dhrguru

Welcome!

I wouldn't say my attitude changed post surgery, I long recognized both he and i needed to change our lifestyle. And I tried for a while before I even considered surgery to get us to work in some aspect together, he never budged. I got tired of waiting on him and opted for surgery. Do I still want him to do something... Absolutely! But I love him and won't judge him. I do worry since the the excess weight is effecting his health, and we know that went get better. Gentle encouraging is what I'm trying, hopefully it's not coming across as a nagging nelly.

I'm so, so sorry. It sickens me how often I read this happening to people!! It would be so much better if we could receive the details of our plan from insurance companies directly, and not have to rely on second hand information (that's often inaccurate!!). I assume self pay/ Mexico aren't considerations? You've dinner great so far with pre op weight loss, maybe you can keep the momentum going?

Worst memory so far, I have two, both food tolerance related. 1) the night I first tried a dish that had mayo in it. Made me realize what the term "gas with oily discharge" meant in those Alli ads. Ugh. (I can tolerate mayonnaise fine now) 2) trying curry chicken. Only time post op that I've thrown up. Haven't had the nerve to try it since.

stats aren't similar, but I think it's absolutely doable!

Thanks, I haven't been able to tolerate vanilla flavored protein since surgery. Pumpkin flavored protein with milk and vanilla extract may work for me. I don't drink coffee.

Tell me more about this pumpkin spice protein! Where'd ya get it, how do you prepare it??

So I'm struggling a little today. It's the first cool day, fall settling in and the pumpkin flavored everything is hard to ignore. I'm almost 5 months out and this is the second time I've felt like this, like I couldn't take part in "traditions of the season". (First time was when I went to the beach and walked the boardwalk- smelling all those yummy smells). I'm learning that this is where my 'emotional' eating came in, taking part in the nostalgia. Day to day temptation is manageable, it's just every once in a while it seems to all catch up with me. I'm sticking to plan, but just felt the need to write it out as it's been on my mind all day. I'm doing laundry to keep busy, will hit the gym tonight. I am making chili for dinner though... Great Protein and still gives me a sense of seasonal satisfaction I'm longing for. So I've faced my summer and fall demons... Wonder what winter and spring will be? Maybe I'll be too busy shopping for new clothes to care. Thanks for listening!

I've heard of not being able to do the surgery due to a unique anatomy, but NEVER heard of starting it then doing a partial surgery. Not to make light of this, Has this surgeon ever heard of go big or go home?? I would have expected that the surgeon discuss a plan going forward, I assume he hasn't?? I'd have wanted to know before being discharged the game plan to finish this... I live in Philly, what hospital did you have surgery?

I'm rny, and wad told something similar re: sugar grams. I try to follow it, but the only greek yogurt I like has like 15g sugar. I eat it anyway, it's not daily. I don't dump.

Yes! I experienced this post op and it was awful. I tried everything!!! Luckily it went away gradually. I'm 4+ months out now and things are back to normal.

I hate reading how tricky the insurance can be... That sounds seriously underhanded. I'm glad you were in a position to self fund. You'll be looking so good, no one will notice the car... Just you! Do you know if BCBS would have covered the surgery? ( I know you weren't up to jumping through the hoops of another company.. I'm just curious)

Almost 5 months post op, no appetite, never hungry. In fact yesterday I ate Breakfast at 6am, intended to buy lunch but forgot my wallet at home. Didn't eat again till 6pm... Wasn't the least bit hungry and could have gone the night without eating. I ate to ensure to I got my Protein in.

Yup... I have this issue. I'm just getting into 18's, but since 20's don't look abnormally big, I'll still buy those, and then in no time they *are* abnormally big. I need to force myself to try on more in the store, I'm used to only ever trying what I know fits. I feel like I live half my life in the dressing rooms now though.

I usually toss either the top or bottom bun and still focus on the patty. I have no issues eating bread, but only do so 1-2x a week. Haven't tried pizza yet.

And I dont know what to do because I can't even have broth especially chiken I feel like throwing up . So I'm just having popsicles sugar free of course sugar free Jello Water and crystal light I couldn't finish my broth. Sent from my SM-G900T using Tapatalk are you drinking Protein shakes?... They kind of kept me sane on pre op. I bought chicken Soup from au bon pain and drank the broth off of it. Canned/boxed broth was nasty. You can do it!

I notice that the only people who ask me about the specific # lost are those who know about my surgery. Others just compliment me, tell me I look good.

Exactly and exactly. And not to beat a dead horse... no, he rarely to never compliments me. Its a long bone of contention for me-- which I was hoping would be different with something this dramatic. It isn't-- I'll get over it.

Or the other obvious-- unsubscribe to the thread if they feel it doesn't meet with the spirit of the site...

Something about this rubbed me the wrong way. Keep in mind that my vent here this is only a fraction of our life. It speaks nothing to how we've connected and grown as a couple or the life we've made for ourselves. There are many aspects where he's great, this whole WLS arena is new (for me and him) so it means finding our footing. If your life/relationship is pure rose petals and sunshine-- good for you-- but storms can and do come. Everyone weathers them differently. The only scale my husband will be meassred on is mine-- none other turly matter You're the one who said he was a jackass... now we can't agree with you?? Okayyyy. I never said i didn't call him that- and you'll see that I agreed with awjones when she characterized him the same. But I said *something* about VSGAnn's comment rubbed me the wrong way. Something-- some random unknown and possibly baseless reason... not solidified in fact or truth in any way, shape, or form. Maybe she's coming from the same exact mind set I was able to connect with awjones on-- but it just didn't come off that way to me. That's all.

Something about this rubbed me the wrong way. Keep in mind that my vent here this is only a fraction of our life. It speaks nothing to how we've connected and grown as a couple or the life we've made for ourselves. There are many aspects where he's great, this whole WLS arena is new (for me and him) so it means finding our footing. If your life/relationship is pure rose petals and sunshine-- good for you-- but storms can and do come. Everyone weathers them differently. The only scale my husband will be meassred on is mine-- none other turly matter

This is only a moment in time-- you will be back to eating.I'm glad you recognize that you're not actually hungry though! This would be a great time to develop new associations-- maybe visiting friends can be associated with fitness in some way. Take a walk with them-- they can sip coffee- you can sip Water?? How long is the no swimming in effect for? I swam at just over 1 month out...

So against my better judgement, I asked him, how could he acknowledge our son but not me or my progress/efforts etc. Just when I thought he took the cake for asinine statements, he comes up with another.... He says the our son's efforts to get abs is over the top, he goes out of his way to get his results. But *I* haven't done anything over the top, out of my way. If I could count all the ways he's a Jackass, I'd be a millionaire.

Those sound like serious issues, they do sound Vitamin deficiency related. I have had a constant charlie horse feeling in my calf. I'm drinking Gatorade and eating a banana to try and counter it and today it doesn't feel as tight as it has been feeling. Maybe getting some electrolyes/potassium could help you as well? I hope it gets better

The vitamin scheduling/spacing had been the most mind boggling part of this journey. My schedule is 5:30am synthriod 7:00am multi 930am calcium 130 pm calcium 530 pm calcium 730 pm multi 3 times a week I fit in B12 and once a week Vitamin D. I use different times on the weekends since I don't wake as early. I'm amongst always shifting my times because I started later than scheduled. I try not to take anything around my meals, but don't stress about it if I do.