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@@blashlee 13:00 is perfect!

@@blashlee I'm doing the tinkerbell half that sunday! Do you know anymore bariatric folks doing it? good luck!

@@blashlee 13:00 is perfect!

@@AngelaE thank you!!! I'm trying to add more Water...I find getting enough harder than eating. I am a little scared of carbs right now, I dont think I can trust myself around them lol

@@VSGAnn2014 @@Kindle @@AlanaRN I guess as long as we stay active, our body needs it. Not sure why I am freaking out over calories, pre op I could eat mountains of food in one sitting lol

progress shots! my arms are sagging bad though!

@@JamieLogical @@jess9395 Thanks, Ive been listening to my body and it asks for more protein!

@@Recycled thanks for the response! when I get cravings or a snack attack my body asks for a Protein Bar or a meat and cheese rollup. I seem to have stopped craving junk!

"Life is too short to work for a jerk." Steve Harvey
My advice is that while you are losing weight, rebuild your resume. Include every little thing you have been asked to do that was not particularly on your job description. I call it "Resume Bait".
In the 1980's I was executive housekeeeper at a resort hotel in Michigan. A divorce was coming up and I knew I would need a better job and more money to support myself, so I began volunteering for Manager on Duty weekends where I had to run all of the other departments besides my own. That included the front desk, the pool, maintenance, conference services, food and banquets, the golf course and the 19th hole. Resume bait.
When I supervised common area housekeepers for a large condo property in Portsmouth, NH, I took a part-time job with a local contractor to paint and remodel vacant units for absentee owners. They also hired me out for other local projects and taught me how to order supplies from vendors and to manage vendor contracts. Resume bait.
My first job out of high school was counter work at a Dunkin Donuts in Hammond, Indiana. One day the donut finisher called in sick, so I volunteered to go in the back and learn how to finish donuts. Resume bait.
My ex-hubby moved us 14 times in 23 years, and on every job I had, I offered to learn every job I was able to do on any shift. When I was in my 20's I worked at Columbia records in Terre Haute, Indiana, running double presses making albums. (If you have Simon and Garfunkle's Bridge Over Troubled Water or Alice Cooper's Killer or School's Out albums, I made those with my own little hands).
Anyway, we went on lay-off. I did not like the unemployment line, so after I applied, I went right back to HR and asked the lady that even though you don't have work for two hundred people to do, do you have something ONE person could do????? So she put me in the tape plant, disassembling 8 track tapes with pneumatic tools (yes, I am that old) to recycle parts. Then I got a brief stint in injection molding to unload a machine while the conveyor was down for a couple of weeks, then I worked in the warehouse until the press plant came back up. It was all for RESUME BAIT.
I have said all that to say this. There is no point in staying where you are not wanted. Jealousy makes people evil and she will find a wait to push you out. No big deal if you are prepared or can move on before she gets a chance to do that.
Sit down with a notebook and write down everything you have done on every job. If your employee re-imburses tuition, take a class or two or learn a language. If they don't, some schools will let you monitor a class for no credit. Just start building yourself up instead of letting her tear you down. You are in charge of your destiny, not her.

Actually, businesses with under 50 employees are not required to comply with FMLA. Most companies have a policy they will ask you to adhere to. Talk with your supervisors.

As a US citizen, you fall under the Family and Medical Leave Act, which just requires that your surgeon's office complete a form and the surgeon signs it saying you must be out of work for however many days. That means you will not be able to be fired from your job for missing the time. However, it doesn't require you to receive any paid time off. If your employer doesn't pay for time off, then you may be able to apply for short-term disability.

Interesting. I experienced some jealousy from my twin but she's better now that her lap band was fixed. She used to say i flaunted. Nope, just walking from one place to another. Not my fault you don't like it.
It's tough, but try to surround yourself with positive influences and get your resume out there.

I do admit that once in a while it does hurt my feelings (for about 30 seconds, lol). But I am over it, I am happy and to me that is all that matters. I do not EVER brag or do the "look at me" thing. Actually I still wear the same scrubs as I did when I was overweight. I have bought new pants but the shirt is hugely baggy. Our employer buys our uniforms so I will be getting new ones soon I hope. I am tired of wearing the big old baggy ones. It makes me look frumpy. I cannot buy my own tops because they have to be a certain color and have embroidery on them. I asked my employer six months ago if I could pay for my own and put in my order to her 6 months ago but she never did order them for me.

Jealousy.
Pure dee out jealousy.
However ... how you FEEL about their jealousy and their pissy comments is all on you.
If their behavior really wounds you, unfriend them on FB. If you don't like how their treatment of you makes you feel, learn not to take it personally.
If you don't like their negativity, find some other friends and spend time with them to put some positive energy in your life.
And if you REALLY don't like it, find another job. And yes, you will find other employment more easily when you've lost 50-100 pounds. Don't let that bother you either; it's just the way it is.

Wow! This thread is soooooo true! I work in a place filled with women. They had "dieting" competitions where they would weigh in every Monday. I was probably the heaviest in the office and I would have NEVER participated in that one.....because it was actually a contest to see who didn't gain the most. It was kind of funny. I then chose to forego WLS and I did tell them. Yes I know BIG MISTAKE there was all kinds of talk. Some really insulting. When people would ask how much I lost I would tell them....I am not telling you because I have heard some pretty rude comments. That would usually shut them up. Last week someone actually asked how much I weigh. I told them I am not going to tell you that. She then said well how much did you lose? I said I am not telling you that either. I have had so many compliments outside of work. However inside work there are only two women that have give pm me compliments. I truly believe it's jealousy. I have one co worker that brags about going to fitness class and then eats everything under the sun. I don't say anything at all. She says look how lose my clothes are. (They are not loose). I am friends with them on Facebook, again I know big mistake. Well today is my anniversary. I dug out my wedding dress and posted a picture on FB. THEN that same co worker posts a random.... SMH. LOL. I pretty much know what that means. Sorry for the rant but yes working relationships change, drastically!
Here is the pic that started the crap. What was really cool was that my daughter posted that the dress looked big on me, and actually it is too big for me, I had to pin it up.  

@@Comeflywithme I sit next to this person all day...it is so negative. I am having trouble securing employment elsewhere....Ive lost about 50 pounds already. I wonder if I lose 40 more I may find better employment. Its a judgmental world and you are right I do try to shrug it off and go about my day but its hard at times. My son was very sick and she never once asked if he was okay.
I know theres plenty of articles about WLS and romantic relationships but not about work relationships LOL

This makes me sad. I am so incredibly grateful for the work and family and friends support not just for WLS but also for massive reconstructive plastics later. remember, keep your eye on the prize which is your own health and not let this stuff derail you.

Hmmm... it's all about jealosy.... Wait till the weight starts coming down ... then you'll REALLY see it then. I have family members as well as coworkers treating me very differently too. I shrug it off. You just go about your happy self with this tremendous decision that will change your life -- for the better and not mind the opinion of others my dear. I choose to IGNORE those who either used sarcasm or negativity towards my WLS and I am just too happy to deal with that.

Ok so I'm down 50 pounds and starting to sag according to my doctor. I've got 40 more pounds to go. My biological clock is also ticking. Should I get plastics or baby first? I really don't know what to think. I'd appreciate advice

@@Dr-Patient @@AvaFern @@Elode Thanks ladies...its been stirring in my mind! I am not getting any younger, so I just have to trust that I will have a fit and healthy pregnancy and can whip myself into shape postpartum

@@Dr-Patient @@AvaFern @@Elode Thanks ladies...its been stirring in my mind! I am not getting any younger, so I just have to trust that I will have a fit and healthy pregnancy and can whip myself into shape postpartum

@@proudgrammy oh no1 I thought I hit the @mention for all of you! So sorry!
I thank you for your encouraging words! Health first! THEN BABY!
Thank you and congrats on your weight loss!!

@@mercy96 I've said this 100 times Water in the worst dang thing to get down! It must be the thin consistency of it?!

ha ha, the first week after surgery I had 2 nights where I dreamed I messed up and ate pizza!

I can eat a whole egg with a sprinkle of cheese for Breakfast. lunch is a Protein shake. And dinner say half a can of salmon with mayo and a slice of avocado. I'm sure this is between 500-600 calories a day. During the liquid phase I was having 320 calories a day and felt faint a few times.
Some people say they are stuffed after 2-3 bites or want to vomit. But I dont.
We do need some calories...right?