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First of all Good for you girl! Your doing great. I'm a new loser but fear I will soon be dealing with some of the same issues you are having. I was thinking of looking into therapy for myself. I believe in outside opinions. Maybe support groups. These boards are great for helping us feal understood and not alone. I wish u the best and I am so proud of how brave you are to make this change. In no way is this "the easy way out".

I had myself convinced I was gonna be one of those up and about right after surgery. Not so much! My body had different ideas. I was a mess 3 days in the dark with a Migraine so no walking around or even thinking of getting Protein in. 2 weeks before I could sleep one 1 side but not the other. Then feeling about 80% this past Friday as far as pain (not food) I slipped on the ice and pulled so hard on my incisions that it felt like day 2 after surger all over again. SOB. I'm feeling about 75% now. food is still not my friend cuz it makes me so uncomfortable. LIFESAVER: Egg White Protein Shakes by Jay Robb at Vitamin Shoppe or GNC. It's delish and not thick. After surger I couldn't do whey protein without pain. Give it a try. I actually look forward to it. Oh side note scale has not moved in over a week.

First of all Good for you girl! Your doing great. I'm a new loser but fear I will soon be dealing with some of the same issues you are having. I was thinking of looking into therapy for myself. I believe in outside opinions. Maybe support groups. These boards are great for helping us feal understood and not alone. I wish u the best and I am so proud of how brave you are to make this change. In no way is this "the easy way out".

Most of us felt the same way. It's excitement for your future. This is the bravest thing you can do for yourself. I am 3 weeks out. Everyone's recover is different so just know this....I am so proud of having this surgery I would not change it for anything. You will do great. Be waiting here for you with the rest of us losers.

I am so sorry you're so sad. Hugs. Whatever it is you're going through this too shall pass. In the meantime I don't how you feel about reading but I was like to escape into a good book or maybe stop at the drugstore and buy yourself some new nail polish and some nail stickers and do your nails. I truly believe the chocolate may make you feel better for a split second but the results from that chocolate will stick with you for a while not worth it. Make yourself some Water with fresh fruit and put it in a cocktail glass. Maybe a squirt of MIO or Crystal light little juice thing that flavor your water. Turn your frown upside down and make yourself a little pretend happy hour.

First of all Good for you girl! Your doing great. I'm a new loser but fear I will soon be dealing with some of the same issues you are having. I was thinking of looking into therapy for myself. I believe in outside opinions. Maybe support groups. These boards are great for helping us feal understood and not alone. I wish u the best and I am so proud of how brave you are to make this change. In no way is this "the easy way out".

First of all Good for you girl! Your doing great. I'm a new loser but fear I will soon be dealing with some of the same issues you are having. I was thinking of looking into therapy for myself. I believe in outside opinions. Maybe support groups. These boards are great for helping us feal understood and not alone. I wish u the best and I am so proud of how brave you are to make this change. In no way is this "the easy way out".

First of all Good for you girl! Your doing great. I'm a new loser but fear I will soon be dealing with some of the same issues you are having. I was thinking of looking into therapy for myself. I believe in outside opinions. Maybe support groups. These boards are great for helping us feal understood and not alone. I wish u the best and I am so proud of how brave you are to make this change. In no way is this "the easy way out".

Sorry it's taken me so long to update. But I thought I was tough this surgery kicked my butt. Mostly because I get Migraines and I had one for 3 1/2 street days. It was so bad it woke me up from sleep. So this is the first day of been able to get onto the computer and tell you all thank you for your support but no one told me that it was going to be this bad. I know I know this too shall pass blah blah. I'm trying to stay positive but it really hurts. With that said I have absolutely NO REGRETS. I'm proud to be part of this group! Looking forward to skinny jeans and all the health benefits it has to bring me.

At first was denied and felt hopeless. Imagine someone taking this gift away. It is scary I'm not gonna sugar coat that but for me growing more and more overweight was more scary. The food will still be there but a bite or 2 will fill u. It's only food. Look forward to something you want to do or be in your new life. I'm only just about 1 week out and feel like the same but improved me already.

Your diet can be hard after weight loss surgery. You have to give up most junk food and monitor every bite that goes in your mouth. Although many patients have smaller appetites and fill up faster on less food, you can still struggle to make the dietary changes. You can be tempted to slip up, especially when food is around. And that is can be problem with family.
Family food dynamics before surgery might have been a lot easier. You ate the same food, went out together, and did not think much about which foods came into the house. After surgery, you have no choice but to restrict your diet. That is why family diet dynamics change after weight loss surgery.
Food Can Strain Your Family Dynamics
You can have the most loving family in the world, but they may not be your best dieting buddies. They may still want to buy their favorite foods, store them at home, and eat them when they want – even if it means eating them in front of you. These are some of the risks.
Caving in to these off-limit foods – and derailing your weight loss.
Becoming angry at your loved one(s) – and letting food hurt your relationship.
Banning all non-WLS foods from your home – and causing your loved one to be resentful.

How can you avoid these losing situations?
Everyone Needs to Compromise
The answer is compromise. You just went through a life-changing surgery because you struggled with obesity – and food – for years. You are on a strict diet, and cannot afford to have your hard work undone because your family continues to tempt you with high-calorie food. On the other hand, members of your family may feel that they have the right to eat whatever they want, whenever and wherever they want.
You can all compromise and come up with some new household rules. The following suggestions might work for your household, or you can come up with the rules that are best for your situation.
Family members are permitted to eat fast food meals inside the house, but cannot store leftovers.
Family members can keep certain wrapped Snacks at home only if they keep them hidden from you and eat them outside the house, such as at school or work.
Everyone must wrap up and put away leftover foods so that you are not tempted to grab them
Everyone must respect your need to have your kitchen scale, measuring cups and spoons, and storage containers handy and available, not shoved deep into a back closet.

Family Members of All Ages Contribute to the Diet Dynamics
Your weight loss surgery affects everyone in your household in a different way, and everyone from young children to teenagers to your spouse contributes to the household’s diet dynamics. Modify your approach to be appropriate for each family member.
Young children – They do not necessarily understand your weight loss surgery or the reasons behind it, and they are unlikely to fully understand why the household’s diet is changing. Luckily, young children are likely to eat what you offer. Offer them the same healthy foods – lean Proteins, fruits, vegetables, and nutritious starches – that you make for yourself, and you may be surprised how well they accept them, especially when you are cheerful and positive about it. In addition to serving healthy foods at home and in sack lunches, you can pack a treat for lunch so that they can enjoy it and you are not tempted to eat it.
Teenagers – Teenagers want to be independent. On principle, many of them automatically seem to reject anything that you do. The truth is, though, that they often just don’t want their friends to think that they’re different. If you have teenaged children, keep plenty of healthy snacks on hand and serve healthy foods at meal times. You may be surprised at just how often they choose to “sneak in” the healthy choice instead of opting for junk food! Don’t make a big deal out of it, or the teens will go right back to choosing junk foods. To further allow teens their sense of independence,
An important consideration with teenagers is that they may have their own weight concerns. They may already be overweight, or they may worry that they will one day struggle with their weight just like you did. That’s why it’s important now to allow them to develop healthy eating habits without putting pressure or rigid restrictions on them.
Spouse – You spouse is happiest when you are happy. You would do anything for your spouse. So why can weight loss surgery – which you went through to help you become healthier, happier, and a more capable person – lead to so much tension? Your spouse might not completely support your surgery, especially if he or she has never had a serious weight problem. Also, your spouse may be jealous of your resolve and new lifestyle.
On top of everything else, your spouse might be afraid that of losing the foods that he or she loves, either because you won’t allow them or because he or she eventually will need to accept and confront his or her own weight problem.
You need to have serious discussions of all of these issues and come to an agreement, just like you do in all other parts of your relationship. Let your spouse know that you aren’t changing as a person, but that you are becoming healthier. Let your spouse know that becoming thinner and more energetic will only deepen your love. And, discuss the food. Is your spouse willing to eat what you eat? Are there some treats that your spouse can eat in front of you that you are confident that you will not eat?
Family Meals Post-Weight Loss Surgery
You can have pleasant, healthy family meals even after weight loss surgery. One way is to prepare and eat your own food, while serving the rest of your family what they normally eat. You can all eat together. Even though you are eating less, you will take as long to eat as they will because you need to focus on chewing thoroughly and eating slowly. These are some other suggestions for family meals.
If you’re the one who makes the meals, you don’t have to make two every night. Once a week, cook your own food and refrigerate or freeze single-serving portions. Eat those at family meals, and cook for your family as usual.
Have a salad bar or other serve-yourself-style meal, such as a burger bar or Pasta bar. Include WLS-friendly options as well as everyone’s favorites. Everyone can choose what they want to eat. For example, at a pasta bar, you serve yourself spaghetti squash, grilled chicken, Tomato sauce, and salad, while others might choose spaghetti, meat sauce, and breadsticks.
Have a family treat night – can you decide that for one night, they can order in or eat junk, and you will stick to your diet? You might even be able to schedule your family’s treat night on an evening when you work late or you go out with friends so you don’t have to be around the tempting foods.
Make something that’s healthy for everyone, and just serve yourself a little less or skip the starch. You have learned to love lean proteins and veggies, and your family can, too.

Weight loss surgery changes a lot, from your body and mind to everything else in your life. Family diet dynamics are no different. With all of the other stress surrounding your new lifestyle, the environment surrounding food in your household can become tenser. With some understanding, communication, and compromise, you can keep everyone happy as you stay on track with your weight loss…and your family just might become healthier in the end!

Its a head game. Stay focused on the bigger picture. You come this far. Keep your eye on the future YOU!!!..ask yourself how bad you want this? Don't forget, you have been given a once in a lifetime chance to do things differently..Dont let food make you miss this train again!!!!..good luck..btw, this body feels better than any food tastes!!!

I slept because of Migraines for 2 days when I came home but I think my body was so full of Fluid from IV it kept me safe. I did have a hard time to and found warm Decaf tea really helped. Now I am day 5/6 and make myself hydrate. This is all new to us but this to shall pass. You will feel better once you can drink. Good luck to us both.

I slept because of Migraines for 2 days when I came home but I think my body was so full of Fluid from IV it kept me safe. I did have a hard time to and found warm Decaf tea really helped. Now I am day 5/6 and make myself hydrate. This is all new to us but this to shall pass. You will feel better once you can drink. Good luck to us both.

I slept because of Migraines for 2 days when I came home but I think my body was so full of Fluid from IV it kept me safe. I did have a hard time to and found warm Decaf tea really helped. Now I am day 5/6 and make myself hydrate. This is all new to us but this to shall pass. You will feel better once you can drink. Good luck to us both.

hi guys I'm a little late to this discussion, but I was sleeved the 1st of December. I was like you guys terrified of never being able to eat things again, I had enough food Funerals for a lifetime :-)
To be honest, I can eat things like pizza and Pasta, but in small amounts. I ate a small slice of pizza a week ago, and it filed me up like a thanksgiving turkey :-)! I personally do not believe that we should be stuck in a life of being deprived of foods we like. don't get me wrong I'm not advocating eating Pasta everyday, but small amounts will not affect your weight loss.
You will also find that your tastes have changed! I no longer crave Doritos and chips, because I know they can be uncomfortable if I eat more than one. I do crave Protein, oatmeal, and vegetables -of all things!
this is not a death sentence it's the beginning of a new life :-) :-) :-)

I agree with a lot of post sleevers, at the three week mark I think we all felt some of what your feeling, but I can tell you I have had the picture perfect healing and results, and at almost 9 months out I feel normal again.
I feel so normal that sometimes I worry that I'll gain all the weight back, but then I look at what I am eating and my portions and realize that while I am eating way less and making better choices I feel just as satusfied as I did before the surgery when I would eat. I will admit- I don't diet. I eat what I want, but I eat so much less of anything that at just over 8 months out I am down 107lbs. I went from 255 to 148 size 22 to an 8. I live a normal life, I go out with family and friends, I enjoy good food, just less of it! you'll get there, there are some foods I still have a hard time with but I naturally don't want them because my brain has learned that those things make me feel unwell so I don't crave them. Like Ketchup... I LOVED it before the surgery, and now I don't crave it ever because I know it makes my tummy hurt. Its amazing what your brain can do. Once your body adjusts you'll feel much better/

Just signed on and looked at my ticker. Ahhhhhh. 1 day! So excited!

Just signed on and looked at my ticker. Ahhhhhh. 1 day! So excited!

Just signed on and looked at my ticker. Ahhhhhh. 1 day! So excited!

Just signed on and looked at my ticker. Ahhhhhh. 1 day! So excited!

Just signed on and looked at my ticker. Ahhhhhh. 1 day! So excited!

Just signed on and looked at my ticker. Ahhhhhh. 1 day! So excited!

Just signed on and looked at my ticker. Ahhhhhh. 1 day! So excited!