Chrisann

Ebony Rose, thanks for the encouragement and I will check out that site. We have had a blast with this section of the site, glad you are a part of it. I see in your signature your seminar wasn't very positive, neither was mine, I wound up reading all the info they gave me and found this site, among others that I did research on the band. I can say now it was the best thing I ever did. Now on the oral part, I can deep throat better now than before the band. Had one unfortunate incident when we ate too close to deep throating and I pb'd all over him. Needless to say, that was the end of eating before the playing. Alas, now my situation has changed, and I can merely think of the fun I was having after my band was done when it came to the bedroom.... Good luck with your journey, its going to be great!

I voted on the two computers I use.....

Ok, posted the profile, had no recent pictures though, but what the hell..... Thanks everyone!

I am jealous. I can't take the Allegra D, because I can't get pills down, and you can't crush the Allegra D. I loved taking the Allegra D before the surgery. Now I have to take a mix of Claritin melt in your mouth pills, and crushing sinus pills every 4 hours. Now, with the mucus in the throat, I get that when I ignore the full stomach feeling and take that one extra bite. Suddenly get the mucus going and I know to stop right then and there. If its still in there 15 minutes later, I spit it out.

That is so cool, I was estatic yesterday when my BMI was 39.5, out of the 40's! I like your number so much better.

Amy, Losing inches is better than losing the weight. You are probably converting fat to muscle!!! Keep it up. I don't exercise nearly as much as I used to and still flabby.!!

Anyone had a fill this month? Went to the doctors today and got .2cc's bringing me to 6.4cc's in a 10cc band. I am now down 65 pounds!!!!! My BMI 39.5!!!! :drool:

Thanks everyone for the support, I was so moody and weepy last night I went to bed early. I will try the site, I never heard of it, but what the hell:confused: Oh and went to the doctor this morning for my monthly visit, lost 4 more pounds, bringing me to 65 pounds down, and got .2cc's bringing me to 6.4cc's in a 10cc AP band. And the best thing, my BMI is under 40, 39.5!!!!

Go and buy those tighter clothes, once you see yourself in them you will understand. I am down from a 24 to an 18 now, and my silloutte is thinner, its the freakiest thing. Get a bra that holds the boobs up too, and get a blouse that is a square neck, all of a sudden with the 18 pants, the new bra, and blouse, you don't even look like yourself and its great. Now with guys, just be yourself. Its easier than you think.

Shit or get off the pot. I said that today to him!!!:sad: I have a strong personality, except when it comes to men, so I used my business personality on him today. I asked what kind of relationship did we have? He said very close friends. I said pretend you didn't know us and were looking in from the outside, then what, he said friends. Finally I said, that is where you are wrong. People look at us like a couple. I have to explain all the time we are friends, they don't believe me, not even my own parents. I use the phrase platonic husband to describe you because my own family is calling me a sucker for being in our friendship. I floored him with that. I said I need a man in my life that WANTS me, and is my best friend. If its not you, then we need to pull back our "relationship". No wake up calls, no late nights over etc. He agreed. Now, I have to see if I can hold that up on my end. Hell, I have gone through more emotional issues in the last few weeks, than in the last few years. I wasn't even thinking about the band, what I was eating etc. So, I am not sure if I will be participating in this thread much more unless I do meet that guy I can practice my favorite thing on.

Try the picnic table when in the woods next time somewhat uncomfortable, but not on the ground :cool2:, or even among the ferns, since I haven't seen poison ivy growing there and the ferns can be soft.:biggrin: Oh, and try the hammock too. Oh, not talking about the woods here in NYC, would need a can of lysol and plastic, talking about the woods in upstate NY.

Nope, you are not the token dude buttinski, I need to hear this. Maybe my confused feelings are that he is a jerk, cause that name hits it right on the head right now in my mind. I am thinking I am an idiot to be in this situation, but yeah, he is a jerk for jerking me around so to speak. I am making it easy for him to get over on me. The funny thing is this whole thing has nothing to do with the one night of sex we had. But I tell you, since I got rid of fling guy and this with best friend guy, I am glad that there is no sex going on, cause that would confuse things more.

Well the strange saga continues. He came over, was hungry, ate leftovers from last night. I had on a pair of shorts and tshirt. I toyed with the sexy nightgown, and then decided, nope, gonna try on clothes instead. So, brought up yet another batch of clothes I was unsure of, and proceeded to right there in the livingroom try things on. He was watching and I purposely asked his opinion on everything, even stuff I knew were too large now. I did this for an hour. Anyway, he got up to leave, and gave me a hug, the usual kind, and out the door he goes. Calls me when he gets home, asks that I call him at 7:00am because he has to move his car by 7:30am. I joke and say, "good, I like your morning sexy voice", he says nope not gonna happen. So, this crap is starting to drive me nuts. Really, we are acting like married people who don't have intimacy anymore. While we have been best friends for nearly 15 years now, the whole dynamics of it is confusing me. I am not in HS anymore, so why does it feel like I am when it comes to him? I won't see him until Saturday now since he works nights, he has already told me we are going to look at cars on Saturday afternoon. That is another long story to get into, but my 2003 Galant is giving me problems and its better to trade it in now before it gets too cold. It seems the Heater core gave out and it can get cold in the winter here in NYC. Nice that he decided we should go look for a car together.:thumbup: Thats it for now, the ongoing lunacy of my life.

:smile:If I may butt in. I was two weeks prior to surgery on liquids, and cheated with the advice of the nutritionist because it was over Christmas and all the parties I had to go to. After surgery we were two more weeks of liquid, then to mushies, and then 5 weeks out solids. I felt so afraid of my band shifting that I stuck to the liquids religiously. Remember, this is major surgery, your band is stitched to your stomach, your port to your abdominal muscle. Any solids that go in must be digested, causing your stomach to move, its a muscle. Your stomach may still be swollen, so your stitches may not be set and you can loosen them up or even break them. They could pull free and you now have a hole in your stomach, or the band moves up to your esophogus and causes other problems. Then you are back in the hospital with a shifted or slipped band, and its removed and you are back to square one. Believe me it gets better and you hardly remember the feelings of the first month when you start seeing the pounds come off. Hang in there.:thumbup:

Thanks but is been a bit boring.... Fling guy isn't calling. Best friend guy doesn't want to talk about it. However, he was over last night for dinner. He was getting ready to leave, so I said lock yourself out, I am going to take a shower and went. Imagine how freaking scared I was when I come out of the shower down to the living room, and he is sitting there. I usually walk around naked now because of the weight loss, but its my TOM so had the towel on. I never ran out of the room so fast. Know what he says? Ok, you are out, I wanted to make sure you were ok since you didn't eat much and I wanted to make sure you didn't faint in the shower. He gets up, and leaves, and says lock me out. Today at work, he calls and asks if I want to go on a cruise, I say alone, he says no with me. I say two beds in the room right? He says, I guess so. I just got out of the shower, and he just called and is coming over tonite after his class, which is 10:30pm here. So, do I put on a sexy nightgown or get dressed? I am sitting here with a robe and towel on.

Well, I have to admit the reason I like them is because that is probably the only time you can have complete control over man, unless they are in a coma. The look in their eyes when you are down on them, and admit you do look at them sometimes, is incredible, not to mention the sounds they make during a bj are not the same sounds they make during sex. I agree on the kissing, because I went back down sometimes during sex because he wanted to cum in mouth. You want me to do that, you have to kiss me after too.:biggrin:

If you are a clean freak, ask him to shower first, my fling guy used to do it anyway, and I did too, there is something about blowing a guy naked with your wet hair getting in the way. He loved that. :biggrin:

Got my "friend" today and only able to get a small amount of chicken down, about 4 bites at lunch. Made Italian Sausage for dinner, had a friend over, and ate just a small piece of a cut up sausage link. So, just made a Protein shake. Looked back over my food journal and found that every month at this time, two days before, I eat like a pig, then for 3 days, can't get much down. At least I can see it with the journal, makes me freak out less. I have an appt on Friday, first time in 6 weeks.

Yep, I absolutely love giving bj's and deep throating too. Sometimes that is all we do, seriously, I can get off on that. Oh, but I digress, no longer do I have a fling guy and with best friend guy, this is not something we are discussing. Help, I need a man!:redface:

I didn't get my period for 7 weeks after the surgery, and then it was for 8 days. I normally get it for 4 days. It didn't go back to normal until April. Don't know if that will help you, but I swear the band affects my hormones.

See that is so cool. You didn't go to a porn site, and certainly didn't see anything, but used your imagination. Isn't it great when you can "see"women, on the internet be so outgoing in the talk of sex and talking about what they enjoy. :thumbup:

I think some days we are tighter than others. I ate an awful lot on Saturday, and it all went down with nary a pain, burp, gurgle, cough.... Today, couldn't even drink Water this morning, tried just a piece of mozzarella cheese, cut small in the afternoon, and couldn't get that down either. Took me two hours to sip a Propel. Finally 8:00pm, went to the Mets game, and had a 4 piece chicken McNuggets. It took me nearly an hour to nibble on those. So, don't feel bad you ate alot one day. I think if you are eating alot everyday, you need to get a fill.

Best Friend Guy and I have been friends for over 15 years, and did much of what you describe above. It was only recently that he and I hooked up, and its been that one time only, with not a mention of it since. So I am looking at it like a momentary lack of judgment and we are back to being best friends only. Not one with benefits....

Or spicy foods, even salsa, that burns when you swallow!!!:thumbup:

I had been cheated on, so I am a bit jaded and always think the worst. But I would go with my gut. My ex went with me to counselling and was still cheating. When it all came out, I called the counselor like a crazy woman. Anyway, do you know how many pills were in the bottle? That might help you make a decision if you did.