MrsFlipFlops

I've been thinking about this thread and finally decided to say something. While there are many sad aspects of being fat that we all can relate to, there are some that come with being extremely large that lesser size people haven't faced yet. I haven't been "only" 75 lbs. overweight since high school. When I dieted down to 130 lbs. overweight, I felt so good, like I could live an almost normal life. At 240 lbs. overweight every day seemed to bring new indignities. For example, the weekend before surgery the wooden chair I was sitting on at scrapbooking collapsed into pieces, throwing me to the floor from which I could barely get up. I've had to ban myself from all sorts of activities (baseball park, concerts, theaters, flying) because I can't fit in the chairs--things I could do when I weighed "only" 300 lbs.
My NSV this morning was wiping my own ass, without using the long handled spoon I've had to employ for some time. Where else but the 200+ board can I say that and have people really understand. So, yeah, I can understand feeling that people with much less lose don't really get all our pain. I think this board should be a place where we can admit those feelings, however ungracious they may be.

I went in for a fill yesterday, and this woman said to a lady who was in for her first fill, and probably weighed about the same as I "Well, you didn't get THAT big over night, it'll take some time." I know she was trying to be encouraging, but did we really need to qualify big? If I were to say something like that, I guess I would have implicated myself and said, "Well, don't get discouraged, I know I didn't get big overnight, so I knew it would take some time to get if off." Anyway, after the lady said that, it was kind of uncomfortable and everyone started looking around awkwardly... so I said, "Yeah, I don't know if there's a skinny girl inside of me. If there is I think I ate her a long time ago." And tried to move on to another topic. The lady says to me "Oh, there's a cute body underneath all that. blah blah" I didn't hear the rest because I wanted to say, "I have a cute body now!" I'm proud of who I am and don't think I'm dog looking. I'm a cute girl, weight or no weight!
Just made me giggle. I thought, yeah... even fat people can make uncomfortable fat comments. She had about 100 pounds to lose, so maybe we're on different playing fields. My 200 pounds to lose must be overwhelming to her. :thumbup:

I'm kind of surprised at you, I think that happens with all people but they make fat people out to be slobs intentionally. I know plenty of people who are messy or eat quickly and they don't have to be fat to do it. I think it's a stereotype:thumbdown:brandyII. And I'm actually lucky if I'm wearing a low cut shirt the food will go straight down the girls and no one would ever know:lol:

I don't think that by finding a movie distasteful that suddenly means that I find myself the "victim". I don't. It means the jokes they make are inappropriate... a movie where they make fun of a race or a gender I don't find funny either... again, it's distasteful.
These types of movies don't display the "truth" about being overweight, they demonstrate what people think about fat people.

Ohhhhhhh....LOVE swedish fish....but definitely terrified of getting stuck. Haven't had a problem yet in my 5 weeks since being banded and not looking to go there anytime soon...but man...do I love swedish fish :cursing:

Hi:
I was banded April 1st 2008, and got my first fill last week, I don't feel any restriction at all. This is the week of my monthly cycle and I'm starved, or think I am.
For some more history, I've always been over weight. I have a BMI over 50. My husband has left me for his "other woman". He says he loves me, but can't leave her, I've started divorce proceedings. My two children are grown and don't live with me, they are to busy for me. I have no other family. I have a few good friends but can't seem to make myself "disturb" them. I have returned to school full time to get my teaching degree, I am 50, 51 on July 4th. I am incredibly loney. I'm trying to ge my life in order, and find something good about it. But, I'm struggling. And now, I need to give up food, a soul source of comfort.
Anyone else succed at any of this.
Struggling. :thumbup:
Carla

Hey Carla:
You are not alone, just posting at a late hour.
Stay focused on you and your goal to lose weight and some of the other things will fall into place. My BMI was 51 when I started and now I'm within 40 pounds of goal.
I know how feeling lonely can be. It sucks! Taking walks with headphones on helps because good music helps the spirit and the walk helps the body. Perhaps you could join a local gym, or curves, or something like that?
Another thing that helped me is to go through your closet and all of your bureaus and put the clothes together in sizes so that as you go down in sizes you can donate the clothes that are too big to charity.
You're in school, so that must be taking up alot of your time. Enjoy it.
At first when I was banded I was exhausted so going to bed early became a requirement and it killed two birds with one stone - sleep is good, and there's no eating when you're sleeping. Another thing I did alot of was take baths with a good book.
Take care. I can tell you, from experience, that getting the weight off takes care of some of the depression and lonely feelings.
Gotta go to work.
Hugs.
Sue

I can't tell you how many times I've been in the "normal" size section of a store only to have a skinny salesgirl tell me I'm in the wrong area and point to where I should go. Hello...Like we don't shop for other people!!

My Great-Grandma had cataracts on both eyes & had recently had one eye fixed. At my Aunt's baby shower she proceeded to exclaim, "Jessie! You're fat! (which I have been since age 5)." Then she told one of my Aunts that she had a lot of wrinkles. To which my Aunt replied, "Keep it up old lady & we won't get your other eye fixed!" My family's crazy!! LOL!!

Ohiobluegal, put down the ice cream!
50lbs is excellent weight loss! You can do it and take off the rest!
Of course the band will only help you so far. You have to put in the other effort.
I understand where you're coming from. I love ice cream and I eat it every day still. But the difference is that I only buy pre-portioned ice cream.
My first action would be not to buy that stuff at all. OR only by pre-sized small cups of ice cream (2 at a time) so that if you do have to have some, you can, but you can only eat what you have. There are a couple weight watcher brand ice creams that are good, plus they are pre-portioned.
The second (or maybe this should be first?) thing is that you should figure out WHY you are turning to food at night? What's really bothering you and you should direct your emotion at the person/situation or deal with it in another way beside turning to food.
Good luck!

Okay Snuffy, I'll try to explain it a bit more simply this time.
YOU SAID: "There is a general belief that the same religous orders who preach abstinence and no sex before marriage, are actually pushing their own people towards abortions."
MY QUOTE SAID: "Teenagers, unmarried women, black and Hispanic women, and those with low incomes are more likely than the population as a whole to have unintended pregnancies."
TO SIMPLIFY FOR YOU: Married people and people who wait for marriage to have sex are not the ones getting a majority of abortions.
Let's try the next one:
YOU SAID: "There is a general belief that the same religous orders who preach abstinence and no sex before marriage, are actually pushing their own people towards abortions." (remember)
MY QUOTE SAID: ""Most women getting abortions (83%) are unmarried; 67% have never married, and 16% are separated, divorced, or widowed.4 Married women are significantly less likely than unmarried women to resolve unintended pregnancies through abortion.6"
AND
"Women who obtain abortions represent every religious affiliation. 13% of abortion patients describe themselves as born-again or Evangelical Christians4; while 22% of U.S. women are Catholic,7 27% of abortion patients say they are Catholics.1"
TO SIMPLIFY FOR YOU (FIRST QUOTE): 83% of women who get abortions are not married.
TO SIMPLIFY FOR YOU (SECOND QUOTE): 13% + 27% = 40%. 40% is NOT a majority.
YOU SAID: "3rd, this doesn't prove me wrong becuase what you would be telling me is tat most black, Hispanic, and teenagers, don't have any religious affiliations. Thats dumb assertions."
I'M SAYING: Huh? Actually, I'm not saying anything because I don't think you'd understand it even if I tried. Moving on...
YOU SAID: "This also proves my point that unmarried woman are shunned and so talk down to about not getting pregnant they feel that the need to get an abortion."
I'M SAYING: If you want to have a discussion about married people raising children versus unmarried people having and raising children and the results thereof, we can, but this is about abortion.
YOU SAID: "Heres a picking from a more extensive poll, from no other then an prolife site( Abortion Statistics )."
IF YOU READ YOUR ENTIRE SITE, YOU WOULD READ AT THE TOP: "The following is a list of useful abortion statistics as well as some facts on abortifacients. All abortion numbers are derived from pro-abortion sources courtesy of The Alan Guttmacher Institute and Planned Parenthood's Family Planning Perspectives."
And finally,
YOU SAID: "Please read your stuff before cutting pasting from Prolife sites and just assume it backs you up."
I'M SAYING: Do you really think that the Washington Post and PROCHOICE.org are pro-life? I'm not seeing where you got that.
A FINAL THOUGHT: Statistics lie. You can change statistics to say whatever you want. I deliberately chose statistics from a pro-choice website so that it might be harder to disprove them. However, statistics don't mean anything in the fight to end/keep abortion. It just shows what has happened already. That is why my pro-life arguments had nothing to do with statistics, religion, or feelings.

Jennie, we are going to have to agree to disagree on....a lot. (I was going to put a wink here to indicate tone, but it seemed so inappropriate for this topic.)
Respectfully, could you indicate to me which of your posts was the one about the laws in Texas? The only one I thought relevant was the age of consent, and that covered a lot of states.
In retrospect, of course everyone looks at the tank and the guns and says "oh!the children!". Well, here in Texas well look at a walled up religious sect and think- Waco. Personally, I think the FBI made the biggest fustercluck in history, and are responsible for the death of every individual that died, including their own men. But this is a state where the gun ranges have ladies' nights.
Do I want them to take the pregnant girls away? Yes. I see the forced statuatory rape, with parental permission or not, as systemic child sex abuse on a community scale. None of the marriages these girls are entering into are legalling binding, so none of the men or the parents are protected by law. Of course, it's not feasible, so it's better for them all to stay together, where they can at least not feel like freaks in the world.
I can honor a lot of things, and I can find faith in a lot of different religions. I cannot find honor, faith, or any kind of god in a religion that requires women to submit en masse to bullies who basically use them for baby and f'ing factories. Who run off any young men because they know if those young girls have any choice, they won't look twice at their daddy's friends. To me, that "church" is nothing but a pedophile's utopia. They breed their own.

hi nikki, u should just know u r doing this for u and ur health so u don't become an overweight adult. i kinda feel the same way about people wanting to be my friend after i lose the weight....like men at work who pay no attention now......i just figure i will only deal with people who seem genuine to me. u sound like u can tell the difference and will know who is real and who is not. hang in there and don't let them get u down! u r a special person and very brave to go through all this (especially surgery) just think positive and don't worry about them......just do u! have a great day!

Why are people such assholes?
We are the same as anyone else, we just have a little bit more flubber then anyone else.
What's up with people?
&& It's like people you DON'T even know, judge you.
Now I'm getting the surgery, and everyone's acting different.
Like saying 'Hey, blah blah blah" ...
Has anyone else experienced this?
I go to highschool next year, and I don't know how I'm going to handle it.
I tell you now, if I run into someone who used to make fat jokes at me, and they're trying to be my friend, I will literally tell them to sit on it.
Because I won't stand for it. They treated me like crap, and I really don't want to deal with them.
You know?
I guess I had to type out my feelings this morning I guess, lol.
-Nicole<3