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What I'm struggling with in your situation is the idea that your sister feels not mentioning the surgery to others if they ask her how you are losing weight weight is lying. She seems to be trying to take some sort of moral high ground claim of not wanting to lie FOR you and yet she had no issue apparently with lying TO you when she promised to keep your secret. I don't understand why she can't just direct those people to ask you for the details of how you are losing weight? But yes, my guess is that she already blabbed to a bunch of people before she texted you and is trying to justify breaking her promise.

My BMI is 36, I am 36 years old, and I am scheduled for surgery March 24th. I cannot wait! I am not telling anyone other than my fiancée, at least not until after surgery. I fear people at work will notice the quick weight loss, and depending on what foods I'm on when I return to work... Since I plan on only taking 2 weeks off. I'm a RN and work 13hour night shifts, so we eat when we can at the nurses station (shhh don't tell The joint commission!)... I am hoping not to have too much loose skin afterwards, but honestly I'd trade this chub for loose skin any day!

I know!Hopefully we'll have surgery dates soon!

I'm getting married in October, I am feeling impatient also!!

YEP YEP YEP - nobody's business but mine.
I have told a few people.
Bottom line I'm over weight - wether I have given it 100% or not to lose weight of the past 30 years... it doesn't matter. Maybe I could have worked harder, exercised more, but I'd get frustrated and quit. I cant quit this time.

Just an update for those pre-op people who are wondering how post-op people are faring. It really helped me to read about other's experiences when I was pre-op and scared, nervous, etc, Hopefully this will help some of you.
Surgery: 12/31/14 (currently I am a month and a half post)
Height: 5'4"
High Weight: 195 (at first pre-op on 12/5/14)
Surgery Weight: 188 (no pre-op diet required for me)
Today's weight: 168 (27 total pounds lost... 20 since surgery ... lost 12lbs in the first 12 days, since then I'm losing at a rate of about 2lbs/week)
FOOD: I was on a liquid diet for first 8 days. I was extremely hungry day 8, same day as my post-op appt. Surgeon said to start slowly trying to eat real foods. I have and can eat ANYTHING now. I've thrown up ONCE, when I ate some chicken too fast at 14 days post op. Last night I ate about 4oz of filet mignon, a couple bites of au gratin potatoes plus a 1/2 glass of yummy cabernet (2012 Charles Krug, Napa). It was wonderful, zero issues. Drinking LOTS of Water... aim for 64oz of Water per day; I don't always make that goal, but I try (my massage therapist said she can really tell that I am super hydrated bc my skin looks great). I am eating Protein first with a total daily calories of ~500-600. Some people say they are not hungry the first year post; well, I have been. I'm okay with it. I just plan and always have a cheese stick or almonds to curve my hunger, not to graze on or snack on... just a few bites to curve until meal time. I stay away from bread, Pasta, and most sugars. I have a couple chocolate kisses when I just have to have some.
PYSCH: I have had ZERO depression. In fact, the reverse. I'm much happier knowing I have this TOOL to help me. Please know you still have to PLAN and follow an eating regiment; the sleeve is not a magic solution to our obesity. I am feeling great. sleeping great. Zero headaches (suffered from migraines). My snoring is just about gone!!!
EXERCISE: I have logged 56 miles since my surgery (started walking on treadmill two days post). Hoping to run a half marathon again in the fall.
WORK: I returned to work on January 5th, just 5 days post-op. I work in an office, thus no manual labor.
PHOTOS/MEASUREMENTS/CLOTHES: I took pre-op photos; I can't wait to take the after photos. I'm holding out until I'm close to my goal weight, then I will take the after photos. I also took pre-op measurements and have lost over 26 inches. Today I cleaned out some of my closet... giving away eleven pairs of size 14 pants... going to Goodwill donation!
WOULD I DO IT AGAIN? Hell YES! My hubby has been so encouraged watching my success, he has scheduled to have the surgery March 9th!
Good Luck to you all!!!

I had a cath and I didn't shave and certainly wasn't shaved while I was out! That would've been awesome though I hate shaving! Hahah!
I find that really strange they would make you shave, I mean for god sake it's just some pubes, part that shit and stick the cath in! ????

....but doesn't have the nerve to post on their own behalf. Just want to thank everyone who posts. I love reading all the topics and learning about wls and feeling like I have (albeit imaginary) weight loss friends!!! Maybe one day I will get the nerve to actually post something relevant. Or to comment on someone's post! There are a few of you I really connect to. Thank you for your authenticity.
I don't have much of a support system as far as my weight loss goes. I'm a pretty private person who happens to have a high profile job in a gossipy industry. So I tend to keep quiet about the ongoings of my personal life. That's where lurking these forums comes in. And I totally feel a lot better about all of the worries and concerns I have on a daily basis. I come home and look up whatever is bothering me and almost always there is a wonderful post, quelling my fears with the suggestions and knowledge of others who are far ahead of me in their weight loss journey.
Thanks everyone! You are all awesome❤️

Thanks everyone! I appreciate you taking the time to read and respond. It helps to ease some of the anxiety!

Hello everyone. Tomorrow is my first consultation with the surgeon. I have a 10 page application I have to turn in, which includes my "story."
This is kind of long, but if you're bored, feel free to read it and let me know your thoughts.... If I should make edits... etc.
I'm on the lower end of acceptable BMI for insurance coverage, and I'm so nervous that they won't approve me....
Here goes:
I've struggled with my weight all my life. As I've gotten older it's gotten harder and harder to lose pounds or inches. The last few years I've been trying really hard, dieting is much as I can, and exercising as much as I can. Unfortunately it seems my metabolism has slowed to a crawl, and my hunger is ever-present. I've been going to exercise classes, but I can't keep up with the rest of the class. My feet hurt, my hips too, and my knees ache and sometimes want to give out. And this doesn't even speak to my low endurance and fatigue. Over the years my romantic relationships have suffered... On top of my aches and pains, and my negative body image, and exhaustion, my libido has become almost non-existent. My fiancée has put up with this for years, but he shouldn't have to "put up" with this type of problem... We are building a life together... One we should both be thrilled with and not one that will "make do." Aside from my relationships with others, my relationship with myself has never been easy. I sometimes feel a total disconnect with my body. Despite the fact that I've been overweight for most of my life, it's still hard for me to accept that there are things that I want to do but my body won't allow me to do. I'm not talking extreme sports or winning medals, I'm not competitive in the slightest. I just want to enjoy life... I want to go on hikes, I want to ride my bike long distances, I want to swim, I want to dance all night at my wedding... I want to be a healthy, active, happy, strong role model for my soon-to-be stepdaughter. I hate that I'm usually too tired to play with her, that I get too worn out on bike rides, and my body hurts too much for the active moments we should be sharing. And I hate that as hard as I try to steer her towards a life of self love and body positivity, that I'm sure she can see in my eyes that I can't practice what I preach.
I know that weight-loss surgery won't fix all my problems.. But I know that it will be an incredibly helpful tool. And I know that the progress that I'll make because of this tool, will only make me work harder. I'm happy to work hard... My ultimate goal is to work hard... in order to be able to work harder. I just need a little help along the way.

Thanks everyone! I appreciate you taking the time to read and respond. It helps to ease some of the anxiety!

I think you expressed yourself very well, showing how the extra weight has negatively affected your life, and also that you understand surgery isn't a quick fix, but rather a tool to help you regain your health and mobility.
If you work hard and remain true to your goals, you will definitely be that positive role model for your step daughter.
Best of luck and wishes!

I don't want to tell anyone other than my fiancée. But I know my friends and family and coworkers are all going to ask questions about my weight loss..... I am getting married in October so I might be able to get away with telling them I am just super motivated this time and combining all previous efforts.....? I don't know.... they'll probably all figure it out, but it's not a topic I care to discuss with people.

REALLY?? NO ONE ELSE SNICKERED!?!?!?!

I told my boyfriend, close friends and my bartender. My bartender is very accommodating in mixing me Protein Shakes instead of drinks. That way I can still have fun at the bar without the booze! And I am the designated driver now!

Those pants can and will be too big for you! I have several pair of lounge sweats that I'd stopped wearing because they were too tight. I was wearing them 2 weeks ago rolled several times at the waist and cinched way up with the drawstring for "paint clothes", LOL. I really need to pitch them, but I don't have any other "old" clothes to ruin with paint! Saw a Facebook "memory" from 6 years ago and... wow. Just wow. I thought I'd gone through and killed all the fat pics, but apparently I missed one! :-) I can look a them now and appreciate the difference. Oh, and purchased a WHITE puffy coat yesterday. Fully expected to look like "The Stay Puff marshmallow", but it was actually very flattering so I went for it! You have a ton of similar experiences ahead of you if you use the tool you're about to receive well. Best of luck!

I don't ever want to forget the humiliation of having to ask for a seat belt extender and how the armrests dug into my hips on my last overseas flight. I envision doing more while traveling. I was afraid to do the zip line in Costa Rica with the kids because of my weight. I can't wait to return to try it out. Rather than living dangerously with my health and food, I hope to add adventure through my travels.

@@Missariana39 From reading your post it sounds like you are Pre-Op. (have not had your surgery yet)
It's pretty normal to come home from school and find yourself bored. When you working no stop at school getting to classes doing home work and projects and hanging with friends coming home to your "old" routines which you have outgrown leaves an opening that your not sure how to fill.
Binge watching TV and eating are what most people do when they are faced with such empty down time. It's an easy fix, the TV is there and ever present with all the shows we can access now through various media outlets. While you could consider it feeling depressed it's not something that's clinical like a depression diagnosis.
So what to do....
You don't have "friends" at home, you have out grown your usual at home routine...so start a new one! You gave yourself the break and enjoyed some TV and eats and now lets get moving on to something meaningful. Shut the TV off, read a good book...write some letters....create something. Visit the local craft store even a paint by numbers set is something productive to do. Find a project that won't take forever to finish...and will keep you busy while your home.
It can be just about anything. Maybe start a walking challenge for yourself. See how many miles you can walk by the time you leave for school again....
When I have big projects that come to a close and I find myself in that down time zone, yes I watch some TV sometimes even binge watch shows everyone is talking about that I have no time for during a project as I am working all hours. When that gets old or I finish the season of the show, I don't fall into that "show hole" I find something productive to do. I'll read a new book, or I'll color in one of those adult coloring books, or I'll put a puzzle together. I'll do things I have to do like organize the closet or take old clothes to the good will etc. There is always something you can find to do that will occupy you and keep you away from sitting and eating. It's good practice for after surgery to avoid those head hunger days.
Wish you all the best of luck as you go forward on your journey!