KF2007

When a regular sized bath towel wraps around you WITHOUT any gaps! That has to be the best feeling. I realized this last night when I got out of the shower.
I even wrapped it past the gap about 7 or 8 inches. HOW FREAKING AMAZING!!!
Kelly :) :)

I don't have a problem with the fact that a lot of men want me now who would never have looked at me twice two years ago. We can't help what we are attracted to and to be honest I have zero interest in dating a fat guy, so I don't really get to get mad if men have no interest in me because I'm a fat girl. My logic is that dating is a bit like selling a house. Do you put the house on the market when the tile is torn up, the kitchen is from the 60's, and the carpet is stained? No, because you recognized that you are not going to get a quality buyer because the house is unattractive.
Comparably, appearances matter in people too. Do you want to spend the rest of your life with a person who pants and heaves and sweats all over you, while crushing you in bed? Do you want a man who can't sit comfortably in booths at dinner, who can't ride roller coasters with you, who can't shop in normal stores, and who has a serious health condition that you will need to deal with if you are his partner? Do you want to be with someone who can't control their eating, who is not healthy, and who very well may have other complications as a result of their weight? I can't speak for you, but I certainly don't.
Wanting to date a person who is a healthy weight is not shallow, it's simply a fact of life for many people. We cannot help who we are attracted to. I don't like super skinny dudes, fat dudes, or really tall dudes....I'm not shallow I just know what I want so I don't waste their time. Don't you appreciate that someone else does the same for you if physically they realize they just aren't into you?
I'm not saying you're not a wonderful person, a kind, loving, fantastic woman who deserves all of the love in the world. I'm saying don't get offended because guys aren't into you for whatever reason. I got dumped once when I was 130 pounds because my boobs were too big, once because I wasn't tan enough, once because I was too short, and once because I was too fat (at the time I was about 145). Not everyone is going to like everyone, so I personally am fine with a man not wanting to date me if he's not physically attracted to me because otherwise he's simply wasting both of our time. I remodeled my "house" and my buyer's market dramatically improved. It's not being shallow, it's simply understanding how the game works.
Also, as a note, your tracker says you are 200 pounds, which is NOT a big woman. There are plenty of men who are very happy with a woman that size and plenty that want someone bigger or smaller. You just have to find the right one. Good luck!

So, here I am, 35 and fixing to undergo RNY surgery in August. I'm not, in my mind, an overly large woman (the doctors and their charts tend to disagree), but due to multiple medical ailments, I haven't been unable to lose weight, and in fact, keep gaining. I'm okay with having the surgery, but in the mean time, trying to find a good man is nearly impossible. I'm sure they are out there, but thus far, I have met guys for dinner and never heard back from them. A few have told me straight up that I'm to "big" for their likes. Each to his own, but I wouldn't want to be with someone like that anyway. Here is my rant/dilemma...if I'm having a hard time finding a guy now, and I have surgery, then all of a sudden guys want to date, that really shows how shallow they are. Me and my lack-of-a-filter mouth is likely to say something if this were the case and it might not go so well!
I've heard the same in the past from friends who had lap band surgery, but I'm not sure how to politely ask them WTH?!?! Has anyone experienced this? Not being able to find a person to date then all of a sudden, you lose weight and they're knocking at your door? How do you handle this?
I don't expect the guys to be lining up outside my door, by any means. A few people at work know I'm having the surgery (I'm open and honest about having the surgery) and I've even had a few guy tell me "You're going to be so skinny I'm going to want to date you!" WTH!!! Not interested....NEXT!
Just putting this out there and seeing if any others think/feel the same or experienced this and have any input.

You've touched on a definite worry I have about surgery too! I do already have a boyfriend who loves me no matter what my weight is and trust me, I don't take that for granted. I have a sister who has made some pretty awful bigoted comments to me in the past. Several years ago when I was job hunting, she told me no one would hire me because I was overweight (I've made four vertical moves in my career since then). She's also tried to have a few "interventions" with and given me all kinds of unsolicited advice. I worry a little about what she and people in my life who are like her will say after I lose weight. I'm still going to be the same person! I think you coworker's comment was pretty rude, btw, though I know I'm hearing it out of context. Unless I could tell the comment was harmless, I'd want to say yeah, but you'll still be an asshole so it won't work.

Something that has really come to light for me during this pre op prep is how much food has ruled my life to this point...during Breakfast thinking about what to have for lunch and dinner, while running errands thinking about what I'm going to eat when I get home, during a stressful day imagining what I'll eat to relax with afterward, what Snacks I need to properly enjoy a sporting event on TV or what to order at the movies.
None of these instances was I looking at food as fuel but as a "friend". Now, having made it to day 6 of prep, I find I can do all of these things without needing my "friend". That may be the biggest "get" of this entire process!!

August 22 here.....2014
Just messing with you guys! Good luck with your upcoming surgeries! The next thing you know, it will be almost a year for you, too

I've been drinking Premier Protein premixed chocolate periodically. 30 grams Protein per shake 5 carbs but 3 Fiber so only 2 net carbs. 160 cal. Want to find unflovored to add to meals.
I have a juicer. There are some older threads on here about juicing. I'm trying to lose preop and have just pulled it out recently to help. I found people out there that have lost crazy amount of weight crazy fast doing liquid/juicing. I've lost 54 lbs since end of jan and hope to continue to lose til Aug 24.

Awesome if your insurance will pay!! They seem to be a good choice for Vitamins, kinda pricey, but worth it. I have a whey intolerance, so i have to be careful what Proteins i can do. My NUT approved muscle milk 100 calorie drinks and the mega Protein shakes for me. Those are pretty good! Ive tried Isopure, Nutrimed and a soy EAS powder and they were horrible. Ive heard good things about powders?utm_source=BariatricPal&utm_medium=Affiliate&utm_campaign=CommentLink" target="_ad" data-id="1" >unjury but havent tried it. Syntrax nectar is a good brand if you need to switch up the flavors. They have a sample pack for like $20 online.

I am 167lbs down, and not at goal yet, I should be on goal by December or January next year. But yeah the goal is to look good, I don't concern myself too much with the digits.

We are chatting now, and I'm sure there will be more lunches lol... Yeah she was very caring, and she admitted she wanted to tell me a while back but was hesitant because she didn't want to be intrusive, in case I was maybe ill, I found that really funny... She responded very well when I told her about surgery, I hope to educate more people about this "easy way out" surgery.

@@Cunninglinguist Thank you for your positive message. Don't pay any attention to these idiots who don't know what your screen name means. Come on we are all adults and if you can't understand what it means then maybe you shouldn't comment.

Seriously? People are offended by "cunninglinguist"?
I might change my nick to "blowjobssuck."
Lighten up, folks! That's actually why we're here. (Badda boom ... get it?)

wow, yeah this thread went left...lol
I actually had to say it a couple of times to make sure it was what I thought it was. It is funny to me but anyhow your story was exciting and I'm happy you were confident enough to approach her. I too would like to know if it ended with a 2nd date????

Cunning Linguist look up the meaning of those words. I think I will keep it John...thanks though

Its no secret how happy i am 6 months post op, just by the way i feel and move, and just live...Yes i still have a stretch ahead of me till all the weight is off, and then plastic surgery..But i wanna share something that happened at work today.
I work in a corporate environment and there are many people from all walks of life on the floor i work on, One in particular is a very attractive blonde lady who is a yoga instructor in her free time...Needless to say, we as men (Yes ladies, we are primitive animals) here at the office tend to sneak a peak every time she walks around. So i was walking out of the building and she was in front of me, and all of the sudden stops dead in her tracks, turns around and says to me "I just want you to know, you look amazing...All the girls in the office have been talking and we are really curious"...So being the more confident man i am now, i told her if she wants to join me for lunch (Which was where i was heading) I will tell her all about it..Which she did and i told her my whole story.
So to anyone pre or post op who are in two minds, or are struggling...Its small things like these...Be strong, be focused and be positive

Oh man that is awesome!!! I have my Upper GI x-Ray in the morning

I finished my last appt last Thursday. Pulmonologist, cardiologist, Stress test, echo, nutritionist, upper gi, psychiatrist, and sleep study. It felt like it took forever but now that it's done Im anxious for the next phase and to start my new healthier life.

@@KF2007
woo hoo bud
it IS happening, finally!!!
good luck with pre-op
then surgery
speedy recovery
kathy

Im sooo excited! I just finished the very last of my pre-op testing (upper GI barium swallow, blood work, respiratory, EKG, etc) and I could not be more excited. I even paid off my portion of the surgery bill. YAY!!!
I will say that for a bit during the testing, I got a little nervous.... because it finally became real. This is actually happening. After nearly a full year, Im *thisclose*. I start my liquid diet a week from tomorrow, which I hope goes by quickly! Aaand then I have my last face to face apt with my surgeon... then, its V-DAY, as in VICTORY DAY!
Losers bench here I come, baby!

Im sooo excited! I just finished the very last of my pre-op testing (upper GI barium swallow, blood work, respiratory, EKG, etc) and I could not be more excited. I even paid off my portion of the surgery bill. YAY!!!
I will say that for a bit during the testing, I got a little nervous.... because it finally became real. This is actually happening. After nearly a full year, Im *thisclose*. I start my liquid diet a week from tomorrow, which I hope goes by quickly! Aaand then I have my last face to face apt with my surgeon... then, its V-DAY, as in VICTORY DAY!
Losers bench here I come, baby!

Im sooo excited! I just finished the very last of my pre-op testing (upper GI barium swallow, blood work, respiratory, EKG, etc) and I could not be more excited. I even paid off my portion of the surgery bill. YAY!!!
I will say that for a bit during the testing, I got a little nervous.... because it finally became real. This is actually happening. After nearly a full year, Im *thisclose*. I start my liquid diet a week from tomorrow, which I hope goes by quickly! Aaand then I have my last face to face apt with my surgeon... then, its V-DAY, as in VICTORY DAY!
Losers bench here I come, baby!

Im sooo excited! I just finished the very last of my pre-op testing (upper GI barium swallow, blood work, respiratory, EKG, etc) and I could not be more excited. I even paid off my portion of the surgery bill. YAY!!!
I will say that for a bit during the testing, I got a little nervous.... because it finally became real. This is actually happening. After nearly a full year, Im *thisclose*. I start my liquid diet a week from tomorrow, which I hope goes by quickly! Aaand then I have my last face to face apt with my surgeon... then, its V-DAY, as in VICTORY DAY!
Losers bench here I come, baby!

And another one clears the final jump! Good for you!

Im sooo excited! I just finished the very last of my pre-op testing (upper GI barium swallow, blood work, respiratory, EKG, etc) and I could not be more excited. I even paid off my portion of the surgery bill. YAY!!!
I will say that for a bit during the testing, I got a little nervous.... because it finally became real. This is actually happening. After nearly a full year, Im *thisclose*. I start my liquid diet a week from tomorrow, which I hope goes by quickly! Aaand then I have my last face to face apt with my surgeon... then, its V-DAY, as in VICTORY DAY!
Losers bench here I come, baby!

Im sooo excited! I just finished the very last of my pre-op testing (upper GI barium swallow, blood work, respiratory, EKG, etc) and I could not be more excited. I even paid off my portion of the surgery bill. YAY!!!
I will say that for a bit during the testing, I got a little nervous.... because it finally became real. This is actually happening. After nearly a full year, Im *thisclose*. I start my liquid diet a week from tomorrow, which I hope goes by quickly! Aaand then I have my last face to face apt with my surgeon... then, its V-DAY, as in VICTORY DAY!
Losers bench here I come, baby!