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Well I haven't had my surgery yet, but about 8yrs ago I lost 80lbs, and people I would see from high school since this was about 2yrs after I graduated would see me and ask me how much I lost and I had no problem telling them, but then one day I saw a girl in a restruant and she screamed it felt like louder then anything"OH MY GOD YOU LOST SOOO MUCH WEIGHT". I was mortified I mean it's one thing to say it too me it's quite another to scream it across a room. Anyway my point being I found then that alot of people started rumors that I was on drugs and blah blah. I think it stems from people who just want to do it themselves too and want to know how someone else could accomplish it. For the people that know about the surgery I guess it's a mix between just not being educated enough about it, and also being curious about how fast people really loose weight, because I find the common misperception of wls is people think you'll be skinny in no time. I guess untill I have the surgery and start loosing I won't know.

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I second you karen on the artie lange tip. I've been watching him on tv thinking, god if he would get the band he'd be really attractive again and possibly not die. As for woman I would say The snapple lady that's always on celeb fit club, I like that lady or sally struthers or the girl from hairspray.

So all of my close friends know about my surgery, and everyone is super helpful and understanding and I love them all for it. However with that being said with only one week to surgery my girl friends keep saying things to me like " your gonna loose soo much weight", and "your gonna be sooo skinny" and as encouraging as that is I know it's quite possible I may never be skinny or I may not loose the weight as fast as everyone thinks. I really do try to explain that to them and tell them not to expect too much cause I just don't know. I don't know how my body's going to react I don't know anything about how it's going to be afterwards. I just don't want to much pressure because as long as i'm doing my part however the weight comes off is fine with me. My step-dad asked me what my 1st goal was and I had to tell him whatever I loose is my goal I just don't want to gain anymore. Is it weird that i'm not setting goals for certain dates or is it good that i'm not setting myself especially since I havn't been banded yet? :confused2:

I have to say your concern for your wife is admerable, and your need to want learn to help her is awesome. Its a suggestion you could throw out to her to go to a seminar. I came here 1st and everyones honesty and understanding along with feeling like I really knew what kind of decision I was making helped me more than anyone I know or any information I got at that seminar. This is a life change and only she can decide if this is the right choice for her, but I think you being there for her is awesome. I hope your wife succeeds in whatever she chooses to do.

Just a real quick question. My surgery is 4/29 and my pre-op appointment my surgeon told me they give a script for T3 for after. Well what if thats not enough? Can I request something stronger? I had T3 for my wisdom teeth and I didn't really find them to helpful with the pain. I guess I just want to know can I take other stuff like percocet? Cause I really have a a bad pain tolerance. And is there something else I can request? Thanks for any help.

my nutritionist told me I have to drink water even if it is flavored with something because of the possibility of kidney stones, and Ive had them before and it was tea that gave them to me. I don't know about loosing weight but i've always loved water so it's not a problem, but I would imagine the more water the more your body flushes out the toxins in your system and the less you retain. I might be wrong though

Hi lady's Just wanted to say i'm april 29th too and so excited. Maria your doctor put you on the 2 week liquid diet? thankfully my doc only requires 2days of clear liquids before surgery but 4 weeks of liquid diet after. well anyway I hope everyone does great. good luck

I think it comes down to you. Is this for you or not, I stuggled for almost a year back and forth with if I really needed to go this route if I really couldn't do it on my own. And the answer is maybe i can but that's no gaurantee I'll keep it off and there's no gaurantee i'll even loose it. But now I know! I know that a year from now I won't be the same person sitting in my house waiting for my friends to come visit me or not going out because I have nothing that fits me or doesn't make me look like a sausage. I know that I will change my life and not waste it on FAT!!!! I refuse to allow this to define me anymore and the only thing I can do to make that possible is give myself the best tool I can to make it. good luck in whatever you choose I hope you make the best choice for you.

I second that there have been some really helpful recipes recently. which is awsome cause i had no idea what i was going to do for 4 weeks except drink carnation breakfast and v8 juice. thanks for all the help everyone. I would love to meet someone on wed thurs and sundays at the 40/896 track i live right up the street. probubly not till after may but whenever anyone wants just tell me i'll be there. I'm one of those people that keep every appt with someone except the ones I make with myself.

hi everyone, I so glad to hear those of you that have had the surgery already are doing well. I'm scheduled to have mine on 4/29. I'm pretty much done wtih all my pre-op stuff except meeting with my pcp who gives the clearance in my state and my surgion after that insurance approval and smooth sailing. I hopefully won't have a problem with my insurance since i've kept in good contact with them about the process the whole time. I'm just so excited about this whole thing being over with and my new life starting. I wanted to ask some people what there post-op diet consists of my bariatric group requires clear liquids 2days pre-op then 4 weeks liquid post then 2 weeks mushies and then slowley add solid food back one at a time. so i'm not going to be chewing food for almost 7 weeks. seems crazy and impossible since i've never stuck to any diet that long at least not without cheating. but I don't want to compramise my health so i'm hopeing I will be good. well anyway i'm rambeling good luck to all of you.

This is so awesome i was checking this part of the site for sometime, but there weren't very many posts, and now it seems like everyone is being really supportive of each other which is nice, and it's also nice to know about people who used the same surgeons and center. anyway I regretfully won't be able to meet any of you at the support groups because I work on tuesday's but hopefully I will be able to make it to one and say hi to you all. anyway keep up the communication guys it's really nice to hear about everyones success. good luck

that swimsuit is so cute. I need a new one i never saw that site before i think i will be making a purchase soon.

I know alot of people are giving you ideas, and I don't have any children but from my experience with a mother that had food issues my whole life, which for sure manafested (sp) itself through me among alot of other things that caused my self hatred and eating. Its all about you and the examples that you show her being active, eating healthy, understanding what caused you and your daughter to eat. like you said your overeating is partailly due to abuse. You said you are a single mother, is her father around. I don't mean for you to answer that to me, but just to yourself. My father left when I was 3 and i never saw him again. This including my mother shoving food at me so she wouldn't eat it and constatly bringing up what I ate and making me upset with her for it so I would eat the bad stuff to spite her sometimes. I really truley believe if my mother had known what her food issues were she would have been able to deal with mine better. just my opinion be there for her understand that nagging will not help but communication and understanding. its a fine line between the two.

lisa, I know exacally how you feel. I havn't been banded yet but i did finally get my date 4/29 last week and that is seriously the first time in months I really really grasped the concept that this is really going to happen for me. even though sitting there looking at the pics makes you want it even more and upset because that isnt you yet. just think in a matter of months hopefully sooner you'll be on your way to an after shot, and that's alot more than some people can say. I've wanted this for so long that it has felt like this process is taking forever but this is nothing i'm just sitting back and waiting now for my new life, the one i will be able to live. so congrats on your decision I hope everything goes fast and smooth for you good luck and keep in touch so we know your progress

Well I haven't been banded yet 4/29 is my date, but from everything I know alot of which i've gotten from this site, is that it can be that switch in your brain. Obviously if you have a smaller stomach for sometime it won't allow you to eat too much. With that said in order for things to change not just the thing in your head to tell you to stop but the thing in your head that won't allow you to stop you have to do that. you have to decide you won't eat icecream or chocolate or thing that will slide through the band. YOU have to decide the things you will put in your mouth and that the band cannot help you with unless it gets stuck. This is a desicion that took me over a year to make and to make up my mind that I am ready to change my life, I won't be sitting on my couch munching on a sandwich and chips one year from now. I hope that you do the research and understand that this is a life change not just a helper with not gorging on dinner. I wish you all the best in whatever decion you make but just make sure you are educated first.

my date is april 29th and I'm so excited but I know what you mean about feeling at peace. for the last few months its been doctors appts and support groups and thinking about when it will finally happen, and now there is a date and I'm just relieved I know the date of the start of my new life, like a second birthday I guess. only 12 days before my real one, and that will still makes me a taurus awesome. congrats on your journey I'm right there with you.

well i officially got a date 4/29. unbelievable I'm so excited I can't explain, just a few more appointments and less than a month away from my new life.

So its official I can't believe it. I got the news today and I'm just so happy there is an official day and it's not that far away. I can't express how happy I am. Does everyone get this happy when they get the date? Anyway Just wanted to say it out load, to the people who would understand what that date means. Hope everyone is doing well and Thanks for all the support.

hey everyone my name is alicia I live in newark I didn't really realize how many people are from de on this site. well I'm not yet banded just got the phone call from my pulm doc today that everything is good and there's no need to see her again so she's sending over her approval so hopefully i can call chrias on wed and get my surgery date. I can't wait my seminar was in jan and I feel like getting this done has taken forever. I'm just so happy only a few tiny more steps and it will be here.

I don't think i have a preferance but i've only ever dated "normal weight" guys usually really tall one's though and i'm 4'11" So thats wierd. But as far as not dating someone for any reason in thier appearance I don't think i've ever done that but who really knows. All i know is i'm attracted or not. However that being said I refuse to date guys who have a thing for fat girls. that is a absolute NO NO the min they mentions I like larger plump fluffy however they want to mask it I'm out. I feel it's insulting plus I'm a skinny girl under my fat so they are not looking for me.

I would assume you just have to let them deal. they pull the skin tight anyway so they'll just have to pull a little more, I mean I'm positive they've seen it all, and that's there job if you feel bad tip um more thats my moto, when i get a pedi if my feet are rough i tip em more.

Like everyone said before, it really is whatever your insurance requires as pre op. Mine only required 2 nutrition classes and 2 support groups. All of the other appts really depend on the center you choose and what they require like cardiologist and pulmonlogyst. both of which sent me for extra test so that made it a bit longer plus all the classes were on days i work so i had to make arrangments to get off blah blah. so far my seminar was jan 10th and i only have to wait for my pulm clearance and all those test are done so I'm looking at late april early may for my surgery so about 4-5 months. again you should probably call your insurance company and ask them if they cover it and what % and what the pre op requirments are. I just found having all my insurance information before my seminar made it better plus without insurance there is no way I could get this done so I had to call before I even wasted my brain power on the thought. good luck I hope everything works, and I know right now you just want to have it done cause I do too, but no matter how long it takes to get it I know in my heart it will be worth it.

well although I don't nessasaraly agree with quitting your job maybe possibly looking into a loan or saving, I'm not going to put you down or make you feel bad for it everyone does things differantly, and if this is how you can get it done then so be it. If this country smartened up everyone would have health care and this would be covered because it is preventative... as appose to treating you once you've had a heart attack or stroke and having to pay you disability. we all pay taxes including yourself for many years, so if this is what you had to do to get your share than I say go for it. As for the many people that already take advantage of the system believe me most are not living wonderful lives with there mortgages being paid and outstanding car payments. we don't help them that much.

So I've been craming in my doc appts within the last two weeks and I offically only have my sleep test tomorrow night and my appt with the doc to clear me who happens to be my pcp, so that's awesome thursday is my stress test and then all I have to do is wait for the info to be sent to my surgeon then I get a date. God I'm so excited to know I will finally have a real date a actually date for my life to change. Nothing could be more exciting to me right now.