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Congrats to you! I'm sure you are finished with your operation by now!!! I felt sadness and disappointment also. You will get over it. Cheers to you... Shawn

NORMAL! I think we all have had our doubts. Some more than others. That must have been totally frustrating to muster enough strength to go to the hospital, get prepped, and no surgery. Ugh! Shawn

During a moment, when there isn't tension or an argument between you two...open up a caring conversation. No accusations, just say it out of "love." Tell him, what you told us. "How you wish he was the same sweet husband that you married." Tell him how important this is to you and the family, to be around healthy for the future. Tell him how things make you feel...start with "I" statements. Example: "I feel discouraged when you tell me things like..." This is a start in bridging communication. Life is difficult enough, without having to come home to another battle. Good luck. Shawn

I am supportive of anyone that wants to lose weight for their health. Laurend, I had the EXACT experience during my pre-band phase. I attended the mandatory "support" group one evening. I didn't find it supportive at all....30 people there were all RNY'ers and a few even said to me that they looked into the band and suggest I switch my decision. The band, in their opinion, was UNSAFE!! I should attend again and let them take a look at me NOW! Shawn

Sometimes a little bit of an unfill, makes eating/drinking more comfortable. Yes, I do get sick of the band but realize that this is something that I NEED to get used to. It will take me a long while to get over my mental issues with food. The great thing is that I've maintained my weight since this summer. I would have never done it without the band. Shawn

1) Proper restriction...NOT too tight (or else I only do junk) 2) Never do I go below 1000 calories (I feel weak when I do) 3) I walk for exercise (I am not always consistent) 4) I used to log my calories in on fitday.com, now I loosely do them in my head (around 1400 calories a day)****For me this has been key. Good luck and take care, Shawn

You Mom would benefit from any type of support. It kinda lonely out there without someone to bounce info. off of or vent when frustrated. Hopefully, you can point her here to read some of the threads or "lurk." Once she feels ready and wants to post, she will feel better with support. It's hard to tell if she eating too fast or too big of bites or just needs a slight unfill. So wonderful that you are taking care of your Mom. Shawn

Finicky band! Some folks restriction may "kick in" after a week or two. Some are tight in the AM and loose in the PM. Some get something stuck, swell the band, then are back on liquids to calm it down. It does sound like a mini unfill will do the trick and make you feel better. Shawn

You can do this Cherg, without the vomiting! Think about a healthy you. Get a slight unfill and let your body get healthy. Each time you vomit, you are closer to losing your band. If you think of it this way, then you may think again. Take care. Shawn

I asked myself: 1. Was my life going to be different next year? (no, not unless I did something about it) 2. Was I EVER successful in dieting? (NO) 3. How many morbidly obese women have I seen to reach 80 or 90 years old? (NONE) 4. I was turning 40 and sick of not participating in life. Take care. Shawn

I am joining in on this thread...unfortunately! I've gained a few pounds, but that junk really goes down easily. I finally have been throwing out the chocolate candy and Cookies. I am sick of the junk. For me the holidays have been one time to test my band. YUK! Shawn

Thanks Carlene for the response! Thankfully, the reflux has come on gradually. However, I still will ask for a swallow test in January. Frankly, the waking up at night is exhausting. I feel I never get a chance for REM sleep. I will try to not eat too close to bedtime (within 2 hours) and see if I can control. However, most days I don't. Soooo, kinda hit and miss. Shawn

Hello all! I've never had a problem with reflux (pre or post banding) until my last fill in June 05. I have a total of 1.2 cc in my band. My restriction seems comfortable and I am pretty much maintaining my weight. Around June 05, I began having reflux about 2 nights a week. You know the waking up coughing in-the-middle of the night. Now, the reflux is most nights. Maybe 5-7 nights a week. I try not to eat too close to bedtime. I sleep propped up with my pillows. I've done the Tums or Nexium...they don't seem to do much. The problem is I sleep on my stomach and it is pretty much the way I prefer and get the most rest. I don't, of course, want to get unfilled but I feel that may end up happening. All sorts of fears are surfacing as I don't want to gain any weight. Has anyone gone through this and if so do you have any comments/suggestions.

You'll find that most folks can eat what they want, but the quantity is way down from your pre-banding days! It also depends on your restriction. I'm at a point that I can eat whatever foods that I want, but my tastes have changed and the quantities are VERY different. Shawn

I can eat it all...although eggs give me an overfull feeling that I don't like. You will find that each bandster is so different. Restriction, chewing, etc. all factor in. You'll get the hang of it! Take care. Shawn

Don't worry...you aren't the only one that this has happened to. Put in "shoulder pain" in the lapbandtalk search engine. You will find some threads on this topic. I had this also...around 10-13 months post-banding. Nothing would really help (tylenol, eating, heat). I tried it all, probably you did to. I spoke to my surgeon and he said it could be a nerve. All I do know, is it was worsened by hunger. Although my signals for hunger have changed to shoulder pain. It eventually went away and never bothers me. You aren't alone. Shawn

OH my goodness, are you sure this isn't MY mother? I am 15 months post band and she is doing better. I told her...Mom, please don't bring junk to the "kids" I eat them and most of the time they don't like the stuff (they're picky). She kept doing it. Finally, I asked her if she wanted me to succeed? "Yes, of course I do" she replied. "Then, PLEASE don't bring the junk around me, I need all of the help that I can get." She doesn't hardly every do it any more, but still occassionally bring the "kids" junk. Not nearly as often. Stay firm and strong. Tell her how it hurts your feeling, that she keep offering the junk to you. Tell her how important this is for you. Play to "mother guilt" if you have to. Stay strong. Shawn

Grrrr. I've REALLY tried to keep the junk out of my house. My husband has helped by not bringing home his gifts from his staff (boxes of chocolates). He know that once they are in my sight, I don't leave them alone. At gatherings, I drink Water alot or whatever non-calorie drink. I actually don't eat dinner before and usually find something reasonable to eat (stuffed mushrooms, crabcakes, chili) but I always find the chocolate truffles. However, once I've eaten a few I step away from the table. Last night the truffles were in my face, at the table. I ended up getting up to socialize with another group that was away from the table. I eat nowhere the amount of pre-banding. I've gained a few pounds this season, but feel determined to go no further. That's two pounds since Thanksgiving...only another few days until Christmas is over. I didn't do too bad. Shawn

So sorry of your struggles. Why would this surgeon feel you may be uncompliant? Like the others have said, find another surgeon. With diabetes, you are more than qualified BMI wise. Good luck. Shawn

I've been lurking on this thread. So nice to hear you went on your date and it was great! Good for you for stepping out there!!! Shawn

What a wonderful little journal of your year. I think you have done terrific and it's great that you are patting yourself on the back. You deserve everything you've worked hard to achieve. Yippeee! Shawn

Man, I know what you mean....the stress, for me, is having all of these get-togethers with sweet treats. I don't eat the amount that I used to but my cravings are wild. I love Christmas but can't wait to get to more of a normal time for eating. No more Christmas parties, etc!!! I keep telling myself that there is no way that I am going to be like I used to. Everyone seems to be truckin along! Shawn

Did I just write this post? I'm going through the same things. I almost see myself sabotaging. My cravings are back and I've lost some motivation. I still, thank heavens, can't eat like I used to (nowhere near)!! I'm not sure abou the pyschological block? Hmmm. It definitely has something to do with the HEAD! Shawn

If you are eating 2 pieces of pizza as a snack, then consider a fill. I don't have much room to talk, when you saying self-sabatoge....I'm there. However, it's my constant grazing is my downfall. I HATE this time of year, when it comes to the constant food-in-my-face. I'm no so sure, if my "head" will ever be on straight.. Take care. Shawn

I am kind of where you are...My original goal weight was 150. I weight 140 when I graduated high school, then I gave myself an extra 10 pounds. OK. Then, I decided well...maybe 160. Now, I am at 173 and thinking that I could maybe do another 10 pounds if I really wanted to buckle down. However, if I got to 150, I might look anorexic. Either it is in my head or my ideal weight has changed. I am not sure. My skin is a little bit loose as it is and I don't want to make it worse. Soooo. I am sort of wondering like you are...Is it our perception? Shawn