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Hugs OD! I know this is a rough time, and I like that you made a list. Don't worry if he gets "snapped" up quickly by other women, because unless he is going to change the things that are on that list, unfortunately whoever "gets" him gets all the problems and issues as well.
Take this time to focus on YOU, what YOU want, and who YOU are. I think that will take some of the pressure off from finding someone else to take his place. Remember it's not a race to find someone new...take some time to enjoy not having the stress of being "in a relationship" right now. Hugs my dear friend!

If that doesn't take away your ghrelin nothing will.

Everyone loves to feel that blood surging through their veins. The mental picture of ourselves with someone exciting and perfect is always so much better than the one with our spouse where we remember all the warts and scars. Just a few words of advice from me.... DON'T DO IT. Your husband has already proven himself to be a rock and to love you through thick and thin... He is not perfect and neither are you. If you want changes ... make some changes within your marriage and draw your husband out in to some conversations. You may be surprised what you will learn. This new man has thrown his spouse and marriage away in search of perfection. Do you really think you can fill that bill? Keep the fantasy in your mind... where it belongs.

Are you a therapist? If not you should be. You gave some good, sound, solid advise and really made me question this other man's motives as far as being a distraction to him. It makes sense the more and more I think about it. What makes me question him is that in one breath he tells me how important our relationship is to him and in another breath says he wants me to work on my marriage. WTF? Talk about mixed signals. Just never made sense to me. Now after taking in comments and suggestions from everyone who responded things are starting to become a little more clear. I'm not saying this other guy is a bad person. What I am saying is that I obviously have a trust issue with him and quite honestly I always have considering I do know about a relationship he had with another woman that he worked with previously. Don't asked me why I overlooked that. Blinded by lust I guess. My point is, is that I have always trusted my husband and I know he would never step out on me regardless of how tempted he is. Regardless of how I feel about my relationship with this man I can't trust him and if I can't trust him there will be no future with him.

Fluffnomore... Great post.
I 'specially like:
"And most of us have at least one person in the back of our minds that we wonder about, somewhere..."
or two or three. But at my age I know ONE thing. I am easy to love and hard to live with. My wife is amazing and STILL loves me AND wants to live with me. And that is so so so fine, fine, superfine. If she'll keep me, I'll sure keep her!

First of all... well said Dana and Madam. There's not much that I can add after the previous posts. I will however say, that you married this man 21 years ago, and he was good enough for you then, right?? You are not AVAILABLE to other men, your wedding vows say so. If more people put the effort, and desire into their marriages as they're putting into their affairs outside of marriage, there would be a dramatic decrease in the divorce rate. Society has just made it too easy to give up on marriage. Your spouse isn't giving you the attention you want? Divorce them. Easy enough, right? Respect your spouse and your marriage. Talk to him, seek counseling and set up a date night weekly with your husband. Best wishes

I'll just say it bluntly. You need to get your head screwed on straight and forget about this other man. The man you have has put up with you for 21 years. You took vows to this man and he to you. You know that what you are doing is wrong; so stop it!

I am 7 days out and I know what you mean. I am on Clear Liquids till Saturday and my doctor said for the Clear liquid phase it is fine to have regular (sugar) Clear Liquids and this would make you fell perkier. I had been doing so well on the low sugar stuff pre op that I thought.....nah... I'll just keep doing that. By day 4, I felt like I was getting mono. Just dressing would make me tired. So I finally broke down and drank a couple of capri suns that belong to my kids. WOW, within the hour I could feel some energy returning.
As far as the Protein goes, New whey Protein Bullets have 42g. (GNC)They are like Syrup so you definitely need to dilute in your Water bottle to get them down but that's over half of your daily needs. I used the grape and fruit punch ones and mixed with 24oz of Water then added grape mio in one and Crystal lite fruit punch in another and could not taste the bullet at all. I sip those at work in the AM and usually finish by lunch.
I, as you, am wondering about the future. That is why these forums are so great. It gives us the ability to ventilate and the support from fellow sleevers.

I will be 65 in a couple of weeks and I am looking foreward to dressing like a ****!

Went to Sunday dinner with the family. All was great! Stuck to small portions and didn't overstuff myself. I did have a small piece of cake though hehe. Then all 10 of us got into a heated discussion about the ACA (I'm an insurance broker). I got so upset about the whole situation, I went "searching". Thank goodness I was full and was totally not able to eat anything. It was kind of bitter sweet though.

I may be a February 2014 Sleever. I'm still going through the preapproval process, but I hope to have approval by mid January! I'm so excited!

Do what makes you happy only you have to live within your body forever! Mums are meant to worry, but would she rather worry about you having the surgery or worry about your health problems if you don't get it done now? Best of luck with your decision.

Yes, hiccups will happen when eating to much, too fast or both together. And different people have different reactions. You hiccup. I burp. Others have runny nose, slime or plain throw up. Regardless of what your reaction is, one thing is clear: your body is talking to you. Slow down take smaller bites, chew tons and keep doing that. Usually, it is best to eat to a feeling of satisfaction and not to a full feeling. This takes a while to learn how to listen to your body, a lot of trial and error. Good luck.

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Congrats. I haven't been sleeved yet but i can't wait. Like you i get hit on now also but i would love to express it as a skinny girl. Live life and congratulations again
Linda305

A random stranger walked up to me and said "Excuse me, I just wanted to tell you that you are beautiful. Are you spoken for?" Now I know my self esteem is not linked to this sort of attention but it sure was nice to hear this early into the game. I've had my share of attention even when I was heavy but its been years since even my man has complimented my appearance.

I use my fitness pal..1200 calories she was fine with that lost five lbs in two weeks..Dont stress about it.

I'm and three and half months post op and my life has changed dramatically. I'm so happy with the healthy new me. Here is my before & after pic so far (before taken the night before surgery). It is amazing how quickly things can change