prettypinkcowgirl

Christy Estabrook is his US coordinator! Please tell her that Missy or Misty sent you!!
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We who have suffered from obesity for so long are often so cruel to ourselves. We would never tell someone we love and respect that they are a loser, so why do we tell ourselves that???
Mississippi Queen, you will get to ONEderland. It IS your CHOICE. It is in YOUR POWER. Go gal . . .

I eat at McDonalds all the time. Just because I eat there doesn't mean I am not eating healthy. I have the grilled chicken caesar salad. I know exactly what is in there. There will be 3 oz of grilled chicken. There will be .5 oz of parmesan cheese. There will be 4 cherry tomatoes. Not a thing wrong with that. Can find similar things at Wendy's or any other fast food. It's actually a great go to when I'm out and have not had time to plan better. Lots of sleevers utilize the fast food tool. Don't knock it till you know the facts. There may come a day when I crave a McDonalds cheese burger. If that happens, I will go have it. (or part of it) Not a thing wrong with it unless it becomes an everyday thing.
I one of those with a sleeve of steel. I CAN eat anything. There is not a thing I have tried to eat with an adverse reaction. In the 10 months since I have been sleeved, I have not vomited, slimed, dumped or any other ailments that many folks have experienced. The sleeve restricts the amount but not the type of food you can eat. What you eat is up to you. Most successful sleevers do indulge from time to time. It's called real life. Just because I can eat whatever I want, doesn't mean I do all the time. I do on occasion.
The hard work begins the further out you are. We all followed our surgeons and NUT instructions in the months post op. That was the easy part. You will find that out. I'll be curious to know your thoughts about then.
Good luck to you.

In three pages of comments I only see ONE person mention they can eat at MacDonalds, and that was referring to a grilled chicken salad. Every poster refers to eating differently and making different choices when AT&T here restaurants. Now I don't go to MacDonalds, that would be a real rarity for me, but I still have treats on occasion and I am not going to beat my self up about it. The sleeve is a tool not a life sentence.
I am really pleased for you that pre surgery you are already 100% certain that you will never, ever again eat anything that isn't 100% healthy. Most of us, like me at twenty months post OP and 130 pounds lost, are human and do occasionally enjoy eating something that is a treat. I look forward to hearing from you when you are over a year out about just how easy you are finding maintaining such self righteousness.

clarify in your mind that it is a choice between life and death... and then actively choose life... Heres the thing... You dont realize it... but you are actually making a lot of automatic choices in your life... If you could try your hardest and move through one day and really focus on every movement, every breath, every step, and every choice... You will see what it is like to live a life full of active choices... My suggestion is to CHOOSE LIFE... You have chosen death for way too long.. I know,.. because so did I.

What bothers me most about these types of scenarios are the "other women" involved. What are they thinking? Are they so desperate that they would destroy someone's marriage? Do they really think a man who would leave his wife and children is worth having? Would a woman who would seduce a married man be worth anything?
I know we can't control the acts of other people, but as women we need to keep our female friends and family in check. The fantasy is never worth destroying the sanctity of marriage.

Yeah definitely slow down and make sure you have all the facts of the situation.
There are plenty of stories of people that have done counseling and have made it work.
I was married for about 6 years when he had the first affair and then I found the second one right at the 10 year mark. Marriage is a lot of work on both parts. After the last affair that broke up the marriage, going through the phone records there were others. I do not know how many more as I got tired of pointless searchings after the divorce.
You need to make sure you did everything you know you should have done in this situation. If I would have divorced after the first affair (didn't accept the promises and apologies), I would probably forever wondered about the shoulda/coulda/woulda's in life. I know now that I am 100% glad that I got the divorce. I do wish a bit that I would have divorced sooner, but that's a different story. To me, marriage is meant to be for life, so I had to make sure that I tried everything that I could control to make it work. In the end, it does take 2 people. 1 person cannot do it all.
Also we do not have kids so we did not have that aspect to push us to stay together. Good luck! <hugs>

Have been overweight my entire life. I hit 200 pounds freshman year. I went from children's clothes straight into a size 14 at age 11. I haven't been able to shop in regular stores since 8th grade. I have had a double chin since 11th grade.
I'm 31 and single and starting a brand new life.
But I've been lucky that even at 320 pounds I was still a pretty cute fat girl. Lol. I don't mean to be superficial but is anyone else nervous that they won't think the new smaller person they are trying to become is pretty?