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Great to hear the blues are better, Tink! And I envy the weight loss progress. I'm 5 weeks out and a little sad over the change in my relationship with food. I love to cook, used to love to eat, but not enjoying the process of eating much. I miss enjoying food. Does that sound weird? Plus, I've had some stalls, making it seem even sadder ( all this for what?) Trying to focus on the joy of my pants falling down.

Great to hear the blues are better, Tink! And I envy the weight loss progress. I'm 5 weeks out and a little sad over the change in my relationship with food. I love to cook, used to love to eat, but not enjoying the process of eating much. I miss enjoying food. Does that sound weird? Plus, I've had some stalls, making it seem even sadder ( all this for what?) Trying to focus on the joy of my pants falling down.

I'm wondering why you didn't do the pre surgery diet? Some of us were not required to by our program, but had other requirements ( my pre surgery diet was just the day before, BUT I'd had to lose 16 lbs before they would even schedule my surgery). There are very strict dietary rules you will have to follow after surgery: some for weeks, some for the rest of your life. If that's not a commitment you are able or ready or willing to make, this may not be the right time for surgery. Please talk to your surgeon.

Where are you receiving this info from, please? We try really hard to make sure info like this isn't posted, unless it's 10000% accurate.
Please provide us with more info and details. If anyone has further info, don't hesitate to chime in.

You run the risk of your surgery becoming an open procedure, rather than laparoscopic. Your doctor has to retract your liver and if he feels based on your bmi you'll have a very rigid, fatty liver to protect to he may open you up. Or postpone all together but that's ONCE YOURE OPEN. Call your doctor before surgery. If this was a will issue maybe now wasn't the right time for you to start this journey. It's a serious commitment.

Relax, you will not be eaten by a bear.
Breathe, sweetie.

You ate a donut. Move on. I'm not mocking or making light of it - stuff happens! If you then eat 4 more donuts, we've got a problem, Houston. After your surgery there are going to be times when you eat the wrong thing, or too fast or too much. The benefit (?!) is, there will be a physical, negative consequence, either cramping or vomiting or something to reinforce good choices. Right now you are learning to do that without surgery. You're doing great, don't be so hard on yourself - I like the way ^ phrased it, compassion + accountability.

You ate a donut. Move on. I'm not mocking or making light of it - stuff happens! If you then eat 4 more donuts, we've got a problem, Houston. After your surgery there are going to be times when you eat the wrong thing, or too fast or too much. The benefit (?!) is, there will be a physical, negative consequence, either cramping or vomiting or something to reinforce good choices. Right now you are learning to do that without surgery. You're doing great, don't be so hard on yourself - I like the way ^ phrased it, compassion + accountability.

You ate a donut. Move on. I'm not mocking or making light of it - stuff happens! If you then eat 4 more donuts, we've got a problem, Houston. After your surgery there are going to be times when you eat the wrong thing, or too fast or too much. The benefit (?!) is, there will be a physical, negative consequence, either cramping or vomiting or something to reinforce good choices. Right now you are learning to do that without surgery. You're doing great, don't be so hard on yourself - I like the way ^ phrased it, compassion + accountability.

You ate a donut. Move on. I'm not mocking or making light of it - stuff happens! If you then eat 4 more donuts, we've got a problem, Houston. After your surgery there are going to be times when you eat the wrong thing, or too fast or too much. The benefit (?!) is, there will be a physical, negative consequence, either cramping or vomiting or something to reinforce good choices. Right now you are learning to do that without surgery. You're doing great, don't be so hard on yourself - I like the way ^ phrased it, compassion + accountability.

Today was an emotional struggle, but Thanks to x0CheekzVSG, she helped me get past my blues.
Today I had:
-3 baby spoon full of Yogurt. (It felt like a ton of bricks each time I swallowed, so I stopped.
-1/2 of a Premier shake
-1/2 of a SF chocolate pudding
- 2 oz of chicken broth
- And I was able to get 21 oz Water.
Ooh and I'm excited to say I went pottied twice today. Now if only I can do #2 soon. :-)

Hi everyone. SO wish I had thought of a massage and facial, what a great idea. Laundry is done, house is vacuumed, food shopping is done. I am finishing (OK, starting) a report for work that I will probably finish tonight after everyone has gone to bed. Headache from the liquids only today, punishment for what I ate yesterday after getting the final all-clear from the surgeon (no two week prep diet, just day before for this program, but I have been living on photos of food and sunbeams for a week trying to stay at goal) I've been doing yogurt for Breakfast, shake for lunch, small meal for dinner for 3 weeks, so I didn't think all liquids today would be bad, but yesterday's food funeral and today's anxiety are a smack in the head. One moment of second thoughts today, first time in the whole 6 month process, but reasonable I guess, and fleeting. I got a few summer clothing catalogues in the mail today and will flip through them later, dreaming of pretty new clothes for motivation. A home mani, a little time with my girls and hubs will chase the clouds away I'm sure. We'll put the youngest one on the bus at 7:30 and then head to the hospital for my 8:30 curtain call, surgery at 10:30, dancing down the halls by 3pm? Here's hoping. You guys have been a lovely source of support, thank you. See you on the slim side!

Hi everyone. SO wish I had thought of a massage and facial, what a great idea. Laundry is done, house is vacuumed, food shopping is done. I am finishing (OK, starting) a report for work that I will probably finish tonight after everyone has gone to bed. Headache from the liquids only today, punishment for what I ate yesterday after getting the final all-clear from the surgeon (no two week prep diet, just day before for this program, but I have been living on photos of food and sunbeams for a week trying to stay at goal) I've been doing yogurt for Breakfast, shake for lunch, small meal for dinner for 3 weeks, so I didn't think all liquids today would be bad, but yesterday's food funeral and today's anxiety are a smack in the head. One moment of second thoughts today, first time in the whole 6 month process, but reasonable I guess, and fleeting. I got a few summer clothing catalogues in the mail today and will flip through them later, dreaming of pretty new clothes for motivation. A home mani, a little time with my girls and hubs will chase the clouds away I'm sure. We'll put the youngest one on the bus at 7:30 and then head to the hospital for my 8:30 curtain call, surgery at 10:30, dancing down the halls by 3pm? Here's hoping. You guys have been a lovely source of support, thank you. See you on the slim side!

@@Carmen606, how are you doing?

@@tee1463, you and me both, Tee! We got this.

Hi everyone. SO wish I had thought of a massage and facial, what a great idea. Laundry is done, house is vacuumed, food shopping is done. I am finishing (OK, starting) a report for work that I will probably finish tonight after everyone has gone to bed. Headache from the liquids only today, punishment for what I ate yesterday after getting the final all-clear from the surgeon (no two week prep diet, just day before for this program, but I have been living on photos of food and sunbeams for a week trying to stay at goal) I've been doing yogurt for Breakfast, shake for lunch, small meal for dinner for 3 weeks, so I didn't think all liquids today would be bad, but yesterday's food funeral and today's anxiety are a smack in the head. One moment of second thoughts today, first time in the whole 6 month process, but reasonable I guess, and fleeting. I got a few summer clothing catalogues in the mail today and will flip through them later, dreaming of pretty new clothes for motivation. A home mani, a little time with my girls and hubs will chase the clouds away I'm sure. We'll put the youngest one on the bus at 7:30 and then head to the hospital for my 8:30 curtain call, surgery at 10:30, dancing down the halls by 3pm? Here's hoping. You guys have been a lovely source of support, thank you. See you on the slim side!

Hi everyone. SO wish I had thought of a massage and facial, what a great idea. Laundry is done, house is vacuumed, food shopping is done. I am finishing (OK, starting) a report for work that I will probably finish tonight after everyone has gone to bed. Headache from the liquids only today, punishment for what I ate yesterday after getting the final all-clear from the surgeon (no two week prep diet, just day before for this program, but I have been living on photos of food and sunbeams for a week trying to stay at goal) I've been doing yogurt for Breakfast, shake for lunch, small meal for dinner for 3 weeks, so I didn't think all liquids today would be bad, but yesterday's food funeral and today's anxiety are a smack in the head. One moment of second thoughts today, first time in the whole 6 month process, but reasonable I guess, and fleeting. I got a few summer clothing catalogues in the mail today and will flip through them later, dreaming of pretty new clothes for motivation. A home mani, a little time with my girls and hubs will chase the clouds away I'm sure. We'll put the youngest one on the bus at 7:30 and then head to the hospital for my 8:30 curtain call, surgery at 10:30, dancing down the halls by 3pm? Here's hoping. You guys have been a lovely source of support, thank you. See you on the slim side!

I'm scheduled for April 1! April fools Day? Yikes. Here's hoping my surgeon isn't a prankster and rearranges things so that my arm flies up every time I burp or something.

Hi everyone. SO wish I had thought of a massage and facial, what a great idea. Laundry is done, house is vacuumed, food shopping is done. I am finishing (OK, starting) a report for work that I will probably finish tonight after everyone has gone to bed. Headache from the liquids only today, punishment for what I ate yesterday after getting the final all-clear from the surgeon (no two week prep diet, just day before for this program, but I have been living on photos of food and sunbeams for a week trying to stay at goal) I've been doing yogurt for Breakfast, shake for lunch, small meal for dinner for 3 weeks, so I didn't think all liquids today would be bad, but yesterday's food funeral and today's anxiety are a smack in the head. One moment of second thoughts today, first time in the whole 6 month process, but reasonable I guess, and fleeting. I got a few summer clothing catalogues in the mail today and will flip through them later, dreaming of pretty new clothes for motivation. A home mani, a little time with my girls and hubs will chase the clouds away I'm sure. We'll put the youngest one on the bus at 7:30 and then head to the hospital for my 8:30 curtain call, surgery at 10:30, dancing down the halls by 3pm? Here's hoping. You guys have been a lovely source of support, thank you. See you on the slim side!

@@Carmen606, how are you doing?

@@tee1463, you and me both, Tee! We got this.

Hi everyone. SO wish I had thought of a massage and facial, what a great idea. Laundry is done, house is vacuumed, food shopping is done. I am finishing (OK, starting) a report for work that I will probably finish tonight after everyone has gone to bed. Headache from the liquids only today, punishment for what I ate yesterday after getting the final all-clear from the surgeon (no two week prep diet, just day before for this program, but I have been living on photos of food and sunbeams for a week trying to stay at goal) I've been doing yogurt for Breakfast, shake for lunch, small meal for dinner for 3 weeks, so I didn't think all liquids today would be bad, but yesterday's food funeral and today's anxiety are a smack in the head. One moment of second thoughts today, first time in the whole 6 month process, but reasonable I guess, and fleeting. I got a few summer clothing catalogues in the mail today and will flip through them later, dreaming of pretty new clothes for motivation. A home mani, a little time with my girls and hubs will chase the clouds away I'm sure. We'll put the youngest one on the bus at 7:30 and then head to the hospital for my 8:30 curtain call, surgery at 10:30, dancing down the halls by 3pm? Here's hoping. You guys have been a lovely source of support, thank you. See you on the slim side!

Hi...this is my first post and tomorrow is my surgery date too...i feel so unprepared and even tho it's been a long process, it feels like i just started it....i'm soooo excited and sooo nervous too!...i wish everyone here the love, luck, and peace we all need on this journey and hope to speak soon.
Tee

I dare say that the majority of us have done the same.

I understand what your saying to a degree but it can be much harder on the other side. I didn't cheat but I had issues with Water it's not easy in the beginning for a lot of people and Protein can be an issue too. I can understand and relate to most of the post with people feeling frustrated especially in the beginning weeks. Just Reading that someone is having issues with Fluid and actually understanding what that's like is two different things. When you can only sip the smallest sips yet you have recommended amounts and pressure to not get dehydrated and end up back in the hospital it can be beyond stressful. You can research all you want but you have no clue how you personally will be affected by the recovery process. Protein can be another frustrating issue because you can love your Protein Drink during pre-op and after surgery your sleeve hates it and it makes you sick. Again most of us have protein recommendations we are trying to meet so when that happens you are stuck trying to find one that agrees with your new stomach but you can barley drink that can take a toll a person mentally and physically. So the "suck it up buttercup" Moto isn't going to work when your puking your guts out and becoming dehydrated in the process. As far as pre-op your talking about people who are use to eating way more than they should (Usually) so you knock the calories down to 1/4 of what's been "normal" for them. It's not easy either. Also who says they aren't "working" at it? You can be working your hardest and still be frustrated all to hell so this should be a safe place to come for advice. A lot of people are here because they are working hard and they feel discouraged at times. Maybe they just need some encouragement and validation that they are not alone. No one said it would be easy just hope you don't have any of these issues along the way. You may want to wait until you've actually walked the walk to pass any judgment or rant about something you really have never experienced because to us post -op this sounds ridiculous and your judgment calls are invalid. I hope you don't have any issues .Only time will tell.

Holy judgmental lol. Congrats on your success, first of all. But I can't help but think the rant part of this post was completely pointless and inappropriate. Maybe the people who come here and post about their struggles and failures don't have a strong support system at home to talk to. Maybe they were under the impression that this was a safe and supportive place to come to discuss the hard times. Maybe they are feeling alone in this journey and just want to connect with someone and feel like they're not alone. Why do so many people on this forum have to knock other people down rather than lift them up?
I hate Protein shakes. 90% of them taste like crap. Does having that opinion and coming here to ask for advice on others to try, make me not love myself and want to succeed? No. And I don't even know how you arrived at that conclusion. Until you have seen one of these posters truly fail at losing or maintaining post-op, you have no right to assume they will fail.
I make mistakes and I will likely make mistakes after I've had surgery. But that doesn't mean I don't love myself or that I want to fail. I'm human. We all are. We all have strengths and weaknesses. I want to see everyone succeed with this surgery. I wish this forum could be a safe place to come and vent, rant, cry, share accomplishments and seek advice. Not be torn apart. Sometimes i think that maybe this isn't the right place for me. Most people are supportive and understanding but there are a few holier than thou types who are like a dark cloud on certain threads. And this post makes me believe that you're joining that club.
I guess I had a rant of my own.

Me too! Bring it on!!