Bandarella

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I looked at the topic you're referring to and all the inflammatory posts were removed. Not really sure what your issue is.
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This is what I know:
The band is placed 2-3cm below the gastro-esophageal junction and a flap of stomach tissue is brought up and over it and sutured with about 3 stitches.
The capacity of the pouch is about 2 tbs. This is why we are told to cut food into tiny 1/4 inch bites and chew 15-25 times before swallowing and eat no more than 1/2-1 cup of food per meal over 20-30 min. If you put your fork down between bites, it helps to reinforce this. I practiced this during my 3 month pre-op supervised diet and it really helped to have this established as a habit before surgery. If you eat too fast, or eat too big of bites, you will back food up into the esophagus, causing possibly irreparable damage and risk losing your band.
I suggest an esophageal manometry test preop to rule out a tendency towards achalasia or preexisting esophageal motility issues, which almost guarantee incompatibility with Lapband.
Hope this helps!

This is what I know:
The band is placed 2-3cm below the gastro-esophageal junction and a flap of stomach tissue is brought up and over it and sutured with about 3 stitches.
The capacity of the pouch is about 2 tbs. This is why we are told to cut food into tiny 1/4 inch bites and chew 15-25 times before swallowing and eat no more than 1/2-1 cup of food per meal over 20-30 min. If you put your fork down between bites, it helps to reinforce this. I practiced this during my 3 month pre-op supervised diet and it really helped to have this established as a habit before surgery. If you eat too fast, or eat too big of bites, you will back food up into the esophagus, causing possibly irreparable damage and risk losing your band.
I suggest an esophageal manometry test preop to rule out a tendency towards achalasia or preexisting esophageal motility issues, which almost guarantee incompatibility with Lapband.
Hope this helps!

To the skinny running around the track
You know nothing of how I came to this place
Of aching joints, embarrassment and self defeat
I'm trying to survive while you run your 6 minute mile
It's not about midnight Snacks, Cookies and cake
It's about a little girl who learned early
She was alone, unprotected, vulnerable
Blamed herself for the abuse she suffered
I'm not here for you to judge or make assumptions
About how I became a fatty, I don't need your approval
As you pass me, an encouraging word would be ok
Cause with every painful step I want to quit
So don't judge me at the track, grocery store or diner
Don't judge me at the gym, park or pool
Don judge me anywhere I go, skinny
You run your life, I'll run mine, one mile at a time

To the skinny running around the track
You know nothing of how I came to this place
Of aching joints, embarrassment and self defeat
I'm trying to survive while you run your 6 minute mile
It's not about midnight Snacks, Cookies and cake
It's about a little girl who learned early
She was alone, unprotected, vulnerable
Blamed herself for the abuse she suffered
I'm not here for you to judge or make assumptions
About how I became a fatty, I don't need your approval
As you pass me, an encouraging word would be ok
Cause with every painful step I want to quit
So don't judge me at the track, grocery store or diner
Don't judge me at the gym, park or pool
Don judge me anywhere I go, skinny
You run your life, I'll run mine, one mile at a time

Support YOURSELF!
I read several WLS boards daily and I'm truly amazed at the helplessness and lack of power some of us have. I've been there myself, having dealt with seasonal depression, early childhood abuse and growing up with a mom who had Borderline Personality Disorder. In my 20s depression reared it's ugly head in a big way and the weight gain started. I'd weighed around 150 and at 5'5" that was close to ideal. I finished my 3rd decade weighing about 225, despite getting psychological support.
In my 40s after getting up to 260, I sought counseling to deal with unresolved issues with my mom, who had passed away 10 years before.
This helped me deal with relationship issues I had on many levels with pretty much everyone in my life, and I dieted my way down to 190. I felt in control and powerful. That was a great feeling.
Today I read a post laying out strategies for success in losing weight. It listed a few good ideas and some that were a bit impractical, but the point I got out of it was in order to succeed, we must support ourselves; get the trigger foods out of sight, etc, but I think it missed a key point. It's not about hiding bad foods...it's about keeping healthy foods available in the moment we are being tempted and taking back our power over temptation. This is where I've been missing the boat recently, a technique I know works, but in my blue mood, had forgotten.
The strategy I've used is positive affirmation. You visualize how you'll feel, look, walk 20, 30, 40 lb lighter and create an inner dialog of positive statements:
I'm enjoying shopping for clothing one size smaller.
It feels great to take a walk without my knees hurting so much.
This chicken Greek salad tastes so fresh and it's providing my body with nutrients and Protein to support my healthy lifestyle.
You create a positive environment within your mind to support your goal of being healthier. You replace the negative inner dialog, you KNOW what I'm talking about, with positive self talk. It's a habit you develop over time, usually about 6 weeks. It's a known fact that thinking positive thoughts while developing a new habit helps in establishing the desired behavior. You focus on the new behaviors, not on overcoming the old behavior. If you find yourself berating, chastising or otherwise having a negative inner dialog, you stop, breathe and replace that dialog with a positive affirmation: I am worthy, I am powerful, I am in control and move on.
I did this throughout my band journey, including the 3 month supervised term and especially during the year I was struggling with the complications. In the last few months, I'd let the negative self talk sneak in...the fear of regain, feeling vulnerable, powerless and depressed. I forgot the mantra "If you believe it, you'll see it" and I did...30 lb of regain since September.
So go ahead and hide the Cookies, better yet, leave them at the store, but don't forget to visualize yourself 1, 2 or 3 sizes smaller, congratulate yourself for every accomplishment and forgive a misstep. You are worthy, you are powerful, you are in control.
Bandarella????

Great post! I have benefitted from choosing myself -- that has been really big for me. But now I am going to work the Support Myself angle. I am a supportive person, by nature. What does it take to support myself, each and every day?

@@Madam Reverie, anti-bandwagon would be more like it, lol.
@@2muchfun are you all fired up this morning??
@@LipstickLady all weapons are permitted as long as you are nice

Blue skies, My name has a similar story to yours.. My husband, the love of my life, and the kindest man I ever knew, had a complete mental breakdown and I have not seen him since (he fled the country thinking the FBI was chasing him and that I was a spy) I felt like my life was over and that I couldn't possibly survive without him...Whenever I would feel like I couldn't get out of bed in the morning I would just tell myself "**** happens... it happens to everyone" This helped at first but eventually I needed more than that and I started looking for and appreciating the serendipitous moments in life... and there are many. Now every time I see my username or log in here, I'm reminded that around every corner there are happy discoveries to be made... without any reason... good things are just there for the taking...

I wasn't too creative and probably a little bitter when I came here from the lapband forum.

@@Bandarella LOL luckily mine are staying put, for now at least!

@@Madam Reverie, anti-bandwagon would be more like it, lol.
@@2muchfun are you all fired up this morning??
@@LipstickLady all weapons are permitted as long as you are nice

@@Ariellestarr I've done that too! 38g here...5.5 lb each and still well above my waist!

Not gonna lie- I once put mine on a kitchen scale. I was that curious! I'm a 44DDD. They are about 6 pounds each.

Phentermine is a stimulant and half of the now banned phen-fen weight loss drug of the 90s. The combination of these drugs is known to cause primary portal hypertension and damage to heart valves. I took it in 1996-97 and lost 90 lb in 6 months. It made me very hyper and happy...too happy.
Phentermine alone is fine unless you have heart disease or hypertension.

Most refined carbs are "sliders", and as part of your banded lifestyle are to be avoided fir the reason you mentioned. Avoid them, they are the very foods that contributed to our obesity.

Yup. I might taser you first.

All weapons permitted? Awesome.
I shall sharpen my sarcasm - just in case.

@@Madam Reverie, anti-bandwagon would be more like it, lol.
@@2muchfun are you all fired up this morning??
@@LipstickLady all weapons are permitted as long as you are nice

Perhaps the word "fight" should be removed from this description?
Gripe, complain, moan, debate, rant and rave might work?

Perhaps the word "fight" should be removed from this description?
Gripe, complain, moan, debate, rant and rave might work?

Click!

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It's normal for anyone having surgery, especially elective, to have tremendous buyers remorse a few days later...the "OMG! What have I done?" moment. Someone who posts about these regrets, doubts and worries needs support and encouragement. If you (not OP) are someone having these doubts, go ahead and post....