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Put it in a blender with some fresh fruit, a 1/2 banana, Peanut Butter, chocolate, just about anything you can think of...add 8 ozs of almond milk, skim milk, or just Water, and you will have a high Protein, nutritious smoothie to stat the day.....
In the summer, add ice cubes to thicken and cool......

I told my husband, kids both adults, my close group of girlfriend's five of them total. My husband took it upon himself to tell all of his friends and all of his coworkers. I was and still am upset about it. I didn't want to have to defend my very personal decision and asked him to not discuss it with anyone. Two of his friends have asked him why was I lazy and took the easy way out. That was the reason I didn't feel the need to disclose this information. I am by no means ashamed of my WLS. I just didn't feel the need to tell these people who aren't apart of my support system.

Your Protein goal seems really low. My daily goal is 70 or more. My NUT has me focused on high protein low carb eating. I am having pretty good weight loss. 54 pounds since my pre op liquid diet started the last week of January 2015.

Your Protein goal seems really low. My daily goal is 70 or more. My NUT has me focused on high protein low carb eating. I am having pretty good weight loss. 54 pounds since my pre op liquid diet started the last week of January 2015.

Oh I must apologize that was a poor choice of words. I did not mean to imply any of you that have embarked on this journey is ashamed. I should have reread what I'd written more carefully before posting. I so agree with all of you that this is such a personal choice and one I'm sure we've all made after many hours of thought. It's not an easy step and we all know within ourselves those who are around us who will be supportive and those whom it is best to not say anything to. There's certainly no rights and wrongs about sharing or not sharing our WLS with others. We've made the choice to get healthier and that's the most important thing of all! Good luck everyone.

Just because some people choose not to share does not mean they are ashamed.
Some people are surrounded by toxic, unloving, selfish, mean people. They have already been bullied and belittled for being fat for a long time, and they know this treatment of abuse will continue if they tell about their decision to have weight loss surgery.
Each person circumstances are different and must be respected.
For me, my decision not to tell anyone has nothing to do with being ashamed of my surgery.
It has everything to do with the fact that I am a extremely shy person and I can not to talk to very many people, and do not like too many people talking to me.
Although I am very shy, I have made a lot of improvements through out my life, and continue to try to be more out going.
I just want everyone to know, just because some people choose not to share does not necessarily mean that they are ashamed, but it could be for a number of reasons.
At least we had the surgery. That is the most important thing. Taking control of our lives now — today, so we can have a better future tomorrow.

I told my husband, kids both adults, my close group of girlfriend's five of them total. My husband took it upon himself to tell all of his friends and all of his coworkers. I was and still am upset about it. I didn't want to have to defend my very personal decision and asked him to not discuss it with anyone. Two of his friends have asked him why was I lazy and took the easy way out. That was the reason I didn't feel the need to disclose this information. I am by no means ashamed of my WLS. I just didn't feel the need to tell these people who aren't apart of my support system.

I'm not ashamed (in fact I'm incredibly proud of myself!) but I feel like this is such a private thing for me so I told just a handful of people. There are a couple of friends I wish I hadn't told....

S M H, really hard. Why do people feel the need to ask people such personal questions? Why do people feel they have to share ANYTHING about themselves? Both questions baffle and annoy me, greatly. I told absolutely no one I've had surgery. There was only one reason. It was absolutely no one's business. Including the teenage I am still parenting. From the day he was born I made sure his financial future was secured and have guardianship in place for him. I could leave my house any day and never return, due to mishap. While I hoped and believed I would return to my child, and my adult children, I did not share my decision to have surgery with them. Almost nine months later, it was the best decision I made. I did not have to endure foolish comment and nonsense from anyone, and NO, I didn't need the support. I went after this process like it was my J O B! I prepared to the best of my ability and self cared from day one. I am grateful that I've had minimal complications and my life is SO much better now. Ok, so the mini rant is over. Told no one and never plan to.

Not sure if you were responding to me, but no, it's still the case that I think better brands are usually worth the money, because it's still my opinion, lol. And even when things are manufactured in the same facilities, it still may (or may not) be the same quality. However, as I also stated, I do think some less expensive products are fine. Also, not all products are good for all people.

Sweetie, I would tread carefully on having coffee with an ex. It's a slippery slope. Solve one issue at a time. Finish what is going on with your partner and then move on to the next issue. You don't need to add more onto your plate right now. Take time to get comfortable in your own new skin and enjoy being with yourself. Only then can you truly enjoy being with someone else. I wish you well!

Sometimes its hard to be a human, isn't it, with all our complexities and competing drives. There are days I definitely envy my dog.

I love makeup! I like MAC, Anastasia (for eyebrows) oh just everything!! I get a lot of inspiration from makeup artist on YouTube.

I think quality products help for sure! Particularly with things like foundation and eye shadows. Go to macy's and choose one of the makeup counters where you like the looks of the products and ask for a makeover. This is what they are there to do!
You can access Bare Minerals in Macy's if you are interested in trying it (the foundations are really good) or you can try Mac, Clinique or one of the other brands if you prefer.
The thing is that the makeup artists in there actually work for the cosmetic company and so they are very educated and familiar with the products they are using. In sephora/ulta they work for the store and not the cosmetic line.
One thing I will say is that it is VERY important to invest in good makeup brushes! This makes ALL the difference. Good brushes are not cheap but they last for years and years. Like 10 or 20 years if you care for them properly. Just clean occassionally with a little Shampoo and let air dry.
Good luck, this is something you should definitely do. You are worth it! :)

@@HawaiianTexan there are many reasons why. Sometimes it is as simple as the person who looses the weight changes. They have new interests, maybe working out, actives like that, and have shed their old couch potato and foodie lifestyle. Whereas the partner has not changed and may not want to change. S/he may miss the former life had with the spouse. There may be jealousy issues.
Sometimes people just fall out of love.

I'm truely sorry that I offended you. I never meant to imply that you haven't worked hard. We are all different and each body does not look the same after weight loss. Again I apologize.

My highest weight was 240 lbs after the birth of my daughter. I got down to 213 before I had VSG. Obviously, reconstructive surgery is a personal decision based on many factors, so you may not feel you need it when you hit your goal weight. I'm a very muscular 165 right now - and all that extra skin on my upper and lower abs, my hips - basically my "spare tire" is just hanging off my muscle. I literally have to fold it into my workout clothes or pants. I also avoid form fitting clothes because it shows all of the flaps. With my insurance covering part of the procedure, I decided to go get all of my loose skin taken care of in one full swoop. Although I am very nervous about the procedure and the recovery, the idea of not having my own butt spank me when I run or have my stomach skin fall out of my leggings when I do a jumping jacks sounds like heaven!
But to be honest, it seems a bit harsh to say "only lost 56 lbs". Pounds are pounds and everyone has their own journey to walk. Morbidly obese is morbidly obese and to suggest that I didn't work as hard or had an easier journey than someone else is unfair. I've literally worked my ass off. Weight is not the best gauge of fitness. If it helps to clarify, I went from a size 24 to a size 10 - that's a lot of fat gone and muscle gained.
Just stick to your guns and follow your plan and you'll be at goal soon! Then you'll have some tough decisions to make - but just follow your heart and do what's best for you.

I'm SO looking forward to shopping!!! I'm not a fashion hound or anything but I love shopping.
I'm currently playing around with Gwynnie Bee at http://goo.gl/hvmlhe ... have you seen it? They carry clothes sizes 10-32. You pay a monthly subscription fee, shop around on the site and add clothes to your "closet" and then they ship you clothes -- you keep them as long as you want, then return and they ship you more stuff from your closet. I'm on the "3 out at a time" plan and pay $39 a month to have 3 outfits out at any one time. I'm thinking this will be a great way to have a couple of nice things to wear and as I lose weight, I can just put smaller things in my closet. That way I'm not buying things in sizes I won't be able to wear more than a month or so.
Right now, they're offering your first month free to try them out. They normally ship out in 2-3 days but I got an email saying mine was delayed another 2-3 days so they're crediting me an extra week.
At least it's an option to get some smaller clothes in the closet while you're still losing.

I don't miss a lot about being 80 pounds heavier. I do miss having a wrinkle free neck. I can still sleep on my side, in fact I like to sprawl, so I do that even better.

So on an online forum, how do you know?

Want me to point out the glaring grammatical errors in this post?
Nah... I'm just funning you. I would never do that. It's rude.

Aaaaannnnd I am going to jump in. (I am sure I am going to regret this.)
I am a total grammar queen. Nothing makes me crazier than the wrong your/you're, to/two/too, etc. except maybe text talk. Loose/lose, sale/sell. their/they're/there...GAHHHHHH!!! I don't even allow my kids to use bad grammar/text talk when texting.
That said, when it comes to public forums, I have to put my biases away. I have to realize that I am very fortunate to have had a good education, teachers who forced me to use good grammar and the knowledge to know the difference. Some people are completely ignorant of their errors. It makes me crazy and I do judge them in my head, but I would never do so out loud. To me, that's just mean. I may criticize your thought process and I may criticize your tone and manner of speaking, but I have no right to judge your lack of ability to communicate to my standards.
This is not a college class, this is not a business forum, this is not a a job interview. I care much more about how one treats another being more than I care about the words they use when doing so.
Now if you want to rant about that cursive font, I'm all over that.

<~~~~~~~~tiptoes out quietly.

My surgery was Jan 5th, and I hit my stall last week. I upped my Protein a bit, freaked out a second and moved on. This week I saw some downward movement. I've decided to use each stall as a reflection moment of what has happened over the last few weeks and how happy I am. I know some find it hokey, but it helps me to reframe my goal- to be able to hike without pain again! It's so frustrating because at first we like and have instant gratification from the fast weightloss, but then it slows. I guess that 8 week mindfulness course I took a year ago helps, LOL.

I am waiting for my surgery date buy have been changing bad habits. My worst is fast food, so I lock my purse in the trunk while I'm driving so I don't have access to my money...lol