NJ_gal_in_VA

You're absolutely right, Crystal. It IS in God's hands...if you allow it to be! Just give it to Him and He will work it all out. His timing is perfect! I feel for you. I am going through the same thing. I was banded on June 11, 2007 and have only lost 30 pounds. I now weigh 240. I have been married for a whole week (July 12, 2008) and I'm ready to have a baby! Actually, we have been talking about it for a little over a year now and have both decided it would be better for me to get at least below 200 before we start trying. Needless to say, our wedding night was not the "typical" couples' wedding night. We opted out of plain sex and chose other ways to satisfy each other :scared2: I wish it could have been different but we're THAT afraid of putting a baby at risk because of MY own weight problems that we avoided it. I am generally healthy other than being obese but I'm worried about the possible issues related to being obese and pregnant (i.e. justational diabetes, etc.). I'm at a standstill with my weight, though, and I am just wanting a baby so badly that I'm not sure I want to wait any longer. I have a 9 year old son from another relationship but I weighed at least 100 pounds less when I first became pregnant with him. Maybe you ladies in this forum can give me some advice. You can check out my profile, too and see my wedding pictures to get an idea of what I look like! :smile: The pictures are in my albums section. Any advice would be GREATLY appreciated! Thanks!! :wink2:

Pictures are posted! I hope you enjoy them! Hopefully this link will take you directly to them. If you click on the first picture you will be able to see a larger size and at the bottom of each picture you can click on "next picture" to see each picture in large size. http://www.lapbandtalk.com/members/nj_gal_in_va-albums-colleen-josh-s-wedding.html

Well, it seems you all are doing so well. I wish I could say the same for myself :confused: I am now a married woman and the wedding was wonderful! Only thing....I HATE the pictures of me anywhere from the neck, down. My arms are huge and I had a big old bruise that showed terribly on my right arm I wish I could have lost more weight before the wedding but, alas, I failed miserably. I'm still at 240 and can't control my eating right now. I wouldn't even make love to my husband on our wedding night for fear that I may become pregnant and put another life at risk because of my own health. I need help now more than ever because I really want us to have children of our own (I already have a 9 year old son from another relationship) but I don't want the baby to be in danger because of my weight. I need all of the support I can get right now! I will try and post some pictures on my profile of the wedding. My little boy, Shane, was the ring bearer! He looked ADORABLE! Love to you all! Keep checking back for the pictures!

Hey all! I'm glad to see everyone's doing ok! And to those of you who don't think so, you really are if you realize that you need to get back on track! 16 days until the wedding! I'm so nervous :embaressed_smile: I so wish I could have lost that last 40 pounds before the wedding but, alas, it didn't happen. My fault, I know. Wanna hear a poor excuse? I'm under so much stress from the wedding planning and so forth....blah blah blah! Well, at least I can use that for a few more weeks...lol! Wish us luck! I will try and post pictures after the wedding as soon as I get a chance. Love to you all!!

Thanks Elaine! I really do feel better. I just need to get my a$$ on the ball during the next month and keep it up. My biggest goal is to make sure I am at a safe weight to have a baby. After we get married I'm hoping to lose as quickly as possible so we can begin trying to get pregnant. Wish me luck!!

Hey all! I'm sorry I haven't been on here in so long but so much has been going on with the wedding and so forth. But right now I need support more than ever. I'm feeling extremely low as it's almost my one year bandiversary (June 11, 2007) and I have only lost 30 pounds, 20 of which were in the first week. My wedding is in less than 2 months and I'm so unhappy with the way I look right now. I feel like a fat pig in my dress and I feel like everyone's gonna say how big I looked at my wedding and so forth. I even feel like my fiancee is getting tired of it and is feeling less attracted to me than he used to be. I am seriously considering gastric bypass because I can't live like this anymore and I have no control. I have arthritis in my back and every day I come home from work feeling like I got hit by a bus. I don't have the energy to exercise not to mention the fact that I am physically unable to. It feels like my back is going to snap. My doctor is a moron and won't do anything for me. He just says to lose the weight, which is completely understandable but how am I supposed to do that when I can't even stand up sometimes? It's like a vicious cycle that never ends. Alone and confused :scared2:

luvinke, It must be so difficult to have your guy telling you that you need to stay overweight. I think it makes it that much more difficult. My fiancee can't wait until I get back to my high school size....heehee!! If he were to tell me he wants me to stop losing weight, I would probably not care as much about it. I know that's probably wrong, because I should be doing this for myself but I need to do this for my family, too. I feel I need their approval. I hope your DH (whatever that means...) comes around and realizes that this is something you have to do for you and no one else! Good luck to you both! :thumbup:

Hi Jan! Welcome to the group. First let me just say that I feel your pain. I have arthritis and it's difficult for me to excercise regularly too. My mom has fibromyalgia, so I know what it can do to your body. Do you have a local swimming pool to exercise in? Swimming will obviously have NO impact on your body and it's relaxing! I wish I had a local pool. I would use it every day! I LOVE LOVE LOVE to swim! But alas, walking is what I'm stuck with! Just be sure you take it easy and don't overdo it. And I think it's a good idea for you to concentrate especially hard on your eating/dietary guidelines since you can't exercise as much. Hang in there! We're here for you!

I know what you mean. When my family and friends ask me that I always seem to say "nothing" as well. It makes me feel like a failure sometimes, but hopefully that will change soon! It's true what you say, though. I would be a lot worse off if it weren't for the band!

Thanks Candy! You're absolutely right! I guess it's kind of funny to look back and see how depressed and ready to give up I was not too long ago. It's easy to give someone advice and help them get through something when you've been there yourself. I know how it feels to be discouraged. And if I can lift someone up the way you girls have lifted me up, it's all worth it! Thank you too Denise! It feels so good to get those kind of compliments. And I promise to try to get more pictures up after the wedding. It may be a while what with all the honeymoon stuff!! :huh2: But I will get them up eventually!

Luvinke, I believe you have probably said this at one point but you and I are at pretty much exactly the same point! I was also banded in June 07 (I believe that is what you meant, not 08!) and have lost only 29 pounds to date. But the slower the weight comes off, the easier it is to keep it off! And we'll have less hanging skin...lol! Just keep truckin! Every little goal we achieve is a step in the right direction! I think it's good that you have set those goals for yourself. Starting out small and building up is what will get us to our ultimate goal! I feel your pain! I have a family to cook for as well when I get home and believe me, they don't let me forget to cook when they're hungry!! Can you go for a walk by yourself after dinner? I know it helps me relax to have some alone time after a hectic day and a demanding family! I know you use a walking video but maybe you can go outside and walk especially now that the weather is getting nicer! It's very peaceful!

Becca, I was banded in June 07 and have lost only half of what you loss (29 pounds). Believe me, you have great weight loss compared to a lot of us on here. I don't even know if you would qualify as a slow loser! But we're happy to have you with us all the same! :wink_smile: