Chrystee

I don't see why others need to be so judgmental..

@@Packerfan61964 this is all about supporting each other not judging each other. Instead of calling my morales, values, and character into question words of encouragement not discouragement would have been appreciated. I wish you well on your wls journey!

I didn't share because I didn't want the judgement or others opinions

So now it's a character issue.
S.M.H.

My surgery date is Jan. 15 I am super excited!

I just started the process but all my insurance and employer requires is psych evaluation bmi over 40 center of excellence. My doctor requires 2 classes and some test. Crossing my fingers for a January surgery date

Accidentally bumping my toddler over with my butt! HAH.
I really don't have any other things.. except hopefully not feeling so out of place.. although I really don't. I'm pretty active and everything already. I don't really sweat that bad, cause I work out anyway.. but sweat doesn't always go away!

Great! I start my nutritionist this Friday.. and I have my second information session on Monday. I'm ready!

Had my first Dr. visit in August, I thought I had all my tests done, but I have one more on Thursday, plus my Psych eval was incomplete. seeing the Psych Dr. on Thursday also, I asked the center after all my tests are complete and with them, how long before a date and she said 4 weeks out, so I am hoping for 5 weeks from now, if not then may have to wait till January. best of luck to everyone.

wow.
I can't see the before, but the after is amazing! Congrats!
I'm about 315 and I'd be happy with anything under 200.

wow.
I can't see the before, but the after is amazing! Congrats!
I'm about 315 and I'd be happy with anything under 200.

wow.
I can't see the before, but the after is amazing! Congrats!
I'm about 315 and I'd be happy with anything under 200.

I feel like crying for you!!! You look amazing!!

I feel like crying for you!!! You look amazing!!

Accidentally bumping my toddler over with my butt! HAH.
I really don't have any other things.. except hopefully not feeling so out of place.. although I really don't. I'm pretty active and everything already. I don't really sweat that bad, cause I work out anyway.. but sweat doesn't always go away!

This is true.. but at the same time.. we want cheaper flights! We want to pay $200 round trip.. so I'll take being a little cramped for 3-6ish hours, over having to pay $1,000 for a flight.
I have to agree. I'm really, really sorry you were humiliated, I would have been too, and I'm not saying the person wasn't rude, but how is it easy to approach the subject? Maybe she was trying to save you later embarrassment of someone pitching a fit and saying they are cramped. Its not fun, but hoepfully in the future you will fit with plenty of room! That's what I hope!

But, if I am too big to fit into one seat and encroach upon another passenger's space, it is my responsibility to be pro active, and considerate of other people and consider flying the airlines with larger seats for purchase or by purchasing an additional seat.

Sorry. We will have to agree to disagree. I'm not really into this trend of calling bad behavior "bullying", "fat shaming", etc. I do think there are obvious examples of it, but sometimes people are just ignorant asshats, no label needed.

Hugs!!
The thing is.. most plastic surgeons are dicks! YES, I'm serious. I have friends who have went through med school and talked about how ridiculous the plastic surgeons usually are.. and sometimes the best Doctors have the WORST bedside manner..

I have a new appointment with another plastic surgeon on Dec. 1. I would put my life in his hands no question. I hope he will help me with more then the other guy said he would do without the almighty dollar getting in the way.
There is also a woman surgeon that if he does not work out I will talk to her. Wow this is just as difficult as waiting the 4 years to get the surgery in the first place.
I will keep pushing forward on this. I need this for health reasons or I would not bother. I am not Barbie. I just want to be healthy inside and out.
Thank you all!

You have all been so very kind to me... Thank you all so much. I think it takes a village to raise a child. it takes a forum to make one feel like they can do this no matter what! You guys all rock it!!!! Thank you again!
Jane

You're beautiful no matter what your body looks like, and your doctor is an unprofessional asshole. He's a PLASTIC SURGEON fercryinoutloud - it's his JOB to FIX physical imperfections, not judge them. Apparently none of his other patients have actually needed his service.
All I can say is that I'm sorry his ridiculousness made you feel even worse at a time when you were already overwhelmed, and that I hope you're able to get things settled soon!

@RJ'S/beginning
Well, that was certainly unpleasant and he does sound like a rat bastard. Sorry you had to endure that. One thing I know from years of nursing, some spent in the OR, is that surgeons are the worst in thinking they are God, and Plastic surgeons are at the top of that heap (In my opinion, based on personal experience). They are the reason I don't work in surgery, lol, because they treat the nurses like that every day. Too hard to please, temperamental primadonnas. However, even I know they are not ALL that way.
I just had plastics, and the first consult I went to was pretty similar to yours. They made me pay $150 out of pocket for the consult, and never even billed my insurance. He looked me over and told me what I needed, rather than considering what I wanted. He couldn't wait to get a hold of my abdomen, and told me I could wear a bikini when he was done with me. The biggest issue for me was my legs, though, and he just told me there was nothing he could do for me. Really?? Why do I need a bikini belly if I can't wear one because of my legs? I was really crushed and despondent after that. I really thought I just would forget it. But I kept seeing other people's pictures here, and figured I'd keep looking.
I found a surgeon who said she could do my legs. She didn't even act like it was an issue. I think the first surgeon just didn't want to do anything that might not be a slam dunk perfect outcome. The second surgeon wanted to know what I thought I needed, and truly consulted about a plan. She never promised me a bikini body, (and I'm not asking for one - I'm a 52 year old woman who gave birth to three kids and was 150 pounds overweight for 25 years) and didn't discuss cost in the context of the consultation. Her office billed my insurance for the initial visit, which was paid. So, she was just a much better fit for me, and I decided to go for it. I just had abdominoplasty, butt lift, and brachioplasty six weeks ago, and I'll have my legs and breasts done in a few months. My insurance only covered a portion of it, but that's not the plastic surgeon's fault.
So far, I'm thrilled! I do have a bikini worthy torso and arms! I can't wait to see how my legs and breasts turn out. I only wanted to fit into and look better in clothes, so she surpassed my expectations. I'm sure you will find someone who is a better fit for you, too! You've worked too hard and come too far to let someone like that bring you down. I'd say keep searching until you find someone who treats you right.

Once again it is nice to hear that others struggled with this part of the process. Thank you @@CowgirlJane I will wait until Dec. 1 when I see another one. I know him better and would put my life in his hands. I hope he will take me on! Meanwhile I will work to make myself get a grip on what happened and move on.
I will be seeing my surgeon in a few weeks and will definitely be telling him about it all.
One is three is not good odds hun @@shellyd88 Nut your right. That means no more surgeries as far as the ulcer and leak go. Yes a positive for me!

I cried and was depressed for days after my initial plastics consult. It was awful. I had several more and kind of got over being treated like a side of beef...
By the time I went to Dr Sauceda I knew the drill. My dear friend was horrified..like how could he be so mean? ,He was the kindest of the lot but she didn't know what it was like to be prodded and your skin pulled around and reminded of flaws you didn't know you had.
My heart is breaking for you but I know in the end it is so worth it! ,insurance didn't pay any of mine but I would advise chilling fora awhile.