You absolutely have no need to beat your self up..God knows other do it for us. However, making this decision was avery difficult one for me and for all of us. I tried many times, no not as hard as I should have and I never exercised as much as I should have, but I looked at it as if I could have done all of that then I never would have gotten to the point I did. The band will not work alone. You will still be able to eat almost anything you want to. WE are the ones who will still need to be in control of what we eat. I guess I did it the opposite way and I told everyone I was having the surgery. They are all really helpful, there is of course those who don't think it was necessary but to be honest not the people that are freinds or care about me would ever say anything negatively to me. They are ll so happy I have taken the step and will do whatever they can to help . Most were very worried about me at the weight I was at and the health problems I was having. So are glad Ihave had it.
You will be to, I know we like to think we do not care what others think, but we do in many ways. So do not let anyone bother you and just stick to your decision of what you know was the right one for you. And Go For It!!!!!!!!!
Good luck