Lisa_85

After reading these I am not going to be having nuts now.

I am constantly feeling like I am doing stuff wrong. I get so upset over it. Does anyone else seem to have this problem.

I know that one of the bad habits I got into pre op was a vicious cycle of negative talk. The negative talk never helped, and usually only led to more negative self talk. Go easy on yourself. Regret is useless. You know your error, now move on. Focus on how far you come and how amazingly forgiving and awesome your body is.

That happen to me I went to dress barn the other day to buy a couple of outfits because I gave away ALL my big clothes an at first the girl in the store didn't even know who I was and I would shop there monthly. Then she told me I should be shopping down stairs and I'm looking at her like I'm not going to fit in those sizes yet. She was like yes you will and bought me some stuff to try on an when I looked in the mirror I was like is this even happening I haven't wore these sizes since College!

That happen to me I went to dress barn the other day to buy a couple of outfits because I gave away ALL my big clothes an at first the girl in the store didn't even know who I was and I would shop there monthly. Then she told me I should be shopping down stairs and I'm looking at her like I'm not going to fit in those sizes yet. She was like yes you will and bought me some stuff to try on an when I looked in the mirror I was like is this even happening I haven't wore these sizes since College!

I finally tried on the exercise pants, I am just still shocked they fit. It's nice knowing I'm not alone in those feelings.

That happen to me I went to dress barn the other day to buy a couple of outfits because I gave away ALL my big clothes an at first the girl in the store didn't even know who I was and I would shop there monthly. Then she told me I should be shopping down stairs and I'm looking at her like I'm not going to fit in those sizes yet. She was like yes you will and bought me some stuff to try on an when I looked in the mirror I was like is this even happening I haven't wore these sizes since College!

That happen to me I went to dress barn the other day to buy a couple of outfits because I gave away ALL my big clothes an at first the girl in the store didn't even know who I was and I would shop there monthly. Then she told me I should be shopping down stairs and I'm looking at her like I'm not going to fit in those sizes yet. She was like yes you will and bought me some stuff to try on an when I looked in the mirror I was like is this even happening I haven't wore these sizes since College!

I get the Listerine Strips that dissolves on your tongue.

That happen to me I went to dress barn the other day to buy a couple of outfits because I gave away ALL my big clothes an at first the girl in the store didn't even know who I was and I would shop there monthly. Then she told me I should be shopping down stairs and I'm looking at her like I'm not going to fit in those sizes yet. She was like yes you will and bought me some stuff to try on an when I looked in the mirror I was like is this even happening I haven't wore these sizes since College!

I ran into a friend that knows about my surgery. She kept looking me up and down, then saying "Your wasting away" Look at your bootie you have one, your legs on and on.
I know she meant well but fast forward to Walmart a couple hours later and I go straight to the plus size section clearance rack. I actually pulled some items off thinking if they are big
that's ok.
I stopped myself and moved over a section,but could not put the other stuff back. Stuff... it was two pair of workout pants. Then I spotted another clearance rack with the pants....gulp
another section over. That is where I found the proper size. The whole time feeling like an impostor. This
little lady looked at me and I was waiting for the your in the wrong section comment or look.
I didn't even go put the plus size back in the correct section, I hung them on the rack and ran to the register like a thief.
I just feel a little freakish right now, my next purchase has to be a new swimsuit. I'm gonna need a Valium.

I used to go to the bathroom multiple times a day before surgery. After surgery I am lucky if I go every three days. Of course I take meds to help that process!

I am almost two months post - op and ate 3 - 5 Small Fired Shrimp. Thank God I didn't get sick from it. but I feel like a horrible person because I cheated. I try to never finish my 1/4 of a cup for anything I eat.

I am almost two months post - op and ate 3 - 5 Small Fired Shrimp. Thank God I didn't get sick from it. but I feel like a horrible person because I cheated. I try to never finish my 1/4 of a cup for anything I eat.

I luckily haven't dated in years, but one thing I will pass on that I firmly believe; aim high. Never put a person on a pedestal because many times that person is just wanting someone to approach them. I dated several women that should have been out of my league, but men never asked them out for fear of rejection.
Also, don't forget to focus on yourself. Workout because you want to look good as well as feel good. Buy one thing for yourself every month. Doesn't have to be something expensive, maybe a shirt or dress or even a knick-knack for the house. Do things that improve your life and your self image/confidence. A pretty woman like yourself paired with confidence can conquer the world.

@@CowgirlJane you rock!!! Lisa_85 you may be down but you look fabulous, cowgirljane has made great points, you never know till you try.

ok, to play the dating game, you need a much thicker skin than that! People come and go... for no obvious reason and lots of time I am glad they are gone. And,i have been flakey too - I just am not invested until I get to know somebody.
The hard part for me, is once i am invested, i hate things to end even if I want it to end. i know that sounds crazy, but it is how i feel.
i just started dating again, after taking a break. I met the first person last night and what was incredibly refreshing is my ability to be completely straightforward. We spent a few hours together and at some point we spoke about very genuine things. There is something to be said for just not worrying too much about one person in the early stages - there are like a lot more out there where that one came from.
don't give up so easily and don't focus too early on one person because about 95-99% percent of them aren't a good match or it isnt the right time for one or the other of you anyway.

Deep breaths. It will pass. The only way you know the limits is to try. I've eaten too fast and tried foods off of the allowed list and suffered. You'll feel better soon. Hang in there!

I completely understand.
Eating too fast can do it every time.
You'll learn to measure it out with your eyes first....and only eat the amounts that you should be at the various stages of your progress.
You'll also learn to pace yourself through each meal.
Getting full sucks. I try to never do it. Slow....steady....chew like hell and be the person who carries the conversation around the table.
It takes a while before I was comfortable at meals in resturants. I much prefer sitting at their bars where it's more interactive with bartenders and TV's. I try to choose places that have a decent bar area.

Tonight was my first night eating out after having surgery about 1 ½ months ago and I ate three scallops and literally thought I was going to vomit. Omg the discomfort I felt was something I never want to feel again. I know I probably should have chewed more and took my time but now I'm a nervous wreck I did damage to the sleeve. I never want to go to another restaurant again!!

I walk up 16 flights of stairs daily now.

I'm claustrophobic and have no choice. I'm just looking forward to climbing up and not being out of breath. I noticed a difference today at my post op appointment! Woo Hoo, it's the little things! Keep hitting those stairs! Maybe sometime we will meet.

I walk up 16 flights of stairs daily now.