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Jim omg you look wonderful. Congratz. ????

Hello, I had my RNY Gastric Bypass surgery not long ago. I'm 4 weeks post op and would love to find a buddy or buddies to chat with. I live in and had my surgery in Connecticut. I'm on myfitnesspal.com.

After much waiting...and much heat from my sleever homies...I'm posting my before and after pics!!! I hit my goal weight back in August, and haven't had any significant gain whatsoever...swearing that I'm never going back to 'Heavy B' again!!
 

So glad to see such improvement AND all the serious health concerns that are now GONE!!!

Yes me too. Lol.

online dating sucks even when you are thin

I bought a fun espresso mug that's about an ounce, the amount of liquid the doctor's allow us to start drinking (over the course of an hour). I've also got some tiny silver spoons that I'm going to shine closer to for when I start eating again, I'm so very excited to crack them out and give them a go! I'm also planning on using fun dishes like tea cups and sugar bowls to add some fun to the process.

That's great I'm praying that it's not that bad

Congratz. I will start my liquid diet Feb 20. ????

thank you so much. I had my first psychological Dr. evaluation last week. And I really enjoy talking to him. He told me what you girls just told me. And I been opening my eyes. It does take time. I'm taking it slow. He believes these guys have damage my way of thinking. I'm thankful for everyone's comments. ????????❤️

Don't ever settle. Don't stay with someone who devalues you. You'll never get those years back.

I re-joined my social life 4 years post divorce and 6 months post-sleeve. It's unfortunately true, the online dating world is VERY aesthetically focused, but once I jumped in the pool, I'd be lying if I didn't admit that was sorta true for me as well. Looks mattered less than lifestyle, (I finally realized I needed to be with someone who had some kind of a commitment to his health and could keep up with ME)! Totally agree with what others have said...You go through a lot of duds before you get a stud:). I dated like it was a JOB for like 9 months. Had no luck on eHarmony and limited luck on Match. POF, (free) worked best for me, (could depend on your town too). Finally met a nice guy with the right mix of professional with a rebel soul that I'd like to hang out with for a while. It's been all good 4 months now. I don't know where we're going, but I like where we are now! He's never known me fat, but I was honest about my surgery within the first month. Not a big deal for him at all, in fact, he likes that I'm committed to eat "small". He dropped 50 pounds after his divorce. Says it helps him stay focused on his health goals to be around someone else who is.

You need to focus on you right now and get rid of this guy who treats you like crap. Once you are comfortable with knowing you need to be treated like a queen, you won't put up with anything less than that.
I am dating again because I know I look attractive now but even attractive people can allow others to treat them poorly. You need to work on your self esteem. Only then can you understand your worth...no matter what size you are. I make it very clear how I want and expect to be treated and those who are not going to adhere will go away...and I say not fast enough if you don't show me the respect I deserve.
Believe me, I didn't feel this way overnight. I had to lose alot of weight first and then go into therapy. This was a two step process that I've been working on for two years now. I had to change the outside and now I'm focusing on fixing the inside. Good luck sweetie. ...and now I understand why you picked your forum name.

Frank, I hope your lady comes to her senses before it is too late! You are on a long journey to better place and hopefully your new lifestyle will become even more attractive to her then before!!!!

In my case i was 350lbs @ 6'2" when my wife and i met 19yrs ago. She was 140lbs @ 5'11". She was a self admitted "chubby chaser" lol
8/24/2009. 440lbs day of surgery
Now 215lbs
Fast forward to 2yrs after my rny she tells me " I'm not sexually attracted to you as a skinny guy"
So in other words be thankful your still his one and only princess as I'm sure you are.

Five months post op...
Highest weight: 227
Current weight: 159

Here's me at my heaviest 251, me 51 pounds down and me a week ago at 145, 106 pounds down and so excited about it! 10 more pounds and it will be time to work on maintaining!

Pic of me before surgery for and then a month ago during my wedding festivities...(@around 188)
HW: 294
CW: 185
GW:170

I'm 6 months out and 70 pounds down! pic here is at preop 3months and 6months out.

I was sleeved May 6th 2013

Sleeved August 24th stated at 240lbs currently 141lbs
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This is 1 month out. Down 23 pounds. I'm a shorty so it shows faster on me.

3 photos:
1(left): start of 2 week pre op diet
2(middle): last day of two week pre op diet
3(right): 6 days post op
Total of 14 kg lost - Australian
Now 7 days post op and feeling good:) love seeing others! Hope all keep up the great work x

Today is 4 months since surgery. HW 298 CW 222 GW 165... I was wearing 22/24W, I am in 14 Misses. Shirt was 3XL in plus size now XL in Misses..

Oh boy do I understand your frame of mind. Same thing here. I'm down 150 lbs. and I weigh somewhere in the neighborhood of 116-118 lbs. If not for the excess skin, I too would be wearing size 4. People call me skinny and I feel like a fraud. I am thin now...I know that. But I feel like a fat woman in this thin body. I agree with my friend JustWatchMe...think about seeing a therapist. I've been in therapy for a year already and I truly think it's vital for the psyche. Even my bariatric surgeon agrees. I saw her last week and she said I'm not the same person I was when I was obese and professional help is an important component in the journey.
Good luck and keep us posted on how you are doing.