BloomingLotus

I am only a month out, and my loss isn't super noticeable yet but I wonder if I'll feel the same way in the future. You're a very powerful writer.
Whenever a man speaks to me, I assume he wants my skinny friend's phone number. When someone actually expresses interest in me, I'm confused, because who could find fat me attractive? When I'm thinner, will I be angry that I wasn't good enough fat but now I'm worthy of being hit on?
I am in the dating world, and no one outside of this website knows of my surgery (no family, no friends) so navigating dating is scary for me.
I hope I too can find the confidence in myself!

Happy anniversary! Not a single person knows about my surgery other than all the bariatric pal folks! No family, no friends, no coworkers. I am 2 weeks out today and seem to be doing well.
I have my first event where I will be eating with people in a week and a half so I'm going to have to mentally prepare for that. Perhaps just getting over a stomach bug if any comments are made. It IS winter after all.

I also was sleeved by Dr. Schwack at NYU a week ago. I have not had any problems with him at all. For anyone intending to use him though, stay on top of your pre-op requirements for insurance and the office itself. I found that on a few occasions I had to be the one asking what to do next because I wasn't fully informed. Overall, still a very good experience.

I am only a month out, and my loss isn't super noticeable yet but I wonder if I'll feel the same way in the future. You're a very powerful writer.
Whenever a man speaks to me, I assume he wants my skinny friend's phone number. When someone actually expresses interest in me, I'm confused, because who could find fat me attractive? When I'm thinner, will I be angry that I wasn't good enough fat but now I'm worthy of being hit on?
I am in the dating world, and no one outside of this website knows of my surgery (no family, no friends) so navigating dating is scary for me.
I hope I too can find the confidence in myself!

This time last summer I was sitting at the beach with my family and friends discussing the fears/doubts/hopes that we all felt about my decision to undergo VSG that coming September. I could never had imagined then what a wild ride id thrust myself upon and where id be now.
As my one year anniversary approaches (9-8-14) I think of how far I've come as a person, The self-esteem I feel now and the power within myself that I never knew I had is overwhelming. This time last year I had a few goals for myself going into surgery...
1. Don't Die-- I assure you now I didn't!
2. Don't Cheat, Not even once!--I'm human, and somehow then I guess I thought I'd come out perfect after surgery didn't happen.
3. Get To Your Goal Weight.-- My goal weight at the time was 170 and I thought that was good enough as I didn't have any high hopes for myself.
As of today I have lost 96lbs from the 255lb uncomfortable person I was to 159lb person who is comfortable with herself and willing to do more in life, Who puts herself out there and is thriving. It's Amazing to me that I could ever be where I am. And like a lot of others out there, I wish I had given myself this gift sooner!

I went to Cedar Point amusement park over the weekend and I fit into every roller coaster that I tried! Even the little tiny ones. I've been fearful of trying roller coasters for years now! We also met up with family members whom I haven't seen in a couple years and I received many compliments (including the classic "you better not lose any more weight"). I still have about 75 lbs to lose but it was nice to hear. I also walked 28,000 steps that day (my personal best) and my shorts kept slipping down, even with a belt. All in all, a good weekend!

I went the entire process alone. To this day only people from this forum know about my surgery, and I intend to keep it that way. It's very do-able with careful planning ahead of time.
One thing with uber: you have to have an adult check you out of the hospital, and a driver won't be able to do that. I took an uber car home but I had to hire an aide from a visiting nurse-type service as my post op escort. You will need someone to check you out, so keep that in mind.

Today is my surgery anniversary. So glad I made this decision for myself!

I was sleeved on 1/29 and I'm down 22lbs since surgery, so you're doing fantastic in my eyes!!
Overall I'm down 49.4 since my first appointment, and I'm feeling great! My loss is slow, but steady. I stay the same for 5-6 days and then overnight I drop 1.5-2.5lbs and then I'm the same for another 5-6 days.
Keep doing what you're doing because you seem to be on the right track! ????

@@finediva WOW. I can get snarky sometimes and I'd really have to stop myself from making a face and saying "yeah, cancer" and walking away. I suppose it's wrong to lie in church though!
I think most people are so used to everyone oversharing that it's weird when you don't. My mum had some health issues and I went home to see her (out of state) and my boss asked out of genuine concern "is everything ok?" I said "yes, it will be" and left it there and he was kind of staring at me waiting for more information that I just didn't give. I know he only asked because he cared but I didn't feel like sharing.
It makes it uncomfortable to not share when people almost feel entitled to know more (whether genuine or not). I made the decision to tell no one - not a single person outside of this site. No family, no friends, nada. As awkward as it can be, I owe no explanations.
I'm being polite now but I'm sure as I lose more I'll have to watch my level of snark though ???? I'm impressed that you were as nice as you were!

I haven't told a soul about my sleeve. I took a week off from work to "see family out of state."
People are starting to ask about the loss now. I explain that I'm watching what I'm eating and moving more. I thank them for their compliment and then quickly change the subject.
You don't owe anyone any explanations. I know it's uncomfortable to shoot someone down who is expressing concern for you, but you have to do what is best for you!
Good luck!

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@@finediva WOW. I can get snarky sometimes and I'd really have to stop myself from making a face and saying "yeah, cancer" and walking away. I suppose it's wrong to lie in church though!
I think most people are so used to everyone oversharing that it's weird when you don't. My mum had some health issues and I went home to see her (out of state) and my boss asked out of genuine concern "is everything ok?" I said "yes, it will be" and left it there and he was kind of staring at me waiting for more information that I just didn't give. I know he only asked because he cared but I didn't feel like sharing.
It makes it uncomfortable to not share when people almost feel entitled to know more (whether genuine or not). I made the decision to tell no one - not a single person outside of this site. No family, no friends, nada. As awkward as it can be, I owe no explanations.
I'm being polite now but I'm sure as I lose more I'll have to watch my level of snark though ???? I'm impressed that you were as nice as you were!

I haven't told a soul about my sleeve. I took a week off from work to "see family out of state."
People are starting to ask about the loss now. I explain that I'm watching what I'm eating and moving more. I thank them for their compliment and then quickly change the subject.
You don't owe anyone any explanations. I know it's uncomfortable to shoot someone down who is expressing concern for you, but you have to do what is best for you!
Good luck!

I haven't told a soul about my sleeve. I took a week off from work to "see family out of state."
People are starting to ask about the loss now. I explain that I'm watching what I'm eating and moving more. I thank them for their compliment and then quickly change the subject.
You don't owe anyone any explanations. I know it's uncomfortable to shoot someone down who is expressing concern for you, but you have to do what is best for you!
Good luck!

I definitely think of great comebacks after-the-fact.
I have been tempted to reply to the "have you lost weight?" question with "probably as much as you've gained this year" or "have you had a facelift?" But I just smile so far only 2 people were prying and the rest genuinely cared.

I definitely think of great comebacks after-the-fact.
I have been tempted to reply to the "have you lost weight?" question with "probably as much as you've gained this year" or "have you had a facelift?" But I just smile so far only 2 people were prying and the rest genuinely cared.

I definitely think of great comebacks after-the-fact.
I have been tempted to reply to the "have you lost weight?" question with "probably as much as you've gained this year" or "have you had a facelift?" But I just smile so far only 2 people were prying and the rest genuinely cared.

@@finediva WOW. I can get snarky sometimes and I'd really have to stop myself from making a face and saying "yeah, cancer" and walking away. I suppose it's wrong to lie in church though!
I think most people are so used to everyone oversharing that it's weird when you don't. My mum had some health issues and I went home to see her (out of state) and my boss asked out of genuine concern "is everything ok?" I said "yes, it will be" and left it there and he was kind of staring at me waiting for more information that I just didn't give. I know he only asked because he cared but I didn't feel like sharing.
It makes it uncomfortable to not share when people almost feel entitled to know more (whether genuine or not). I made the decision to tell no one - not a single person outside of this site. No family, no friends, nada. As awkward as it can be, I owe no explanations.
I'm being polite now but I'm sure as I lose more I'll have to watch my level of snark though ???? I'm impressed that you were as nice as you were!