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Because I am so far out I stopped tracking but you gave me some sound information. I will make an appointment with my NUT and run this down with them. I really need to make changes and stop thinking I can do this on my own. To be honest I have been concentrating on my other health issues and not focusing on this. Thanks again.

I didnt tell anyone but my significant other and 2 close friends who already the surgery. It is none of their business. I was not working at the time so I didnt have to explain there. I have shared with my overweight friends and they are happy for me. Now people just congratulate me on the weight loss, some I tell some I dont and those I do think its wonderful and just ask questions. At the end of the day you choose who you tell and you choose to either receive or recyle their response

I didnt tell anyone but my significant other and 2 close friends who already the surgery. It is none of their business. I was not working at the time so I didnt have to explain there. I have shared with my overweight friends and they are happy for me. Now people just congratulate me on the weight loss, some I tell some I dont and those I do think its wonderful and just ask questions. At the end of the day you choose who you tell and you choose to either receive or recyle their response

When I had my surgery I only told my significant other and 2 close friends (who had the surgery), why? Because this was a very personal decision and I needed to get a grasp of it on my own. I did not feel the need to explain my decision or to hear others opinions when their opinion and $2 can get me a cup of coffee. I joined this site and it helped me speak more freely about it. I am almost 2 years out and about 6 months in I told my family and a year in I was more open about it. Now I speak freely but its a work in progress. Others tell right away, and that's ok, again its a personal decision but the support you should really need is from your family and groups like this who know what its like. Everyone else can go fly kites, because everyone will have their own opinions, insecurities and they will push them on you. Push that aside and push through. I do not know your medical condition but let me tell you it will improve, your life will improve and at the end if you follow the Doctors orders you will be amazed at the life change. Then people will be eager to know what you did and how. Until then, focus on you. Love and prayers your way, you will be just fine.

See what your surgeon says, I wouldnt do it because its too taxing on the body and you've already put it through a trauma. On top of that, if something happens to you, you are across the country from your doctor who knows you and your history. Last but not least, being away from home will tempt you to eat/drink things that will harm you. A month in I was still on liquid.
Best of luck to you.

When I had my surgery I only told my significant other and 2 close friends (who had the surgery), why? Because this was a very personal decision and I needed to get a grasp of it on my own. I did not feel the need to explain my decision or to hear others opinions when their opinion and $2 can get me a cup of coffee. I joined this site and it helped me speak more freely about it. I am almost 2 years out and about 6 months in I told my family and a year in I was more open about it. Now I speak freely but its a work in progress. Others tell right away, and that's ok, again its a personal decision but the support you should really need is from your family and groups like this who know what its like. Everyone else can go fly kites, because everyone will have their own opinions, insecurities and they will push them on you. Push that aside and push through. I do not know your medical condition but let me tell you it will improve, your life will improve and at the end if you follow the Doctors orders you will be amazed at the life change. Then people will be eager to know what you did and how. Until then, focus on you. Love and prayers your way, you will be just fine.

When I had my surgery I only told my significant other and 2 close friends (who had the surgery), why? Because this was a very personal decision and I needed to get a grasp of it on my own. I did not feel the need to explain my decision or to hear others opinions when their opinion and $2 can get me a cup of coffee. I joined this site and it helped me speak more freely about it. I am almost 2 years out and about 6 months in I told my family and a year in I was more open about it. Now I speak freely but its a work in progress. Others tell right away, and that's ok, again its a personal decision but the support you should really need is from your family and groups like this who know what its like. Everyone else can go fly kites, because everyone will have their own opinions, insecurities and they will push them on you. Push that aside and push through. I do not know your medical condition but let me tell you it will improve, your life will improve and at the end if you follow the Doctors orders you will be amazed at the life change. Then people will be eager to know what you did and how. Until then, focus on you. Love and prayers your way, you will be just fine.

When I had my surgery I only told my significant other and 2 close friends (who had the surgery), why? Because this was a very personal decision and I needed to get a grasp of it on my own. I did not feel the need to explain my decision or to hear others opinions when their opinion and $2 can get me a cup of coffee. I joined this site and it helped me speak more freely about it. I am almost 2 years out and about 6 months in I told my family and a year in I was more open about it. Now I speak freely but its a work in progress. Others tell right away, and that's ok, again its a personal decision but the support you should really need is from your family and groups like this who know what its like. Everyone else can go fly kites, because everyone will have their own opinions, insecurities and they will push them on you. Push that aside and push through. I do not know your medical condition but let me tell you it will improve, your life will improve and at the end if you follow the Doctors orders you will be amazed at the life change. Then people will be eager to know what you did and how. Until then, focus on you. Love and prayers your way, you will be just fine.

When I had my surgery I only told my significant other and 2 close friends (who had the surgery), why? Because this was a very personal decision and I needed to get a grasp of it on my own. I did not feel the need to explain my decision or to hear others opinions when their opinion and $2 can get me a cup of coffee. I joined this site and it helped me speak more freely about it. I am almost 2 years out and about 6 months in I told my family and a year in I was more open about it. Now I speak freely but its a work in progress. Others tell right away, and that's ok, again its a personal decision but the support you should really need is from your family and groups like this who know what its like. Everyone else can go fly kites, because everyone will have their own opinions, insecurities and they will push them on you. Push that aside and push through. I do not know your medical condition but let me tell you it will improve, your life will improve and at the end if you follow the Doctors orders you will be amazed at the life change. Then people will be eager to know what you did and how. Until then, focus on you. Love and prayers your way, you will be just fine.

When I had my surgery I only told my significant other and 2 close friends (who had the surgery), why? Because this was a very personal decision and I needed to get a grasp of it on my own. I did not feel the need to explain my decision or to hear others opinions when their opinion and $2 can get me a cup of coffee. I joined this site and it helped me speak more freely about it. I am almost 2 years out and about 6 months in I told my family and a year in I was more open about it. Now I speak freely but its a work in progress. Others tell right away, and that's ok, again its a personal decision but the support you should really need is from your family and groups like this who know what its like. Everyone else can go fly kites, because everyone will have their own opinions, insecurities and they will push them on you. Push that aside and push through. I do not know your medical condition but let me tell you it will improve, your life will improve and at the end if you follow the Doctors orders you will be amazed at the life change. Then people will be eager to know what you did and how. Until then, focus on you. Love and prayers your way, you will be just fine.

See what your surgeon says, I wouldnt do it because its too taxing on the body and you've already put it through a trauma. On top of that, if something happens to you, you are across the country from your doctor who knows you and your history. Last but not least, being away from home will tempt you to eat/drink things that will harm you. A month in I was still on liquid.
Best of luck to you.

When I had my surgery I only told my significant other and 2 close friends (who had the surgery), why? Because this was a very personal decision and I needed to get a grasp of it on my own. I did not feel the need to explain my decision or to hear others opinions when their opinion and $2 can get me a cup of coffee. I joined this site and it helped me speak more freely about it. I am almost 2 years out and about 6 months in I told my family and a year in I was more open about it. Now I speak freely but its a work in progress. Others tell right away, and that's ok, again its a personal decision but the support you should really need is from your family and groups like this who know what its like. Everyone else can go fly kites, because everyone will have their own opinions, insecurities and they will push them on you. Push that aside and push through. I do not know your medical condition but let me tell you it will improve, your life will improve and at the end if you follow the Doctors orders you will be amazed at the life change. Then people will be eager to know what you did and how. Until then, focus on you. Love and prayers your way, you will be just fine.

Regarding exercise, it doesn't need to be a long, grueling workout. Just go for daily walks, and start small and gradually lengthen them.
Regarding the alcohol, I'd suggest seeking out a support group or counselor.

I agree with Babbs, I know at almost 5 months I has lost 45 lbs (I checked my tracker on here) so around 3 months I would guess around 30-35 as well.
A lot of factors to consider, also I became severely anemic so I do not really exercise (which I want to change) so it was slow and steady for me and looking back, It worked just fine for me. I am extremely happy.
Best of luck to you, you will be fantastic just be prepared for the bumps but the reward is worth it and changing your eating lifestyle is also worth it.

I personally think if surgery can be avoided, avoid it. You have done amazingly well on your own. I would continue to try and do that. I can live with my decision because I lost weight on my own once and due to a personal tragedy and a trauma I gained it all back plus more. After that nothing was working. I found as I got older it was harder. Even though I do not regret my decision, the joy of eating goes out the window. Basically you eat to survive, which is alright but sometimes I wish I could have more that 4 bites.
It is something to think about, also this surgery made me severely anemic and it made existing conditions a little worse. I just have to deal with it.
Best of luck with whatever you decide. At the end of the day, only you have to deal with you.
God bless.

It happened to me and I didn't go through it the first time I tried which was like 8 years ago. Then two years ago i said eff him and did it anyway. He was not supportive and did not take me to the surgery. He came to see me at the hospital and became supportive afterwards. I have been accused of changing, thinking I'm brand new etc. I realized it was his insecurities, not mine. He too likes heavier women but if he loves ME he needs to deal with it. He has, but it spikes every now and then ... the resentment of the weight loss but I do not care, figure it out buttercup! At the end of the day I will be alright.

You MUST tell her so they can tailor your workout specifically for you. If you do not you are doing yourself an extreme disservice and could possibly harm yourself.

I'm a saggy mess, my thighs look like wrinkled elephant trunks. I am almost at my goal weight and its bad BUT, I rather be in this skin than the skin almost 100 lbs ago. I have a IDGAF attitude throw on my swimsuit and live my life. I do need surgery but i don't care enough at this point for that trauma. I'm happy to not have the weight of a 15 year old kid strapped to my back.
I am smaller now that I was in 6th grade and I look FABULOUS in clothes, will I be modeling for Victoria Secret? Na, but its okay.
=)

You MUST tell her so they can tailor your workout specifically for you. If you do not you are doing yourself an extreme disservice and could possibly harm yourself.

I agree with Babbs, I know at almost 5 months I has lost 45 lbs (I checked my tracker on here) so around 3 months I would guess around 30-35 as well.
A lot of factors to consider, also I became severely anemic so I do not really exercise (which I want to change) so it was slow and steady for me and looking back, It worked just fine for me. I am extremely happy.
Best of luck to you, you will be fantastic just be prepared for the bumps but the reward is worth it and changing your eating lifestyle is also worth it.

I'm a saggy mess, my thighs look like wrinkled elephant trunks. I am almost at my goal weight and its bad BUT, I rather be in this skin than the skin almost 100 lbs ago. I have a IDGAF attitude throw on my swimsuit and live my life. I do need surgery but i don't care enough at this point for that trauma. I'm happy to not have the weight of a 15 year old kid strapped to my back.
I am smaller now that I was in 6th grade and I look FABULOUS in clothes, will I be modeling for Victoria Secret? Na, but its okay.
=)

Love Love Love this post. I wish I felt like you 16 days in but all in all I regret nothing. Keep that sense of humor because the best is yet to come. =)

Love Love Love this post. I wish I felt like you 16 days in but all in all I regret nothing. Keep that sense of humor because the best is yet to come. =)

I'm a saggy mess, my thighs look like wrinkled elephant trunks. I am almost at my goal weight and its bad BUT, I rather be in this skin than the skin almost 100 lbs ago. I have a IDGAF attitude throw on my swimsuit and live my life. I do need surgery but i don't care enough at this point for that trauma. I'm happy to not have the weight of a 15 year old kid strapped to my back.
I am smaller now that I was in 6th grade and I look FABULOUS in clothes, will I be modeling for Victoria Secret? Na, but its okay.
=)

I personally think if surgery can be avoided, avoid it. You have done amazingly well on your own. I would continue to try and do that. I can live with my decision because I lost weight on my own once and due to a personal tragedy and a trauma I gained it all back plus more. After that nothing was working. I found as I got older it was harder. Even though I do not regret my decision, the joy of eating goes out the window. Basically you eat to survive, which is alright but sometimes I wish I could have more that 4 bites.
It is something to think about, also this surgery made me severely anemic and it made existing conditions a little worse. I just have to deal with it.
Best of luck with whatever you decide. At the end of the day, only you have to deal with you.
God bless.