Dr-Patient

Have you checked your blood pressure? With the weight loss, your BP might be quite low compared to what was your usual. Also, your sodium might be low.
Not advising this, but when I felt that way (around the same time you are) , one day I sucked on potato chips to just give me a bit of salt, to raise my BP a wee bit. It helped. Felt much better.
If you feel really woozy, check with your doctor.

As a woman, I ask, might you allow her to do something for you? Will it kill you? That might be HER way to express her love and care for you. Don't shut it down. Just allow...without huffing, puffing or even internally resenting. Give it a try.
I say this because after taking a shower together, I attempted to put lotion on my recent-guy's back (he's White; skin was very dry and ashy. Yes, I could see it.) He nearly cut my head off: "NO!! I don't do lotion!!" (his now-dead wife never applied any, etc. in 35 yrs.) I told him, "it's lotion, not hydrochloric acid." He reluctantly allowed me to do it, and dang if he didn't like it after it had absorbed in, etc. He noticed his skin wasn't itchy, etc.
He's very independent, too; but I kindly say...at least periodically just let her help you, do something for you. It's her way of showing you some love. One or two 'yields' on your part won't kill you [right?]; and you just might like it. :-)

Sorry, dude, but that's how it goes! [smile] The hard-working nurses and ancillary staff (respiratory therapists, etc) have many patients to care for all hours of the night. God bless them.
You'll survive the sleep interruptions and will have plenty of time when your return to your own bed. Better that they check on you as needed (or ordered), instead of leaving you there unattended, and you were having a complication, fever, bleeding, etc.
Be grateful for the process. You'll get more sleep at home. :-)

Sorry, dude, but that's how it goes! [smile] The hard-working nurses and ancillary staff (respiratory therapists, etc) have many patients to care for all hours of the night. God bless them.
You'll survive the sleep interruptions and will have plenty of time when your return to your own bed. Better that they check on you as needed (or ordered), instead of leaving you there unattended, and you were having a complication, fever, bleeding, etc.
Be grateful for the process. You'll get more sleep at home. :-)

Sorry, dude, but that's how it goes! [smile] The hard-working nurses and ancillary staff (respiratory therapists, etc) have many patients to care for all hours of the night. God bless them.
You'll survive the sleep interruptions and will have plenty of time when your return to your own bed. Better that they check on you as needed (or ordered), instead of leaving you there unattended, and you were having a complication, fever, bleeding, etc.
Be grateful for the process. You'll get more sleep at home. :-)

Sorry, dude, but that's how it goes! [smile] The hard-working nurses and ancillary staff (respiratory therapists, etc) have many patients to care for all hours of the night. God bless them.
You'll survive the sleep interruptions and will have plenty of time when your return to your own bed. Better that they check on you as needed (or ordered), instead of leaving you there unattended, and you were having a complication, fever, bleeding, etc.
Be grateful for the process. You'll get more sleep at home. :-)

Sorry, dude, but that's how it goes! [smile] The hard-working nurses and ancillary staff (respiratory therapists, etc) have many patients to care for all hours of the night. God bless them.
You'll survive the sleep interruptions and will have plenty of time when your return to your own bed. Better that they check on you as needed (or ordered), instead of leaving you there unattended, and you were having a complication, fever, bleeding, etc.
Be grateful for the process. You'll get more sleep at home. :-)

More later, but don't let naysayers block you from making yourself better, healthy and happier. HAPPY!!
Carrying excess weight weighs down one's spirit, heart, social life, self-confidence, etc.
Q: Your weight says '230'; have you thought of the vertical sleeve? Just asking.
Do YOU.

PS: My decision to not tell whomever is not about what they might think, etc. It's just that I'm a very private person and don't tell folks my business. We live in a day and time where folks share almost everything. I've never been like that and just stick to (I guess my medical code of) patient confidentiality...even when I'm the patient. It works for me.
I have seen on here (and elsewhere) that sometimes people tell this one and that, and get hit with all kinds of negativity, judgments and ignorance, just as they are journeying toward, and through, a very personal decision. I try to avoid "vain babblings" of the uninformed or even naysayers, who don't know, nor understand one's personal struggle...with weight or whatever. Just my approach to serenity.
It's a personal choice for all, how to handle telling or not. But I think the majority of us are dang sure happy we made this decision!! Looking and feeling so fine, and happy, and sexy, and confident, etc. I should have done this sooner. God Bless the USA...and the VSG.

Only a handful of people know I had surgery. For the others--including the neighbors in front of me, etc.--they don't know anything.
IF someone asks, "what are you doing to lose weight?" [present tense]; or "what did you do to lose...?" I say "I really had to let go of the carbs, so I mostly eat high Protein, etc." Fact. I tell them how wonderful it is to have steak, crab, eggs, bacon, etc.; no carbs, no white stuff. Plus the neighbors now see me walking some, so they conclude that has helped, as well.
IF it's someone I know very well, and I KNOW they are struggling with their fat (and are depressed, etc), AND I feel I can trust them, if they ask, I will tell them I had wls. Or I may ask "have you thought about wls/the sleeve, etc.?"

You're looking great. IF your wounds are still open and dry, ask your doctor if he'd prescribe 'DuoDerm' or 'IntraSite hydrocolloid.' Those usually help heal/close those dry wounds post-surgery. Just a thought. Ask him.
Seeing the absence of that abdominal flap makes me want to do it, but I won't at my age. Oh well. Congratulations, again!

The only thing I don't like about having lost almost 100 pounds is that my boobs are like empty, deflated sacs. Though not perky, they were bountiful and full. But now, a size 38 DD (and I'm good with that, down from a 44-DD/44-DDD), they are empty, flat and saggy. Oh well. There's still enough to keep me and him happy! (I'm the only one commenting about them sagging, so I think I'll stop mentioning it. Why point out a negative?)
If you somehow keep your breasts, and lose most of the rest...ka-pow! Just rock it.

Looking good! And the great news is, after you're all healed up--drains, out; incisions healhed/normal color--all of what looks to be "a lot," etc., won't be very noticeable at all. Nice job. Congratulations to you and your surgeon.
I want a thigh lift and a panniculectomy; but at 61, I don't think I'll bother. If I did (and especially since I don't look my age; people think I'm 42-45), my, my, my. :-) I think God would rather I not do it. I might turn into something I've never been [smile!!] .

If you want to tell only your husband, then stick to that. You don't owe others anything--no info about your personal life decisions. You don't need their (likely uninformed) opininons, judgments, criticisms, discouragements, etc. Granted, some might be positive, but it's none of their business. Own yourself.
Despite current societal trends to tell everyone everything--even when going to the bathroom, or what folks ate for lunch, etc--you don't need to divulge your personal affairs...and you should be okay with that.
I only told 4 people, one of whom helped get me to surgery, then the other person kept me at his house x 3 days afterwards. That's it. Now, IF someone I know is deeply pained about their weight struggle, and they see my now-body, AND if I feel I can trust them to not discuss MY activities with others, I will tell them how I lost weight in order to comfort them if they are considering wls. Otherwise, nope!
Be a careful guardian of your life and personal affairs.

As a woman, I ask, might you allow her to do something for you? Will it kill you? That might be HER way to express her love and care for you. Don't shut it down. Just allow...without huffing, puffing or even internally resenting. Give it a try.
I say this because after taking a shower together, I attempted to put lotion on my recent-guy's back (he's White; skin was very dry and ashy. Yes, I could see it.) He nearly cut my head off: "NO!! I don't do lotion!!" (his now-dead wife never applied any, etc. in 35 yrs.) I told him, "it's lotion, not hydrochloric acid." He reluctantly allowed me to do it, and dang if he didn't like it after it had absorbed in, etc. He noticed his skin wasn't itchy, etc.
He's very independent, too; but I kindly say...at least periodically just let her help you, do something for you. It's her way of showing you some love. One or two 'yields' on your part won't kill you [right?]; and you just might like it. :-)

As a woman, I ask, might you allow her to do something for you? Will it kill you? That might be HER way to express her love and care for you. Don't shut it down. Just allow...without huffing, puffing or even internally resenting. Give it a try.
I say this because after taking a shower together, I attempted to put lotion on my recent-guy's back (he's White; skin was very dry and ashy. Yes, I could see it.) He nearly cut my head off: "NO!! I don't do lotion!!" (his now-dead wife never applied any, etc. in 35 yrs.) I told him, "it's lotion, not hydrochloric acid." He reluctantly allowed me to do it, and dang if he didn't like it after it had absorbed in, etc. He noticed his skin wasn't itchy, etc.
He's very independent, too; but I kindly say...at least periodically just let her help you, do something for you. It's her way of showing you some love. One or two 'yields' on your part won't kill you [right?]; and you just might like it. :-)

If you want to tell only your husband, then stick to that. You don't owe others anything--no info about your personal life decisions. You don't need their (likely uninformed) opininons, judgments, criticisms, discouragements, etc. Granted, some might be positive, but it's none of their business. Own yourself.
Despite current societal trends to tell everyone everything--even when going to the bathroom, or what folks ate for lunch, etc--you don't need to divulge your personal affairs...and you should be okay with that.
I only told 4 people, one of whom helped get me to surgery, then the other person kept me at his house x 3 days afterwards. That's it. Now, IF someone I know is deeply pained about their weight struggle, and they see my now-body, AND if I feel I can trust them to not discuss MY activities with others, I will tell them how I lost weight in order to comfort them if they are considering wls. Otherwise, nope!
Be a careful guardian of your life and personal affairs.

Looking good! And the great news is, after you're all healed up--drains, out; incisions healhed/normal color--all of what looks to be "a lot," etc., won't be very noticeable at all. Nice job. Congratulations to you and your surgeon.
I want a thigh lift and a panniculectomy; but at 61, I don't think I'll bother. If I did (and especially since I don't look my age; people think I'm 42-45), my, my, my. :-) I think God would rather I not do it. I might turn into something I've never been [smile!!] .

Looking good! And the great news is, after you're all healed up--drains, out; incisions healhed/normal color--all of what looks to be "a lot," etc., won't be very noticeable at all. Nice job. Congratulations to you and your surgeon.
I want a thigh lift and a panniculectomy; but at 61, I don't think I'll bother. If I did (and especially since I don't look my age; people think I'm 42-45), my, my, my. :-) I think God would rather I not do it. I might turn into something I've never been [smile!!] .

As a woman, I ask, might you allow her to do something for you? Will it kill you? That might be HER way to express her love and care for you. Don't shut it down. Just allow...without huffing, puffing or even internally resenting. Give it a try.
I say this because after taking a shower together, I attempted to put lotion on my recent-guy's back (he's White; skin was very dry and ashy. Yes, I could see it.) He nearly cut my head off: "NO!! I don't do lotion!!" (his now-dead wife never applied any, etc. in 35 yrs.) I told him, "it's lotion, not hydrochloric acid." He reluctantly allowed me to do it, and dang if he didn't like it after it had absorbed in, etc. He noticed his skin wasn't itchy, etc.
He's very independent, too; but I kindly say...at least periodically just let her help you, do something for you. It's her way of showing you some love. One or two 'yields' on your part won't kill you [right?]; and you just might like it. :-)

As a woman, I ask, might you allow her to do something for you? Will it kill you? That might be HER way to express her love and care for you. Don't shut it down. Just allow...without huffing, puffing or even internally resenting. Give it a try.
I say this because after taking a shower together, I attempted to put lotion on my recent-guy's back (he's White; skin was very dry and ashy. Yes, I could see it.) He nearly cut my head off: "NO!! I don't do lotion!!" (his now-dead wife never applied any, etc. in 35 yrs.) I told him, "it's lotion, not hydrochloric acid." He reluctantly allowed me to do it, and dang if he didn't like it after it had absorbed in, etc. He noticed his skin wasn't itchy, etc.
He's very independent, too; but I kindly say...at least periodically just let her help you, do something for you. It's her way of showing you some love. One or two 'yields' on your part won't kill you [right?]; and you just might like it. :-)

Only regret is that I didn't do it sooner.
You will get through the early restrictions, and whatever they are, it all gets better. And you get healthier, happier, sexier, more confident, foxy and fine.

Only regret is that I didn't do it sooner.
You will get through the early restrictions, and whatever they are, it all gets better. And you get healthier, happier, sexier, more confident, foxy and fine.

Only regret is that I didn't do it sooner.
You will get through the early restrictions, and whatever they are, it all gets better. And you get healthier, happier, sexier, more confident, foxy and fine.

My legs/calves got thin, and I miss how they were.. I loved my "pretty brown (and great-shaped) legs." But I'll take it, since all other big stuff is looking nice and thin/medium.