ladivaluz806

Parts of me does regret it SLIGHTLY.. i obviously couldnt diet on my own because if i could of i would have. But its dishearting to me that i will always have to watch my carbs for the duration of time that i would like to lose weight. Sort of like a modified Atkins style diet. i will always have to be careful with carbs even with 85% stomach gone. It makes me sad because I didnt think i would have to do the whole always on a diet thing again. I had to change my mind set to " i can eat what i want BUT i have to finish my Protein first, which usually leaves no room for anything else". That is how i get by. Again i am only 6 weeks post op, but Im feeling great and know i couldnt diet alone for the length of time i need to get enough weight off. Final decision is: I am happy I did it
Good Luck!

Parts of me does regret it SLIGHTLY.. i obviously couldnt diet on my own because if i could of i would have. But its dishearting to me that i will always have to watch my carbs for the duration of time that i would like to lose weight. Sort of like a modified Atkins style diet. i will always have to be careful with carbs even with 85% stomach gone. It makes me sad because I didnt think i would have to do the whole always on a diet thing again. I had to change my mind set to " i can eat what i want BUT i have to finish my Protein first, which usually leaves no room for anything else". That is how i get by. Again i am only 6 weeks post op, but Im feeling great and know i couldnt diet alone for the length of time i need to get enough weight off. Final decision is: I am happy I did it
Good Luck!

I know.. I shouldn't think it is.. but again in comparison to non revisors it is a tad bit slower. Don't get me wrong i am happy to be fitting loosely in a size 18 where as before it was a TIGHT 20. I am trusting my process completely, its working and I am happy about that. Now just about 50 more to go!

As I've posted on a number of occasions, I've not been one to 'weigh in' on a regular basis.
In fact, up until about a week ago, I'd only checked on my numerical progress on three or four occasions in the nine months since my sleeving.
Each time I checked, I was pleased with my progress.
At no time did I ever feel that I'd failed or that I was doing poorly.
Even now, I'm more than happy with my progress and am in no way regretting the choice I made.
However...
Something happened last week that I can't explain.
For some reason, I became someone I thought I'd never become.
Someone I'd not been able to understand..
Someone completely foreign to me...
Last week, I became a scale watcher!!!
There, I've said it...
It's out there now and I can't take it back..
Won't take it back!!
Ladies and gentleman, my name is Jason and I now weigh myself EVERY DAY!!!
Now, I'm hoping that it's just a passing phase..
I'm hoping that once I pass the milestone that I'm fast coming up on (it's a pretty major milestone), I'll go back to the cool, calm, rational quarterly weigh in kinda guy that I was up until last week.
I'm hoping that the insatiable desire to know my weight (or at least the weight I've lost) will be quenched upon the passing of this mark..
Alas, that's all yet to be decided..
For now it seems I must resign myself to the daily (or twice daily) check ins to which I've recently become accustomed.
Here endeth my rant...
Thanx for your time...
KindaFamiliar

True! Its a whole new ball game being able to eat again (even a little) and not throw up all the time. It was so routine for me to gag all the time, my kids would say "moms chewing her backed up cud again" yuk. lol

True! Its a whole new ball game being able to eat again (even a little) and not throw up all the time. It was so routine for me to gag all the time, my kids would say "moms chewing her backed up cud again" yuk. lol

I think it is slower.. I am 2 months and one week post op and ive lost 30 since I began the WLS process so since surgery ive lost 25 real pounds. I trust what is happening I do think my stomach can fit more food than it should. So i have to keep low carb things on hand to deal with that. It is dishearting yes, but its the nature of this beast. Got to keep pushing forward as hard as that is at times. I will keep the good attitude up.

Well at this point I am very excited and I try to be as optimistic as I possibly can. Every time I start to feel like he will be like my ex was , he unknowingly proves me wrong. So far so good !!!

Long distance is totally worth it if you're with the right person! Hard, yes....But you appreciate each other and time so much more. Good luck!

Ah.. thank you all for your input.. I am so hopeful after reading your posts. I will keep moving forward and look forward to what the is in store for us

I want to be hopeful...
But my stupid past experiences mind blow me and I already tend to overthink quite a bit. I guess its true what they say , who ever they is..
You make time for what is important to you.

Hi All...
Got this text from my hubby today. So fun after so much hard work and years of failed diets and challenges...and I've just gotten started after WLS revision a month ago. Just thought I'd share to inspire all of us as we search to change and get healthy and to realize the positive effects on those around us. Let's go do all those things we couldn't do before and include family and friends in the journey.
"I cannot tell you how excited I am right now about our journey and path forward. From our house and life at home to your health and our family's health. Being more active and moving our center of focus from eating to doing... It's great! It's an adjustment but a good one.
It will open so much for us. We can do ski trips and hike and swim and snorkel and bike and ... On and on for fun getaways or around our neighborhood. Just think, you will be able to walk up the mountain with me in Aspen or where ever.
Then at home, we are able to work on the house together... I love that. Before, it was daunting, but yesterday showed me how great it will be now. Tackling a closet or a room is nothing. We can organize and decorate together. It will make our house so extra warm (it already was, but now it will be even more so).
THANK YOU for tackling this health monster. I'm so proud of you.
I will do the same in my life. You're inspiring. Thank you. Love you."
Question: What are you doing or going to do that may drive you and possibly inspire your loved ones? (Me-I've now joined a gym. Your turn...)

It's not clear to me how far away this guy lives from where you live.
But I gotta say -- if he sounds like a possible, keep dating him. I think you may be trying to make a decision before you've really spent that much face time with him.
FTR, my husband (who's perfect for me) lived 800 miles away from me when we first started talking online 20 years ago. Two months later we met. Three months after that we married and he moved to where I lived.
And we lived happily ever after.
True love can be very geographically inconvenient.

Long distance relationships take a lot of work, trust, and commitment. Eventually one of you will need to make a decision because they can't go on forever.
I lived in Texas and my then boyfriend lived in Minnesota. We did the long distance relationship for 18 months, before I decided to move to Minnesota and marry the guy. During that 18 months, we would see each other for a week every two months. Once it was two weeks.
When I moved to Minnesota and moved in with my boyfriend (now husband), it was hard. Really hard. I had been by myself a making my own decisions for over 10 years. My boyfriend had been divorced only a couple of years and he didn't want to make the same mistakes, so there was a lot of arguing and compromise. During that first year, I thought for sure I made the biggest mistake of my life. But we stuck it out and really worked at the relationship.
Almost 13 years later, it was worth it. I am married to the best husband ever. I have no regrets.
Long distance relationships are hard, but if give them a chance and see where it takes you, you will never have to wonder "what if?"

@@ladivaluz806 - While its important to learn from the past, it is vital to NOT project other people's failures on the new guy. Tough to do, but important. And it's only fair.

When I met my husband he lived in Houston and I lived in Little Rock. On holiday weekends one of us would fly in to see the other. 5 years later I moved to Houston. 6 years later we are now both in Little Rock.
It can work!

Good question and I can argue both sides of this one. For me, right now, anything more than 30-45 minutes apart is a "no go" because I eventually want someone to be a meaningful part of my life. My best girfriend lives 45 min away and we often meet somewhere between us. She has only been to my home a few times. I know in my heart that I would not prefer that in a serious relationship.

@@ladivaluz806 - in Texas how can anything an hour a way be considered "long distance?" I get it, I live in a city and don't want to drive more than 25 minutes. It's tough. It's probably a test for the guy to keep making the haul. If he's not willing to do it, then throw in the towel sooner rather than later IMHO.

If there is a connection give it a chance. Don't miss out on a potentially great relationship. If things don't feel right or he doesn't make time for you then you have your answer. I married my long distance relationship and he moved to me. Good luck!!

I would give it a shot. When I was dating my now-husband, he lived an hour from me. And we worked opposite shifts. It was important to both of us, and we made it work. We never saw it as difficult - because we were both willing to do what it took to make it work. Meet in-between. Make plans way in advance for weekend trips. And most importantly, don't compare him to any past relationship - long distance or not. He's done nothing to deserve that negativity. If this is worth it to you, make it worth it. If it's worth it to him, he'll do the same. Be open and honest. Good luck.

I've been in a long distance relationship (I'm in Minnesota and he's in Colorado) for over two years.
It's the strongest relationship I have ever had and I wouldn't trade this for the world. It definitely takes a lot of work, money, and sacrifice but if it's the RIGHT person it's worth it.
Distance will either make you or break you. Like previously said it takes a lot of commitment, trust, and communication. You also have to have a really strong sense of independence. Since you can't have a partner always around, you have to keep yourself busy and constantly work on you.
I would give it a shot. It takes a huge leap of faith but it will be worth it if it's the right person.

I want to be hopeful...
But my stupid past experiences mind blow me and I already tend to overthink quite a bit. I guess its true what they say , who ever they is..
You make time for what is important to you.

I agree with that @@OKCPirate, yes it is tough to do but I shouldn't project that on him. He seems to be pretty amazing from what I have seen thus far. We each have one child left at home , both girls, both 16 and actually 3 days apart on their birthdays, among many other things.
I've never had a boyfriend who lives in town since I've been divorced since 2001.

I want to be hopeful...
But my stupid past experiences mind blow me and I already tend to overthink quite a bit. I guess its true what they say , who ever they is..
You make time for what is important to you.