LittleLinda

I have BC/BS of IL also. I was told from the beginning that anything weight-loss related is a specific exclusion on my policy. I went to one clinic to get advice and information because I figured I might just self-pay if it was within a reasonable range. They asked to let them check my insurance anyway, even though I stated from the beginning I wasn't covered. They came back and told me I was covered. I was excited at first, but I asked them to re-check. They then came back telling me I wasn't covered.
The good news: I went to Tijuana and self-payed at a much lower cost.

I think that fat prejudice is alive and well.
In our world today, it's not cool to have prejudice against someone who is differently sexually oriented, or for color or race, but it's completely acceptable to be prejudiced against someone for being fat, and evenly openly make comments.
I know that my formerly thin person really did have a different opinion of overweight people, and when I became overweight I expected to be thought of and treated differently.

It's a little ironic that she tells you WLS is the easy way out when she had liposuction.
You need to be with friends that will totally support your new path to being normal. She's not supportive. Cut her off and move on. I realize this sounds harsh, but you're looking for healthy solutions in your life right now. You're cutting out most of your stomach to get there. She'll have to go with your stomach.
Also, think about whether she's contributed to your past eating habits....

Wow nurse Bonnie. That is awful and I cannot imagine your sense of betrayal.
I hope this doesn't dissuade you or others from owning your courageous decision to change your life and have WLS. Yes it does sting, but know that if someone betrays you like this, their friendship is not as critical to your existence as your decision to save your own life. Keep owning it and know that true friends will lift you up on their shoulders and carry you if need be.

I am the same way everyone is welcome. Sometimes I think people who are nice from the heart get bit the worst. We tend to forgive easily and forget. But there comes a time when self preservation is more important. You don't even have to confront her.......just walk away. Spare yourself the confrontation and the arguments that you will get from her because she will only bite more. Wolves always do. You can have compassion for her fight with weight loss but you don't have to be her whipping post. You sound like someone that I would count as a good friend and so will others. You are going to find a new found confidence with your weight loss and you will release the things in your life that brought you down. In a few short months you will look back and know your life forward is full of amazing opportunities and a lot of fun.

I wont have this problem because I have no friends...lol but seriously they aren't friends if they act like that and you don't need that in your new life!

That is pure jealously! You don't need people like that in your life.

Be happy it happened now. If she were to stay in your life she would just be a saboteur to your success. She is obviously jealous and immature. Best of luck to you! You will do great!

Just don't give up on your preop diet. It's not worth risking complications.
I had mine on the 31st and I'm recovering well. I'm so excited that I made the decision to do this. I just wish I hadn't waited (weighted) so long.
Good luck and keep us posted w pics.

It's a little ironic that she tells you WLS is the easy way out when she had liposuction.
You need to be with friends that will totally support your new path to being normal. She's not supportive. Cut her off and move on. I realize this sounds harsh, but you're looking for healthy solutions in your life right now. You're cutting out most of your stomach to get there. She'll have to go with your stomach.
Also, think about whether she's contributed to your past eating habits....

You're starting in the right direction. Reach out to people who are similarly situated. You may begin to enjoy the solitude.
Just don't reach in the fridge to make you feel better.
Good luck!

It's a little ironic that she tells you WLS is the easy way out when she had liposuction.
You need to be with friends that will totally support your new path to being normal. She's not supportive. Cut her off and move on. I realize this sounds harsh, but you're looking for healthy solutions in your life right now. You're cutting out most of your stomach to get there. She'll have to go with your stomach.
Also, think about whether she's contributed to your past eating habits....