Len657

This is not a numbers game. This is about fighting a disease that is rampant and just now coming out into public view and that is food addiction and the mental, emotional and physically affects of it on a person if left unchecked and untreated.
This is your body and your life and he needs to understand that you are doing this for the entire well being of the family. There are a lot of reasons why a spouse may not support us but we have to push past it and do it for ourselves. And keep the reasons close to our hearts.
It could be fear of so many things. some of which he does not even know at this time. It might be a good idea to take him to your surgeons meetings with you so he can see the reality of it all.
For now you have our support and hopefully your hubby will come around! Wishing you all the best in your future!

It's your body and your health... full steam ahead!

I am 8 months out and have lost 125lbs and I am proud of that. I do share my WLS with family and close friends I do not get on Social media and do not feel it is my responsibility to go forth and announce it to the world. Trying to change others minds about this is like pissing in a fan. If others want to be spokes people by all means have at it. I am not willing to jump on the Band Wagon. I also think we have HIPPA for a reason it is nobodies business but mine and my families. Yet at the same time I do speak at the informational and pre-op Support group I go to. I do like to encourage others but if someone is coming at me with a closed mind, well I just do not have the time or energy to deal with that negativity. To some it will always be a lack of discipline never a medical condition no matter what you or I say.

I am 8 months out and have lost 125lbs and I am proud of that. I do share my WLS with family and close friends I do not get on Social media and do not feel it is my responsibility to go forth and announce it to the world. Trying to change others minds about this is like pissing in a fan. If others want to be spokes people by all means have at it. I am not willing to jump on the Band Wagon. I also think we have HIPPA for a reason it is nobodies business but mine and my families. Yet at the same time I do speak at the informational and pre-op Support group I go to. I do like to encourage others but if someone is coming at me with a closed mind, well I just do not have the time or energy to deal with that negativity. To some it will always be a lack of discipline never a medical condition no matter what you or I say.

I am 8 months out and have lost 125lbs and I am proud of that. I do share my WLS with family and close friends I do not get on Social media and do not feel it is my responsibility to go forth and announce it to the world. Trying to change others minds about this is like pissing in a fan. If others want to be spokes people by all means have at it. I am not willing to jump on the Band Wagon. I also think we have HIPPA for a reason it is nobodies business but mine and my families. Yet at the same time I do speak at the informational and pre-op Support group I go to. I do like to encourage others but if someone is coming at me with a closed mind, well I just do not have the time or energy to deal with that negativity. To some it will always be a lack of discipline never a medical condition no matter what you or I say.

It has been said many times but... Obesity is the last acceptable form of prejudice.

Ok so I've been watching this thread and I just feel that if you're going to state your opinion, beliefs, whatever...do it in a respectable manner. Calling other's decisions "BS" is not respectable at all.
I agree, there are some people out there who are more open than others...I'm not that type of person.
I like to keep my business to myself, BUT if I see someone who can benefit from my story, I'll tell it, the good, the bad, and the ugly. I'll let them know. But I'm not just gonna be an open book to anyone who wants to read me.
I come from a pretty large family...literally. And I feel as though they wouldn't be as supportive as they should because they'll feel like I'm better than them in a sense. And it's not that at all, I just want to make myself healthier and happier.
So for that reason, I have only told a select few about my surgery.
And if I see someone in my family who would really benefit from my story, I would tell them.
So no I'm not ashamed that I'm having this surgery, I'm more excited than anything. I'm just cautious of who I tell because I don't want to hear the backlash.

Pretty much embarrassment and shame. I'm also afraid of failing. I don't want to be the girl that couldn't even lose weight after having surgery. That's why I don't tell people. I would have my VSG done a million times over.. but if I had the choice to go back and do it all again, I would choose to not have gotten this fat to begin with. I hate it. I don't want other people to know AND it's none of their business. I also had an abortion, which I still think is the right decision for me at the time.. but do I like that or tell people? Hell no. I wish that hadn't been a thing either. Is it inappropriate for some people to talk about these things with others? Not at all. Does that mean I have to? No. That's my choice.

I do love a good debate.
What if it was HIV or if you needed surgery for urinary incontinence? Would you be quick to share this information with everyone you work with? I've known lots of people that are private about their health.
I did not share my surgery information with the world. I also do not share details about any of my other surgeries or past health issues other than a random cold. I'm just not big on sharing.
I also don't tell people how much money I make or how much I spent on my house. Not everyone is an open book.

Agree with points above as well. I didn't share my surgery widely when I did it. And I debated sharing it at all. But once people started asking me what I was doing I just wanted to be honest. I thought about the people I work with or associate with who struggle so hard and can't keep weight off. I felt like it would be cruel to make them think that I just found more strength than they had.
And sharing has led to lots of conversations with people who've considered it, or have a loved one thinking about it. It's nice to feel like my sharing might help someone else - and help reduce the stigma associated with it.

I went from telling everyone to telling no one, so I understand both sides. I got tired of defending myself. Truth is, educating people doesn't always or in my case ever sway someone's opinion about wls. I've since left my job where everyone knew about my surgery and now only friends and family know. I got so tired of my weight being the topic of discussion. I'm 2 years out now so it isn't at the forefront of everyone's mind when they see me now, thank goodness! I can definitely understand why people would want to keep it secret especially they have a lot of people in their lives. The conversations about what I'm eating and how much I've lost and why I reverted to wls get old real quick! But more power to those who continuously stick up for us!! WLS was a life saver for me!

The thing about it is.....people that have known me for a really long time are gonna know that I had WLS or they're totally stupid. For me.....I have been fat for 20 years and now all of a sudden at 50 yrs old ...Im gonna lose at ton of weight......all by myself.......on my own......YEAH RIGHT!! I don't feel the need to justify it to anyone....Its my money and my body.

Like want a cheeseburger starving... Hahaha I'm on broths, Jello and Water only for the first week. I'm hoping once I can add to this, I'll be more satisfied. Anyone else "starvibg"??

I don't think we truly understand why some people are more prone to obesity than others. I believe its more than lack of exercise and overeating. I think there are multiple factors involved: psychological, genetic, hormonal, environmental, etc. I've known people who live unhealthy, outrageous diets of bacon, steak, and such but they live thin, healthy lives past 100!
Speaking for myself, obsesity has been a long and difficult journey for me. Bariatric surgery was the "silver bullet" to help me achieve a healthy lifestyle. If anyone has a problem with that, they can stuff it!

Normal normal normal! I'm a bander but this is a post op issue. Your body is reacting to surgical stress and dietary shock. Trust the process and stay on course and trust me it WILL come off again at a good pace. The time window you're in is known for this "adjusting period" and weight loss stops for a short time.
Congratulations and good luck!

Most people complain of a "stall" 3-4 weeks post-op. Your body is getting used to the changes and the trauma it has experienced. As everyone just said, if you stick to your plan, the weight will come off. If stepping on the scale is making you crazy, stay OFF it! I weighed once every 2ish weeks only at my bariatric center. If I owned a scale, I'd get on it several times a day and go bananas.
Breathe. You got this!

So for 18 days you lost 1.8 pounds A DAY!
Then your body probably said : "WHOA--wait a minute here!"
Take it one day at a time and do what you are supposed to do and your body will likely begin loosing again.
You didn't gain all your weight in 18 days did you?
It still takes time to lose it even with weight loss surgery.
Blessings,
Kathleen

There is a big difference between folks who didn't receive guidance, and need advice from others who have shared the same journey because they have no where else to turn.
I think the first poster was upset about folks who were told what to do by their doctors (such as no alcohol for six months) and then come here asking for some sort of validation for doing exactly what their doctor told them not to do.

Yes! I find it frustrating too, and I wonder whether these folks are getting no guidance from their providers or they go into this blindly or are just not paying attention

I'm surprised at some of the questions I see here and on other WLS boards from new VSG patients, like ...
* I just had VSG surgery. What am I supposed to eat now?
* My surgeon says not to drink alcohol until X months out. Can I drink now anyway?
* When can I start eating ice cream?
* I'm four days out and just had chicken McNuggets. Have I damaged my sleeve?
* If you plan to drink heavily, first take a Percocet to calm your stomach.
I totally get that, even pre-op, this surgery can sometimes be overwhelming. But some patients' questions suggest that even though they've just undergone major surgery they haven't read their post-op instructions, understood their instructions, don't believe what could happen to them if they don't follow instructions, or maybe they just never received any instructions at all.
Weird!