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I'm April 15...I'm soooo nervous, but I look forward to getting this weight off 5'4 243lbs..never been this big. Not even in my 9 months of both pregnancy. I feel so uncomfortable and ashamed of my weight. I have been avoiding going out as much as possible. .I m so ready to enjoy life. .can anyone relate to what I'm feeling?

Thanks everyone. .just wish I had family support, do I could call them and tell them the good news. .they were all for it in the beginning. .Once I was all involved and started pre op testing. .they flip the script on me..glad hubby is 100% supportive. .I know they fear for my safety cause surgery has risk, but I feel deep down I'm making the right decision.

So true. .it's our journey. I think we have been down so long about our weight. .it's time we do something. .I know it's a risk to have WLS. .but deep down I really feel in my heart , it's the right thing for me..just wish family was happy for me..As long as I have hubby support. .ads for my friends..no way in HELL I'm telling them..If u ever look up the word negative in dictionary. .u will see their pic..lol

I can so relate , only hubby support me..my mom and sisters who encouraged me in the beginning. Don't even ask me for any updates. It's sad when they don't support you. They know how my weight effects my self esteem. .I would think they would be my biggest fan. I know they fear for my safey...but gee a little support would be nice. I can't even tell them I've been approved and surgery is 4/15..meanwhile, my 2 sisters are dieting and losing weight. .lucky them..they don't have thyroid issues like me..they can lose weight easily. .I'm 243lbs..and they think I can just lose it....just so pissed at them. I just keep everything to myself. .then they will make a huge deal when I tell them in a few days I have a surgery date. .

Soooo nervous now..I have all sorts of emotions now..This process started since September last year..OMG! !..am I really ready?..ok..I got this!!!

Since you had your approval and surgery a wk and a half later. Did your job give you any problems taking off so soon/suddenly? .. I was wondering if 2 was is adequate time to give job notice. .I plan on taking FMLA for 3-4 wks..

Unhappiness, frustration, shame is what I deal with on a daily base..I hate going out..cause I know everything don't fit in my closet. .good thing I wear scrubs to work. .always with a sweater to cover up. My sisters and a couple of us friends doing a weight loss challenge. They all losing weight except for me..only my sisters know I will have WLS, haven't told my friends. .I know for a fact they will think I not big enough (243) 5'4..my sister also don't support my decision. .they don't bring it up. I don't also..it funny cause one of my sister. Was all for it in the beginning of the process. Even encourage me to look into it. Cause sh know for years I have problems losing weight. .now she is against it..I feel so hurt cause I have n friends or family to tell my process and I was approved. Really hurt especially since my mom and one of my sister was the ones that encouraged me in the beginning. .glad my husband told me he will support me 100%.

Thanks everyone, I really want to give job 2wks notice for my surgery. .hope they don't give me a hard time.

Ok, thanks..I just want to have the surgery as soon as they can schedule me. Really nervous about having surgery.

I was wondering how long it took you guys for your FMLA process took..is 2wks notice to let job know I'm having surgery. .thanks in advance for the replies.

I'm going to call Cigna, that's the company my job use for FLMA/STD to process forms.

My surgeon office charges $35 to fill out FMLA and STD forms..please advice..did your job fill out form or doctor office? Thanks

Thanks all for the positive feedback.

Everything was going find til 2wks ago. I was approved, but I didn't want to have surgery at the hospital I work at. So I had the option to have surgery at a different hospital where my doctor mostly perform surgery. It will cost me more out of pocket. But I don't mind..my department is where most patients come to for recovery. Keeping my wls private. I wad approved 3 days after they submit to insurance. Now I told them I wanted to go to a different hospital. It's been almost 2 wks. .and every time I call the doctor office, they keep telling me insurance hasn't changed the location for surgery yet..I call and email them still same answer. .since my family think I'm not big enough for surgery 240lbs and they are against it. I'm starting to feel maybe it's God way of protecting from major complications I was going to encounter if I had surgery. Like the saying goes God's rejection is for your protection..just feeling down. .I wouldn't call or email office again. .I will let God guide me..feeling sad..my family may be right. .I'm not big enough for wls..tnx for letting me vent!

My family was all for wls in the beginning, but once they realized I got realllly serious about it, they went into panic mode. As a matter of fact, they told encourage me to look into it. Since a family friend had great success with it. But now the family friend is obsessed with losing more weight. And my family said she looks sickly and unhealthy Plus she looks like she aged 10-15yrs..I know it's coming from a place of love and concerned. I have already made up my mind. Praying to God he protect me during surgery and post-op, and for a speedy recovery. My mom even said she's willing to pay for a personal trainer for me..and I'm not big enough for surgery. (240lbs)..smh..they know all to well how my self esteem is soooooo low cause of my weight..my mom even told me a coworker in her job had wls & her husband left her cause she got so sickly and unhealthy looking. She said she's afraid my husband will feel the same if I look sickly. That really hurts!

I'm going through the same thing also, my parents and sister was all for it in the beginning. Now that I'm almost close to getting surgery, just got approved on Wednesday. Now they are telling me I'm not big enough (240lbs). And it's dangerous, I will get to skinny and unhealthy. .I will look older..they making feel if I go through with it..I'm disappointing them..my mom even found a personal trainer for me. She's willing to pay half. .can't believe they encourage me to look into wls..but once they saw how skinny and unhealthy family friend looks from having wls..now their afraid I will look unhealthy skinny and age about 10yrs..at first the family friend was looking good..then she got obsessed with wanting to lose more weight. .I know it's all out of love, but I hurts not having their support. .I'm stressing soooooo much..advice needed. .tnx.

Verrrry true, a family friend had sleeve 2012..that is what made my family disapprove wls. Cause the family friend lost so much weight and they said she looks unhealthy and 10-15 yrs older. Plus she's obsess with excersing and she wants to lose more weight. They are afraid I will look older and become obsessed with wanting to get unhealthy skinny.

Thank you soooooo much!

I got the approval call this afternoon, but I can't get happy cause my family is not happy I'm getting surgery. They say I'm not that big (240lbs).. I know they are concerned for my safety, but I feel like I'm disappointing them..advice needed.

We must be twins, those are my expectations also. .lol

If anyone can offer any advice, do I ask HR for the forms for FMLA? Or my manager for the form? Also if I have to inform HR..do I have my doctor film out form to return to HR? Thanks in advance for feedbacks.

Soooooo nervous, my package was submitted on Friday for approval. Hope and pray they approve.

Congrats everyone! My package was submitted Friday. .hope to get approved. .afraid to get to excited just incase I don't. Just a little hard I have no one to share that news with except my hubby. .my mom & sister not to thrilled about wls..and the friends I do have are gossipy and JUDGEMENTAL!

Omg! You describe me situation to the `T'...I have all the what if's also..I have to young boys 8 & 11.. my hubby not to trill about wls. But he said he will be by my side all the way..mom & sisters were all for it. Even encouraged me to look into it..but since I got all into it and almost done..they turned against it..I can't even tell them I'm all done with my requirement. Cause I know they are not excited for me. I guess they have fears for me, so do I..it almost feels like i'm keeping a dirty secret about my surgery, since I didn't tell anyone. .I just pray to God, I have no complication and I will try my best not to complain to much around them. Even if I'm in pain..my package was submitted on Friday to insurance. .can't even call them to tell them..cause I know they are not happy. .very disharted!

I would think I would be a fast turn around time also, since the surgeon sent me to that psychologist. Since they probably work together. I call Nut today, she informed me the results should of been in already. She will have the insurance coordinator call them to find out if results was ready. That's the only thing remaining to submit to insurance for approval.. hope they send by tomorrow. And hopefully submit to my insurance by early next week. .hope insurance don't take 2-4wks to respond with an approval or denial..keeping fingers crossed.