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I didn't think the weight would just fall off. I did my research before choosing to do the surgery and I know the sleeve is just a tool. The rest of it is up to me. I still have to eat properly and exercise in order to succeed.

When your dog can sit in your lap, or when your walking through the house with your "tight" shorts on, and they fall down!

I wanted to say welcome to the group. I just recently posted my weight after keeping it hidden for almost a month. I finally decided that other people's negative comments will not bother me. I am the same as you, need to lose about 200 lbs. I think having a good support system at home and here is super important. I have talked to nothing but nice people on here and have gotten my questions and advice answered.
We can do this if we all work together and stay positive

I have just had surgery on March 30th I had the sleeve I started at 472 and am now 414 I obviously have more than 200lbs to lose and am looking forward to it...I have thrown up twice from eating to fast and the second time definitely wasn't pleasant I think I learned to definitely eat slower and to stop rushing I'm just glad it happened now and not when I hit the solid food stage. I am a 20 year old male I live in New York Long Island and I deff am glad I did this surgery. It's amazing how this surgery changes your view on eating I feel like a failure for eating too fast and throwing up when I'm only 2 weeks post op but tomorrow is another day and we can only learn from our mistakes.

@@sbarbiegirl yay! Thanks for sharing the pics and the inspiration...Everyone who has responded to this thread has been so positive, thank you! I can't belive I get sleeved the day after tomorrow, and I feel ready thanks to everyone on this site.

I'm at 356, which is less than what I thought I was. I don't have a scale at home, which I need to get...lol. I don't really care about the weight. I stopped caring about all that years ago. What I DO care about is my health. I plain old jane just do not feel good anymore. I can't do anything standing up for any length of time. I can barely even make it to the copier and back at work. That being said, I have been maintaining my weight the past several months. Up and down between 345 and 360. I'm ready to lose!!! I'm ready to feel better!
I too have about 200 lbs to get off. I want a weight of 150. I don't know if that is even realistic, but that is my personal goal. Hope all the best for you! Wish me luck....I get sleeved in 4 days!!!

Don't feel bad.. I too lost my best friend of 15 years right before my surgery. Before my surgery me and my husband and her and her husband, we would go out, dinner, drinks.. Her husband would say things like " you're going to have to lock this woman in a closet " and "aren't you scared she's going to leave you? She's going to be a knock out!" I'm sure my friend really didn't appreciate her man saying those things. I was flattered, but also appalled her husband was saying those things! Closer to my surgery, I had to stop going out to eat, stop drinking, and I joined a gym. All these things I HAD to do for a healthy life, well she didn't HAVE to do a life style change. So it was less and less we hung out. And the closer to surgery, I lost weight,, her husband would make more comments. I hate to say it, but I'm sure she was jealous of me! Of ME! I can't even wrap my brain around anybody being jealous of me, much less my best friend! It was a sad day for me when I realized I lost my friend because I had to change. But now, I look at it like it was meant to be. People are forever growing and changing. People come into our lives for a reason. To teach us whatever we need to be taught at that time. Then we grow, and some times, we out grow each other. That's just life. Am I sorry? Once I was.. Now? HECK NO! May be if I was still friends with her, she would have sabotaged my weight loss efforts so I wouldn't be prettier than her. I don't know. But i trust that everything happens for a reason. Now I have twice as many friends, who are into the same things that I am now. That choose to have the same life style. Just hang in there, if it's meant to be friends with her still, it'll work out. If it doesn't.. Just know that you are on a greater path to better people and things!

A few things:
1. Have you spoken with your nutritionist?
2. You say you eat most of your calories at night? Is there a particular reason why? Do you work split shift or evenings? If not, I would try switching that. For me I find that if I skip Breakfast I don't lose as well. My metabolism needs to be waken up early in the day. I also do better eating the majority of my calories before 4. My biggest meal of the day is usually lunch. dinner is often something like like a small salad or Soup. Doing this means that I get most of my calories in during the time of the day when I am most active.

I think we've all been there - especially the fear that you've lost that last pound you are going to lose - ever! I thought that from the start...all the way to 140 pounds lost. The thing about the sleeve is that you don't lose super fast, or at least most people don't.
Ignore the "I lost 100 pounds in 6 months, at GOAL!" posts. That is the exception, not the rule. You'll see just as many post about slow loss. I almost never open those fast loss posts , lol. Good for anyone who can do that, but the hard cold truth is, we just can't control the rate at which we lose. We CAN control how we eat, making sure we follow the rules and doing our part.
I have tons of great advice for people, (because I'm like that ) but the most important thing I can say is that you just have to stick with it for the long haul, and it will work. It's not magic. Just do the best you can every day, and know you need to do this indefinitely. You are not failing, you are just living.

Snowkitten, I totally get it! I am also 8 mths out tomorrow. For the last few weeks I have not tracked what I've been eating and I've had my hand in the candy jar...literally! I exercise about 5 days a week and I keep telling myself that I'm doing great because of the exercise, but I'm closing my eyes to the carbs that I have been shoveling in my mouth and the lack of good protein!!
I did great until a few weeks ago. About the 7 mth point I started feeling completely normal...like I haven't had surgery at all. That "I got this!" feeling. But, I don't. I know there's still restriction but I know I'm eating around it. I have my small meal but I push around the veggies and add a spoonful of Pasta. Or I just don't plan and eat what I can grab. Not tracking has made me feel like I've been eating mountains of food. It makes me feel out of control.
My son is in a lot of sports and is in boy scouts. We hit the road running at about 5 most nights and don't get in until around 7:30. So we hit fast food. I don't think that is a bad thing for me. I usually get a small chili from wendys or a plain chicken sandwich and just eat the chicken. Or I get a small salad with low fat dressing. Always bottled Water or sugar free tea to drink 30 mins later. But....last week I crossed over to chicken nuggets! I ate 4 of them and gave the rest to my son. The point is....I'm slipping. I am losing control and I watch myself do it. I let myself do it. I confess....I had it so easy up until now. Mentally, physically and emotionally easy. Easy surgery. Easy control. Easy weightloss. Well....now the work begins for me. I am determined to fight it. Yes, I have moments when I feel like a failure. I do. But....If I don't pull myself up by the boot straps and get back on this horse RIGHT NOW. Then its only going to get harder for me. All holidays are over and no birthdays until August. No excuse to have junky food in my house. Its NOW. I am forgetting the past few weeks and moving on!
I also agree with Jamielogical....don't worry about set weight goals. This is your body and no one else out there is like you. I am so glad my doctor has not set such high goals for me. His philosophy is still the ....you didn't put it on in a year, youre not going to take it off in a year....even with surgery. I'm hard enough on myself!

I hate that your surgeon is setting deadlines for weight loss. I think it's such a mistake to do that, since everyone loses at a different rate. What does it matter WHEN you reach your goal as long as the scale is trending downward? It makes me really mad that he would put that kind of pressure on you and cause you undue stress.
You've lost 75 pounds! That's amazing! You've developed new healthy habits and changed your relationship with food! Keep up your good work and you will get results. Everyone has down days. I had a couple of my own early this week when I was sick and couldn't exercise. But I got past them. I got better. And I did my full workout last night and feel great about it today! So hang in there!

You are absolutely allowed to feel like a horrible mess of a failure for 3.......2.......1...... and STOP.
It's completely normal to have a bad day, in my opinion. The fact that you recognized it and have the desire to fix it is what's key here.
Cookies and brownies may give you a temporary "energy" surge but that will be followed by a sugar crash and next day hunger. Instead, reach for a bottle of Water and go for a quick walk. Fresh air and a cool drink will get your blood moving and clear your head to make better choices.
As for your doctor's goals? Tell him to suck it. You are doing AMAZING. Seventy pounds in 7 months is great. Keep up the great work and don't give up on yourself. You are totally worth more than that.
No more pity parties. Trust me, they won't help and it will only waste a few precious moments towards your new self.

Thanks everybody. Just to update, I had laparoscopic surgery las night to clean the abscess out and install four or five drain lines. Today they plan on putting in a stent in my stomach to relieve pressure off the leak so it can heal. Tomorrow they will install an IV pic line for antibiotics. I will be in the hospital til at least Sunday. I am in ICU right now. Not out of the woods but moving towards the edge of them.

One thing to remember, you CANNOT make her (or anyone else) jealous. It is THEIR problem. So don't feel guilty about that. You know what they say "Guilt is the work of the devil", and it is. Jealousy is something that comes from within, not from what is outside.
So, now that's dealt with, onto the other issue here: YOU! How do YOU feel about you? If you are happy with you, that's as it should be. How she feels is important to you, yes, but is it important enough to make you feel bad about your success? How about potentially ruining your success? If someone can't GROW with you, sometimes you have to OUTGROW them. They can keep up, or not, it's their choice, and one you cannot make for them. Have a frank discussion with her, lay it on the line. Tell how you value her and her friendship, but it's time to get past the immaturity and "grow on". Either grow together, or grow apart. Her decision. Good luck to you, dear one...

I never understand why people feel the need to interject themselves into other people's business/lives when they have not been "invited" there. Most of the time I can get away with big smile and a "ain't it great!" and walk off, but then there are times where it is all I can do to hold my tongue. Because my tongue is a nasty one, when aroused in the wrong way. And then I can't take it back. And then I have to live with the consequences of my tongue. And then I have to STILL live with the morons with which I have just engaged. It always comes back to me. I guess I'll just smile and be happy with ME!

Pensacola : Check out Dr. Lord at Sacred Heart Hospital. My brother used him for his band surgery.

I am still in the baby stages of the process and my heaviest is also my current weight of 346.
I read these posts daily and have something I haven't had in a long time.... Hope.
Because of all these amazing "losers", I now realize that we can all do this and there is so much support here. What I love most is everyone's honest and open dialog. People share very realistic issues and knowledge is power. Thank you all.

@@butterfly23 Good luck on this journey. For me, posting my stats was important. It helped me to keep things real. Yes, I really do weigh this much, and yes, my goal is also posted too. Every time I edit the ticker down a pound or 2 I have such a great feeling of accomplishment.
Don't worry about how much you have to lose. None of us are here because of a low BMI!

You are my Sheroe! Hopefully I am as successful as you.

Welcome! Congratulations on your new journey! I know how hard life has been being at such a high weight myself. My highest was 339! I was sleeved on 3/10/15 and have lost 36 pounds so far. Pre op I weighed 296. I still want to lose 180 more to hit the BMI and weight for my height. It's not the 200 you were looking for, but it's sure close in my eyes lol! I didn't post my weight at first either when I first started visiting this site, but as days went by, and reading all the other posts, my confidence got a little higher and higher. So finally I said what the heck! It's a weigh loss forum and why are we all here? So now, I'm up front with everything.
Right now I'm experiencing the dreaded 3 week stall.. Been on it for a week now :-/ . Trying to stay motivated, I know it won't last, but dang it! It can get discouraging.
So far my little tips that work for me: Never go past 3hrs without eating! I find if I do, I'm desperate for something and eat WAY too fast, and that hurts!
Water water water.. Or G2 Gatorade.. Fluid fluid fluid. I find if I don't get enough fluids, NO ENERGY!
And I try to get all my Protein in the first couple times I eat for the day. I'll do a Premier Protein shake for bfast (30g protein), and then if I'm on the run I have a premier Protein Bar for snack(20g protein). Then when I do eat the rest of the day, I already know I got my protein in for the day.
The gym is a must for me. I go 5-6 days a week. This is new to me. I started a month before my surgery. I find that on days I don't go, I beat myself up. Plus I feel much better after wards, plus I LOVE THE EXTRA ENERGY!
I hope these encourage you. I know it's easier said than done. But I promise I am one to tell you, if I can do it, so can any one! Good luck to you!

I had more than 200 lbs to lose. I am 18 months out and have lost 195 pounds. I still have 35 to 40 pounds to go. The weight loss doesn't come nearly as easy as it used to. The 1st 165 pounds just fell off. I have had to work hard for every pounds after that. If I can do it anyone can do it. U got this!!!

I started off having more than 200 lbs to lose, my starting weight was 383 lbs with my goal being 165lbs. i may have it hidden in my profile, I'm not sure as i cant see those stats on my iPad only via the website itself. I am now 275.. Woo hoo- and best of all, i'm still losing! Not everyone's journey is the same. I've never not disclosed that information if i was typing out a response to someone and the conversation required me to do so. Ie I'm not ashamed of where i began, as we are all here to lose this weight and to help one another through this journey.
Wishing you all the very best with your weight loss journey . there are quite a few of us in the same boat with lots to lose, don't be disheartened, just reach out, we are here to help where we can xox

Thank you for all the wonderful posts and feedback - you are my inspiration!! I really appreciate that several of you noted emotional eating and the importance of addressing it. I am currently going through a workbook on emotional eating and while difficult, is helping me deal with some of the root causes of my past overeating (yay, I can say past after almost 3 weeks on this liquid diet!).
Thanks again everyone. I am tired of being ashamed of my weight and ready to be proud of my changes and you all are helping me do that.

I too do not have 200 lbs to lose but I would like to welcome to this site and wish you the best of luck in your journey.
I love having my weight on my ticker, it is so much fun to get on that scale see a loss and get on here and log it in. I do that for me if for nothing else. Watching your weight and BMI go down is an incredible feeling.
My advice for you is to make sure to document in pictures and in measurements along your way. Your weight loss will be fun to watch but for those times when it slows down it is nice to have other ways to measure your successes. I take my pictures in clothes and in a bra and undies every month, I also take my measurements monthly too. I am so gald I have those pics to look back on it really helps to keep me motivated. I see posts on here where people wish they had done that.
Good luck with your surgery and take it one day at a time. Like others have said don't look at the whole picture, concentrate on 5 or 10lbs at a time and go from there. Celebrate ALL your accomplishments even if it is just with a pat on your own back!! You can do this! Use this stie and knowledge here and you will be good!!

Welcome! Congratulations on your new journey! I know how hard life has been being at such a high weight myself. My highest was 339! I was sleeved on 3/10/15 and have lost 36 pounds so far. Pre op I weighed 296. I still want to lose 180 more to hit the BMI and weight for my height. It's not the 200 you were looking for, but it's sure close in my eyes lol! I didn't post my weight at first either when I first started visiting this site, but as days went by, and reading all the other posts, my confidence got a little higher and higher. So finally I said what the heck! It's a weigh loss forum and why are we all here? So now, I'm up front with everything.
Right now I'm experiencing the dreaded 3 week stall.. Been on it for a week now :-/ . Trying to stay motivated, I know it won't last, but dang it! It can get discouraging.
So far my little tips that work for me: Never go past 3hrs without eating! I find if I do, I'm desperate for something and eat WAY too fast, and that hurts!
Water water water.. Or G2 Gatorade.. Fluid fluid fluid. I find if I don't get enough fluids, NO ENERGY!
And I try to get all my Protein in the first couple times I eat for the day. I'll do a Premier Protein shake for bfast (30g protein), and then if I'm on the run I have a premier Protein Bar for snack(20g protein). Then when I do eat the rest of the day, I already know I got my protein in for the day.
The gym is a must for me. I go 5-6 days a week. This is new to me. I started a month before my surgery. I find that on days I don't go, I beat myself up. Plus I feel much better after wards, plus I LOVE THE EXTRA ENERGY!
I hope these encourage you. I know it's easier said than done. But I promise I am one to tell you, if I can do it, so can any one! Good luck to you!