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Some people are supportive; others are not. I was first hurt that my mother wasn't supportive but she's come around enough that we can meet in the middle. I do what's best for me and if she
doesn't understand that, then I've learned enough in the last few months to let it go.
From reading your post, it sounds like your parents show love with food. Maybe they just aren't
able to understand why you've made this choice and just can't relate. It doesn't mean that you
can't continue to be close--it just means that they continue to live their lives how they want
(even if it's not healthy; it's their choice) and you live yours the best way for you and your
son. You can't let them push you into unhealthy choices but it also sounds like they aren't open
for healthier choices in their lives and unfortunately, you have to accept their decision on that.
Good luck-- sounds like you just had surgery and it's an emotional time without dealing with this.Relax, pamper yourself, and try not to take it personally. Sounds like they love you alot or they wouldn't have come in the first place; just sounds like they may not understand all the
changes you have made & want to make in the future. Lisa

oh and they'll come around eventually. I think time will resolve it once they see how great
you'll be feeling over the next few months! good luck--Lisa

Some people are supportive; others are not. I was first hurt that my mother wasn't supportive but she's come around enough that we can meet in the middle. I do what's best for me and if she
doesn't understand that, then I've learned enough in the last few months to let it go.
From reading your post, it sounds like your parents show love with food. Maybe they just aren't
able to understand why you've made this choice and just can't relate. It doesn't mean that you
can't continue to be close--it just means that they continue to live their lives how they want
(even if it's not healthy; it's their choice) and you live yours the best way for you and your
son. You can't let them push you into unhealthy choices but it also sounds like they aren't open
for healthier choices in their lives and unfortunately, you have to accept their decision on that.
Good luck-- sounds like you just had surgery and it's an emotional time without dealing with this.Relax, pamper yourself, and try not to take it personally. Sounds like they love you alot or they wouldn't have come in the first place; just sounds like they may not understand all the
changes you have made & want to make in the future. Lisa

Crystal---you'll be fine---I remember it is a really emotional time. Just act like you normally would, pretend it never happened and all will be well with your parents. You really are in the toughest time right now--it's gets easier after this so enjoy the journey, it's going to be great! Lisa

oh and they'll come around eventually. I think time will resolve it once they see how great
you'll be feeling over the next few months! good luck--Lisa

Some people are supportive; others are not. I was first hurt that my mother wasn't supportive but she's come around enough that we can meet in the middle. I do what's best for me and if she
doesn't understand that, then I've learned enough in the last few months to let it go.
From reading your post, it sounds like your parents show love with food. Maybe they just aren't
able to understand why you've made this choice and just can't relate. It doesn't mean that you
can't continue to be close--it just means that they continue to live their lives how they want
(even if it's not healthy; it's their choice) and you live yours the best way for you and your
son. You can't let them push you into unhealthy choices but it also sounds like they aren't open
for healthier choices in their lives and unfortunately, you have to accept their decision on that.
Good luck-- sounds like you just had surgery and it's an emotional time without dealing with this.Relax, pamper yourself, and try not to take it personally. Sounds like they love you alot or they wouldn't have come in the first place; just sounds like they may not understand all the
changes you have made & want to make in the future. Lisa

Some people are supportive; others are not. I was first hurt that my mother wasn't supportive but she's come around enough that we can meet in the middle. I do what's best for me and if she
doesn't understand that, then I've learned enough in the last few months to let it go.
From reading your post, it sounds like your parents show love with food. Maybe they just aren't
able to understand why you've made this choice and just can't relate. It doesn't mean that you
can't continue to be close--it just means that they continue to live their lives how they want
(even if it's not healthy; it's their choice) and you live yours the best way for you and your
son. You can't let them push you into unhealthy choices but it also sounds like they aren't open
for healthier choices in their lives and unfortunately, you have to accept their decision on that.
Good luck-- sounds like you just had surgery and it's an emotional time without dealing with this.Relax, pamper yourself, and try not to take it personally. Sounds like they love you alot or they wouldn't have come in the first place; just sounds like they may not understand all the
changes you have made & want to make in the future. Lisa

oh and they'll come around eventually. I think time will resolve it once they see how great
you'll be feeling over the next few months! good luck--Lisa

Some people are supportive; others are not. I was first hurt that my mother wasn't supportive but she's come around enough that we can meet in the middle. I do what's best for me and if she
doesn't understand that, then I've learned enough in the last few months to let it go.
From reading your post, it sounds like your parents show love with food. Maybe they just aren't
able to understand why you've made this choice and just can't relate. It doesn't mean that you
can't continue to be close--it just means that they continue to live their lives how they want
(even if it's not healthy; it's their choice) and you live yours the best way for you and your
son. You can't let them push you into unhealthy choices but it also sounds like they aren't open
for healthier choices in their lives and unfortunately, you have to accept their decision on that.
Good luck-- sounds like you just had surgery and it's an emotional time without dealing with this.Relax, pamper yourself, and try not to take it personally. Sounds like they love you alot or they wouldn't have come in the first place; just sounds like they may not understand all the
changes you have made & want to make in the future. Lisa

Don't be so down on yourself. It is what it is..and your surgery is going to change your life. Most likely you won't have sleep apnea soon. and your right, some people don't understand. I found that the people I expected to most supportive weren't and vice versa. I only told those I wanted to before surgery--I got tired of having to defend myself. Now, (10 months after surgery) I tell anyone I want and I don't try to defend myself. I did this for me and if they don't agree, then that's on them. Most importantly, your husband and children support you--that's worth everything.
Cheer up--you'll be amazed by your success after the surgery!
Lisa

I've taken antenlol for years for the same reason--to stabilize my heartbeat. I had very low blood pressure after my surgery 80/50 -90/60 and even though they took me off all my blood pressure meds,they left me on antenlol--it's not for blood pressure just a beta blocker to control heartbeat. I'm sure it will all work out--I'm sure alot of us have had these last items to Iron out before the big day! good luck on your surgery!
Lisa

Good luck! I'm sure all will go well. and don't be nervous--you are making a great decision to change your life for the better. Keep us updated on your progress!
Lisa

I had the same issue with my mom (she lives 8 hours away from me). I just told her I had researched the procedure & my surgeon and was very comfortable with my decision. She continued to be negative even after my surgery but once she saw how much I had lost at 6 months, how my health had improved and how happy I was--she said she wish she could have it!!! Some people just set their minds against it and you can't change them. If they are the people (like our moms) that really love us, they'll feel differently once they see how your life has changed for the better. I wish my mother could have been more supportive before and right after the surgery but she wasn't and I had other people (husband and sons) that did that for me.
good luck on your surgery---September 8th will be here soon!! Lisa

I had the same issue with my mom (she lives 8 hours away from me). I just told her I had researched the procedure & my surgeon and was very comfortable with my decision. She continued to be negative even after my surgery but once she saw how much I had lost at 6 months, how my health had improved and how happy I was--she said she wish she could have it!!! Some people just set their minds against it and you can't change them. If they are the people (like our moms) that really love us, they'll feel differently once they see how your life has changed for the better. I wish my mother could have been more supportive before and right after the surgery but she wasn't and I had other people (husband and sons) that did that for me.
good luck on your surgery---September 8th will be here soon!! Lisa

I had the same issue with my mom (she lives 8 hours away from me). I just told her I had researched the procedure & my surgeon and was very comfortable with my decision. She continued to be negative even after my surgery but once she saw how much I had lost at 6 months, how my health had improved and how happy I was--she said she wish she could have it!!! Some people just set their minds against it and you can't change them. If they are the people (like our moms) that really love us, they'll feel differently once they see how your life has changed for the better. I wish my mother could have been more supportive before and right after the surgery but she wasn't and I had other people (husband and sons) that did that for me.
good luck on your surgery---September 8th will be here soon!! Lisa

I had the same issue with my mom (she lives 8 hours away from me). I just told her I had researched the procedure & my surgeon and was very comfortable with my decision. She continued to be negative even after my surgery but once she saw how much I had lost at 6 months, how my health had improved and how happy I was--she said she wish she could have it!!! Some people just set their minds against it and you can't change them. If they are the people (like our moms) that really love us, they'll feel differently once they see how your life has changed for the better. I wish my mother could have been more supportive before and right after the surgery but she wasn't and I had other people (husband and sons) that did that for me.
good luck on your surgery---September 8th will be here soon!! Lisa

Hooray!!!--congratulations it's the best decision I've ever made. You'll be on the loser's bench soon--best of luck--Lisa

Once I saw my nutritionist the 1st time, it seemed to go fairly quickly (though I can be pretty impatient). I personally started changing my ways the day I started with the nutritionist--I had a few slip ups but overall did well. I think it got me ready for my post-sleeve life and I've done really great at sticking to my surgeon's requirements. I've never had this kind of willpower before but I think a big part of that was slowly changing my eating habits over the 4 months before surgery.
I wish you much success in your weight loss surgery: I'm sure you'll be thrilled with your progress (and surgery will be here before you know it!) (and you are about right in your guesstimate---I saw my nutritionist for the first time on 7/8 and had surgery on 11/20.)
Lisa

Once I saw my nutritionist the 1st time, it seemed to go fairly quickly (though I can be pretty impatient). I personally started changing my ways the day I started with the nutritionist--I had a few slip ups but overall did well. I think it got me ready for my post-sleeve life and I've done really great at sticking to my surgeon's requirements. I've never had this kind of willpower before but I think a big part of that was slowly changing my eating habits over the 4 months before surgery.
I wish you much success in your weight loss surgery: I'm sure you'll be thrilled with your progress (and surgery will be here before you know it!) (and you are about right in your guesstimate---I saw my nutritionist for the first time on 7/8 and had surgery on 11/20.)
Lisa

Once I saw my nutritionist the 1st time, it seemed to go fairly quickly (though I can be pretty impatient). I personally started changing my ways the day I started with the nutritionist--I had a few slip ups but overall did well. I think it got me ready for my post-sleeve life and I've done really great at sticking to my surgeon's requirements. I've never had this kind of willpower before but I think a big part of that was slowly changing my eating habits over the 4 months before surgery.
I wish you much success in your weight loss surgery: I'm sure you'll be thrilled with your progress (and surgery will be here before you know it!) (and you are about right in your guesstimate---I saw my nutritionist for the first time on 7/8 and had surgery on 11/20.)
Lisa

Unfortunately this is true for most companies (though it doesn't hurt to check around--not all insurance companies have the same rules). My weight was high enough with a bmi of 49.5 and with diabetes/ high blood pressure that I didn't qualify for life insurance. Once I lose the weight and keep it off for at least 1 year, I will qualify however not a for a standard rate. They do a put a surcharge on the policy for bariatric surgery--fyi--I'm a life ins. agent.

I just said to him--I know we've discussed WLS in the past and you really felt I could do it on my own. I haven't been able to and looking at my mother's health issues now, I don't want to be there in 25 years. I have done my research and I feel I'm making an informed decision but I need your help and support. good luck!
Lisa

I'm on the 20th also==we're surgery twins--I wish you the best of luck (and to everyone else on their upcoming surgeries). I started my liquid diet last thursday---A couple of days were pretty tough--I think from withdrawal from carbs--it's better now but I'm pretty weak. It will be here before we know it though--from what I've heard, it's not quite as hard after since you aren't that hungry--(I pray that this is true!)
Lisa

Congratulations! I got my approval today too.--11/20/13. It is a new beginning for us ---thrilled to be sharing it with everyone here---good luck!Lisa