cparni

I'm wondering if anyone is experiencing really loud stomach noises since being sleeved. Is this normal? Does it go away over time?

No I didn't need a catheter, I used the bathroom before I went in.

The nausea patch worked wonders I never experienced the nausea. I was fine the day of my surgery until I walked in the hospital and then my eyes filled with tears. It was my very first surgery and I had all kinds of emotions running through me. I was anxious, excited, scared, overwhelmed, etc. The staff was very patient and nice to me. I almost passed out twice from being so overwhelmed and not having food for 36+ hours. The staff explained everything before it was done and answered any questions that I had. I remember them positioning me on the operating table and that it was very cold and nothing else after until I was in my room asking for my family. I think my biggest fear was that I couldn't go through with the surgery because I had been up and down with my weight so much. I'm glad I did it and look forward to the changes to come. You'll do fine @yerawizardamy.

I had my surgery yesterday and I'm doing pretty good.really tender on my right side. Kp going in and out from the anesthesia. I lost 10 lbs before it. The doctor found a hiatial hernia during my surgery so that was a bonus. For the most part I'm doing very well.

Your husband is (excuse my profanity) a complete asshat.
I know I've lost lots of weight over the years using all manner of diets. And I've regained every damned bit of weight after as well.
This surgery is a tool to help you get control of your eating habits, allowing you to relearn how to eat healthy and create an entirely new lifestyle if done properly. It is not a fad or a diet - it is a total life change. Your relationship with food is forever altered. So if you weren't already aware of that, then I guess it might be something to think about.
But the fact is, no one exercises every day. No one eats perfectly every single day. This isn't a sign of lack of commitment; it's a sign of being human. But using the sleeve, you'll lose the gnawing hunger, and the ability to eat large quantities and also for about a year's time, you'll lose the overwhelming desire to eat really bad stuff. This gives you a chance to change up everything. You should become better at making healthy choices overall, so that the indulgence of a small slice of cake or a few Cookies every once in a while don't do anything to your weight. Or feel well enough to get out there and walk or ride a bike or go play a sport several times a week. You might even get to enjoy certain activities to the point where they don't even feel like you're exercising. That's the goal - and with this surgery, it is achievable.
He is a jerk for being so unsupportive. He is a jerk for not understanding that carrying large amounts of weight around is only going to increase your health issues as you get older, and he is a total jerk for trying to make you feel like a failure before you've even tried. Just because you've lost some weight now doesn't mean you will be able to keep it off long term, and you are giving up on yourself because he's basically put you down enough to where you feel like it is a given that you will fail at this too. And that is the biggest jerk move of all.
Even if you do give up on this surgery, you need to sit down and really examine the relationship where your husband is so unsupportive of something that is meant to improve your health and well being. It might be that he is scared something bad might happen, or it might be that he is upset that you might get better to the point where you might leave him or some other insecurity he has that makes him project his fears and anger at you. Because that sounds like a really crappy relationship to have, and I would be super pissed off at my spouse if he acted that way.
All of this should have all be discussed and worked out months ago - when you first started this whole weight loss journey. He should not be freaking out and making you feel awful just days before your surgery. And that is why I say he's being a complete asshat - because he is so small and petty as to basically tear you down right when you need him to be there for you - no matter what his reasoning is for doing so.
Big hugs, and I hope you can have a real conversation with him regarding his attitude and what you need from him and he actually hears what you're saying. And good luck with whatever you decide... but I do hope you are able to move forward.

I had my surgery yesterday and I'm doing pretty good.really tender on my right side. Kp going in and out from the anesthesia. I lost 10 lbs before it. The doctor found a hiatial hernia during my surgery so that was a bonus. For the most part I'm doing very well.

I had my surgery yesterday and I'm doing pretty good.really tender on my right side. Kp going in and out from the anesthesia. I lost 10 lbs before it. The doctor found a hiatial hernia during my surgery so that was a bonus. For the most part I'm doing very well.

Sorry hear they aren't supportive at a time you could really use it. People aren't always right about things and I guess it is what it is. I don't anticipate my family would be supportive either, that's why I didn't tell them. My husband, I had to tell and I thought he would be the biggest naysayer of them all. Turns out, he took it well and said it seemed like a good decision.
But, that doesn't mean he's been positive about it since that initial conversation. I've learned over the last couple of weeks to not discuss it with him. It's when I bring it up that he starts with the negativity. It's such a big deal with me, I could talk about it A LOT....but have learned to keep it under wraps at home.
Thanks for sharing, I hope the situation improves.

My mum was hugely unsupportive when I first broached the topic of surgery with her (and the fact that I was considering it), which actually really surprised me. I tried talking to her about it twice and each time she got very negative, so I just made the decision to move on without including her (my parents are divorced and I wasn't living with her, so it was doable).
A couple of months ago I was making concrete plans about everything and out of the blue during a skype chat she mentioned that the husband of a work colleague had had it done and it was working well for him, and she was then totally fine talking about it.
I don't know if it was that example that really changed her mind, or if she just realized she had the option of getting on the train or getting off the tracks, but I'm now able to talk to her about the prep and she doesn't react badly. I'm glad because I didn't like being at odds with her (or just having to refrain from talking about this huge part of my life) but only you can make the choice of what you class as the most important thing to you. In the end you're doing the surgery for yourself, not for those people, and you have the right to cut them out of this particular part of your life, even when they are close family.

I have similar challenges with my family. I decided not to tell the family about my surgery - instead just told them I am changing my diet completely and I would appreciate them not talking to me about food and not expecting me to attend food related event. For a few of them, its going great. for others, not so much. About 2 months after surgery, I needed to lay down the law officially. I made a phone call to each family member saying our conversations going forward need to not be regarding food at all. If they want to talk to me, food cannot be in discussion. No more lunches, no more dinners. I would love to spend time with them with a cup of tea or going for a walk. It's been a learning process for both of us. As an Italian, every family get together revolves food and large amounts. So they are trying.... I think. But at 8 months, I still remind my mother, where our boundaries are. Just last night in fact....
something powerful happens when you take control and tell the family this is how it will be. You can do it... set up your success and you will feel stronger for it.

My apologies that they cannot see past their own messed up logic to support you in making your life better. Do you have any close friends or other family members who are supportive?

Its up to you how much effort you are willing to put into trying to change their opinion. I personally would not try to verbally communicate with them, as a means to change their opinion. I would rather not talk about it with them and then make sure I started making the changes I need to and start eating better and exercising regularly once you are able to. Next thing you know, you'll want to talk to them about how much healthier you are, how much better you feel. How much you need to buy new, smaller clothes and how hot you look. Then they'll be all crickets…. Let them do them, you do you. That said, I can't only imagine how much easier it would be if they supported you. since they don't, blow them away with your actions and results!

Stop talking to them about it. If they mention it, change the subject. It's not worth wasting energy trying to convince them. Save that energy for making your surgery preparations.

Had my surgery Dec. 4, 10 lbs DOWN already, no Pain, no Soreness, just a lil Gas but BEANO handles that! So Glad I made this Decision!

It's so frustrating!!! I don't bring it up but they are really discouraging when they bring it up. It's very difficult to go through something of this magnitude by yourself.

My surgery went great! I feel much better than I thought I would. A little ab soreness when going to a sitting position but other than that, I feel good. I've been drinking with no nausea which I was really worried about too.
My surgeon said if I'm still doing well by 5pm he will discharge me then. ????

this year i have had 3 neccicary surgerys on my ears i have this weird conditon called a colestema that causes a pocket of infection to build up and eat away the bones in my ear and i was scared after i woke up i would be deaf from the surgery which is a real possibility. well my recovery for those were easy peasy and i know its gonna be the same for wls trust your team to get you through this

Had my surgery today. All went well, up and walking around with manageable pain. Quite a bit of nausea though which I wasn't expecting. Have dozed on and off though out the day. Ice chips are my new best friend.

Hi. I know exactly how you feel. I had my surgery on May 2015 and it was my first experience in a hospital. I didn't sleep at all. I'm thankful my DR gave me a cd to listen called preparing for surgery and it just lets you relax and think positive. I'm thankful I had no issues during or after surgery. I'm very thankful for my experience. If you guys have any questions, feel free to ask. I attached a recent pic to show my results.
SW 320. CW 200

I was a failed band patient (banded 2001) so doubly scared!
In late 2010 I was referred to the sleeve by my sleep apnea doctor. He told me i wouldn't be successful and poo-poo'd the sleeve and steered me to the bypass. I was on the verge... but just couldn't do it. I spent a year in emotional misery over it. I found a different surgeon; had the band removed in Sept 2011 and was sleeved Dec 2011.
4 years, down over 150# and not looking back.
I like to think that my year of suffering and anguish over it helped me to be successful. By the time I was sleeved I KNEW I needed the help of the tool and knew it was my "last chance". I was a no regrets, just gotta do this! sleever at that point!

I can only repeat what most have said here. The feelings you have are normal and this is a decision that YOU have to make. A friend and I started the process about the same time. We are about the same height and weight. 2 weeks before his surgery he stopped and basically said, I can lose it without the surgery. Thats his decision. That was 7 months ago. He is heavier now than he was then and Ive lost 110 pounds. He told me the other day he wished he had followed through and has started the process once again. All I can say is I wish I had done this 10 years ago. Good luck

My sleeve was my 12th surgery, and the easiest recovery of them all. Think of it as a nice nap, and when you wake up you will be on the way to a new you.

It was my first surgery ever too. It was over before I even had a chance to process it. My recovery was so easy I sometimes wondered if I even had it done. Now at four months out I'd definitely do it all over again!

@@cparni - I walked out of the office pre-op and stopped the process this time last year. I had already done a NUT class and had to complete three. They do one a month. I walked out because the office staff at my surgeons satellite office made me question the lap-band. I originally had planned on it for less recovery time.
The staff made me doubt my surgeon for not re-directing me to the band. The Psych and insurance lady had me REALLY wonder WTF was I doing the band because it has sooooo many issues. Needless to say after going home (eating like usual) thru the holidays and researching my original choice, the sleeve. I hit my HW(282) ever, at this time. I pulled up my "big girl panties" and got back into the game. That Staff was reprimanded for doing that to me. I wasnt the only one apparently.
I have never doubted my surgeon, or his skills, is my point.

Surgery 12/17! I am excited, nervous and scared to death all at the same time!!! lol