teacherlady2133

I am sorry you are going through this. I understand being my own worst advocate in life! For years I would lose just to gain back as soon as life threw me any curve ball! I found great comfort in food and liked that it was the one thing I could control! Even if it was bad for me!!!
I found my weight hitting a high of 347 and was done justifying my behaviors by others actions or circumstances.
So I made the leap of faith to pursue WLS. I was so worried to tell my family because I had always put on a front that I was fine with myself...
I tried my own diet to only gain and lose the same 10 pounds until I met with my NUT. I would say she was send from God to teach me about eating!
Since then I have lost 52 pounds in 4 months. I will not say it was easy it has been very hard with a lot of tears and fights with my will!!!
I believe you have to come to a place that you are going to save yourself! Fight for you and only you!
I believe you can do this!! If I can I promise you can!! I gave up my comfort (food) and am finding myself...and how to take care of myself because I am worth it!
You are worth it too!

Love love this thread! I am stealing the saying "not my circus not my monkeys"...I am going to use it often!!!!
WLS is just a tool and like every tool you have to use it correctly to obtain the benefits.
I am pre-op and am losing great amounts of weight during this 6 month diet. To the point of being asked if I felt I still needed the WLS(from family). I quickly replied yes I need this tool.
Just like a cane you can walk without it but you limp and get tired, but when you use it correctly you can have normal steps and go longer and farther distance.
That is what WLS is going to be to me, my tool to make myself have normal steps and go farther with my life and goals!!!

I am sorry you are going through this. I understand being my own worst advocate in life! For years I would lose just to gain back as soon as life threw me any curve ball! I found great comfort in food and liked that it was the one thing I could control! Even if it was bad for me!!!
I found my weight hitting a high of 347 and was done justifying my behaviors by others actions or circumstances.
So I made the leap of faith to pursue WLS. I was so worried to tell my family because I had always put on a front that I was fine with myself...
I tried my own diet to only gain and lose the same 10 pounds until I met with my NUT. I would say she was send from God to teach me about eating!
Since then I have lost 52 pounds in 4 months. I will not say it was easy it has been very hard with a lot of tears and fights with my will!!!
I believe you have to come to a place that you are going to save yourself! Fight for you and only you!
I believe you can do this!! If I can I promise you can!! I gave up my comfort (food) and am finding myself...and how to take care of myself because I am worth it!
You are worth it too!

I normally take the C and Iron at bed and Calcium during the day all other Vitamins in the morning. This was all new to me before Sept. I had never took vitamins except during my pregnancies and those were short lived because how sick I was.

I am sorry you are going through this. I understand being my own worst advocate in life! For years I would lose just to gain back as soon as life threw me any curve ball! I found great comfort in food and liked that it was the one thing I could control! Even if it was bad for me!!!
I found my weight hitting a high of 347 and was done justifying my behaviors by others actions or circumstances.
So I made the leap of faith to pursue WLS. I was so worried to tell my family because I had always put on a front that I was fine with myself...
I tried my own diet to only gain and lose the same 10 pounds until I met with my NUT. I would say she was send from God to teach me about eating!
Since then I have lost 52 pounds in 4 months. I will not say it was easy it has been very hard with a lot of tears and fights with my will!!!
I believe you have to come to a place that you are going to save yourself! Fight for you and only you!
I believe you can do this!! If I can I promise you can!! I gave up my comfort (food) and am finding myself...and how to take care of myself because I am worth it!
You are worth it too!

I am also still in pre-op stage and am practicing every step of the new lifestyle soon coming. I even have lost 40 pounds doing this. I eat every three hours I am eating small portions and yes I am very aware of food. I am looking at everything that goes in my mouth and measuring things too! I believe that the obsession will get less the more I learn and become confident in.

I am in Mount Vernon Ohio. I am planning on having my surgery at Riverside in Columbus in spring April/May.

I slipped by necklace over my head without unbuckling it. I saw it was getting loser as I lose. I wear it everyday never take it off. So today was washing hair over tub and it kept getting in way without thinking I just took it off over my head, it shocked me! Then I giggled and put it back on to only take it off again the same way!!!!

I slipped by necklace over my head without unbuckling it. I saw it was getting loser as I lose. I wear it everyday never take it off. So today was washing hair over tub and it kept getting in way without thinking I just took it off over my head, it shocked me! Then I giggled and put it back on to only take it off again the same way!!!!

I am in Mount Vernon Ohio. I am planning on having my surgery at Riverside in Columbus in spring April/May.

I slipped by necklace over my head without unbuckling it. I saw it was getting loser as I lose. I wear it everyday never take it off. So today was washing hair over tub and it kept getting in way without thinking I just took it off over my head, it shocked me! Then I giggled and put it back on to only take it off again the same way!!!!

HW 347. CW 297 pre-op....broke 300!!! To Celebrate I cleaned out my closet and tried on every piece of clothing and I own...3 bags full going to goodwill because too big.

HW 347. CW 297 pre-op....broke 300!!! To Celebrate I cleaned out my closet and tried on every piece of clothing and I own...3 bags full going to goodwill because too big.

HW 347. CW 297 pre-op....broke 300!!! To Celebrate I cleaned out my closet and tried on every piece of clothing and I own...3 bags full going to goodwill because too big.

Kpatnode90
I had the same goal! soon I will be under 300 so need to set new goal to be under 280 day of surgery.
HW 347
Pre-op start 337 9/16/13
CW 306 12/20/13
I hope to have surgery end of April 2014.

Started the Nut appointments and find myself breaking habits and creating new ones. Right now hardest one is getting in 6 small meals every 3 hours. I don't want to eat at 7:30pm then 10:30 pm!! I was trying to break my night time eating habits....
Any other new habits others are trying?

I am just in the beginning of my process and understand the lack or misunderstood support. I think mostly it is fear if the unknown. I find myself being very private about each step and that goes against how I normally am so people around me are reacting. They think they are helping but really they are adding to the issue...some of my family knows and now are trying to protect me from the realities of the issues that my weight brings...from where we sit at the table during meals, to questioning can I eat the food at a restaurant after we are already sitting down... What I find interesting is they are now aware of things I feel everyday! Trying to protect me from the issues I have lived with for the last 20 years... Everyday until the surgery and even after I will have to live with these realities.
True support is trusting I know what I am doing and it is the best thing for my health and not creating more issues than I already have to face. Be willing to leave me walk out this even at times alone, because they don't understand and have never faced what and why I am making these choices.

I am learning about myself and how I haven't let others know my struggles with my weight and the effects it has had on me through the years. My close friends are shocked at the things they are finding out about the hardships I face everyday. It has made them more aware if the interactions between us. I know that this decision takes a toll on friendships and changes are hard for relationships. They are afraid of the unknown and the outcomes. They don't like having to think before they interact with me. It is different for them to see me putting myself first and saying no I can't or won't.
I know I am giving them time to adjust, I am the one who has done the research.I am the one who is changing not them.

I am learning about myself and how I haven't let others know my struggles with my weight and the effects it has had on me through the years. My close friends are shocked at the things they are finding out about the hardships I face everyday. It has made them more aware if the interactions between us. I know that this decision takes a toll on friendships and changes are hard for relationships. They are afraid of the unknown and the outcomes. They don't like having to think before they interact with me. It is different for them to see me putting myself first and saying no I can't or won't.
I know I am giving them time to adjust, I am the one who has done the research.I am the one who is changing not them.

I am just in the beginning of my process and understand the lack or misunderstood support. I think mostly it is fear if the unknown. I find myself being very private about each step and that goes against how I normally am so people around me are reacting. They think they are helping but really they are adding to the issue...some of my family knows and now are trying to protect me from the realities of the issues that my weight brings...from where we sit at the table during meals, to questioning can I eat the food at a restaurant after we are already sitting down... What I find interesting is they are now aware of things I feel everyday! Trying to protect me from the issues I have lived with for the last 20 years... Everyday until the surgery and even after I will have to live with these realities.
True support is trusting I know what I am doing and it is the best thing for my health and not creating more issues than I already have to face. Be willing to leave me walk out this even at times alone, because they don't understand and have never faced what and why I am making these choices.