Quest4TheNewMe

"Only" 7 pounds in 2 weeks? "Only" 17 total?

What were you expecting?

Our minds play such dirty little tricks on us..... When I was 315 pounds, I knew I was fat but I still thought I looked good.... Until I would see myself in pictures and ask my partner, "Why didn't you tell me I was this fat?".
Conversely, now I have lost almost 80 pounds and think I still look the same as I did 80 pounds heavier. I know I don't fit into my old clothes, I know I have bought sizes way smaller than I thought I would, I know I am more physically active and comfortable.... But I can't wrap my head around the fact that I shrunk (shrank?)...
Aside from the head games, when I look at your profile, I wonder if you have excess skin that could account for the weight you want to lose? Maybe your body is where it is suppose to be?
Either way, I am in awe of your accomplishments and think you look amazingly beautiful.

My birthday was 17 days post-op. I took two bites of cake and it tasted like plastic. I haven't had any desire for any since then.
Hang in there, it gets better!! I'm three months post-op tomorrow and about 13 lbs from my surgeon's goal.
It'll totally be worth it!!

I agree with those who miss being invisible. I've been overweight my entire life so my goal was always to blend in and never stand out in any way. If I stand out, people will notice my size and judge and critique me, at least that's how I always felt. I was so accustomed, and comfortable, being invisible that now I'm having a hard time adjusting to everyone noticing and commenting on my weight loss.
Before surgery I would think people noticing and complimenting me on my weight loss would make me happy. I used to dream about it! Instead I feel vulnerable. When people comment on my weight, even though it's in a positive light, it makes me want to run and hide. Perhaps it's because my mind still has not caught up with my body. Honestly, I can't wait to hit my goal weight and the novelty to wear off so people stop talking about my weight.
Then again, I'll still have to deal with all these complete strangers suddenly being nice and holding doors open for me, semi drivers honking, etc. I even had a guy hanging out a car hollering and whistling. I have never had to deal with attention from men...

I'm 20 yrs married this year and it doesn't matter I still get the attention. And it isn't only male/flirty/sexual attention... It's the salespeople in stores approaching me... The eye contact from cashiers... Other runners smiling and waving... Other people in waiting rooms striking up conversations...It's like I've rejoined the human race. I didn't notice how invisible/overlooked I was till I wasn't.

I had it all planned out in preparation for those kinds of questions. If anyone asked, I just told them that I was preparing for surgery to complete my transformation. When they asked what kind of transformation, I told them I was having a sex change, that I was a lesbian trapped in a man's body. That tended to shut them up, cause they couldn't figure that one out!

lol, my strategic placement spot would have to be somewhere around my collar bone!

I was warmer.

I think it's fair to say that if a person is fat for a really long time, they might have difficulty adjusting to being thin. I've never been a thin person and I suspect that adjusting to being smaller might be a challenge for me. I admire people who have no difficulties in that process but for me, getting attention even after just losing 25 pounds through dieting has been slightly awkward. Someday, I might miss that being fat keeps away a lot of unwanted male attention. I take public transportation a lot and I'd rather not have to deal with that.

I do not miss the fat BUT one thing that I am finding is that I don't care for some of the "attention" I get from the guys. It's been a long time and at first it's flattering but after a while it's tiring.

I would really suggest counseling.
Speak with someone that deals in food addiction and eating disorders.

I miss the excess sweating, heavy breathing after climbing the stairs and the chub rub. Most of all, the chub rub.

From 3x top/2x bottom to MEDIUM!
HW/SW 270 CW 176 GW 145 Sleeved 4/7/14

I know!
I work with some great people and they have been very complimentary about my weight loss. Only 3 people where I work know I had WLS and they have kept it private.
But even the sweetest people are now asking the numbers questions.
Nope. Not going there folks.
I decided long ago I was not going to give ANYONE outside of my circle of trust the numbers ever.
So my reply to these questions is as follows:
How much have you lost?
A lot.
Wow I know. Like how much?
A real lot.
How much more do you want to lose?
I don't know really. It's slowing down and getting harder so I need to bump up my exercise.
Well you look great. How much more do you want to lose?
A couple more sizes if I can.
A couple more sizes? Really?
Yeah, if it works out that way. If I exercise more it will eventually happen. I'm not in a race.
This was a conversation in the office bathroom this week. I smiled and walked away as I answered.
People will treat me as I allow them to treat me. That includes how they speak to me. I take charge of the conversation and divert it as I can. If I can't then my fall back answer is:
Come on now. You KNOW I'm never going to tell you that number, don't you?

When I was at my heaviest ....and was there for many years....no one asked me how much I weigh, what size I wear, how much I plan to lose or what I am eating.
But now, some family (not close), acquaintance's and flat out strangers....and their friends.....! feel the need to discuss my body, my weight and my eating habits! I just don't get it! I would never, have never, in my life, asked these questions!
Why do people feel they have free reign over my body, my appearance? Why is this ok to them? It really pisses me off! It is NOT ok to assume that everyone on a "diet" has an obligation to the world to answer any and all questions about said diet when ever asked!!
I do my best to be polite and talk around the subject. But it never ceases to amaze me that people feel they have a right to ask these things and expect an answer in the first place!
I will share my experience openly with people on this forum. I will share it with a couple of my close friends and family. Everyone knows that I will talk but I don't want to be flat out asked.....its just rude! To me it is no ones business unless I CHOOSE to share it and make it their business. So why do so many people that I barely know....or haven't talked to in months....or the stinking clerk at the grocery store, think its ok to ask?

Well I think I am finally at my goal. It's been 5 1/2 months since my surgery. It's been wonderful! With the exception of the first two weeks post op when I thought I was going to die.
Today just for the fun of it I went and tried on clothes at the store. I used to hate to shop. Now when I look at something on the hanger I think that will never fit me. I try it on and it does. I love my sleeve. One of the best decisions of my life.

I didn't realize how much I used my body weight and had to relearn. There was a time when large heavy doors were kicking my ass.... I was missing having weight to throw around.
What I feared a little, way underestimated, I should have feaded alot was missing my protective fatsuit. After losing so much I was feeling uncomfortable in my new body. I am feeling good now but I went through a phase where I felt like people were looking at me. I felt like I looked, dressed, acted "wrong" or perhaps I felt unrecognizable even to myself. At the same time I felt beautiful and thrilled with my new healthy fit body. It was a headtrip. I recall a counselor saying how I was so comfortable in my skin but that was not the case out in public. I am so glad to have that weirdness behind me.

I'm 2.5 months post-op. I went into the process definitely wanting the bypass but had the sleeve.
I had no comorbidities and am really healthy. My surgeon explained that they've seen young healthy females, with no other health issues, who have bypass start having blood sugar issues (severe ones) a few years post-op. Since that pretty much described me to a 't', they strongly recommended I do sleeve instead.
I'm currently 12 lbs from my surgeon's goal and feeling fantastic!

Hey guys I was sleeved August 25th. 2014... Things are going well... Here's a pic

The trick is getting good ones! I used the Bariatric Advantage, caramel-flavored. They were such a treat I looked forward to them!

After losing 200 pounds and having so many "high school" friends try to have lunch, talk, etc. my wife was worried at first but she trusted me and knew that I wanted to let them have a "touch" of just interacting with me after my transformation. "Eat your words" girls I say. Because long time ago you didn't give me a chance and they will never have one - other than lunch  

Go to thrift stores. I do it all the time. It's fun.

My surgeon on my first meeting went over my history and adamantly told me I would get down to 140 lbs., I was 266 lbs. at the time. I was shocked because I thought I would be happy at 165 lbs. which is what I weighed when I met my husband more than 24 years ago. But he was so right, I hit 140 and have now maintained for over a year, I go between 140-143 and feel great!

The other man has an "open" relationship with his wife. Yeah, right. That's what they all say....
Either figure out your relationship, or end it. Then move on to having coffee with other men. Unmarried ones, preferably.

My tolerance for a$$#0/3$ went down in direct proportion to my daily caloric intake.