puddin i love your name as thats what i used to call my x husband.when i was in love with him i used to liken him to a pudding my mum made for me when i was little.
anyway my response is that i am 22 stones 7 pounds in weight with a baby face and a humourous side thats quirky.there will always be people that like or dislike me.there perogative or problem i guess.
i grew my hair as it was short and subconciously masculin and my clothes were sporty.now im wearing lomg skirts and velvets and back to my hippy 70s look i wore when no one else did.i get compliments,inuendo's,blatent sexual remarks and i find this hard to accept as my previous concept was that thin meant buiteful.oh what a tangled web i weaved in order to myself deceive.i want to lose this weight to prolong my life and give me quality of life.
i watch celebs that i think have that certain chemistry and male or female they are all exuding a quiet calm steady aloofness that is very appealing without being standoffish.be yourself and let mother nature do her thing.i think anthony hopkins,(cor)/sharon stone/gary oldman/sting especialy all keep there council.however billy connoly is all over the place and very open and out there with his opinions and is still atractive.
when you love yourself you make an entrance naturaly without falseness.
confidence comes from within and starts with your inner being.i had to become comfortable with me and not feel on show to prove im educated,talented,funny,deep.
oh love me please arent i interesting,please like me,please was how i used to be.now im more open minded and its about the journey not the destination.sorry my phulisophical edge is showing.arf,arf.good on you for being so open in your sharing and its helped me immensly.kind regards shrinkpachyderm.