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I went to dr Ponce and found the care better than I would have gotten in my hometown. The flight sucked. For that reason as well as his other health issues, my husband is going to dr Kim in Dallas. Because he has a hernia and medical insurance will cover fixing that, he can have the sleeve done at the same time for Tijuana prices.
That said, if I were doing it over, I would go right back to dr Ponce, dr oscar, and trish

I don't hate - but I don't 'forgive' easily either, if forgiving means letting you put me in a position where you can do it again.. I just kind of relegate them to the irrelevant list. I'll still interact and be polite, and help you if I can - but I assume that if you've done it once you'll do it again... so, for example, if you don't pay me back the $20 I loaned you, I can't loan you any more money. I'm not mad.. just not stupid.
On the other hand.. I forgive my husband for forgetting stuff all the time, but I try to avoid giving him important things to remember - like picking the kids up or dropping off the rent check... 'cause he forgets.

I don't hate - but I don't 'forgive' easily either, if forgiving means letting you put me in a position where you can do it again.. I just kind of relegate them to the irrelevant list. I'll still interact and be polite, and help you if I can - but I assume that if you've done it once you'll do it again... so, for example, if you don't pay me back the $20 I loaned you, I can't loan you any more money. I'm not mad.. just not stupid.
On the other hand.. I forgive my husband for forgetting stuff all the time, but I try to avoid giving him important things to remember - like picking the kids up or dropping off the rent check... 'cause he forgets.

I don't hate - but I don't 'forgive' easily either, if forgiving means letting you put me in a position where you can do it again.. I just kind of relegate them to the irrelevant list. I'll still interact and be polite, and help you if I can - but I assume that if you've done it once you'll do it again... so, for example, if you don't pay me back the $20 I loaned you, I can't loan you any more money. I'm not mad.. just not stupid.
On the other hand.. I forgive my husband for forgetting stuff all the time, but I try to avoid giving him important things to remember - like picking the kids up or dropping off the rent check... 'cause he forgets.

1. Trouble wiping - must loose weight!
2. Coworker had sleeve - very successful.
3. Research, research, research on physiological and psychological effect of sleeve on my children vs. overweight mom.
4. My body hurt.
5. I had lost over 200 pounds, total, and gained 250, total... I wanted a more permanent solution, and the research indicated the sleeve was it.

I've slipped the idea of surgery around my husband a few times a month for the last 8 months... he's strongly considering it for next March. It's whatever to me though -I just want him to be happy and healthy.

Make sure you are taking your vitamins! Deficiencies cause cravings for really unhealthy stuff, too. And 8 months out - sometimes that one day of 1000+ calories is followed by a 3 or 4 pound loss for me.

If you are taking Latuda, be aware that the sleeve will alter your ability to eat that 350 calorie meal and therefore may knock your meds off balance.. otherwise, best of luck. My only regret is that I didn't get it sooner.

My boyfriend and I are in our mid-sixties. We had both been thrown away twice by the time we met nine years ago. I was short and round, he is tall and thin, but smokes. The one thing we appreciate most about each other is that neither one of us has asked the other to change. We realize that health and habit changes are very personal decisions.
To comment on food as foreplay: It is at our house, too, but in a healthy way. He is from Malta and has crazy Mediterranean cooking skills. It did not take him long to figure out that my favorite aphrodesiac is the smell of onions and garlic cooking. A man who cooks is very sexy.
We make adjustments now to compensate for the change in my nutrition requirements. If he makes spagetti and meatballs, I pass on the Pasta and have meatballs with extra cheese. He makes homemade breads and eats some every day. I might have one thin slice when it first come out of the oven, but bread has a tendancy to sit in my new stomach like playdough. So, if he has a Peanut Butter sandwich, I might have Peanut Butter on a spoon.
pizza was one of my favorite foods before. Now he just takes one of those big giant mushrooms and bakes my favorite sauce and toppings on that. It is sexy to me that he is considerate of my dietary needs and goes out of his way to make what I can eat as delicious as possible. My dear beloved ice cream has been replaced with ricotta and Greek yogurt blended with vanilla and some sweetener. It has way fewer carbs and helps meet my Protein requirements.
Our day still revolves around the kitchen and we still enjoy eating together very much. I eat anything I want, but what I want has changed. You don't have to match your mate bite for bite to enjoy a meal together. We accept each other "as is" and don't apply any pressure to change anything.

We all know from experience. No amount of begging, bribing, nagging, or shaming will get anybody to do anything until they are damn good and ready to do it. Lead by example, and hope he follows suit.
I take this approach with my adult kids, who are both overweight. I don't even mention it. They've seen both their dad and I struggle with weight issues their whole lives, as they have too. And just like mom and dad, they've lost weight, and put it back on again several times.
Now they see mom and dad thin and eating healthier and leading by example. Sure, we've both had surgery, but they know that's an option for them down the road if they feel the need.
My daughter recently started working out again,and told me I was her inspiration. Best feeling in the world

Don't lose any sleep over it. They are just making sure you don't have bulimia or some other issue like that. I don't even think they deny someone who has unrealistic expectations regarding the surgery. Lord knows, I've seen plenty of people on this site who think the weight is going to magically fall off.

Best of luck to you in your journey! My husband was a type II diabetic on insulin, metformin, victoza, etc. We both had sleeve surgery in North Dallas with Dr. Jayaseelan about a year ago. He hasn't had a single insulin injection since we left the hospital. He hasn't taken any metformin or victoza since the hospital, either. He's off all blood pressure meds and cholesterol meds he was on. He no longer has to get steroid or cortisone injections into his spine like he was getting every 6 weeks. He's lost 102 pounds, reached and passed his goal weight, and is healthier than ever.

As my topic title says, I'm new here. So I'll share a bit about me here and in my profile.
I'm 5'7, weigh 282, and have diabetes, high triglycerides, sleep apena, and joint pain. I just spent three days in the hospital with metabolic acidosis, possibly caused by the metformin or trulucity I was on. The hospital doctor took me off those diabetes drugs, and put me on insulin until I can see my PCP.
I have been having trouble with my blood sugar for the last couple days, it's been above 250 and even the insulin didn't bring it down very fast (I'm on a fast-acting one, but it still took several hours - and my sugar was 150 this morning). A friend said she'd had a gastric sleeve done, and it was the best thing she ever did.
So, here I am. I've got a consultation with Dr Kim in Colleyville, Tx in a couple weeks, and I'm here to get as much information as I can about the surgeries, risks, aftercare, precare, and everything else.
I've always been fat, even as a child I was larger than average. This has turned into full on obesity here as an adult. I sucessfully lost 70 pounds with weight watchers, but gained it all back due to depression/bipolar disorder, psych drugs, and not eating right. I have been unsuccessful at losing weight since, despite diet and some exercise. I am mentally stable now, have been on maintance mode with my drugs for several years now.
I will be trawling through threads, reading as much as I can, and learning learning learning as much I can.
My husband is VERY skeptical. I said I was thinking of WLS, and he said flat out no. But, he's going to see Dr Kim (or one of his doctors, I don't know which actually) with me, and may be able to be convinced. If it's the right thing for me to do.
I don't want to lose weight and "be skinny" as much as control my diseases better, even if I still need medications after surgery. The weight loss is, to my way of thinking, a nice potential side effect.

I saw my surgeons assistant first 6 weeks, and like you, wasn't happy with the treatment plan he was giving me (complications from GERD), and a couple of other things I didn't agree with ( one being I hadn't actually seen my surgeon since surgery) so I made the decision to also cut ties and be seen by my primary from there on out. I feel it hasn't hindered my health or success at all. WE are THEIR customers. If we aren't happy with the service given, then it is our RIGHT to go elsewhere. As long as health care in this country is for profit, you're darn right I'm gonna go where I feel I'm getting the best care for my money.
In other words, I COMPLETELY agree with you taking control of your own health care and going elsewhere.

Depending on "who, what, where, why", I may forgive, but I NEVER forget. There are so many variables as to circumstances, so I don't think there is a defined answer; only what feels best for you with that particular person.
Though I have a deep capacity to understand someones background, and what may drive them to do and say the things they do, it doesn't mean that I have to stick around a toxic environment. I can understand; maybe have a little compassion. But that doesn't mean that I need to be around it. It all depends who the person is to you; were they in a bad place for a period of time, or is this simply the way they are? You have to trust your gut and perception.
As the old saying goes.... "Hurt me once, shame on you. Hurt me twice, shame on me".

Stretchy dresses are easy to hem and forgive 20 pounds of loss... and I hesitate to suggest that any grown woman shop girls clothing, but the fact is some of those styles are much more mature than you'd think and many of the jeans are identical - but shorter and priced a helluvalot cheaper.

I don't hate - but I don't 'forgive' easily either, if forgiving means letting you put me in a position where you can do it again.. I just kind of relegate them to the irrelevant list. I'll still interact and be polite, and help you if I can - but I assume that if you've done it once you'll do it again... so, for example, if you don't pay me back the $20 I loaned you, I can't loan you any more money. I'm not mad.. just not stupid.
On the other hand.. I forgive my husband for forgetting stuff all the time, but I try to avoid giving him important things to remember - like picking the kids up or dropping off the rent check... 'cause he forgets.

I love traveling more than anything, and I was on a family cruise to Alaska when I realized that I spent most of my time in my room because I was too tired and uncomfortable to leave the ship. It hit me that the chances of me losing all the weight I needed to was nearly impossible since I had access to expensive weight loss camps and programs and it had made little difference. I'm only 26 and that's not how I wanted the rest of my life to be. I started researching WLS and was thrilled when I found out about the sleeve. A little more than a month later I had surgery.

I've kind of skipped through this thread - but wanted to share some of the things I don't miss about being bigger...
1. I don't have to wonder if a chair will hold me.
2. I can sit anywhere in a restaurant.
3. I can shop in just about any store (size 16.. a few stores don't carry that).
4. I can wear more stylish shoes, even after MS diagnosis, because my feet don't hurt.
5. I'm rarely hot, and even when I am,
6. I don't sweat 1/10th as much.
Things I do miss:
1. I've lost my butt padding. Sitting gets very uncomfortable, very fast.
2. I have to shop for clothes, both because I am no longer what size I am and because stretchy and elastic covers many more sizes than buttons and zippers... and because I have the capability to 'look cute' so I feel compelled to put the effort in.

1. Trouble wiping - must loose weight!
2. Coworker had sleeve - very successful.
3. Research, research, research on physiological and psychological effect of sleeve on my children vs. overweight mom.
4. My body hurt.
5. I had lost over 200 pounds, total, and gained 250, total... I wanted a more permanent solution, and the research indicated the sleeve was it.

1. Trouble wiping - must loose weight!
2. Coworker had sleeve - very successful.
3. Research, research, research on physiological and psychological effect of sleeve on my children vs. overweight mom.
4. My body hurt.
5. I had lost over 200 pounds, total, and gained 250, total... I wanted a more permanent solution, and the research indicated the sleeve was it.

1. Trouble wiping - must loose weight!
2. Coworker had sleeve - very successful.
3. Research, research, research on physiological and psychological effect of sleeve on my children vs. overweight mom.
4. My body hurt.
5. I had lost over 200 pounds, total, and gained 250, total... I wanted a more permanent solution, and the research indicated the sleeve was it.

1. Trouble wiping - must loose weight!
2. Coworker had sleeve - very successful.
3. Research, research, research on physiological and psychological effect of sleeve on my children vs. overweight mom.
4. My body hurt.
5. I had lost over 200 pounds, total, and gained 250, total... I wanted a more permanent solution, and the research indicated the sleeve was it.

1. Trouble wiping - must loose weight!
2. Coworker had sleeve - very successful.
3. Research, research, research on physiological and psychological effect of sleeve on my children vs. overweight mom.
4. My body hurt.
5. I had lost over 200 pounds, total, and gained 250, total... I wanted a more permanent solution, and the research indicated the sleeve was it.

Yes. Prior to surgery, Rocker Bottom shoes (like the skechers, but they're not the only ones) + Ibuprofen more than once per day. Post surgery (and 100# weight loss), I can wear whatever shoes I want. There are still mornings my feet hurt when I hit the floor, but if I wear the splints at night, they don't.
ETA: I've gone from a 9.5 W to a 7.5 W or an 8 M