chavezmommy

My surg said 2 years min b4 getting preg
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Same with mine.

I'm not asking for sympathy, but you clearly misread the above. I got pregnant 7 months after my surgery... maybe before you post a response basically calling someone a liar, you should know what you're talking about...

I know this is an OLD thread, but I just had to come back and share that I got a positive hpt yesterday!!! First time I've ever passed a pregnancy test Tomorrow marks my 10-month surgiversary, I'm going for bloodwork to confirm the pregnancy. Woo!!! Miracles do happen ladies!!!

Hang in there and know that you are not alone. I also started messing up after 7 months of eating perfectly to plan. I'm not 100% on track but I'm trying. When I don't eat well I tell myself its OK to start again next meal or next bite! I am really hard on myself which is counter productive. Give yourself a fresh start otherwise you can fall in to a guilt cycle that feels hopeless.
I also have some go to meals that I enjoy (egg white omelettes with veggies and LF cheese) and SF chai tea. The key for me not to overeat is to throw the food away as soon as I feel satisfied - NOT full. I LOVE eating so it's hard not to keep eating. I tell myself - Don't stretch your stomach. You can eat again later. It's really important to get physically away from the food so I stop eating.
You made a huge step with WLS and that shows that you are committed to a healthier lifestyle. We are here for you! You can do this!!

Hang in there and know that you are not alone. I also started messing up after 7 months of eating perfectly to plan. I'm not 100% on track but I'm trying. When I don't eat well I tell myself its OK to start again next meal or next bite! I am really hard on myself which is counter productive. Give yourself a fresh start otherwise you can fall in to a guilt cycle that feels hopeless.
I also have some go to meals that I enjoy (egg white omelettes with veggies and LF cheese) and SF chai tea. The key for me not to overeat is to throw the food away as soon as I feel satisfied - NOT full. I LOVE eating so it's hard not to keep eating. I tell myself - Don't stretch your stomach. You can eat again later. It's really important to get physically away from the food so I stop eating.
You made a huge step with WLS and that shows that you are committed to a healthier lifestyle. We are here for you! You can do this!!

Going out for a movie or other activity, and buying myself new everything..,lol

anything worth doing is Never easy [emoji3]

All the rewards I was supposed to get myself, diamond earrings and a fur I haven't got.
Honestly there are so many little NSV every day I dont feel the need for erxternal gifts. Not having to worry if a chair is wide enough or can hold my weight is a gift that keeps giving every day.

I got myself a new pandora charm for every 25 lbs lost!

Buy a package of star stickers and each time you've done something you don't really want to give yourself a gold star and set a limit to how many you want to collect before trading them in for a mani-pedi, massage, date night with your husband etc etc, not to try and sound cheesy but if you can't think of an idea that's quick and easy this is an option that kind of makes you work harder and rewards you for your work. [emoji256]

anything worth doing is Never easy [emoji3]

I just went to the coffee house with my kids. It's a treat and I thought Ill share a brownie with my son. Well he didn't want any and during our time there I got stressed about something and ate the whole thing and now I feel stuffed and guilty. I need to go back and read what I wrote a few hours ago. This is a life long struggle with ups and downs. I'll keep at it, but its hard... The good thing is the surgery kept me from eating more than one; and also I would've had a large sugary coffee drink before surgery; so I guess I should look at the bright side.

I just went to the coffee house with my kids. It's a treat and I thought Ill share a brownie with my son. Well he didn't want any and during our time there I got stressed about something and ate the whole thing and now I feel stuffed and guilty. I need to go back and read what I wrote a few hours ago. This is a life long struggle with ups and downs. I'll keep at it, but its hard... The good thing is the surgery kept me from eating more than one; and also I would've had a large sugary coffee drink before surgery; so I guess I should look at the bright side.

Hang in there and know that you are not alone. I also started messing up after 7 months of eating perfectly to plan. I'm not 100% on track but I'm trying. When I don't eat well I tell myself its OK to start again next meal or next bite! I am really hard on myself which is counter productive. Give yourself a fresh start otherwise you can fall in to a guilt cycle that feels hopeless.
I also have some go to meals that I enjoy (egg white omelettes with veggies and LF cheese) and SF chai tea. The key for me not to overeat is to throw the food away as soon as I feel satisfied - NOT full. I LOVE eating so it's hard not to keep eating. I tell myself - Don't stretch your stomach. You can eat again later. It's really important to get physically away from the food so I stop eating.
You made a huge step with WLS and that shows that you are committed to a healthier lifestyle. We are here for you! You can do this!!

It took me a week post op for the pain to be tolerable. When I wore a binder that helped a ton with pain. I took anti-nausea meds that helped some. Hang in there and walk and rest, get your fluids in. You got this!

Clothes. Most of the stuff I bought as I was slamming through sizes was from thrift shops. I couldn't see spending money on decent clothes. Then, I treated myself to a nice blazer - since I know that I loose slower in the bust than in the waist and hips. I got quite a bit of use out of it.
New Shoes. New workout gear/clothes. Massage. Facial. Lipstick. Sessions with a personal trainer. Laser Lipo.
Need me to keep going?

I've been going on Wish and making a list of a few things to get myself little by little

anything worth doing is Never easy [emoji3]

When I hit my goal, I'm definitely getting another tattoo. When my hair starts to fall out, I'll treat myself to a nice cut and color if I'm on track to my goals. Signing up for Stitch Fix when I reach goal will definitely be a reward!

For coffee, have you tried Fairlife milk? It has a bit of sugar, but not a whole lot, and it's enriched with Protein. There's a regular and a chocolate, and each is a decent calorie/protein breakdown!

Pop sickles were my hero. The outshine pop sickles, so many varieties

when my nausea was bad at first I think I was eating 3-5 pop sickles a day

They really did smooth my stomach, would basically cure the nausea and would make my stomach pain go away- I'm 3 months post and I still eat a pop sickle if my stomach hurts, works every time

Worked for me !! Hope it helps you too

I am feeling better everyday but I must say I'm a little worried as I read through some of these posts. I'm only on day 3, still clear liquid plus Protein Shakes. But I'm already tired of the liquids. Still I'm sticking to it for fear of what might happen if I don't. So will I ever be able to eat real food again and enjoy it? I know I'm several weeks away from most real food but from some of these posts it almost sounds impossible to enjoy eating again.

It may just be me, but if this person could not be mutually supportive of your issues, then she is not a friend. Having said that, there are huge mood swings after surgery, but in my opinion never to the point you would throw away a friend over some trivial BS.
Maybe you could take the worry you have for her and spend some of it on you? You deserve support and caring. That starts with you caring for yourself.

Hi all,
I've been reading the forums a bit trying to understand a bit more about bariatric surgery. My best friend of over 25 years had gastric bypass in 2015. She had been struggling with weight since end of high school, been through many diets, would lose and gain weight. she went through a period of time where she gave up. There was a suicide attempt, my dropping everything and flying across the country more than once to check on her. Its been years of me always worrying and trying to support her, and I was very excited that she got the surgery.
Things were fine until about a month after the surgery. Then she became monstrous.
I've been her dumping ground for years, but I have never been allowed to have problems. She's always been super judgmental, difficult and angry. She was am emotional eater for years. Around the time she had surgery, i had my own health problems. Serious thyroid issues, gained over 40 pounds, super sick. Lost my job, my bf, my home. Pretty much the epitome of having a rough time. I developed a chronic illness that i may have to manage the rest of my life.
Even during that, I was supportive. But, things started to get a little weird. If i asked her a question about herself, she'd get angry. She would blow a gasket if it involved a question about her surgery or what she can eat/can't eat. I couldn't talk about my diet, or my struggles following a restricted diet (found I had multiple food sensitivities). I couldn't be upset about gaining weight because I was never "fat" like her.
All my health problems were my fault. I was refusing to seek psychiatric help (not true). I wasn't really sick, I was choosing to be sick. I got where I was because i was mentally ill and made bad choices (no words..). After that, she cut me out to be in a more positive place.
I've just been really sad that she would behave this way.
Is it normal for people to go through the surgery and demolish their friendships? I feel as if I made the mistake of not researching what her mental state would be post-op. I've read a lot of posts about people writing about their friends and family being non-supportive and saying awful things...and I've never done those things.
I guess in the end she was the toxic part of my life, but I still miss her. And I wish she hadn't given up on me when we both had an incredibly difficult time. I do miss the person she was before, because that person was kind. I know she sees her new persona as strong and not letting people take advantage of her, but she's been really horribly mean. Im incredibly worried about her.
I guess if I had any advice to give people, it would be to not give up on everybody. Some friends want to change with you. They want to be there for you.

So very happy with both the VSG and plastics.
I am still home recovering, its been 3 weeks and 1 day. Im very swollen but otherwise feeling good !!
I'm very blessed.
Kate

Baa! I get it! Still not mentally ready to throw my plus size clothes catalogs away. Also a size 12 now but doesn't seem real.

Healthy ideas for me are kicking the carbs and sugars. They mess things up! Dessert is the devil, lol I'm trying to eat paleo as much as possible. My workout routine could use a boost, too.
Stay Strong my friends.
We got this!

I can certainly relate to feeling like fraud and doing self sabotage. Tonight I ate a bad snack right before bed and generally ate terrible today. Maybe it's the old baggage where I felt I am destined to be obese.... old habits maybe? Maybe we should look at what others are doing who stay on track...

For me the first 7 months I was religious about what ate. After a week of cheating I kept cheating... then my taste buds got used to unhealthy food once again... I know we can do this. We must choose to be healthy and Accept that WE ARE NOT IMPOSTERS. We deserve a healthier life, full of energy and feeling good on the outside and in. Let's think this everytime we walk to the kitchen and let it drive us to plan healthy meals.

Let's all get back on track this week!