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I am having a really hard time deciding what to tell people. On one hand, I really don't want to lie to people and my coworkers are like family and they would ask where I was during the surgery and also how I was losing weight. I don't relish the idea of lying to them. Also, I know people who have had gastric bypass and lied about it and I think it's kind of unfair to other heavy people to just tell them you lost weight by diet and exercise because it is so frustrating when you're trying to do the same thing and they are having incredible results and you're not. That said, I would really rather not have everybody in my business. I am afraid I may gain the weight back, and I don't really want everyone to know that I had the surgery. It is just a fear I have. I haven't decided what I am going to do.

Good point, @@LipstickLady ....
For counterpoint, here's a four-year surgiversary announcement made here yesterday:
http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/354253-4-years-ago-today-i-was-wheeled-into-surgery/?hl=%2Bqueen+%2Bcrop#entry3991321

Sorry, in my previous reply I said, "WTG, Ladies!" and I obviously should have been more gender-inclusive! My apologies!
That said, I'm intrigued. I did have a pretty lengthy stall when I went from liquid diet to soft foods. I'm wondering if that happens after fasting, as well?

oops! I think that should be "Good job, folks" dont'cha think?

"Great job, ladies!"
Thank you. Should I bow or curtsey?

I had a huge stall when I wen from liquid to solid food. I'm wondering if that happens after fasts such as this when you start eating again? I hope not. Great job, ladies!

I had something similar happen to me. Not burning, but more like a pressure pain in my upper stomach area. It is when I eat too fast. I am really bad about that. I am finding that since I don't get as hungry as often, if I have waited too long to eat, I end up eating too fast.

you good talk. very help. full.

Yes, maybe! That's actually a good possibility because the time it was the worst I was eating quickly. Thank you!

No hernia repair, but good advice on the other. I have only been eating a few ounces at a time but I'm thinking it may be eating too fast.

1. Men lose faster than women. In fact you can't compare yourself to anybody because there are far too many variables that go into how fast/slow someone does or doesn't lose weight. Sex, age, health issues, just to name a few.
2. Eat some complex carbs. The Fiber will help with your potty issues and I assure you, it won't slow down your weight loss. A tsp of wheat germ, flax powder or psylium powder in your yogurt, some dark green leafy veg, even Beans will help with the potty issue.

If you don't eat enough your metabolism will crash. It's your bodies natural "survival mode" tactics to keep you from starving to death. Your body will hold onto and store whatever fat it can get. It happens to me a lot when I don't eat much then I will eat something high in fat and calories and by the next day I've dropped a few lbs. you need to kick start your metabolism back up....and poop, you need to poop.

Yes, I believe I'm in the dreaded three week stall, so I'm putting that out there. I'm frustrated. But really, I am eating very little and I feel like if I ate what I am eating now before I had the surgery, I'd be losing weight pound over pound. Now, I'm staying the same day after day.
My husband is eating low carb and the weight is falling off of him. I'm eating low carb and very little calories and it's just sticking to me.
I know people will tell me the weight will come off, but I'm so frustrated right now because I'm dealing with the side effects of surgery (terrible potty issues) and not seeing any of the good things to come of it yet. I lost 10 lbs on the pre-op diet and 10 lbs since surgery, but only when I was on the liquid diet. Once I added real food, even this little amount, the weight loss stopped immediately. If I was going to stay fat, I would have been happier being fat and able to eat and potty.

Yes, I believe I'm in the dreaded three week stall, so I'm putting that out there. I'm frustrated. But really, I am eating very little and I feel like if I ate what I am eating now before I had the surgery, I'd be losing weight pound over pound. Now, I'm staying the same day after day.
My husband is eating low carb and the weight is falling off of him. I'm eating low carb and very little calories and it's just sticking to me.
I know people will tell me the weight will come off, but I'm so frustrated right now because I'm dealing with the side effects of surgery (terrible potty issues) and not seeing any of the good things to come of it yet. I lost 10 lbs on the pre-op diet and 10 lbs since surgery, but only when I was on the liquid diet. Once I added real food, even this little amount, the weight loss stopped immediately. If I was going to stay fat, I would have been happier being fat and able to eat and potty.

So far Tuna hasn't worked for me. ???? 2 bites- than the burning pain in my chest and back up it comes... The last few things I have tried while advancing my diet have not worked-- even Beans from Taco Bell (I can tolerate refried Beans at home no issues) I am afraid to try moving on anymore-- I am going to wait a few more days and try another fish perhaps? Tilapia? I will be three weeks on Tuesday- 10/20
I don't want to be stuck With eggs and beans forever! ????????

The reality is that you will need to watch what you eat forever. This doesn't mean that once you reach your goal you need to ban certain foods but you will need to watch what you eat. Obesity is a lifelong disease and there is no cure. You can maintain a normal weight but will need to be vigilant and watch for gain and adjust your diet accordingly. I am only 3 1/2 months out but I have really enjoyed cooking healthy food for my family and I hope this will stick when I'm at goal b

I can't wait until I can eat salad! How far out are you?

Had my surgery 9/28/15. Had to do a 6 month monitored weight loss mandated by my insurance. Although I only lost 15 lbs during the 6 months I was actually really glad I had to do it because it gave me an opportunity to change some habits and it only made me even more convinced I was doing the right thing. I had absolutely no pre-op jitters. Surgery went great, they did have to do a hernia repair also, and I was in the hospital one night. I do have to admit that the first few days I was home I did think "what the heck did I do". I didn't have any pain, luckily, but trying to get the liquids down made me want to puke. After day 3 though each day became easier. I was able to start increasing my intake without feeling like I was going to puke. One week post-op I went back to work and I am down about 10 lbs. Still struggle a little bit to get in all the Protein and Water but every day I try to do a little more. Can't wait to get to pureed stage though because Protein Shakes and Soup are getting very old and aren't keeping me satisfied for very long.
Best decision I ever made so if there are any of you out there doubting or discouraged, chin up because this is a marathon not a race and your life will be better on the other side.

Hello @@bls01 i am post-op from 9/29. I went back to work today too. Today was great at work, did better than i thought. I came home on a pureed diet. NUT says anything you can cut with a plastic fork, you can have. Off the list of course. But why did i eat a few Peanut Butter chocolate chxips with my lil one tonight??? And then had a bite of her chocolate lucky charms. WTH is wrong with me. I think i was curious to see how my pouch would handle it. But, tomorrow is a NEW day. Best of luck to ya!

I am having a really hard time deciding what to tell people. On one hand, I really don't want to lie to people and my coworkers are like family and they would ask where I was during the surgery and also how I was losing weight. I don't relish the idea of lying to them. Also, I know people who have had gastric bypass and lied about it and I think it's kind of unfair to other heavy people to just tell them you lost weight by diet and exercise because it is so frustrating when you're trying to do the same thing and they are having incredible results and you're not. That said, I would really rather not have everybody in my business. I am afraid I may gain the weight back, and I don't really want everyone to know that I had the surgery. It is just a fear I have. I haven't decided what I am going to do.

I don't know. Like I said, I am struggling with the decision as to whether I should tell or not.
I did have an experience (alluded to above) when I was trying to diet using Weight Watchers techniques and then taking a supplement that is supposed to suppress appetite. A guy who was selling the supplement was dieting too. I really followed the rules and was hungry a lot, also. The scale was moving down but ever so slowly. This guy would lose six pounds a week or something and said he really was never hungry. He sold the supplement I was taking and gave it all the credit. I was so discouraged watching the weight just fall off of him and I was fighting and hungry for every pound I lost. I eventually gave up the diet.
Later, I found out he'd had gastric bypass. I know it wasn't my business and he was under no obligation to tell me, but man, did his rapid weightloss make me feel inferior and like I wasn't motivated/disciplined/good enough to lose the weight that quickly. Since those are feelings that surrounded me during lots of different weight loss attempts, I really would LIKE to be honest with others in hopes of encouraging them to peruse their options and not to make them think it's realistic to lose that much so quickly with diet and exercise alone.
That said, I really don't want to tell people because of the judgments, them watching what I'm eating, opinions I'm not asking for, etc. I'm struggling with it a lot.
That said, I'm supportive of everyone on here and their decision, I just wanted to share my experience.

I am having a really hard time deciding what to tell people. On one hand, I really don't want to lie to people and my coworkers are like family and they would ask where I was during the surgery and also how I was losing weight. I don't relish the idea of lying to them. Also, I know people who have had gastric bypass and lied about it and I think it's kind of unfair to other heavy people to just tell them you lost weight by diet and exercise because it is so frustrating when you're trying to do the same thing and they are having incredible results and you're not. That said, I would really rather not have everybody in my business. I am afraid I may gain the weight back, and I don't really want everyone to know that I had the surgery. It is just a fear I have. I haven't decided what I am going to do.

I don't know. Like I said, I am struggling with the decision as to whether I should tell or not.
I did have an experience (alluded to above) when I was trying to diet using Weight Watchers techniques and then taking a supplement that is supposed to suppress appetite. A guy who was selling the supplement was dieting too. I really followed the rules and was hungry a lot, also. The scale was moving down but ever so slowly. This guy would lose six pounds a week or something and said he really was never hungry. He sold the supplement I was taking and gave it all the credit. I was so discouraged watching the weight just fall off of him and I was fighting and hungry for every pound I lost. I eventually gave up the diet.
Later, I found out he'd had gastric bypass. I know it wasn't my business and he was under no obligation to tell me, but man, did his rapid weightloss make me feel inferior and like I wasn't motivated/disciplined/good enough to lose the weight that quickly. Since those are feelings that surrounded me during lots of different weight loss attempts, I really would LIKE to be honest with others in hopes of encouraging them to peruse their options and not to make them think it's realistic to lose that much so quickly with diet and exercise alone.
That said, I really don't want to tell people because of the judgments, them watching what I'm eating, opinions I'm not asking for, etc. I'm struggling with it a lot.
That said, I'm supportive of everyone on here and their decision, I just wanted to share my experience.

I don't know. Like I said, I am struggling with the decision as to whether I should tell or not.
I did have an experience (alluded to above) when I was trying to diet using Weight Watchers techniques and then taking a supplement that is supposed to suppress appetite. A guy who was selling the supplement was dieting too. I really followed the rules and was hungry a lot, also. The scale was moving down but ever so slowly. This guy would lose six pounds a week or something and said he really was never hungry. He sold the supplement I was taking and gave it all the credit. I was so discouraged watching the weight just fall off of him and I was fighting and hungry for every pound I lost. I eventually gave up the diet.
Later, I found out he'd had gastric bypass. I know it wasn't my business and he was under no obligation to tell me, but man, did his rapid weightloss make me feel inferior and like I wasn't motivated/disciplined/good enough to lose the weight that quickly. Since those are feelings that surrounded me during lots of different weight loss attempts, I really would LIKE to be honest with others in hopes of encouraging them to peruse their options and not to make them think it's realistic to lose that much so quickly with diet and exercise alone.
That said, I really don't want to tell people because of the judgments, them watching what I'm eating, opinions I'm not asking for, etc. I'm struggling with it a lot.
That said, I'm supportive of everyone on here and their decision, I just wanted to share my experience.

I don't know. Like I said, I am struggling with the decision as to whether I should tell or not.
I did have an experience (alluded to above) when I was trying to diet using Weight Watchers techniques and then taking a supplement that is supposed to suppress appetite. A guy who was selling the supplement was dieting too. I really followed the rules and was hungry a lot, also. The scale was moving down but ever so slowly. This guy would lose six pounds a week or something and said he really was never hungry. He sold the supplement I was taking and gave it all the credit. I was so discouraged watching the weight just fall off of him and I was fighting and hungry for every pound I lost. I eventually gave up the diet.
Later, I found out he'd had gastric bypass. I know it wasn't my business and he was under no obligation to tell me, but man, did his rapid weightloss make me feel inferior and like I wasn't motivated/disciplined/good enough to lose the weight that quickly. Since those are feelings that surrounded me during lots of different weight loss attempts, I really would LIKE to be honest with others in hopes of encouraging them to peruse their options and not to make them think it's realistic to lose that much so quickly with diet and exercise alone.
That said, I really don't want to tell people because of the judgments, them watching what I'm eating, opinions I'm not asking for, etc. I'm struggling with it a lot.
That said, I'm supportive of everyone on here and their decision, I just wanted to share my experience.

I kept mine secret until one hour before my surgery. I was worried about all the judgment of people thinking this was and easy out. But it was going to come out eventually and I didn't want to lie about my weight loss when people start noticing the quick drop. I didn't want people to talk behind my back trying to figure it out so I decided to be upfront and made it Facebook official. I got way more support than I was expecting. And you know what so what if they talk. If they really care about you they will be supportive. Find out who your true friends are. Everyone has seen me struggle all my life and if it wasn't for all the health issues maybe I wouldn't have done it. Its desperation to be healthy. This was my post to everyone
VEVY IMPORTANT ANNOUNCEMENT
about My Life. For my Family, Friends and inquiring minds who want to know.
Soooo, I have made a huge decision that is going to change my life forever. Hopefully for the better. If all goes well....
Some of you may or may not know that I had a lap band procedure done in 2010 to help with weight loss. It did help for a little while. Eventually the band stopped helping me completely and I fell back into old eating habits.
Started the whole yo-yo dieting again. I gained it all back then I lost it all again. Then I gained it all back plus some more. The band has been busted for about 3 years but it's still hanging out in my belly.
I have been fighting battle of the bulge since I was 8 yrs old. The older you get the harder it is. The bulge always seems to win.
The thing that really makes it hard are the underlying health issues. Like PCOS, thyroid, diabetes, depression and anxiety. Then there is the high cholesterol and blood pressure. With all these health problems comes medication for all. Some of the medication causes weight gain but you need them.
So conclusion to this battle. I am having the Lapband removed from my stomach and I will be converting to the gastric sleeve.
I am so grateful that I have a wonderful husband who has been with me through all of my struggles. He has seen my ups, downs and all arounds. He sees how hard I do work. How hard I try. How much I beat myself up when I don't lose weight even when I have done all of the right things. He has seen me give up hopes and give in to the unhealthy from my disappointment of not winning the battle. He has stood by me through thick and uh, not so thin. I want to thank him very much for helping me with my journey of becoming a healthier me.
Because of my fear of judgement I have kept this to myself. But most people would say not to worry about what others think.
A lot of people will say well if you just exercise and eat right you will lose weight. Well I do and it does help but it just isn't enough for me. Exercise has become really hard due to arthritis in my right knee and hip but I will continue to fight through the pain.
This is not going to be easy!!!!!
I love food!!!!!!!!!!!
Sugar is the devil!!!!!!!!!!
I am giving up all the tasty favorites for a new me.
I am going into surgery at 9:30. Wish me luck. See you when I wake
I love you all!!!!❤✌
— feeling optimistic.