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I do not have a surgery date yet but hoping for January. Tomorrow I have my last appointment for my 3 month plan I had to follow for my insurance and my information will be submitted to my insurance. I really hope I get approved with no problems and quick I am very ready for a change. I have also been trying the Protein Shakes for Breakfast only (baby steps), I gave up my Dr . pepper cold turkey and that was very hard 2 months without out. I have my kids and husband as my support system, and as much as I love them and am thankful I feel like sometimes they just don't get it, they have no weight issues, I am very happy that I have found this group. ????

i didn't tell, and i'm getting sleeved tomorrow. i told them i needed surgery, and took one week off and then will be working from home for 3 weeks afterward. i may tell people afterwards, i'm not sure, but i didn't want to hear anything at all that would bring up any negative emotions (anger, fear, doubt, etc) plus i just wasn't in the mood to explain over and over again.
afterwards, i have a feeling i may become an advocate and broadcast it to the world... but for now, nope.

Welcome. I totally agree with everyone, even though I haven't gotten the "easy way out" mantra thrown at me. However I sometimes criticize myself for not being able to loose weight the ""normal" way. Giving my son a life with a healthy mother is what I've decided to choose and I think my turning point was when my weight continued to tip the scale and several health issues began to stack against me. Two years ago when I found out I had hypertension should have been the wake up call, but with sleep apnea and diabetes side by side, the wake up call became a bullhorn tearing out my eardrums. So here I am, proud and ready that I've made the decision to become healthy for me and no one else...so I guess that is the easy way out for me, and the hard part will follow !

Hello, I am new to this, but I am glad I found this group. A little about myself, I have been struggling with my weight since high school. I am 36 years old I have 3 beautiful girls, ages 19,12 and 20 months old. My breaking point happened when I became pregnant (birth control failed) I was already unhealthy and having several issues. My worse nightmare came true, my health issues made me go into early labor, my daughter was born at six months weighing 1lb 11oz. She is my miracle baby and is doing wonderful I have truly been blessed????. After seeing my baby fight for her life in the NICU the guilt kicked in and has not left me I blame myself for putting her through so much.
Since then I have gained more weight and been on so many diets, I recently found out my insurance will cover weight loss surgery, but I needed to complete 3 months of different appointments. Well next week I have 2 appointments left and then they can send everything to my insurance. I really hope I get approved, I want to live and see my gets grow.
I really haven't told anybody but my close family because the one so call friend of mine thinks that I am taking the easy way out. I have done my research and know that this is nothing easy. With that being said I have kept to myself a lot lately. I do not talk to anybody but my family.
I am nervous but I know I need this. I need a change in my life. I am so ready wish I could have the surgery tomorrow lol.

Thank you and you are so right if I am not healthy I can not take care of my family.

???? My friend is also overweight but does not have all the health issues I have we have been on diets together. In the past 3 years I have spent so much time in the hospital, and that is something I no longer want to do. I want to live for me and my girls. I have pain everyday, I know if I don't do something about it I will not be with my kids for a long time. I have the support of my family especially my oldest daughter, she was not to sure if it was a good idea. So I took her to the seminar and she saw all the benefits I can have she said mom I am her to support you in your journey. She was really worried about death, complications and recovery but after the seminar she was ok with the surgery. I also feel like I shouldn't have to hide that I will be having the surgery, but I don't want to hear from more negative Nancy's. I will tell everybody after I have it. ????

Don't let negative comments deter you from what you know is something you need to do for you! I got the same "easy way out" mess thrown at me from my best friend who has never been morbidly obese or even overweight and I told him that he can't relate even a little to what I feel and why I need this. Told him to research the process and he did. He's very supportive now.
Your health comes first then your family. With out your health in tact you can't take proper care of your family.
God bless you on your journey!!

Congratulations on your sweet little ladies. Sounds like you're a great mom! I'm just getting started here too. :-)

Hello, I am new to this, but I am glad I found this group. A little about myself, I have been struggling with my weight since high school. I am 36 years old I have 3 beautiful girls, ages 19,12 and 20 months old. My breaking point happened when I became pregnant (birth control failed) I was already unhealthy and having several issues. My worse nightmare came true, my health issues made me go into early labor, my daughter was born at six months weighing 1lb 11oz. She is my miracle baby and is doing wonderful I have truly been blessed????. After seeing my baby fight for her life in the NICU the guilt kicked in and has not left me I blame myself for putting her through so much.
Since then I have gained more weight and been on so many diets, I recently found out my insurance will cover weight loss surgery, but I needed to complete 3 months of different appointments. Well next week I have 2 appointments left and then they can send everything to my insurance. I really hope I get approved, I want to live and see my gets grow.
I really haven't told anybody but my close family because the one so call friend of mine thinks that I am taking the easy way out. I have done my research and know that this is nothing easy. With that being said I have kept to myself a lot lately. I do not talk to anybody but my family.
I am nervous but I know I need this. I need a change in my life. I am so ready wish I could have the surgery tomorrow lol.

Thank you so much ????

I think you have one of the best reasons I've heard for wanting/needing this surgery and think you should be proud of yourself for having the courage to do what it takes to make sure you are there for your family.
The "easy way out" comments will probably always come and they always suck to hear because people just don't understand and they certainly don't think before they speak. Try to keep in your mind that that the "easy way" probably isn't all that easy, but it is definitely the most statistically successful. Your goal should be to take the safest bet for achieving long term health and wellness because you can't afford to lose that bet due to pride.
No one will come to an obese persons funeral and say "It's a shame they died so young and left their family behind, but at least they didn't take the easy way out. I sure do admire them for that...."
I also think you've come to the right place for support and advice as there are many on here who are tremendously supportive and helpful. If friends and family aren't always understanding, you can always come here and either get encouragement or solid advice when it's needed.