the behaviors that led to it, because you will find success in long-term weight loss very difficult if you don't.

Being fat was absolutely 100% my fault. I've never been one to "beat myself up" about it, nor have I ever been one to deny that I had a terrible relationship with food.
I liked to eat in bulk, I made sh!tty choices, and I ignored common sense more often than not. I wasn't depressed, I didn't eat emotionally, I had no health issues, I was simply stupid.
But I fixed it. That's the bottom line.

Hello to my friends in their 50's! I hit my goal weight today (160 down from 287, in 14 months) and I have so many thoughts running through my head that I would love to be able to share, if you'll indulge me.
Let me start by saying, I AM NOT COMPLAINING!!!!! I couldn't be happier about this much weight loss, which I never dreamed would happen. Wearing clothes that I never expected to wear again in my life. The road has not always been easy, as you well know. But I am not sorry I started this journey.
HOWEVER........
I must speak about the person I see in the mirror everyday. Before surgery, everyone knows all about the extra fat that will remain unless of course you have a cosmetic procedure done. But I was not remotely prepared for what I would look like 14 months after. No, I did not dream of being able to look like I am in my 20's anymore. I'm smarter than that. But when I look in the mirror now, I also didn't expect to see what I see. Of course, my stomach is the worst, but my thighs and arms are very wrinkled and saggy also. I think the arms bother me the most cause I can't/won't wear any of the cute little sleeveless shirts that I COULD fit into now because I would be too embarrassed. If I stood next to a person of the same build, same height, same clothing who was just a "normal" person of 160 lbs, you would never be able to say that I also weighed the same. Yes, there is an incredible difference between my before and after pictures, but I get so frustrated that I have worked so hard, been through so much but still don't look like that other person standing next to me. I get feelings of it being so unfair. I know some one out there has read this to this point and said to themselves, "Why doesn't she shut up and just be happy to have lost that much"? I did say at the beginning, that this is not complaining in the literal term. I just wonder if there are others out there who feel like I do. I have spent so much money on wrinkle "erasers", tightening creams etc. and they are all a joke. (though if you have found a "miracle" one, please pass it along!) Insurance companies should be willing to help people complete their process by just assisting in the costs (not paying 100%) of cosmetic surgery if a person chooses that option. But, we well know insurance companies couldn't care less about our happiness or state of mind. You want the whole process to have a beginning and an end. When I see myself, I don't feel "finished". Like a painting only half complete. Just a few more brush strokes here and there and I could be a work of art (OK, that may be overstating). I try to laugh and say the very deep wrinkles that I now have on my face are lines of wisdom. Again, I AM wise enough to know how untrue that is. I'm hoping these "down" feelings will pass in time. But now, they are with me almost every hour of everyday. It's odd to be joyful and depressed at the same time.
I thank from the bottom of my heart anyone who took the time to read through this. I do have a helpful, loving husband who tries to understand, but deep down I know he thinks I not only worry about this too much, but also that I am fine just the way I am. God bless him, he's biased. If anyone out there would like to comment or share a similar situation, please don't hesitate to do so. Thanks again.
Grateful but sad.......
Cassie

Okay all you fine looking Kentucky Women~~
Good Morning~
Who's Up for sticking together through our Journeys and maybe Meeting up or having a Monthly Clothing Exchange?
Let me know~~

Okay all you fine looking Kentucky Women~~
Good Morning~
Who's Up for sticking together through our Journeys and maybe Meeting up or having a Monthly Clothing Exchange?
Let me know~~

Okay all you fine looking Kentucky Women~~
Good Morning~
Who's Up for sticking together through our Journeys and maybe Meeting up or having a Monthly Clothing Exchange?
Let me know~~

@@SarahSleeve
If you want to read more about the effects of this surgery on relationships, there is a board on this site for spouses.
and on ObesityHelp.com you will find similar boards.
Education and Communication are what keeps the relationship moving forward, You will have bumps and hurt feelings and
issues to work through, but "love" is more commitment and Communication than any hot momma in a red lace teddy....Granted, that is not all bad, but Respectful Communication will go a LONG way.
Good Luck on your Journey~

I have a brand new bottle of Bariatric Advantage Multi Vitamin . Opened it yesterday , took one and found out I can't take them . They are berry flavor.I have paypal acct . Can invoice you. Asking $ 19.00 plus 1.99 shipping. Pd $30.00

I have 4 Bariatric fusion Soft Chews Vitamins and one bottle of Iron with Vitamin C Cherry Chews. 2 of the soft chew Vitamins are mixed berry and 2 are tropical flavor. These sell for over $20 on different websites. I am only asking $75 ($15 each) The packages were purchased just last month.

Info from website:
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Easier To Take Than Bulky Tablets or Capsules
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@twinmomma442
Going out on the same limb as Anna Nim
I have read all your responses to the original post, So here goes,
I am truly sorry for the situation in which you find yourself currently, and Your estranged Husband may have all the
health concerns you mentioned, and he may be involved as you say with his children.....
However, Men often keep their insecurities hidden, He is totally living a
Separate life when he is not with you and has been for some time, and I am just gonna say it, He is and has been having an affair in some fashion, via internet, facetime, or in the real......but I promise you "conversations" are cheating.
STOP Pining away over a Man, who is not able to be who you thought he was.....and YOU have to be okay with that, with being on your own, Standing in the Present Woman that you are.
YOU need to stand up and be strong...get a key to his apartment and a sitter for the boys and do what you need to do.
Stop chasing him, @@Anna Nim, Anna is speaking truth, stop chasing him, calling after him, "checking" him. He is a grown a$$ man, let him think he has it all figured out.....
I am sure you don't feel strong, I am sure you are doubting yourself, I am sure you are looking around your home and thinking why would he want to leave this, leave us, leave the ones that love him the most? You may never get those answers, I am very sorry to say, Many a good woman has been left behind for something else.
I would never want a marriage to dissolve under any circumstances, so I will of course Pray for you and your boys and your husband, I will also pray God gives you the eyes to see what you need to see, the Mind to make the choices that need to be made, and the heart to Love yourself and your boys through this situation.
In closing I am just another woman whom has graduated from the School of Hard Knocks~~

Okay all you fine looking Kentucky Women~~
Good Morning~
Who's Up for sticking together through our Journeys and maybe Meeting up or having a Monthly Clothing Exchange?
Let me know~~

Okay all you fine looking Kentucky Women~~
Good Morning~
Who's Up for sticking together through our Journeys and maybe Meeting up or having a Monthly Clothing Exchange?
Let me know~~

Hey guys I'm from NKY, I'm getting sleeved with UC on July 1st! I would be down for a Facebook group if there is any interest
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From NKY, had surgery on 4/26
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I am from Kentucky. Got my insurance approval so just waiting for Phase II and to meet with my surgeon.

I was sleeved April 20, 2015 by Dr. Weiss at Georgetown. I live in Danville. Welcome!

Hey. I am from Kentucky. I was sleeved on 2/12.
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Im new to the group
Gastric sleeve scheduled for June 13 2016
I am located in Northern Kentucky and would love to start a support group for all of Us fabulous Women on the First day of the Rest of our Lives!
Perhaps a meet up or two and some incredible support and accountability.
Please feel free to Message me or email me privately @ guidinglite@gmail.com
I am open to listening and learning...
Lynne in the incredible State Of Kentucky

I completely understand!
Surgery on June 13, and this diet is not easy, but at the end of the day, we all are one step closer
to living such a better life
I constantly look at before and after photos, and read stories of sleevers that are 3 or more years out and look how amazing they look and read all their tips and advice........find something to keep your mind and body busy..........its much easier that
way
I have cleaned my bedroom, my bathroom, and my closet..........
organized the refrigerator, and weeded and mulched the flower beds all in the last 7 days!
You GO girl~

I work in a VERY gossipy workplace. I chose not to tell anyone at work, not even my best friend. I told my family, and 2 friends. That's it. Nobody needs to know my business. They all know I am working toward being healthier, but no one needs to know details.

I chose the sleeve because:
*I didn't want my guts rearranged (bypass) or a foreign object inside me forever (band)
*I didn't want dumping... I wanted to be able to have a normal life where you have birthday cake once in awhile.
*I liked the idea of the Grehlin reduction because I was always ravenous before
*I didn't want to worry about Vitamin deficiencies/malabsorption that some people get with other surgeries
*My surgeon thought it was the appropriate choice for me
And I feel like it was a great decision!!

I chose the sleeve because:
* I was put off by what I had read online and heard from my surgeon re lap band complications and unpleasantness.
* I didn't want gastric bypass's lifelong effects of nutrient malabsorption, complex Vitamin supplements, and dumping syndrome. I was also put off by the re-routing aspect of bypass.
* I had "only" 85 pounds to lose.
* I liked the idea of the sleeve's assist with lifelong restriction. (I now understand that I must always eat Protein first, avoid sliders, not drink with meals, and not graze to enable that restriction).
* I was terrifically excited by the sleeve's reduction of ghrelin. (I now understand that the no-ghrelin effect may not continue as strongly long-term as it was immediately post-op; we shall see.)

I chose the Sleeve for the following reasons:
* My BMI was below 40 when I began this process
* I wanted my weight loss to be at a slower rate.
*Did not want a malabsorbtive procedure
* I did not like the idea of my intestines rearranged
*oh, and my surgeons no longer perform lap bands...which left the Sleeve

I had real plateaus - nine weeks apiece - at roughly six months and one year post op. Both times they occurred when I hit a previous "happy weight" that my body had trouble moving past.
And of course, the last twenty pounds were brutal but I hesitate to call those periods "stalls" or "plateaus" because I did lose weight...just at the poky pace of less than a pound a week.
My honest opinion is that many people get frustrated by "stalls" or "plateaus" that don't really fit that description. Daily weighing immediately post op and in those initial months leads to many people feeling terribly frustrated with a short adjustment period (often less than even two weeks) where the scale just isn't moving. Weigh weekly or monthly and a lot of that can be avoided, and save the daily weighing for maintenance, when it's necessary to stay accountable.
~Cheri

I've been stalled on the scale for a month! I've lost a pant size though and I've never been this size in my adult life. So, the number on the scale can kiss my behind! I am so thrilled with my success so far!