ThreeFifty

I never watched that tv show called the View. (this was a few years ago) I happen to be at a friends house one day and the view was on TV. My friend kept talking about how one of the women on the show was too small and has lost too much weight. I'm looking and I cant pick out who they are talking about. I finally ask and they are like "Star Jones" and they point to the screen pointing out Star Jones to me.
Like I said, I never watched the view, and didn't know who Star Jones was. When my friend point her out to me Im like "whats wrong with her, she looks normal to me" My friends were all like "she looks sick, she has a big head" etc. Im like I don't see it. I later find out she had WLS and I saw her older pictures.
but to me, how she looked was how she looked and I didn't see anything wrong. I think people sometimes have an old image of you in their mind and when they do look and see the new you, it makes them think something isn't right. its their problem, not yours. People that has never seen the before you probably wouldn't think anything at all.

I never watched that tv show called the View. (this was a few years ago) I happen to be at a friends house one day and the view was on TV. My friend kept talking about how one of the women on the show was too small and has lost too much weight. I'm looking and I cant pick out who they are talking about. I finally ask and they are like "Star Jones" and they point to the screen pointing out Star Jones to me.
Like I said, I never watched the view, and didn't know who Star Jones was. When my friend point her out to me Im like "whats wrong with her, she looks normal to me" My friends were all like "she looks sick, she has a big head" etc. Im like I don't see it. I later find out she had WLS and I saw her older pictures.
but to me, how she looked was how she looked and I didn't see anything wrong. I think people sometimes have an old image of you in their mind and when they do look and see the new you, it makes them think something isn't right. its their problem, not yours. People that has never seen the before you probably wouldn't think anything at all.

When I decided to have surgery (I haven't had it yet - July 16 is my date) I assumed my ins covered it so I made the initial appointment to start the process etc had my mind already set.
I found out that my ins didn't cover so I was bummed, looked into Mexico but I ended up finding a different option. of coarse its too late for this this year but I was early enough that I signed up for the affordable healthcare ins plan. its still expensive as I have a monthly payment (and I didn't qualify for a discount) and I will have a 5k deductible (800 has to be paid up front before surgery)
I figured this would cost me about the same as a trip to mexico but I like the idea of having a doctor intown that I can just make an appointment if I need/want to be seen for something.

It might sound crazy but sometimes when I look in the mirror I don't see change but when I look at pictures I'm like Wow slowly but surely 320 my biggest now 220 sleeved March 23rd 2015 pre surgery pic is from dec 2014 weighed 280 . weight day of surgery 268

I've always felt like I was a big guy but "not that big"
I mean I can take pictures and Selfies and if I do the right pose, stand a certain way, I look in the picture, to me, like how I think I look. which is a big guy that "not that big".
But
every once in a while, I will be in a store, say a gas station and I'm waiting in line to pay. I happen to look up at the security monitor and I see this huge guy that is bigger than everyone else around him and I'm like "wow, now that is a big guy" then I start to look for me in that monitor to realize that the person I was looking at was me.
I have surveillance cameras at my front door at home. I still remember when I first set those camera's up, I had them set to where I would get an sms message when the motion detector triggers. so I leave my house one day and about 5 minutes later I get the SMS message saying that my motion detector triggered. I pulled over and grabbed my ipad and logged into my system to see what triggered my motion sensor and I see this huge guy walk out my place. my heart started beating real fast for a second till I realized that it was me. now I don't even look at the recordings anymore because I get that feeling every time I see me coming or going in those cameras.
I imagine I will probably have the opposite issue once Ive had surgery and have lost weight, where I will really be "not a big guy" but still see a big guy in pictures and in the mirror etc

I haven't had the surgery yet (waiting on sleeve surgery), I'm finished all of the requirements and I'm waiting for my doc to submit to my insurance co for approval.
The thought I had/have this whole time is the opposite. I don't really see how making your stomach smaller can be as effective as some of the success stories Ive been reading about.
The surgery itself to me doesn't seem like it causes you to loose any weight, its basically the diet that you have to follow that causes you to loose the weight.You can still eat bad, you can still eat the wrong things, you can still eat often (even if the portions are smaller). I often wonder if I just follow the diet plan without surgery would I have the same success.
One of the things I've read a lot at the beginning of my research is that you don't get hungry because the the part of your stomach that contains most of that hunger causing hormone is removed. Then you find out lots are indeed getting hungry so that isn't even a benefit for a lot of people.
so my answer to the question, I don't think the weight will just fall off. I think you have to work at it yourself
I think the smaller stomach helps keep you from over eating but you can also eat around that if you try.
Maybe I'm wrong about my thoughts

Easy answer, men just don't go to the doctor as much as women. Im willing to bet it isn't just WLS, its probably everything from the flu shot on.
most men only go to the doctor if something is broke or need stitches, or work requires it or like the person above said, a wife forces them too lol and they don't even do it then unless they get in a situation where they cant get out of it anymore.

Easy answer, men just don't go to the doctor as much as women. Im willing to bet it isn't just WLS, its probably everything from the flu shot on.
most men only go to the doctor if something is broke or need stitches, or work requires it or like the person above said, a wife forces them too lol and they don't even do it then unless they get in a situation where they cant get out of it anymore.

Interesting article. I would think there are exceptions to the BMI ranges and really fit/muscular people probably are the exception.
Then again, just thinking... it would seem like even if you are all muscle, say someone that is 280 is still carrying 280lbs. they may be more equip to carry that 280 but that is still weight that causes your heart/liver/kidneys etc to have work overtime to support. I wonder if those people are really as healthy as they think? hmm I dunno lol something to think about. but I don't think the rock is 280 is he?

First time poster here, been lurking for a long while.
I'm sort of in the same situation as the OP where I'm a single guy, live alone and planned to tell as few people as possible. At the beginning, I told a friend, but only because I suspected that she was also considering, and she ended up making her consultation appointment the same time I made mine. I had planned to tell no one else, ended up telling my parents later on because I realized I was going to need someone to take me to the hospital when I have the surgery. they were surprisingly fine with it.
The response that the OP got when she told her friend is why I don't plan to tell anyone else if I can help it. When people try to give advice in that "authoritative voice" assuming you know nothing, but use uninformed opinions and "hear say" as facts to support their "expertise" on the subject, really bugs me. I can feel that regret in confiding in her as I was reading the OP. not a good feeling. can change the way you think about people.

First time poster here, been lurking for a long while.
I'm sort of in the same situation as the OP where I'm a single guy, live alone and planned to tell as few people as possible. At the beginning, I told a friend, but only because I suspected that she was also considering, and she ended up making her consultation appointment the same time I made mine. I had planned to tell no one else, ended up telling my parents later on because I realized I was going to need someone to take me to the hospital when I have the surgery. they were surprisingly fine with it.
The response that the OP got when she told her friend is why I don't plan to tell anyone else if I can help it. When people try to give advice in that "authoritative voice" assuming you know nothing, but use uninformed opinions and "hear say" as facts to support their "expertise" on the subject, really bugs me. I can feel that regret in confiding in her as I was reading the OP. not a good feeling. can change the way you think about people.

First time poster here, been lurking for a long while.
I'm sort of in the same situation as the OP where I'm a single guy, live alone and planned to tell as few people as possible. At the beginning, I told a friend, but only because I suspected that she was also considering, and she ended up making her consultation appointment the same time I made mine. I had planned to tell no one else, ended up telling my parents later on because I realized I was going to need someone to take me to the hospital when I have the surgery. they were surprisingly fine with it.
The response that the OP got when she told her friend is why I don't plan to tell anyone else if I can help it. When people try to give advice in that "authoritative voice" assuming you know nothing, but use uninformed opinions and "hear say" as facts to support their "expertise" on the subject, really bugs me. I can feel that regret in confiding in her as I was reading the OP. not a good feeling. can change the way you think about people.

First time poster here, been lurking for a long while.
I'm sort of in the same situation as the OP where I'm a single guy, live alone and planned to tell as few people as possible. At the beginning, I told a friend, but only because I suspected that she was also considering, and she ended up making her consultation appointment the same time I made mine. I had planned to tell no one else, ended up telling my parents later on because I realized I was going to need someone to take me to the hospital when I have the surgery. they were surprisingly fine with it.
The response that the OP got when she told her friend is why I don't plan to tell anyone else if I can help it. When people try to give advice in that "authoritative voice" assuming you know nothing, but use uninformed opinions and "hear say" as facts to support their "expertise" on the subject, really bugs me. I can feel that regret in confiding in her as I was reading the OP. not a good feeling. can change the way you think about people.

First time poster here, been lurking for a long while.
I'm sort of in the same situation as the OP where I'm a single guy, live alone and planned to tell as few people as possible. At the beginning, I told a friend, but only because I suspected that she was also considering, and she ended up making her consultation appointment the same time I made mine. I had planned to tell no one else, ended up telling my parents later on because I realized I was going to need someone to take me to the hospital when I have the surgery. they were surprisingly fine with it.
The response that the OP got when she told her friend is why I don't plan to tell anyone else if I can help it. When people try to give advice in that "authoritative voice" assuming you know nothing, but use uninformed opinions and "hear say" as facts to support their "expertise" on the subject, really bugs me. I can feel that regret in confiding in her as I was reading the OP. not a good feeling. can change the way you think about people.