FinallyFit50s

@@LSF and @tlempke826 How are you doing after your surgery, and when is your surgery?
I was sleeved 2/26 at Mercy in Springfield by Dr. McMillian. (Absolutely love my surgeon) I had my first check up on Monday and have lost 13 pounds since surgery and a whole lot more in inches. I was wearing size 18 jeans and they were tight in the waist, I'm apple shaped. I am now wearing size 14's in EVERYTHING. I am SHOCKED to say the least! I've been shopping in my attic for clothes I haven't seen in a decade or more. It's fabulous!

Springfield here, any folks from Western, MA?

@@ovaw8ovathinka, I have a similar story. I am also menopausal and have an underactive thyroid. I went to a functional nutritionist for 2 1/2 years, only to lose 20 lbs, 17 of which were in the initial 3 week detox. I went through tests and labwork to determine that I was suffering from adrenal exhaustion and had intolerances to all grain and cow dairy. For 2 1/2 years I stayed on the plan (no grain, no dairy, mostly paleo) and lost another 3 lbs, for a total of 20 lbs. lost. One day, I stepped on the scale and I was 199. I was so happy! I never saw that number again. In fact, my weight steadily went up until I gained back every ounce of my weight plus 10 more pounds. I was extremely frustrated! My brother had undergone duodenal switch 6 years prior and my cousin (who was my age and had gone through most of the same as I had, including the nutritionist, intolerances and resulting diet) had recently decided to have WLS. I was seeing, and they were telling me, that it was the best decision they ever made. Based on the statistics and their success I finally made the choice to do the same. I was so afraid that I wouldn't see any weight loss, or that it would be so little that it would not be worth it. But I am here to tell you that I am losing weight, despite being menopausal, despite the thyroid condition, and despite my fears.
I have seen posts from many people on here whose surgeons have told them they won't lose as much weight as they anticipate, based on the averages. Yet they have, and sometimes much more. Remember that what they are telling you is based on averages. The reason you can't rely on the averages is that for every person who follows the plan and loses a significant amount of weight, there is another person who continues to eat the wrong foods and doesn't lose at all. The best thing to do is to leave the surgery up to your surgeon, and YOU take responsibility for the results! We all start out so beaten down by our many failed efforts, and our confidence is very low, but you've got this! Don't ever let anyone tell you that you can't.

My apologies for such a long post!

ESFP....the only thing that has changed over the years for me is the Perceiving. It used to be Judging....think that was during my years as a training officer...lol.
For jobs it said Social Worker...lol doing my MSW now....

I actually don't have a cat. Cats are icky.

I used to get them on my upper thighs, under my boobs and in my armpits and they were the worst. The drainage that would come out of them could drown a small pup, too.

Ewwww...

I've not had one since losing my weight. This post had better not jinx me!!!

I am seriously puzzled on how one may be able to make sure that his/her every word is pleasing to every personality on this board without giving up his/her own personality in its entirety. Even then, words are often misconstrued because the reader is emotional/hangry/wants to hear something else/is from another country where words and phrases have different meaning than the person replying. It's also apparent that some people are ripe and ready to be offended because they don't like the person replying or were told that they should be offended when they weren't beforehand.
Perhaps instead of making a post like this, one that will only create MORE disharmony and dissension (and causing some of our most helpful people to leave), the offensive parties should be addressed directly. Posts like this **IN MY OPINION** are more harmful to the general sense of community because they justify AND INSPIRE unnecessary butt hurt and finger pointing.
Wow. I'm sad. It seems as if there is a trend of posts lately that are telling vets that their time here is done. I hear you loud and clear.
***Of course, this is just MY opinion and just a suggestion, not meant to offend anyone. It's just based on MY experiences as a forum moderator and board owner.***

I started the BariatricPal forums to create a safe place for everyone in the weight loss surgery community. It is for pre-op and post-op patients, for patients of all types of WLS, and for anyone who supports the WLS community. I want you to be able to come here for advice, encouragement, support, and information without worrying about being judged.
I have a zero-tolerance policy for rudeness, and you can see the guidelines in the Forum Rules.
Recently, there have been several instances of members being disrespectful or downright rude. Examples include:
Stating or implying that a poster is doomed to failure or not ready for WLS because he or she asked a certain question or is engaged in a certain behavior. Telling people that your way is the only way, and any other way means the member deserves WLS failure. Discriminating against “newbies,” such as letting a newbie know that you don’t think he or she will succeed, or asking only “vets” to reply to a certain thread. (Reminder: you can always choose not to follow the advice of someone you deem unqualified to give it). The vast majority of BariatricPal members do a phenomenal job making BariatricPal the warm, friendly community that I dreamed of when I started it. Thank you! Besides being sure to be polite and respectful, here are some additional ways to help.
If you see an offensive post, please consider the following.
You do not need to respond. Instead of giving a rude answer and escalating the situation, you can simply choose not to answer. You can report the post by clicking on the “Report” option under the post. A forum moderator will look into the situation and may delete the post or ban the member if the member continues to post inappropriately. You can send the member a private message explaining that you felt the post was inappropriate, and explaining why. In many cases, you may be surprised that the member did not even realize he or she was being rude. Please also think twice before you respond to any questions or other posts. It is possible that you could write a post that is genuinely meant to be helpful, but the person could accidentally interpret your post the wrong way. Try to remember that:
It is very difficult to communicate a specific tone in writing. You may write something that you think is helpful and understanding, while someone reading it might take it as bossy or judgmental. Emoticons such as smiley faces can help. You can also add a sentence to explain that you are only offering a suggestion or sharing your own experience and that you are not trying to judge the OP. The OP might be in a vulnerable situation. They may be panicking about a worrisome symptom. They may be in turmoil about whether to get WLS. They may be freaking out about a stall. When they’re upset, it’s easier for them to misinterpret your well-meaning post. Thank you for doing your best to keep the environment at BariatricPal positive, encouraging, and open. We all need a place to go for help and support, and I want the entire weight loss surgery to feel comfortable using BariatricPal for advice and encouragement.

I found the love of my life on POF. We have been together for almost 2 years and are now engaged to be married!
I never had time to meet anyone between going to work, the gym, and being a mom. I'm so glad I finally gave online dating a chance after being so afraid to try it for so many years. I am pre op and I just finished my 6 months of doctors visits and everything else that my insurance required for me to do to be able to get the gastric bypass. My fiance has been my biggest supporter through it all. I hope you have fun and enjoy dating and I hope that eventually you find your other half along the way. Best of luck to you!
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@@Chrysalis77
I have long natural hair, I always feel like I need a nap after washing my hair.

Ok. I am two weeks post-op. Does anyone else feel like they need a nap after hair wash day????
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Awhile back, OKCPirate wrote something that made a lot of sense for me. It's a numbers game. Go out have fun and date...date...date. Enjoy all that dating has to offer. Meet new people, have new adventures. You'll find out quickly enough what you like, don't like, and your must-haves. I'm a whole heck of a lot older than you, but I feel like I've started anew. This dating thing is FUN!!! (All the safety hints are true...) Addtionally, I take a pic of the guy and send it to my friends. We also agree that after X amount of time, I or they will call just to check in. (My daughter loves doing the check in...lmao)

I was 30 when I went on my first real date. I wish I would've started this at 22. I just have a real problem communicating in person. I can communicate well electronically but not personally. I'm not good at small talk and starting conversations. It is also seems that as a man I'm the one who is supposed to approach a woman and that is frightening to me. I keep reminding myself of what my mother told me about bees. They're just as afraid of you as you are of them.

@@Steph0625, a number of the others said "fun" right off. I apologize for having taken a more serious route only.
Yes, FUN. Have fun. You're beginning to explore a new realm, so think of it as an adventure. Not only will you be learning more about the male persuasion and the ways that males and females relate to each other, but you'll be discovering things about yourself that you may not have known or only guessed at.
Now some serious stuff.
There's a theory that the serious, sincere, stable, safe men use dating sites that charge a fee. I don't know which sites are which, but it seems something to consider. All those "S" words sound dull, but I think you know what I mean. It's about your safety.
Back to "how to act." You can't go too far wrong if you act as yourself and are true to your personality.

Awhile back, OKCPirate wrote something that made a lot of sense for me. It's a numbers game. Go out have fun and date...date...date. Enjoy all that dating has to offer. Meet new people, have new adventures. You'll find out quickly enough what you like, don't like, and your must-haves. I'm a whole heck of a lot older than you, but I feel like I've started anew. This dating thing is FUN!!! (All the safety hints are true...) Addtionally, I take a pic of the guy and send it to my friends. We also agree that after X amount of time, I or they will call just to check in. (My daughter loves doing the check in...lmao)

Lol, I have the mean face too...it's not like I am trying to be that way. It's usually I'm in thought. There is Tinder, an app that you can try. It's known as a hookup site, but I've met some really nice guys off of it. It links to your Facebook page, so I would suggest you make a new one just for dating, also get a new email and a google number...again, just for dating. Once a guy is deemed "worthy" you can give him your real number.
I've had to take myself off of discovery as I was chatting with too many guys. Aww, heck,,,it has been an absolute BLAST!!! I actually told my mother that I'm dating. This morning I realized that I have had more dates in the last 3 1/2 months than in my entire teenage years...
Try it, you both have to swipe right to be connected. Can't hurt...I also put in my little profile (not that guys really read them...No marrieds, separated, open relationships and NO Hookups!)
Good luck...enjoy the you that you've always wanted to be!

Awhile back, OKCPirate wrote something that made a lot of sense for me. It's a numbers game. Go out have fun and date...date...date. Enjoy all that dating has to offer. Meet new people, have new adventures. You'll find out quickly enough what you like, don't like, and your must-haves. I'm a whole heck of a lot older than you, but I feel like I've started anew. This dating thing is FUN!!! (All the safety hints are true...) Addtionally, I take a pic of the guy and send it to my friends. We also agree that after X amount of time, I or they will call just to check in. (My daughter loves doing the check in...lmao)

I'm just a few shy weeks away from 50......my weight loss has been slower than some.......BUT could I have lost 35 pounds in 11 weeks on my own? no.........I struggled losing 3 pounds in a month pre surgery......so I am a happy camper

Every pound you lose is a pound you have lost. Just keep the focus on liquids and Proteins, and follow your program. It'll come off, and what the heck, you are sleeved for the rest of your life!

Awhile back, OKCPirate wrote something that made a lot of sense for me. It's a numbers game. Go out have fun and date...date...date. Enjoy all that dating has to offer. Meet new people, have new adventures. You'll find out quickly enough what you like, don't like, and your must-haves. I'm a whole heck of a lot older than you, but I feel like I've started anew. This dating thing is FUN!!! (All the safety hints are true...) Addtionally, I take a pic of the guy and send it to my friends. We also agree that after X amount of time, I or they will call just to check in. (My daughter loves doing the check in...lmao)

Awhile back, OKCPirate wrote something that made a lot of sense for me. It's a numbers game. Go out have fun and date...date...date. Enjoy all that dating has to offer. Meet new people, have new adventures. You'll find out quickly enough what you like, don't like, and your must-haves. I'm a whole heck of a lot older than you, but I feel like I've started anew. This dating thing is FUN!!! (All the safety hints are true...) Addtionally, I take a pic of the guy and send it to my friends. We also agree that after X amount of time, I or they will call just to check in. (My daughter loves doing the check in...lmao)

Trust me, you're not the only late bloomer in the world.
For now, just think of all this as "practice." You gotta practice to get good at anything.
Have fun. But be appropriately skeptical.

I'm still doing the Tinder thing. Had two first dates last week. Both guys I had spoken to at least a few weeks prior but grad school got in the way. One was VERY supportive and would check in to see how I'm doing. He lives down on the shore in CT about an hour an a half away. He's a chef...and man makes GREAT ribs. I'm NOT open about my surgery but something I said clued him in and he asked, so I told him. Nice guy, we shall see where it goes. He's definitely looking at finding someone for a solid relationship. The second guy I texted out of the blue since I was on vacation. We went for a drink and talked. He's been divorced for about six months...WARNING BELLS*** He lives in the next town and he will be good for doing motorcycle trips and just hanging out as friends.
There are a bunch more on Tinder that are interesting...I'm just having fun at this point. Anyone tickles my fancy enough....I LOVE MY SLEEVE!!!

I'm still doing the Tinder thing. Had two first dates last week. Both guys I had spoken to at least a few weeks prior but grad school got in the way. One was VERY supportive and would check in to see how I'm doing. He lives down on the shore in CT about an hour an a half away. He's a chef...and man makes GREAT ribs. I'm NOT open about my surgery but something I said clued him in and he asked, so I told him. Nice guy, we shall see where it goes. He's definitely looking at finding someone for a solid relationship. The second guy I texted out of the blue since I was on vacation. We went for a drink and talked. He's been divorced for about six months...WARNING BELLS*** He lives in the next town and he will be good for doing motorcycle trips and just hanging out as friends.
There are a bunch more on Tinder that are interesting...I'm just having fun at this point. Anyone tickles my fancy enough....I LOVE MY SLEEVE!!!

I'm still doing the Tinder thing. Had two first dates last week. Both guys I had spoken to at least a few weeks prior but grad school got in the way. One was VERY supportive and would check in to see how I'm doing. He lives down on the shore in CT about an hour an a half away. He's a chef...and man makes GREAT ribs. I'm NOT open about my surgery but something I said clued him in and he asked, so I told him. Nice guy, we shall see where it goes. He's definitely looking at finding someone for a solid relationship. The second guy I texted out of the blue since I was on vacation. We went for a drink and talked. He's been divorced for about six months...WARNING BELLS*** He lives in the next town and he will be good for doing motorcycle trips and just hanging out as friends.
There are a bunch more on Tinder that are interesting...I'm just having fun at this point. Anyone tickles my fancy enough....I LOVE MY SLEEVE!!!